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| Ever get confused about who you're talking to?
Posted: 5/30/2006 12:58:36 PM | | I agree with Shell. If I'm not connected with someone, then I can talk to as many as I like. But once I find one special person that I want to at least try with, then he's the only one on my list that counts. I can't and don't play them all at the same time. Now if he's not right in the end, then it's back to the drawing board. But I want to talk with just the one, and get to know him, and hope he gets to know me, enough to want to meet. I might be simple, or the dye may have seeped into my brain too... but one at a time is plenty for me. I've always said, I don't need a lot of men on the string...just one good one. | |
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| Ever get confused about who you're talking to?
Posted: 5/31/2006 6:53:01 PM | | Couple of days ago, I got an instant message from someone saying that we had chatted on another site. No, picture, no info, just a lot of "prefer not to say" in his profile. I said sorry, but I don't remember you, can you please give me a reminder. He kept saying you must remember chatting with me. Still don't know if he seriously expected me to remember someone I had no info on, or if it was just a way to start chatting. | |
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| Ever get confused about who you're talking to?
Posted: 7/12/2006 1:24:41 PM | When I am talking with a few guys that I haven’t met yet I save the emails and IM in a folder with their names that way I can keep them straight. I so it mostly to make sure their stories are adding up and that they are not telling me one thing one day and the next something else.
Once I meet someone I certainly remember them if I just remember them as a friend.
I am a one man woman but until I met someone that floats my boat in person I talk to more than one. | |
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| Ever get confused about who you're talking to?
Posted: 7/12/2006 3:14:56 PM | I associate people with their business's or their product, in my work... so if I saw one on the street... geez, I would know their face, but be like 'duh' on the rest.
My mom used to do that thing where she called 'roll call'... she got me right about the fourth try, after the cat's name. Cat got seniority - sigh.
I'm a mess.... Married two men named Scott; have two children (one IS natural, if memory serves correct) named Dani and Danny. I like to keep it simple.
My son asked me once to quit marrying men named Scott, so I switched. 
I promise I have NEVER called one of the kids by the pet's name.
I don't remember anyway, if I did.  | |
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pfif
| | Joined: 6/11/2012
Msg: 33 | |
| Ever get confused about who you're talking to?
Posted: 7/7/2012 7:33:57 AM | Sometimes, sure. Even on platonic forums unrelated to dating, and
especially ones that don't support thumbnail pictures or avatars, it
can be a problem until something fairly personal is exchanged with
them.
As I age, though, I need more repeat exposure. I'm very good at
mapping faces to names -- if I see a face and knew the name, I'm
very apt to be able to recall their name, and greet them by name.
In person. | |
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| Ever get confused about who you're talking to?
Posted: 7/7/2012 7:46:59 AM | | I keep notes, both before and after meeting. Dating (or just talking to) just one person - and then having to start from scratch over and over since it's rare that it works out - is terribly inefficient and ineffective. So, *I* have to be efficient and effective to find that good match! | |
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| Ever get confused about who you're talking to?
Posted: 7/7/2012 8:31:10 PM | Really, you see that many people??? I would make an effort to remember who you are meeting and write it down. It is a good idea to take notes. It is very offputting to be called by the wrong name and to send an email to the wrong person also is not good.
You dont have to stop responding to others just because you have agreed to meet someone. I am sure the guys wouldnt. What are the chances you will both be interested anyway? Once you are in a committed relationship then of course you wouldnt bother to meet others if you are of a monogamous frame of mind., | |
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| Ever get confused about who you're talking to?
Posted: 7/8/2012 1:49:03 AM | | Once received a wrong number phone call, before I could get a word in she's goes right into some kind of phone sex like she'd been talking to someone and was interrupted. I let her go on for a few minutes before breaking in to tell her I wasn't her beloved Allen. Dead silence, followed by a tirade of profanity. Actually, I think she was more pissed she'd wasted the phone sex on me instead of Allen. Same woman called me again the next weekend to apologize, we started talking, but ended abruptly when I said I was 58. She said she was 20. | |
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| Ever get confused about who you're talking to?
Posted: 7/8/2012 2:48:26 AM |
I know I shouldn't even admit this here, but it's true. I sometimes get people I'm meeting for the first time completely confused with another person I'm making plans with to meet. This hasn't happened just once either. I've sent email to the wrong person, called them by the wrong name IN person, gotten all the facts mixed up as to the person's history, etc. I can't be the only one this happens to,...right?
Debbie, welcome to the 50 and over club! I have two words for you: Ginkgo Biloba. | |
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| Ever get confused about who you're talking to?
Posted: 7/8/2012 6:54:39 AM | | When my dating calendar is full I keep notes the old fashioned way on 5" x 8" cards which I review prior to a date. After a date I write down keys points such as the names and ages of their children or other info I may need to refer to in the future. Several times I have emailed with a Hi Cynthia when I was writing Deborah. I have also referred to another woman's children or story by mistake during a conversation on a date. You should have seen the looks on their faces! LOL . Hence the note cards which I carry with me. Sometimes I brush up on my date from the card or add a note in the men's restroom during the course of a date. I have a shorthand system and use key words as reminders to save space on the cards. | |
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pfif
| | Joined: 6/11/2012
Msg: 40 | |
| Ever get confused about who you're talking to?
Posted: 7/8/2012 8:29:37 AM | It's true -- I did that when getting to know someone who I became close to
for a substantially long time. She gave reams of detail in her telephone
narratives. I took (very brief) notes, at first. Later, asking clarification
questions became part of the ritual of telephoning with her.
I had an index-card incident backfire, once. I had a clean break behind me,
but opportunity knocked, and I took up with the new one a bit soon. So I
put her first name on an index card, in bold caps using a red Sharpie.
WHILE I was constructing this card, I spoke to my brother about my anxiety
over the matter, on the phone. We hung up (he never stays on the line very
long). She rang immediately.
Staring at the index card, I still called her by the other's name. She gave
me a pass on that, but I was on tenterhooks there, for a few minutes.
Close call. | |
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| Ever get confused about who you're talking to?
Posted: 7/8/2012 9:59:40 AM |
Or do monogamous people just stop responding to people once they've agreed to meet with one of them? Guess that would be simpler (but not as fun).
I would think that would stop once they are in a relationship with that person, and not before that time. | |
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| Ever get confused about who you're talking to?
Posted: 7/8/2012 10:27:54 AM | LOL---oh yeah and I get too frazzled when even setting up too many first meets too close together. :[
I don't like it, so, when I am dating...I've learned to slooww down the conversations on the phone and first meets to a pace I can handle. I enjoy getting to know folks but when I start getting their stories mixed up,I "hide" my profile again & try to focus on one at a time until I at least have someone's story fixed in my head---LOL....sheesh. I've tried taking notes, it just makes it "feel" too strange for me. :) | |
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| Ever get confused about who you're talking to?
Posted: 7/8/2012 10:51:09 AM | OP, do a google search on "farley file".
Whenever my dating life gets busy, I take notes, and refer to them often. I personally don't get upset about someone letting the wrong name slip out, but when it becomes obvious that they are confusing me with someone else, I do tend to get annoyed. If I can go to the trouble of keeping things straight, why can't they make the same effort? | |
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| Ever get confused about who you're talking to?
Posted: 7/8/2012 11:35:16 AM | Yes...I have gotten a few mixed up
Two men I chat with both use initials as their screen names and it can be confusing at times. One chats with me on IM quite a bit, the other very rarely, he works crazy shifts.
Anyhow, one of them lives in a small community (Cochrane) just outside Calgary. He sent a message the other day asking, " So when are you coming to visit me, I want to take you out to dinner?" I hadn't yet replied. Later, when the IM window opened I naturally looked at the screen name to see who it was before accepting the chat request. Initials = Cochrane guy.
Thinking I was talking to Cochrane guy... and after a few pleasantries I asked, "Why don't you come to Calgary if you're so anxious to take me out." No response...after a bit he finally replied with, "What do you mean?....I already live in Calgary. Are you mixing me up with someone else?"
Yup, I was. Wrong guy ....I was so embarrased
It was the use of initals that screwed me up....honest :)
And btw.... I'm not busy enough to need index cards or take notes. Although, it might be a good idea at this point, my memory is not what it used to be ..lol
...mae | |
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| Ever get confused about who you're talking to?
Posted: 7/10/2012 4:15:08 PM | "Ever get confused about who you're talking to?"
OP, I see in your profile that you are a professional dominatrix...if anyone gives you a hard time about using the wrong name, whip out your cat o' nine tails and make them tell you the right one. Reward them if they do so to your liking. =D~
Seriously though, menopause and "sometimers" messes with memory. I find it helpful to print out their profile and make notes on the back (like their name and phone number) before meeting them so I can refer to it before walking in to meet them. | |
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| Ever get confused about who you're talking to?
Posted: 7/10/2012 4:51:34 PM | I get alot of mail.
and once got mail at the same time from two different women with horse farms.
So you could understand me mixing up the two names.
They didn't.
And I never heard back from either.
Go figure.
I am not chagrined by that as they both lived too far away for
me to bother remembering who is who.
I think people put too much mental energy into email silliness.
This is all a mirage of unimportance until you meet.
If I do meet a woman,
I will remember her name then.
But in email....
you are all "babes" to me till then.
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| Ever get confused about who you're talking to?
Posted: 7/10/2012 5:58:22 PM |
I know I shouldn't even admit this here
Probably not, but just because you did, doesn't mean I'm going to confess.
so chances are
Don't be calling me out like that!
OP, I see in your profile that you are a professional dominatrix
What's this I hear?
whip out your cat o' nine tails and make them tell you the right one.
Alright Alright. I use an electronic device. Probably not the kind you like OP (wink)
Reward them if they do so to your liking.
So, did I earn a treat? Pant pant.
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| Ever get confused about who you're talking to?
Posted: 7/10/2012 8:37:10 PM | | If someone forgot my name that I was meeting with...I'd leave! It's only a slight sign of respect to remember someone's name, and call them by their name during a conversation. | |
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