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| Would you never have a relationship with one who has messaged others for sex or intimate encounters?
Posted: 10/17/2006 5:08:03 PM | No, I would not. Someone who has sex without thinking is a risk in many ways. One, because of their view of women (love 'em and leave 'em). Then, the many health reasons:
* Aids
* Herpes (Can hide without symptoms and infect others)
* Cervical Cancer (from frequent sexual partners in the man or woman)
* Other STD's
* Men's choice not to use "protection"
Many guys that I've met online meet, we have a nice visit. Either on the first date, or right after, I'm asked "When will we have sex?" Those guys are eliminated 1,2,3--nothing like high-risk behavior.
I want to meet a guy who isn't in a rush, and who hasn't an endless number of sexual partners. It's dangerous. | |
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| Would you never have a relationship with one who has messaged others for sex or intimate encounters?
Posted: 10/17/2006 5:24:45 PM | I guess we all lose on this one. To be checked off a list based on who we message, talk to, what we talk about makes us all guilty. Shades of Mccarthyism, rings of CIA conspiracy, we should all have extensive back ground tests run on ourselves and each other. That way when we all flunk we can go back to being just as normal as one another again. Go ahead, try to tell someone you have no skeletons in your closet, see how far you get with that.....Try to tell us all how much of a perfect angel you have been your whole life...Don’t worry, we will believe it??? | |
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| Would you never have a relationship with one who has messaged others for sex or intimate encounters?
Posted: 10/17/2006 6:11:44 PM | I just had to end such a relationship...it ws a pinfull expiereince on my part, but then the person was speaking aobut my dislike and likes to others which totally was wrong for her to do...I felt Violated and Humiliated...
I believe in my heart that when 2 people love eachother they have eyes only for one another.And I sure in in .....don't want to wind up with aids and or other comunical diseases should they follow through..
I was taught something in martial arts class were the head goes so does the rest fo the body..and your eyes control were your head goes...
like it or not eventually it will lead to the demise of the relationship...
some say that it enhances the relationship...but I must argue that...
Being in a relaitonship is more then just having sex...ints about intamacey the deep understanding of one a another, its about trust and when that trust is violated then there is a breach in that trust....
we have grown accustom to a way of thinking that the norm is that every one does it so it must be ok...
well if every one was jumoing off a bridge would you?
If I seem old fashioned I grew up on a farm....Sex is a comon factor in farm life lol..horses and cows do it, doggys and cats, you gt the picture but we humans are built differently,
Sex to the human is a form of comunication on a beautiful level we call it making love if we respect the person whome we are with and we don't or shouldn't discuss what we do with others nor should we check to see if the grass is greener on the other side..
I speak an Unconventional truth when I say and ask, "We need to sit down and say were has our messing around goten us?"
broken hearts are all over both Rich and poor suffer form this, and if we think that rich people have it easy , its not always so the case....
Money doenst make who we are, our assets don't make who we are...
but its what is in the heart that makes us who we are....
We have gotten so used to wanting it now and our way , that we have allowed our verry souls become targets both us men and women...
Fankly I am tired of all the stress of the heart aches, all of the hurt and the pain of finding som one getting myh hopes up only to be shot down...
maybe my personal past has made me a litle wiser...
Seleah | |
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| Would you never have a relationship with one who has messaged others for sex or intimate encounters?
Posted: 10/17/2006 8:04:10 PM | | Ladies you are complicating the issue as usual. I guarantee you that if a good looking woman who checks intimate encounter is seen by almost ANY guy at just the right time he might just say what the heck? give it a shot. and you'd be surprised to find the nicest, most decent guys you know are human and vulnerable to this temptation. doesn't make us bad or bed hopping guys. just because we might respond doesn't mean we'd jump right in bed with her without checking her out, getting to know a little about her. it never ceases to amaze me how we are stereotyped, and made to look like dogs. actually we are what we are & we are human & give in to temptation at times. I emailed a lady with that intent once a long time ago & now I'm dirty? I have been messaged by ladies with that block on which of course negates it, & I guarantee you they will tell you that I'm as decent & good a guy as you will meet. the ones who know me will. I've never cheated even on a girlfriend so don't be so judgemental please. we aren't all wolves in heat. | |
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| Would you never have a relationship with one who has messaged others for sex or intimate encounters?
Posted: 10/18/2006 3:08:16 PM | | Very well said loner, besides the fact that it would seem that the majority of the women I have dated have yet another way of looking at this. So they put "Dating" as there looking for tag, so what? If they meet this guy somewhere it seems that as long as they don't like him for a long term relationship, why not spend the night with him and have some fun. Who's going to know, at least that seems to be many ladies favorite saying it seems. Sure they try to make it sound okay in there own minds by saying that they shared a special moment, she just felt attracted to him, or she did it for some reason other than what is the truth. Making it sound in her mind like it was something other than what it was, but what it was is sex, nothing any more or less then what men do, its just better when a woman does it. Double standards, OH YEA!!! | |
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| Would you never have a relationship with one who has messaged others for sex or intimate encounters?
Posted: 10/18/2006 4:35:18 PM | they don't want to go to a bar, because being rejected online is a little easier than face to face...far more women AND men to choose from here as well...
plus you can feel the person out here...get to know them a bit before saying..."let's have sex"....when u take a person from a bar home, you don't know what you're going to end up with....
of course same thing here too if you think about it....i joke with men who ask to come over to my place for sex right after we begin talking...i tell them, it would be so easy to be a female serial killer, because men will show up anywhere to meet a woman if they think sex is involved....that usually makes them think a bit...and they should...i mean what are they trying to walk into? they warn women from the time we're little girls to beware of strange men who might turn into rapists, killers...yet men not so much...i'm amazed at what kind of risk men are willing to take to get sex...
we recently had a story on news here of a young man who agreed to meet a girl at a park...he was like 21 and the girl 18....well when he arrived....two girls both around age 15 were there to rob him at gunpoint....
and this was suppsedly a girl he had talked to and gotten to know online...you can never be too careful | |
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| Would you never have a relationship with one who has messaged others for sex or intimate encounters?
Posted: 10/18/2006 4:48:27 PM | Maybe I'm new at this, but here's what I'm wondering:
How does the site even know if someone has messaged someone for an intimate encounter? Is it simply a matter of, if a person has "intimate encounter" as their primary motive, and I send them a message, ANY message, even if it was to say "hey i like your picture, was that taken in spain?", then I'm now pegged as someone who's messaged someone for an intimate encounter?
matt | |
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| Would you never have a relationship with one who has messaged others for sex or intimate encounters?
Posted: 10/18/2006 5:12:15 PM | I've learned to believe what people say about themselves in their profiles. I've gotten "involved" in a relationship with a guy who listed himself as looking for an Intimate Encounter (but assured me his intentions with me were otherwise).... and learned a lesson. I also got into an IM chatting relationship with a guy who listed (on his yahoo profile) that he had an LTR, but then assured me that it was past and he just hadn't updated it. Two days before we were scheduled to meet I caught him out in that lie as well--he's actually married and (as he confessed in anger when confronted) likes to "cheat as often as he can" (the LTR, by the way, was with his last extra-marital "girlfriend.") So for me, I would be very war of trying to have a relationship--if by that you mean something with LTR potential-- with someone who lists themselves that way
I don't know about this other messaging thing... don't even know how to check that. I figure that other people's exchanges are their private business. | |
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| Would you never have a relationship with one who has messaged others for sex or intimate encounters?
Posted: 10/18/2006 6:08:12 PM | Just this week I was chatting with an interesting guy who seemed quite compatible and very close to what I was looking for in a man. We were going to take the step of meeting for a coffee date, but I had not yet seen his picture because he withheld it on his profile for professional reasons.
He ended up putting it on his profile so I could see it, BECAUSE he couldn't actually send it to me as I have the filter on that prevents men who have messaged those looking for intimate encounters or sex. He told me this and was honest about why he couldn't send me an email through the system.
I decided that I could not go through with the date and told him that I didn't judge him, but that I did not want to go down that path (again) for myself. He was understanding about it.
I didn't realize though, that the filter only applies to the emails--he was initially able to contact me through the IM. system.
PS: Hi Nomadic! I hope I didn't offend you in the other thread with my lawyer joke--I'm mostly lawyer-friendly and meant it only in a fun-loving way. | |
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