| Dating a guy with no car...
Posted: 5/18/2006 1:25:58 PM | I think the question should be .. What happened to him not to have a car in the first place? Now i know not everyone can afford a car but its not an arm and a leg to get your licence only time. So if your dating him and he doesn't drive then make some rules and compermise, equal payments for gas take turns what ever, thats if you trust his driveing lol this all being based on that she has a car and he doesn't!!! If she doesn't then the question is Dating a girl with no car....  | |
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| Dating a guy with no car...
Posted: 5/18/2006 1:40:28 PM | It's funny how, if the woman has a car and the guy doesn't, some people say things like, "make sure you have him pay for half the gas" or "I don't want to have to be helping him run errands all the time."
Can you imagine a guy asking a women to pay for half the gas when he picked her up for a date if she didn't have a car? LOL. | |
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| Dating a guy with no car...
Posted: 5/18/2006 4:00:35 PM | Night Run
Its funny if a woman is successful and doesn't need a man to buy her things but wants a partner, instead of a dependent, then she is superficial....give me a break. That BS comes from men who don't have anything to offer to begin with. If all you have to offer is what is in your jeans then that is pretty pathetic. Who is being superficial now? Shouldn't it be your heart your girlfriend is checking out? But along with a man's heart he has to have a good head on his shoulders. A man should know how to handle his money and build towards the future why should any sex “expect” it to be handed to them.
On my own, I have everything I need for myself and my children - if I can have a nice home, car, career why on earth should I settle for someone that has absolutely nothing. What have they been doing with their life, obviously not making right choices? Situations happen sometimes but a real man gets up and builds again.
So maybe before you say...98% should be thrown into Lake Ontario perhaps you should figure out which ones are taking oxygen for no reasons and which ones are building a future. | |
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| Dating a guy with no car...
Posted: 5/18/2006 5:03:43 PM | Its surely gotta be about the person not whether they have a car?! Ooh you don't have a car so I won't date you...What b/s. There are a lot of successful people out there that don't own a car. Are they not worthy either?  | |
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| Dating a guy with no car...
Posted: 5/18/2006 5:15:42 PM | existential - Currently there's 3, one of them is handicapped, the fourth recently lost her battle (it was...) with kidney failure.
I have 2 litter boxes (cause they're spoiled....), and 40 lbs. really isn't all that much, basically 2 of those boxes you get at WallyWorld, but WAY too heavy for the pannier rack.
I think 20 lbs. is about the limit.......
Umh...feel free to use my inbox any time , I do have a car.......
And a bus. | |
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| Dating a guy with no car...
Posted: 5/18/2006 5:19:57 PM | some of you girls on this thread seem to be stuck in the 40's or 50's. Who needs a girl with so little independence that she needs a guy with a car? I don't have one for the same reasons as the OP...waste of money...and plenty of alternatives (like public transport, walking...which I do to work, cycling, taxis, and renting on a weekend if one wants to get out of town). Hasn't hurt my dating a whole lot...those shallow creatures to whom its an issue I don't hear from and those gals who are independent and not so shallow don't seem to mind. I don't use anyone as my chauffeur, I can get around quite well by myself thank you very much. With gas prices rising by the second...I'd love to see how a thread like this looks in a year or two... | |
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| Dating a guy with no car...
Posted: 5/18/2006 5:29:19 PM | I guess when you're in the city you must do as the city-folk do. If that means no car...well I can see the logic. However it probably means you will have severely limited number of women you can realistically expect to meet/date. It's your decision...everything has a price to pay.
Personally NO WAY could I live in a city.....I live in BIG SKY country!!! Ahhhhh open free spacious landscape, fresh air, nature, stars at night, peace and quiet....and my car!! Of course I too am limited in the men I can reasonably date...although I do own a car I am not willing to drive all over God's green earth to meet them. | |
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| Dating a guy with no car...
Posted: 5/18/2006 5:59:55 PM | Sad that a car, looks, clothes, type of job, and income all so much more important these days. And what does every woman say they look for in a guy? Someone who will treat them great, be respectful etc. Always a description of a personality and then they stop cold in thier footsteps when you do not have a car, a condo, great clothes, title type job...seems those describe a personality. Hmmm so a car would make me a great guy? LOL..whatever.
And I for one am not going to be dating someone who lives hours upon hours away. Just like I do not expect a woman who lives hours and hours away to come see me.
I never seemed to have a problem dating in my 20's not ownong a car. I never found it a pain for me to take transit to see her. Never inconvenienced me and i never asked her to come pick me up ever. There were many times in my 20's when I had a g/f and I always told her not to worry about driving me home at night if i was at her place. So I do not see the big deal.
Most women i dated then had cars and I always said not to pick me up or drive me home. Called courtesy. To each thier own.
I am currently in the process of finding a place downtown so then i cn walk to work. And most people who live downtown do not have a car because the cost of a parking permit or if your condo has parking spaces, is alot now. Add that cost onto your car payments, insurance and gas, it is no wonder many people when they move downtown Toronto, not New Mexico etc, they sell thier car and when they are going to go away for the weekend, they rent one. | |
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| Dating a guy with no car...
Posted: 5/18/2006 6:50:43 PM | What a strange topic.
whoever doesn't want to drive shouldn't have to.
whoever wants to drive should.
whoever has a problem with either one of the above should only date the one they have no problem with.
arg ...
There's a lot more that could be wrong with people than not having a drivers license. No one should be telling anyone they have to/should drive simply because the big thing today is superstores located in b*-*k nowhere, and a TTC system that bites ass hard, that no one cares enough to complain about because they are all out there driving to Whitby Walmart to get those special 'made in a sweat-shop in a country I can't pronounce the name of' deals that aren't available in walking/cycling/cabbing distance.
Unless kids are involved, cars should be an after-thought not a must-have. | |
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| Dating a guy with no car...
Posted: 5/18/2006 7:45:07 PM | Wowww^^^^ you sure have a lot of "shoulds" in that post. At first they made a lot of sense, but your last sentence contradicted the first part of your post.
I think a lot of people in this thread are guilty of judging other people by their own experience and circumstance. In a downtown area I bet it's fairly easy to get by without a car....basically your whole world is in a few square miles. But many (if not MOST) places in the world are not like that.....many places are much more spread out....a person can live miles from the nearest town and even that town is an itty-bitty one so you have to go to the SECOND town over to get necessities.
Honey you can stand out there by the weeping willow tree at the fork in the road until you turn blue and the cows come home...but ain't no bus or subway ever gonna stop to pick you up! | |
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| Dating a guy with no car...
Posted: 5/18/2006 8:27:53 PM |
Can you imagine a guy asking a women to pay for half the gas when he picked her up for a date if she didn't have a car? LOL. 
no kidding, I agree that's a ridiculous suggestion... nobody should ask anybody for gas money... although I usually offer gas money if a guy drives all the time because I feel bad that it's at his expense - funny how no men I ever drove around felt that guilt.
Ooh you don't have a car so I won't date you...What b/s. There are a lot of successful people out there that don't own a car. Are they not worthy either?
Yeah, I say that's about right.
If you're soooooo bloody successful and you don't have a car to pick up a woman when you ask her out for dinner in 20 below weather then NO you are NOT WORTHY.
AAAAND... before people start bashing me for this, remember: THIS IS ONLY MY OPINION. If you can date a person who doesn't own a vehicle, then more power to you. You will NOT change my mind, nor am I trying to change yours - so please let's not take things so personally around here. There is no conclusion to this question anyway. To each their own.
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| Dating a guy with no car...
Posted: 5/18/2006 8:32:54 PM | if you live in downtown T.O. or right on the subway line, they still think you are a lowlife for not owning a car...
^^^ but i dont live in TO. and if i lived where everythign was closer to me then i would ride my bike...but 45 minutes to work an 45 back ..just isnt practical..lol....everything here is far apart.
Since when are women too good to get rides in taxis?
^^^ taxis fine...but most guys say bus is cheaper..what ajoke..hey 2006...an times have changed...gotta change with them or you'll be stuck in lalaland. | |
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| Dating a guy with no car...
Posted: 5/19/2006 2:24:26 AM | | dating a guy w/ no car....same as dating a girl w/ no car, if u aint got one n' can't get one then let the guy drive your car girl.....they tend to like you more faster for doing that! | |
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| Dating a guy with no car...
Posted: 5/19/2006 7:11:36 PM | Night Run....
You just like arguing with me…LOL
All I am saying is that women want partners not more dependants. I don’t mind sharing the responsibility of driving with someone but it is MY PREFERENCE not to make someone else’s choice my problem or inconvenience. | |
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| Dating a guy with no car...
Posted: 5/19/2006 7:32:11 PM | I guess you guys without cars don't own a dog. I can't imagine you hauling a 40-pound bag of dog food on the bus or on a bike.  | |
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| Dating a guy with no car...
Posted: 5/19/2006 8:02:58 PM | To sass: Not all young adults think that owning a car is criminal, environmentally unfriendly, and capitilistic. I think you'd be surprised by the number of Republicans out there who are young adults who don't feel this way at all. :P
To Cheap Trick Fan: Sometimes you have to do what you have to do when you don't own a car. I've had a dog, and never driven. It sucks having to drag a 40 lbs. bag of dog food on the bus, but unless I was going to start feeding the dog table scraps, it has to be done. But I'm sure to you, you must think that us with no cars must not eat either, cause let me tell you something else, it's a **** to carry groceries home with you on the bus too. Of course, then again, you make do. Trust me, I know first hand. | |
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| Dating a guy with no car...
Posted: 5/20/2006 4:38:18 AM | well thats nice of most you all seekin a man with wheels i for one can't drive any more do to my disablitys so if this is the way most you ladys seekin into other men then you have no right to turn down disabled persons  | |
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| Dating a guy with no car...
Posted: 5/20/2006 4:50:41 AM | | Nice try, TwOtall69, but unfortunately it doesn't matter. No car means no wheels, whether you are disababled or not. I brought up pretty much this same point on one of the first pages, and yet, it was quite apparent that it was a mute point, just proving once again the shallowness of our society. | |
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| Dating a guy with no car...
Posted: 5/20/2006 4:53:56 AM | | that's are very interesting points you made in that last post, ezzee, but...funny, aren't u the same guy who started the thread "3 strikes am I out??"--and one of your major issues was the fact that u dont drive and therefore, u called yourself a "loser". So, it's all "poor me" in one thread...yet, in this one.... | |
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| Dating a guy with no car...
Posted: 5/20/2006 5:40:25 AM | Ezzee -Before you use my name please make sure you are quoting the right person.
Night Run - My preference - does not make any others "right" or "wrong" it is simply my preference. I put 100,000 on my cars every year, driving three kids around to sporting events, work, friends, camping, going on mid-night runs and ending up in Montreal or Ottawa. I for one, cannot image not being able to get around, and cant image dating someone I would have to pick up all the time. It is neither superfiscal or wrong to want a partner who has the means to meet me somewhere and share the adventure of life, nor is it wrong to want an old fashion guy who likes to pick up his girlfriend for a date and treat a lady like a lady. | |
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| Dating a guy with no car...
Posted: 5/20/2006 5:47:30 AM | | oh so it will make a lady happy if i showed up in a handicap van ? get real while you at it | |
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