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| Must have job, car, house...are they after my cash?
Posted: 4/24/2008 6:37:31 AM |
I would never sell my place to move in with some one even if we got married, if it work out i got my place yet.
Well if you can afford to own two places then go for it. :)
If I were to move in to a guys house I would turn my current place into a rental property and generate income and equity for the future. I wouldn't hang on to it though for the thought that we might not work out though... seems like you're killing the relationship before it even takes off if you go in with that mentality. | |
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| Must have job, car, house...are they after my cash?
Posted: 4/24/2008 10:27:43 AM | | It's just a matter of being able to support yourself. We don't need you to have a BMW or make over a huge amount of money, we don't even need you to have a house in Bel Air, we just want someone who is mature enough and stable. | |
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| Must have job, car, house...are they after my cash?
Posted: 4/24/2008 10:37:35 AM | I've talked to a few people and it seems to be that there are women out there who are looking for a man who makes a good living and has material wealth so that they can benefit from this in a potential relationship. Maybe they have a few kids to support and they have low paying jobs and want a better situation or wanting to have kids and want to know if he can support a family.
Or that there are women out there who have worked hard to get where they are and
they expect that their potential mate will be up to par and not be any kind of slacker
or someone who is not as ambitious as they are.
Fortunately, I'm in neither one of those situations.
Maybe these women should just not make it so obvious and gauge for themselves through conversations with the men they meet, BUT then it is in the men's best interest to have it laid out there like that so they can bypass them altogether if
the money interest issue is a problem.
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| Must have job, car, house...are they after my cash?
Posted: 4/24/2008 4:10:40 PM | are you ****in' kiddin' me?
that is such a painfully obvious question that it pains me that you ACTUALLY asked it
let me ask you this.
would you want to be around a woman who has no vehicle, employment, money or fixed address?
unless you are sixteen and she is of the same, i am betting a resounding NO.
i am sure that they are just simply weeding out the losers whom are sponges
gold diggers dont ask it. they just walk right in and start to utilize whatever they can
and they dont care if you have, all they care about is that you can get it for them
everybody comes to the answer man | |
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| Must have job, car, house...are they after my cash?
Posted: 4/24/2008 4:55:05 PM | what's it matter whether a woman has a job, car or house? as long as she's responsible. Basically all you have to do is see if there is effort or past effort in her procuring money and see how she spends it. If she gets by on $500 per month, does it really matter? A financially savvy woman is a rare find.
How about assessing men based on responsibleness?
some guys have no job and yet have 500X the amount of cash compared to the average person
if he decides to give up his car to walk or ride a bike, would that matter? if a car was necessary it could be rented or his driver could take him (and you) around
if he prefers to rent until home prices are reasonable, does that irk you...or you want him to pay more than fair price as a sign of stupidity?
yeah yeah yeah, I've heard so much here and saw so much in real life. almost funny, except that lives are involved. | |
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| Must have job, car, house...are they after my cash?
Posted: 5/2/2008 8:30:51 AM | Ok i work my butt off everyday. I make an ok wage. But there are 2 ex's out there that own nice homes because of me. Now i have to rent untill i cant pay off the bills that were created from the last ex before i can save up to buy my own home again.
Do i want a rich woman? sure who doesnt but what i really want is a woman that takes me for who i am and not what she thinks i am.
So to the women out there that require a man to own a home stop and look at the whole picture maybe he did have all the things your looking for and gave them to his ex or had them takin from him by an ex.
I may not be living with my mother but that guy that is, might be smarter than me because he will be back on his feet and own a home long before me
Give us a break! look at the whole picture before you judge us!
yours, Sonny | |
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| Must have job, car, house...are they after my cash?
Posted: 5/2/2008 8:58:44 AM | Oh bull, there are lots of women that have enough gumption to make their own way. We are not looking for a child to raise we are looking an equal that has or is willing to bring something to the relationship. If you don't have a job or a car, what do you have to bring to a relationship????
If you're cute that's great, but that isn't enough, for a guy or a gal. | |
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| Must have job, car, house...are they after my cash?
Posted: 2/14/2009 7:33:25 AM | I can certainly see the point of wanting someone to be going somewhere in life.
What would a girl think if i put in my profile... only looking for women with a substantial salary that will be able to take care of me and my costly personal habits, only to be rewarded by the bliss i provide in bed?
In short, yes, they are after your cash. | |
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| Must have job, car, house...are they after my cash?
Posted: 2/14/2009 8:43:16 AM | This is so funny, a friend of mine that is absolutely stunning. (But her insight on life is so wrong in my point of view.) She is not afraid to say outloud that the man must pay for everything. I nearly died when she told me she lives with her mother and she is the same age as me. All my life I have never asked my parents or ex for any money apart from him splitting the mortgage and bills 50 / 50.
I came from a country where the man is the main bread winner and if I stayed there I would not be able to pay half of all the bills as a womens salary is much lower. Gold digger I am not as I would rather go without. Although I can not have any respect for a man that doesnt work or live with his parents at my age as if I can do it anybody that is healty ofcourse can as well. (Because of my father as he is very hardworking and successful and I guess girls secretely want husbands that are like their fathers) If that makes me a gold digger then that is probably the case.
Some men want sexy high maintance women and as I was told to look as hot as she does it costs money. (not cosmeticly I think but good clothes as she wears nothing but the best so I reckon mother pays for it aswell as her new car and suport her young child. So I guess that is where you ask yourself are you willing to pay up to be with somebody gorgeos and take you for every penny you got. | |
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| Must have job, car, house...are they after my cash?
Posted: 2/14/2009 10:16:49 AM | | I don't think their gold diggers. If you are a grown man why shouldn't you have a job, car, be on your own? It shows your not a mooch, sponging off of your mother. I've dated plenty of those who I ended up carting around everywhere. Believe me, it gets old fast, very tiring. | |
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| Must have job, car, house...are they after my cash?
Posted: 2/14/2009 10:25:45 AM | | Could be both depending on the situation..yes there are men who like to live off women and will not work so some have started posting that in thei profiles to save time and then there are some women who want the same thing from a man ... someone tosupport them lock stock and barrel and are more or less looking for fortune and fame... not all women are like that some of us work hard and just want someone to share life with .. its the gold diggers and the bum men who who make it bad for the good ones... unfortunately there is just no way to know until you talk with someone what their intentions are and as time consuming and irritating as it can be it's the only way you will know who is and who isn't seriously looking... | |
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| Must have job, car, house...are they after my cash?
Posted: 2/14/2009 2:44:16 PM | | There are more men who are unemployed, by choice, have nothing to show for themselves, like house, car, etc at middle age then there are men who at least try to make a decent life for themselves. They are moochers who are looking for a woman to be the meal ticket. Goldigging goes both ways , you know. I just need to know that they are hard working, not an unmotivated lazy slob. I have worked my whole life and supported myself and my children, even when I was married, so I refuse to support another manchild. | |
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| Must have job, car, house...are they after my cash?
Posted: 2/14/2009 4:23:10 PM | OP,
I, myself, am doing well enough for myself...not complacent mind you, but heading in the right direction. I'm not looking for a meal ticket. That said, I too want to see some evidence of drive, ambition, goals in a potential mate...Maybe some see "job, car, house" as the material manifestations of these traits...
I'm a bit more flexible...If I can see potential and attitude I'm willing to consider the bigger picture...If someone is a single parent, and finishing up their studies and about to start a career they are excited about they may not have the house, etc.... each case according to it's merits! I'm looking for a positive/happy person above all else...People with plans and goals usually are.
I wouldn't say women asking about job, car, house are obviously after your cash...
Q:The best way to make sure women are not after you only for your material stuff?
A: Make sure you have much more to offer them than material stuff! | |
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| Must have job, car, house...are they after my cash?
Posted: 2/14/2009 4:30:59 PM |
In short, yes, they are after your cash.
Must just be the way I think outside the box, but....
If he has the job, house and car. That's where his money is going. Leaving a smaller amount of cash to be used for!
Yeah, funny concept I know. With car and house payments insurance and tax's. I'm sure there is an abundance of extra cash just laying around to be "taken".  | |
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| Must have job, car, house...are they after my cash?
Posted: 2/15/2009 5:23:01 AM | I dont know about folks and their profiles.
But it is important to me that my guy has a car.Otherwise that would leaves all the driving and visiting to me. Must have a job I'm very independant yes but should not be expected to pay all the bills for both of us. A home rented or otherwise is fine.Living with the parents no thanks others may like that idea I dont. | |
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| Must have job, car, house...are they after my cash?
Posted: 2/15/2009 12:35:19 PM | Well the reason I say the guy must have a job and car is because I do not want to always be the person paying for everything and picking him up and dropping him off back at home. I have experienced this a couple times and I just wont do it anymore.
They dont have to have a high paying job and a nice looking car, but I just want it to be 50/50 I dont even mind paying for the date SOMETIMES just not all the time... and I dont mind picking him up in my car SOMETIMES..... | |
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| Must have job, car, house...are they after my cash?
Posted: 2/15/2009 12:58:23 PM | LOL this is so true.
I just had a guy send me a mail saying that for someone that says I am spiritual I am a materialistic hypocrite because I want a guy that is solvent.
This was his first mail to me , someone that he doesn't even know.
I am spiritual and believe in God but i don't believe he will fill up my car or buy me my dinner baby!
Why do you have to love being poor to be thought spiritual? the poor are a burden on society it is the rich that can give charity and make their lives better. We need more rich people not more poor.
The poor may be going to inherit the earth but it's the rich that will run it for them !
Caroline in Waterford | |
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| Must have job, car, house...are they after my cash?
Posted: 2/15/2009 2:59:16 PM | No! We are not after your cash, car or house. I won't ask how much u make, wat kind of car do u drive or how do yo house look. Its about taking care of yo business, being responsible and being a man. If u can't take care of yo self first then how r u going to taake care of someone else. unless you are looking for a women to take care of u. If u want a women with all these things then why can't a women look for a man with all those things. hhhhhhhhhhhmmmmmmmm!   | |
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| Must have job, car, house...are they after my cash?
Posted: 2/15/2009 3:37:52 PM | I agree with the above. Obviously there are some women who are out for what they can get, but there are also plenty of us who have a job, a house, drive, pay our own bills etc.
I wouldnt expect a man to have a mortgage but i certainly would hope that he at least doesnt still live with his parents.. otherwise hows it gonna work when things get serious? Im a bit old to be going up to his bedroom to sit and listen to records. lol | |
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| Must have job, car, house...are they after my cash?
Posted: 2/15/2009 6:10:59 PM | Obviously I've not read all 56 pages, but I now feel I should remove my profile and not bother looking for a partner.
I am not working, I'm selling my non road-legal car to get one that is, but I do rent my property with assistance from the official places. My situation is far from being lazy, it is the circumstances I find myself in. I have money, not a lot. | |
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