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| Must have job, car, house...are they after my cash?
Posted: 5/14/2006 9:32:00 PM | No OP, they are not after your cash.They are just after someone who won't be a parasite in the relationship.Duh...is that so hard to figure out?Besides...a gold digger does not call herself a gold digger, does she? 
"gee why is it when women find out im a homeowner they suddenly fall in love and want me to put their name on my house. hmmmm sounds like they are after a free ride.
why is it all women put down on these dating sites $100,000+ yearly income, because they dont want to work and just want to rip guys off.
why is it women get offended when a guy ask if a women has a car and a job? why is it when you say im not going to support you or drive you all over town they get mad? hmmm sounds like they only want a free ride in life."
Not every woman is like that.Money isn't everything.Maybe your always stuck with the wrong type of women. | |
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| Must have job, car, house...are they after my cash?
Posted: 5/14/2006 9:46:23 PM | Something like 90% of women looking online report a lower limit of 100K.
That stat can't be right. On a regular dating site? I just find that hard to believe. They're either kidding or delusional. | |
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| Must have job, car, house...are they after my cash?
Posted: 5/14/2006 9:55:20 PM | | He must have a job and a car but not necessarily a house. It doesn't have to be a high paid job but a secure job with a future. I'm not looking to support any guy - been there done that! | |
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| Must have job, car, house...are they after my cash?
Posted: 5/14/2006 10:05:49 PM | i couldnt see how it can be that important to the ladies
i mean all my friends down at the coast by the beach who haven't had a job in years, are on the dole and go surfing every day seem to have no problem finding stunning woman after woman (some even have more than one - i think vince vaughan in dodgeball called that "the jackpot")
yet by the some token all my office dwelling slaving away friends in the city who are working their butt off havent had a date in months/years.
i am by the way an office slave but get to see how the other half live on weekends ;)
l8rs | |
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| Must have job, car, house...are they after my cash?
Posted: 5/14/2006 10:40:46 PM | | When your seeking someone to build a future with, it's kinda nice if they have a future I would think. There is nothing wrong with wanting a little security with your love. I would think this is a bigger issue for women. I know I don't care if a woman has a career or likes being a stay at home mom. If they're happy with their lives it's fine by me. I think many women still want someone who's able to take care of them, even if they don't need it. The drama of a guy with no money, no transportation, and no home, is a bit more than most would want to deal with. I haven't met anyone here that is looking to get rich, they just want a little stability. | |
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| Must have job, car, house...are they after my cash?
Posted: 5/14/2006 11:15:40 PM | | There are men who are like this too. The initial dating interview includes questions on what I do for a living (needs to be adequately prestigious), what I drive, and whether I own my own home. And having passed the lengthy interview process, I get invited to plant the new cedar for his yard at night (he'll kindly hold the flashlight while I shovel... - and no, I did not accept!). He carefully tracks the exact value of the food I eat at his house when he invites me over. Whines over having to pay for one drink for me while he parades me around in front of his friends like some trophy (at a time that was very inconvenient for me...). This example is not from this site. No wait... the guy's just cheap. | |
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| Must have job, car, house...are they after my cash?
Posted: 5/15/2006 12:22:03 AM | financial stress is the one stress that I don't handle very well at all.
I could see that. I have been married 29 yrs to a sweet Lady that is the same way. It is realy hilarious at times.
She makes finacial discisions with 20 dollars you would think she is sending someone a small fortune. Hang in there someone will find you and this finacial stress as you call it will either make you stronger or divide you apart. Good Luck in your hunt.... | |
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| Must have job, car, house...are they after my cash?
Posted: 5/15/2006 3:21:47 AM | | I'm 46, currently taking time out of work FOR ME as I used to be a workaholic & know the damage it can cause. So I dont have a job, only rent a small flat, yes I do have a car. Does this make me a bad guy to date or get to know? Or should we look beyond the trappings of society at the inner warmth/strength a guy/gal possess? I know what my priorities are when choosing a date! Tent in the back garden 'll do me if I'm in love! | |
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| Must have job, car, house...are they after my cash?
Posted: 5/15/2006 3:38:04 AM | | Financial wealth is important only to those women who think they are incapable of acquiring wealth on their own. Not to sound cliche', but I think respect, a good work ethic (no matter what their occupation), a sense of humor and a good heart will win every time. If that's not enough for the woman you're pursuing, who needs her? I prefer someone who is self sufficient and not looking for someone to take care of them. That's been my experience so far. | |
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| Must have job, car, house...are they after my cash?
Posted: 5/15/2006 7:02:27 AM | | Well, i've seen women who were married for 30 or so years ..no prenup..Then the husband leaves and my female friends have to support themselves due to lack of funds from the divorce.In todays world a man and woman should be able to hold their own.I have run across men who want to mooch off of me and I know it works the other way too. Keep your antennas up and you'll know who to stay clear of. | |
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| Must have job, car, house...are they after my cash?
Posted: 5/15/2006 7:15:55 AM | Guess they have their reasons...
if its not you and you do NOT fit the bill...
just let it go.
They may have reasons and the reasons may not be
gold digging but protection.
You just never know.
You should not respond to a profile where you dont fit the bill anyway.
I want to add there are many men who ARE:
living with parents
in severe and deep debt
live in seedy motels
and more on the personal ads...
just as there are many men who are very wealthy. The personal ads
cover all socio economic possibilities and maybe the woman who
wrote in her profile has met several and tired of wasting her time.
I myself would not want someone financially irresponsible or
bad with their money, job situation either.
Not because I'm a gold digger or a very materialistic person... I just dont
want to take on anyones problems.. start over in life or
help some man be all he can be.
(I have a simple but stable lifestyle and not inbto chaos or other BS. period)
I feel he should already come that way.. being all he can be and not
be looking for a woman to help him.
.... I do not require he owns a house
as renting is ok... long as its a very nice place he rents :)
and he can afford it himself.
I have my own house and its paid for... so I want to be sure any guy I would
get involved with is responsible enough to know how hard that was to do and what a responsibility it is.
The man I am now dating... is renting as he has been divorced only a
year and wanted to stay in the same area for his kids...
but his house was also paid for and he could buy another (his credit is not ruined).
Everyone has their reasons for what they ask and I feel its fair
to ask what anything you can offer...
If you dont fit the ladies bill...
just dont respond to her or try to meet her.
It would only be wasting both your time.
I met someone perfect for me who I am attracted to and like being around...
who is just right for me....
you can too.
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| Must have job, car, house...are they after my cash?
Posted: 5/15/2006 7:51:59 AM | I'm really just wondering what these women mean by this. What do you PoFer's think?
It could mean several things.
1. They (women) don't want to deal slackers.
2. They want to see evidence of financial stability.
3. They are making sure that the man is responsible.
4. They are precautious about their safety.
5. They are worried about thier security.
I fully understand your concerns. And oh...do watch out for those GOLD DIGGERS! | |
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| Must have job, car, house...are they after my cash?
Posted: 5/15/2006 8:08:48 AM | | what they are really saying is that they want a man to take care of them during the dating process and while in marriage....most women are like that especially single women who have kids and are having a tough time supporting them......also diva queens are like that as well, Ms. I am hot stuff...nowadays everyone has to have some kind of income, some kind of transportation, and a roof over their heads....who are they kidding? it's commonsense....the gist is that they expect to be treated like a princess.....avoid a profile like that | |
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| Must have job, car, house...are they after my cash?
Posted: 5/15/2006 8:22:14 AM | re.....you want a strong woman who can control a man. I think a strong dominant woman is one who can take care of herself fiancially.Sooooo.....who are you kidding? Who would you choose..a woman who does well financially...and you like her.. or a broke ass woman ....and you like her.....?
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| Must have job, car, house...are they after my cash?
Posted: 5/15/2006 9:45:47 AM | | i want a woman who has a brain on her shoulders and is quick about controlling those who try to challenge her....you don't have to be financially secure or wealthy to be dominant...but strategically intelligent and confident...and no ****iness is not a dominant trait | |
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| Must have job, car, house...are they after my cash?
Posted: 5/15/2006 1:47:29 PM | | You know, this is my topic. My last two bfs did not have a car or job and both lived with their mothers. The last one was ten years older than me and ended up moving in with my family and me. I live with my parents because I'm 19, am going to school, but I do have a job and I do have a car I paid for myself. This guy was 29, had two daughters he takes no responsibility for, and liked to out a lot...with me paying. He loved me, he'd die for me, as long as I paid for his cigarettes and beer. That relationship lasted for four months. I was in love, but he just needed a mother and a taxi. | |
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| Must have job, car, house...are they after my cash?
Posted: 5/15/2006 2:54:29 PM | There is an inherent contradiction in the woman who wants a successful man who has time for her. Read the sentence again if you didn't catch it the first time. :) It is laughable, in its own bitterly ironic way. The man is regarded as not worth dating until he is successful; when he is successful, he has no time to date. Now I mean by successful here, "making lots of money."
I would call myself successful, but not by the conditions listed by the OP. I rent an apartment and I'm proud to do so. I don't live in one area for very long, so why get into a 30-year or 15-year mortgage? That's simply financially irresponsible. On the other hand, I have no debt. I'll never make six figures and I really have no desire to. Life is much more than money and I've always felt this way. People who get caught up in the bling-bling, keeping up with the Joneses and so forth are just assuring themselves a very fancy funeral surrounded by people in expensive clothes.
But, not all women are gold-diggers. In order to attract those kind of women, you have to look like you have some money to blow. If you live simply so that others can simply live, they'll never come your way. :)
Peace.
~Aurora | |
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| Must have job, car, house...are they after my cash?
Posted: 5/15/2006 4:36:27 PM | | I have never posted that I require these things on my profile, but they are things to think about. I mean, I have all of my own things- I want a guy that does as well. I typically date older guys, so if you are 30 and living at home with mom with no car and no job, um YEAH, I'm not going to want to date you- at all. To me, it says something about you as a person if you are that old with absolutely noting going on in your life. And I understand that people may lose their jobs, etc, but instead of being on the internet trying to hook up with me, maybe you should be on here looking for a job. And it doesn't matter if he can take care of me because I take care of me; it matters that he takes care of himself. | |
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| Must have job, car, house...are they after my cash?
Posted: 5/15/2006 4:45:36 PM | ^^^^ Very well put atlshorty21.
The way I see it, if you don't have a job, why are you online looking for someone to date. I would think that you have more important things to be looking into.
Your own place, I can let go. You own car, depends on a few things, but in general, i will pass if someone doesn't have their own means of transportation.
Me myself, I have my own place and I drive and work. So, in theory, why would I want to get with someone that doesn't or someone that has nothing to bring to the table?
Life is expensive enough when you have your own place and your own car, have insurance, phone bills, gas bill, electric, water, cable, etc...
I donot need someone who will end up being another expense.
Just my Opinion. | |
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| Must have job, car, house...are they after my cash?
Posted: 5/15/2006 6:43:17 PM | Bull you are very sadly mistaken. Are your stats from your experience or do you have something to back them up. Yeah, there may be a lot of women who think that wealth is not an option but you'll need to prove to me that it's 90% because I just don't buy it. The majority of single women today are pretty self sufficient and able to make it on their own and don't need or want a man to fulfill their fanancial fantasies... I hope to god I'm not wrong here but I really do hope that the majority of women are looking for a man for more than his bank account.
Gals, girls, women alike... I'm not wrong am I??? Say it aint so....
Enchant | |
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