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| Would you never have a relationship with one who has messaged others for sex or intimate encounters?
Posted: 11/2/2008 12:15:21 AM | no, i woulnd't. why? because i've been through that kind of crap already. it's one thing to do it once, but the whole pattern of behavior might imply that the guy/or girl has a serious sexual addiction/sexual compulsivity problem. you can't be in a relationship with someone who has this sort of problem. they are screwed up and need help. period.
i am an old fashioned girl and for me, and i am only speaking for myself here, i wouldn't want to be with someone who thought sex was for sport. i would prefer to be with someone who treated it as something more special.
i woldn't bother with someone who was into the hook up/intimiate encounter crap.
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| Would you never have a relationship with one who has messaged others for sex or intimate encounters?
Posted: 11/2/2008 1:40:39 AM | I personally would not.
That's not my style and I wouldn't like it to be the style of the person whom I want to be with. That's my preference...they may not be "bad" people or anything, just not my type in terms of that.
Infact if I just start talking to a guy and he is overly sexual or sends me pictures f his genitals and stuff like that without me asking....and clearly has a 1 track mind that is centered around sex...I immediately cut him off. I just don't like that. Some women do. I don't though so it's nothing personal...I just wouldn't date you knowing you did that. | |
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| Would you never have a relationship with one who has messaged others for sex or intimate encounters?
Posted: 11/2/2008 1:57:11 AM | The settings speak to the intentions for the encounter. A person listed as "intimate encounter" can reasonably be expected to expect intimacy upon initial encounter and for that to be the purpose of the encounter ... aka a hookup. It would be unreasonable for a person who is unwilling to have an intimate encounter to agree to meet with them.
I have no doubt that there are those who don't mean to have an intimate encounter who have had an occassion in their life when they went further than intended on first meeting. However, neither person ought to have any reasonable expectation that this would happen.
However, I do find the content of the profile gives more of a clue. In my experience people who make comments in profiles or in early emails or IMs or chats which are clearly a person who thinks from below the waist are people who are more likely to have sex based relationships. | |
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| Would you never have a relationship with one who has messaged others for sex or intimate encounters?
Posted: 11/2/2008 12:21:10 PM | Personally, I get approaches, quiet a few, but only one was of the intimate encounters sort. I met her as a kind of experiment. I wasn't feeling too positive about my prospects at that time. About getting what I want. I figured maybe this is me. This what I'm good for. Like a tool.
Anyway, I met her in some coffee shop. Right away...no! She lied about her circumstances. I was not attracted. I'm too old for a quick hit. All that stuff.
Maybe real men can fvck anything that moves, anywhere, anytime and it's like a handshake.
I could and did when I was a boy. Yes, sure I want sex. But it takes time to develop trust. I'm talking about me. Me feeling safe.
Addendum: I was offered a FWB type of situation, early on, when I started this damn site. If any of that stuff works for you. Good. Fill your boots. I want what I want. I'm gonna get it too. | |
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| Would you never have a relationship with one who has messaged others for sex or intimate encounters?
Posted: 11/2/2008 12:27:36 PM | well I have it on my restrictions list because I just didn't want a lot of men who were looking for just that wasting their time (or mine) trying to talk me into it.
Would I discount somebody because they have had a one night stand in their past? No of course not...but on dating sites a LOT of people are looking for only FWB's, one night stands, and sex with strangers. That's just not my style. | |
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