I can relate to how you feel. My problem is a little more complicated than yours.
I have a huge crush on this man. Everytime I see his smile, hear his voice, with that wonderful accent or see him, it makes my day. I start the day thinking of him and go to bed at night with him on my mind.
But there's a problem. He's married!
That makes me feel so guilty. I know I shouldn't even think of him because he is married.
The feeling I have for him does not make me guilty. The problem is that this wonderful feeling is for a married man. And the guilt I feel is towards his wife and family.
I would never even think of saying anything to him because then I would stepover that boundary which is forbidden to me because he is married.
But what can I do to take him off my mind?
He is on my mind more and more.
He knows I am his friend, but he doesn't know that he occupies my mind 24/7.
I have a connection with him I have never had before with anyone.
Can someone please give me some advice on how to see him only as a friend? or how to stop thinking of him?
Well if you work with him it's going to be hard. You have the right mindset. Think about HIS FAMILY. His wife, his kids. Think about how the thoughts you are having now would effect YOU if another woman was thinking them about your husband? Basically put yourself in HER shoes for a second.
Not a pleasant thought, is it?
You don't have a connection with him -- you just think you do.
The best way to take him off your mind is put your focus and energy on yourself. You aren't getting your needs met if you're single. How about going out with your friends and meeting OTHER men? Go to the gym. Is there some other single, available guy you are interested in? Ask him out.
The point here is that while it's natural to feel that way about someone, the more you ponder and think about the more you are going to be tempted to interfere in someone else's marriage. If he's smart and a good husband he'll be flattered but tell you he isn't interested.
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