| Why do hot girls never give a chance to an average looking guy?
Posted: 1/19/2007 6:58:18 PM | You can turn this around just as easy.
Why do "HOT" guys, never give "Miss Average" A chance?????
The answer is quite simple really, we are attracted 2 our own kind. Look around you, it is the same everywhere in every country. The wealthy/educated, with wealthy/educated.
Average looks/intelligence with someone who is also average in looks/intelligence.
unattractive/uneducated with unattractive/uneducated.
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| Why do hot girls never give a chance to an average looking guy?
Posted: 1/24/2007 12:13:35 AM | Why do hot girls never give a chance to an average looking guy?
In real life ....
I think you need to stand out in the crowd for "hot" women to be interested.
Look's definately aren't everything...but you need to be attracted..
But what I don't understand is that when women are on internet dating... even if they are just a bit attractive they seem to act like they are "hot"....
I only consider a woman hot if she is exceptionally attractive ...the kind of woman that would make most any guy go wow!!...what a babe!!.....not just "ok" ....or "nice looking".....
....I think it's the fact men out number women on here that women can pretend they are better than they are.....but it's not good for anyone because you need to be a good match look's wise if you want anything to work...or even to get started. | |
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| Why do hot girls never give a chance to an average looking guy?
Posted: 1/24/2007 12:18:36 AM | | Internet dating, the women have the ball in their court. They can discard any messages just by looking at our picstures and judging us on our looks. They get bombarded with messages each day so they get to set their standards however high they want and will get what they want. | |
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| Why do hot girls never give a chance to an average looking guy?
Posted: 1/24/2007 12:29:38 AM | ^
Yeah ....it's often crappy..I swear there are woman that I would not look twice at in real life that act like super model's on here....and yet women actually go on about "not being superficial"
But here's the thing .....it shouldn't matter that women have the initial number's
advantage on the internet ...once you transfer to real life thing's better be real and reasonably equal .....it's real life that count's .....
Sure they get lot's of attention on the internet ....but so what ....that doesn't transfer to the realities of what makes a relationship work.
They can go after a guy way over their head's and possibly meet him ....but at best it will be a fling.....or less. | |
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SaucyM
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| Why do hot girls never give a chance to an average looking guy?
Posted: 1/24/2007 7:58:47 AM | | OMG!!! I cannot believe the crap that I'm reading..... So yall mean to tell me that any beautiful woman who is kind, had to have been an ugly duckling b4???????, That all beautiful girls are ****es??????? . I guess this old saying comes to mind.... "when the fox could not get the grapes, he claimed that they were sour"!!!!! | |
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| Why do hot girls never give a chance to an average looking guy?
Posted: 1/24/2007 2:18:27 PM | Most times I would think that "hot" women date average looking guys because he has money and probably because less women desire an average looking guy so he won't have alot of women chasing him. Just a thought is all.
Oh and I knew the grapes were sour so I didn't bother trying to get them. | |
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| Why do hot girls never give a chance to an average looking guy?
Posted: 1/24/2007 2:38:40 PM | eh...I'm average and I've been able to date "hot" girls, "average" girls, "frumpy" girls, and "fugly" girls. PARDON THE EXPRESSIONS...just trying to make a point.
The thing is that it didn't matter. In the end the looks ceased to matter and all of my interest was based on their basic "being"...who they were, their sense of humor, their passion, their ability to be themselves. | |
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| Why do hot girls never give a chance to an average looking guy?
Posted: 1/24/2007 5:09:56 PM | I guess this old saying comes to mind.... "when the fox could not get the grapes, he claimed that they were sour"!!!!!
^ that's a great old saying ....don't ruin it by misuse.
I think the point is that on the internet even the not so sweet grapes are often very unrealistic and unfortunately that makes thing's just a bit pathetic for everyone.
...and "beautiful women" a very few and far between.
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| Why do hot girls never give a chance to an average looking guy?
Posted: 1/24/2007 5:28:08 PM | I didn't have time to read through the last 2 years of this thread (really seems to have pinched a huge nerve, hence its longevity.) How many "hot" guys have given average girls a chance? And I am not talking just for sex.
I often say that looks are like a business card and if there is no substance to back them up, the card carrier can "get really ugly". In my past I have fallen in love with/become infatuated with men who were "average looking" by societal standards but it really was due to their hearts and minds. Of course I also have a shameless picture at my desk of a Nautica male model about whom I joke about selling my entire family into slavery for! 
Not every "hot" woman is a snob, uneducated, or if she is, a former ugly duckling. GAWD where do some of you get this? Average looking people can be just as snobby, uneducated, etc.
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| Why do hot girls never give a chance to an average looking guy?
Posted: 1/25/2007 6:54:40 AM |
I would say don't take it personally. 85% of the women here wouldn't know a good thing if it hit them in the head. Personally I would think they would want a good guy but from experience it seems most don't know what they want and seem to pick guys that are least good for them. Its all just a big baffling world to me.....
LOL.....best post in the entire thread! Well done! | |
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| Why do hot girls never give a chance to an average looking guy?
Posted: 2/25/2007 7:11:26 AM | | I get annoyed when men stero type women. Hearing things like " You're HOT!" and "Gorgeous" or stupid lines like " Baby I wanna Tap That" ... No matter how goodlooking a man is, when he starts talking, and his whole vocab consists of 25 words or less...it's all over right then and there. I normally don't take complements well to begin with. When I hear " Stunning" or "Beautiful" those two simple words have and hold so much more meaning to them in my opinion. The "average" male type that seems to be pulled around here has much more luck then the "Greek God" with me... on many levels.. | |
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| Why do hot girls never give a chance to an average looking guy?
Posted: 2/25/2007 7:27:46 AM | Of course average guys stand a less chance of dating hot women because there are better looking guys who will be wanting her. And it only is human nature for women to want the best, and also easily get sidetracked. If she has 4 guys showing an interest in her, the looks/image/appeance is going to get her attention immediately. She does not know these guys so of course that is the first impression. So the average looking guy sure is not going to win. He has to put more effort into impressing the hot woman and she more than likely will not care as the hot guys will have her attention.
Trying for the unattainable is what too many of us guys seem to do and set ourselves up for failure and being shot down. Know what you can attain. Average guys will only get average or below average women. Hot guys will get hot women.
It is like a gothic type woman is not going to date a guy who dresses in the latest fashions.
Style and image plays the biggest part in attraction, substance/personality is not what is on the top of the list...that was so 80's. | |
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mam69
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Joined: 1/16/2007
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| Why do hot girls never give a chance to an average looking guy?
Posted: 2/28/2007 3:56:04 PM | | I personally think that women are not as superficial as men in this area. In my observations...men don't look twice at you if you're not thin and beautiful. Women on the other hand care more about what's inside and can look past any physical "flaws". I'm aware this is not always the case but often is. I dated a guy not long ago and he was overweight at prob 350 pounds but it never bothered me at all...although his guy friends often commented on why we were together and if I had an ulterior motif...which wasn't the case at all considering I had more money than he did. As for Yada...I thought your comments are rather harsh...although somewhat true...there are some very beautiful and smart women out there that don't have those ugly qualities you have mentioned. | |
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| Why do hot girls never give a chance to an average looking guy?
Posted: 2/28/2007 4:26:53 PM | I think that too many still believe that men are more superficial because of history. I think because we men are always labelled as being shallow etc, it will always stick to us men. So when women base more on looks they are believed to not be that way as much as men. But you would be surprised, this is 2007 and women are just as bad as men in being shallow and superficial. Just that there is more justifying why women are this way compared to men, so it becomes acceptable.
More and more women figure all men are the same and think that men are no longer decent men but just put an act on to make them think they are decent.
Is the changing times really. Women now know they can be this way and get away with it, being they hold more power in dating and relationships than men these days.
So why would a hot looking woman settle for an average or unattractive guy these days when she knows she can have better? Women are being smart about things now and wanting nothing but the best and not settling for it, is why so many men are single because the guys are just not good enough. | |
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| Why do hot girls never give a chance to an average looking guy?
Posted: 3/1/2007 11:38:29 PM | While there are no absolutes - I think mam69 hit one nail on the head fairly well.
However, I also think an appropriate answer is more accurately discovered by age group. You see in here that some guys say it's the girls more superficial, and some girls claim the reverse is true. I have spent some time observing this in all ages because I wanted to know both what is common today and how we got there.
My subjective (because there's no way a human being can be objective here - unless the site administrator provided a few more check boxes and access to the database - not a complaint - they do a wonderful job!) opinion is that the younger guys are more focused on looks, and the older women more so (I'm sure I'll get flamed for that - but look at the profiles, don't just go on personal experience - it changed my mind). This observation is limited more to the 'hotter' folks in both categories (yep, 'hotter' is also a matter of opinion *lol*).
I am usually taken for average to a little better than average looking - I am happy with that because God made me that way, what he gives is always good, so I'm this way for a reason. I will never be 'hot', and can say at this age, I'm glad of that now *s*. I know that what will last is found in understanding the reasons mam69 aludes to. What probably dismays me at times is finding so many of the 'average to above average' (I know, just my opinion) ladies in my age range who in their profile say it's what's inside that counts the most, yet immediately use as their primary screening tools, in order:
1) age (want 5-15 years younger)
2) looks (he will be in shape, athletic, young acting, i.e. 'as hot or hotter than me'
3) wealth (often defined as successful, generous, finer things, etc.)
If you believe that biology is the primary factor and predictor of success in a relationship - then there's no problem with the above. If you don't, and consider the prevalence of infidelity in divorce, then those priorities might concern you. I just don't attempt to contact those women, am not interested - it's not a matter of lack of response, it's that my belt already has holes in it and holds my pants up, I don't need additional notches in it *lol*.
One of the things I think some might agree to, and I've come to discover and believe, is that to a large degree love is a decision and learned. It just doesn't smack you upside the head - not the kind that lasts. That doesn't sound romantic, but romance is behavior, not an aura that 'just happens'. And if you choose to value qualities in a person because you decide they're something you can appreciate, then you will still see them and appreciate them as the body changes and circumstances change.
Thank you for indulging me if you read this and really heard what I tried to say. Good luck all, and God bless. | |
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| Why do hot girls never give a chance to an average looking guy?
Posted: 3/3/2007 2:11:50 PM | | davescott is on to something...people choose the values by which they evaulate prospective dates. some men are pissed because they show interest in a hot woman and the interest is not reciprocated...how dare she be as superificial as you!!! what a b****. lmao. c'mon, folks. wake up. stop having a tantrum. re-evaluate your criteria, odds are you'll be more successful or at least understand why you're not. | |
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Rhett1
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Joined: 10/16/2005
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| Why do hot girls never give a chance to an average looking guy?
Posted: 3/3/2007 3:37:07 PM | I think the better question is: "Why do people choose who to date based on 'hotness'?" How about choosing someone based on their personality, sense of humor, similar goals and interests, etc? Yes, hotness may be what makes you notice someone, at first, but base a relationship on more than just that.
I don't understand why so many people will pass up plenty of great opportunities because they HAVE to have their idea of physical perfection before anything else. | |
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| Why do hot girls never give a chance to an average looking guy?
Posted: 3/3/2007 3:58:48 PM | This whole thread is unfreakin believeable. lol I realize that a very small percentage of the population is considered "hot" by everyone. But for the most part, there are differences in what attracts us to someone. Given...on here the very first thing is looks. But I might think someone is "hot" and someone else might say "what??".
And Cedar...in talking about women on the internet dating sites....
I think the point is that on the internet even the not so sweet grapes are often very unrealistic
This applies to men as well. How many "poor me" threads are started everyday by women and men? But MORE by men. And we all know they're not having any luck because they're going for the glamour shot girls....girls they wouldn't even approach in real life. This very thread was likely started by a guy doing just that. And somehow, it's been twisted around to a discussion of how the women on the net think they're better looking than they are.
Just bizarre. | |
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| Why do hot girls never give a chance to an average looking guy?
Posted: 3/3/2007 4:04:37 PM | | ^^I'll send you links to women I contacted on here Arugala, not Hot by any means you will say that for sure as I will never get contacted or replied to by a hot woman for sure, my standards in looks are based on what I can hopefully attain, and even when one goes for really ugly let's say, those women, when they get to date hot guys, they want hot guys...so men are less lucky to date a hot woman unlike women who will date a hot guy sometime in their life and after that time, they want that as their standard in looks | |
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