| Why it's great being single....
Posted: 11/29/2007 9:53:17 AM | Being single has its advantages.. You don't have to wash anyone's clothes but your own. But also, it can be boring!
One thought is, it is better being single than being in a bad relationship, such as abusive or controlling, but I believe that would be the minority.. I believe most people are good, .... just have to  some more . LOL
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| Why it's great being single....
Posted: 11/29/2007 10:04:03 AM | | I've been "Single" for the last 9 years. At first it was great because I thought I'd be able to take the time to find the right one for me. But, 9 years later, I'm still looking and it's sucks! I'm lonely as all get out! I've pretty much come to the conclusion that I am never going to find anyone now. | |
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| Why it's great being single....
Posted: 11/29/2007 1:21:46 PM | | It is only those who have been in Hell who can appreciate Purgatory. And Hell would be an understatement of my LAST relationship over twelve years ago. I thank God every day that I am A FREE MAN! Anytime I feel a bit of loneliness set in all I have to do is reminisce about that horrid situation for a minute, and bang! hooraay! I thank God again that I am FREE AT LAST, FREE AT LAST! Like a gambler who finally broke even and wisely walked away from the game.... FREE AT LAST! | |
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| Why it's great being single....
Posted: 11/29/2007 3:21:23 PM |
Unfortunately (as for the "minority").....1 in three women are being abused.
Yes I know that Rossal, so it is a minority as 2 out of 3 are not abused.
Believe me, I know!!
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| Why it's great being single....
Posted: 11/30/2007 11:23:19 AM |
1 in three women are being abused. Rote memorizations of statistics need substantiation. Frankly, I think the majority of couples abuse one another, emotionally, physically and verbally. But I'm not going to consider what I've "heard" as gospel until I can locate an authoritative, verifiable study that used cogent statistical methodology. | |
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| Why it's great being single....
Posted: 11/30/2007 12:19:15 PM | Being single is great . you get to spend most of your time thinking about the relationship you are probably never going to have !!!!!
Oh , and you get to sit here reading about all the other ""Happy"" single people on here , most probably travelling the same road !!! | |
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| Why it's great being single....
Posted: 11/30/2007 12:40:25 PM | No one to report to.
No one who is going to argue about decisions we make about ourselves.
We can eat, sleep, work, vacation when it suits us.
No snoring to deal with.
We can clean the house, and for the most part that house stays clean for a while.
No eating food we really don't like just to make someone happy.
and the list goes on. | |
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| Why it's great being single....
Posted: 11/30/2007 12:48:06 PM | Being single has its advantages like everyone has listed but I disagree with your comment about "giving up yourself" when in a relationship. I will always be "me" but would like to share my life with someone . I would want him to keep being himself also as that is what would have attracted me to him in the first place. | |
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| Why it's great being single....
Posted: 11/30/2007 12:57:28 PM | The freedom of being single is great. No one to have to ask permission to go on a hockey tournament somewhere. And no guilt when they give you permission in the "If you really want to...." tone!
However, the loneliness is depressing at times. Thus one turns to a dating site because the bars are full of people my daughters ages. Then there is the realization that the women on the dating sites are....well, let's just say I've accepted the fact I may be single for a long, long time!  | |
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| Why it's great being single....
Posted: 11/30/2007 1:26:39 PM | Being single has some great bennies; so does mateship. But on the whole, if I were going to *work* on something, I'd rather work on a beyond decent, fine, enduring mateship: I kinda like being *rewarded* by my partner, lol! Different strokes, fer different folks. And may we each get what we most desire. . . .
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| Why it's great being single....
Posted: 11/30/2007 1:43:45 PM | I never found relationships to be "work", and today I don't find being single to be "work" or lonely.
When I first became widowed, I did feel lonely because I wasn't used to the single life, and I still that the society type sterotype that being part of a couple was the only way not to be lonely. That was just a phase I was going through at the time.
Once I got the hang of being single things became fun. I did have to create a single lifestyle for myself though. Number 1 was developing a network of long term friends.
Right now it is Friday just before supper. Two whole day lay out in front of me that are all mine to decide what to do with my time. Tomorrow is one of those times where there are four things on at friends that I would like to attend. To bad things don't get planned out differently, but hey, choices will have to be made. Sunday will be r & r just for me. | |
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| Why it's great being single....
Posted: 11/30/2007 2:26:38 PM | | I agree, being single has its perks, but I’d trade it all to find the man I want to conquer the world with | |
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| Why it's great being single....
Posted: 11/30/2007 2:57:36 PM | Da Leafs
With a response like that you will be single for a very long time. Don't get toooo depressed. | |
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| Why it's great being single....
Posted: 11/30/2007 3:16:19 PM | #1 - don't have to worry about the "seat"
#2 - don't have to fight over the remote
#3 - don't have to "explain" shopping. If I feel like cruising Home Depot aisles yet come home empty handed, it's not a big deal.
#4 - don't have to worry about cooking dinner every night. If I'm in the mood for tortilla chips with bean dip for dinner, it's not a big deal.
#5 - freedom to travel the world
#6 - don't have to worry about the Ma In-Law or should I say the Mother-OutLaw
#7 - don't have to hear "I can't find the car keys" (especially when they are right where he left them). | |
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| Why it's great being single....
Posted: 11/30/2007 7:13:30 PM | I think the greatest thing about being single is "there's nothing left to lose".
No one to worry about losing anymore. You don't have someone that others want anymore. I always felt sorry and guilty for those who didn't have someone because I did have someone that was really special. I always felt insecure about that and now that he's gone, I don't have anything to worry about. Can anybody relate? | |
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| Why it's great being single....
Posted: 11/30/2007 9:21:01 PM |
I think the greatest thing about being single is "there's nothing left to lose".
Sorry, this sound like a pity post. Got a little carried away there, I guess. My baggage is showing.  I know I need to lighten up. lol. | |
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| Why it's great being single....
Posted: 11/30/2007 10:00:49 PM | | ^^^ Please feel better soon. The only thing we ever have to loose single or not is ourselves. We are sooooo worth soooooo much. It will get better. | |
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| Why it's great being single....
Posted: 12/1/2007 1:35:49 AM | | Let me go a step further and say there be no relationship with parents once you start earning. More freedom, agree? Parental ties are no less annoying, often more annoying than those due to a partner. Old farts. | |
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| Why it's great being single....
Posted: 12/1/2007 3:46:44 AM | Re: 1 in 3 women are being abused (worldwide).
I've written a 16 page paper regarding abuse, and have 21 references.
Department of Justice Statistics
American Medical Association
American Institute of Domestic Violence
Centers for Disease Control
Sociology Journals
I realize this is off topic, but am responding to what someone said about "rote memorization, or something close to that. Unless one has experienced violence, one cannot imagine its' impact. I experienced it for 36 years, did the research for 10 years, and counsel the abused. | |
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| Why it's great being single....
Posted: 12/1/2007 5:10:01 AM | I'm so sad have to put up with not being single,
I have to:
Wake up with some one that smiles.
Plan and endure things like dinner, concerts, walks.
hear giggles at something I said when I wasn't trying to be funny
sometimes there's hot coffee on the bed stand in the morning, there was a halloween card on my keyboard one day
sometimes, she deliberately distracts me from typing .... I won't go into the details of what happens then, cause it's adult content.
Her dog likes to cuddle as much as she does .
I can't complain about the irritable behavior of her kids cause they're nice kids
The worst part is I can't fit in with those complaining about the imaginary behaviors of future dates.
Unless one has experienced violence, one cannot imagine its' impact. I experienced it for 36 years, did the research for 10 years, and counsel the abused.
Hey, I'm an expert on receiving abuse too and I know the stats. But the women that tried to abuse me found out how fast I can run, as soon as it started.
You didn't include that police reports about women being violent have caught up with men.
And with the change in awareness more police know the abuse is a 2 way street that goes on for quite a while before it gets physical and both parties are charged.
If I felt like smacking some one around cause I felt they deserved it, I'd be afraid of getting in a relationship with someone like me too. | |
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| Why it's great being single....
Posted: 12/1/2007 9:50:43 AM |
I wonder why everyone that posts on how great singledom is have been her over a year.
Does it take that long to figure out how great it is?
Why have more that 1/2 of these posters have vanished from the POF rolls? Have they found someone, booted, or did they realize they'd be more content dropping the search to enjoy their happy singleness?
Well, I am happy being single and I have not been here a year. So much for the "everyone" part of that post. | |
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| Why it's great being single....
Posted: 12/1/2007 10:08:40 AM | I'm so sorry for not being perfectly clear, let me restate that:
Prior to message # 23 in this particular thread ON the POF website,
I wonder why everyone that posts on how great singledom is have been her over a year.
Does it take that long to figure out how great it is?
Why have more that 1/2 of these posters have vanished from the POF rolls? Have they found someone, booted, or did they realize they'd be more content dropping the search to enjoy their happy singleness? | |
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| Why it's great being single....
Posted: 12/1/2007 6:55:24 PM |
Re: 1 in 3 women are being abused (worldwide).
The problem is the definition of Abuse is way too wide open.. Is there physical abuse of course no question.... is it 1 in 3 women of course not..
Mental Abuse is being done to both Men and Women. More Women admit it, as guys feel less manly to admit it..
Stats are only as good as the question being asked. Have you ever been abused ? Depends on each persons individual definition of what abuse is.. Is it being hit ( of course) or is it being yelled at for not taking out the garbage once ? Maybe No.. If it is every night that you appear to have done something wrong when she comes home to a point you are to afraid to face her until you find out what mood she is in.. hmmm sounds like abuse.. Gee nobody asked me to report that in any of your references..I know quite a few of my friends who also go through this at least once a month and post partum.. So the stats are skewed. Don't believe everything you read | |
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