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| Why do hot girls never give a chance to an average looking guy?
Posted: 2/19/2005 4:36:58 PM | a'ight, i'm flipping this around..
why do guys look for "hot" women? your talking about why physically perfect women would not give a chance to an average guy.. have you yourself looked at or tried to find an "average" female?? and if not.. why?? what is it about the outter package that is so necessary? I understand we all have our boundries, and attraction is important, but i also believe that you can love a personality so much that their physical attribute either matter less, or you find them extremely attractive because of the other qualities they have to offer | |
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| Why do hot girls never give a chance to an average looking guy?
Posted: 2/19/2005 5:02:27 PM | | If anything it is men that seem to look for physical beauty first. A good woman generally looks for a man that has strong moral principles, is independent, hard working, loving and has leadership qualities. Many women are tired of the lazy, self centered, unromantic, looking for a trophy or a second mother type of guy. We forgot how to lead and women are tired of it. I have personally seen many gorgeous women with average physically attractive men. Its because they are more intuitive than we are. I saw alot of men go for the gorgeous babe and didn't look close enough at the personality and are in nightmare situations. Obviously there has to be some physical attractiveness but it is only a small part. Work on the other areas I stated and watch how much your luck changes with finding someone you are attracted to. But I caution that you are not just trying to gain her attention because of her physical beauty. | |
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| Why do hot girls never give a chance to an average looking guy?
Posted: 2/19/2005 5:08:44 PM | | I believe that, we as men are are always going to be visually stimulated first... But the trick is to see, if her beauty resides on the inside as well... After that, the outside is just there, it's the inner connection that keeps the couple together... | |
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| Why do hot girls never give a chance to an average looking guy?
Posted: 2/19/2005 5:12:14 PM | @ Holly
Hard to explain for me, I think my personal concept of what makes a woman attractive has evolved to a point that, I may not be able to describe it, ......but I know it when I see it. And "it" is different for every woman, ....hmmmmmm.... this leaves quite a scope of choice, and makes for pleasant surprises. | |
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LinZ09
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Joined: 11/29/2004
Msg: 62 | |
| Why do hot girls never give a chance to an average looking guy?
Posted: 2/19/2005 5:14:10 PM | I'd like to give a different perspective to this question because a lot of this discussion has bothered me. I'm frusterated at how you're judging these other people and refusing to look at yourself. Why is it that you're allowed to be shallow and judge a woman by how she looks when you first contact her, but she isn't allowed to sink to your same level? Don't get me wrong; I don't think any of this prejudgemental crap is right, but I refuse to have a pity party for a hippocrit. I've had a number of emails from this site where in the first sentence they mention that I'm hot, or something of that nature. To me it's much more meaningful to see that a person has read my profile and thinks they would match on that level instead. And if you're doing that with these 'hot' girls, then good. But are you clicking on the less attractive women's pictures and giving them the same chance? If you aren't, then stop complaining because you are every bit as shallow as the hot women you're berating. And if you are giving less attractive women a chance and asking them out, then why aren't you dating one of them? If they've rejected you too, then 'hot' women aren't your only problem, so you can stop using them as scapegoats. I'd like to say that I don't condone judging a person by their picture in any sense. Everyone is a victim of it at some point, and I'm sure that EVERYONE, including the people in this forum, have done it at one point. So before you start pointing a finger at someone, why don't you take a look at all of the fingers pointing at you.
Lindsay | |
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| Why do hot girls never give a chance to an average looking guy?
Posted: 2/19/2005 5:15:53 PM | i agree late.. everyone is hot in their own way, some physically, some for their humor or intelligence etc
lets face it, we all do look at appearance, i mean, if you see a person walking down the street, someone you have never spoken to, any comment (hot, average etc) is going to be based solely on appearance. Many "hotties" i have met turned out to be the ugliest ppl, and many "less then average" have turned out to be beyond sexy | |
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| Why do hot girls never give a chance to an average looking guy?
Posted: 2/19/2005 5:20:16 PM | Rencen -
"Keep in mind as well, men age better than women" As a generalization, I don't think that works. My observation has been the opposite - that's the reason I prefer to date men younger than myself.
"There are some hot looking women at my age, but read their profile - it's amasing how a woman choses to exploit herself for men" - can you expand on this thought? | |
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| Why do hot girls never give a chance to an average looking guy?
Posted: 2/19/2005 5:27:28 PM | @ 22
Asswell ????? Oh 22, you are sooooo two weeks ago
@ Holly
Beyond the obvious boundries of "reasonably healthy" and ...uh, "aesthetic symmetry" I find that everything goes, ....... If I get a certain smile, ... I see a "Hot" girl.
That I have grown to allow for more range in my expectations only made the world more chocked with hotties, ...plus there's the thrill of giving Madison Ave. ideals the finger.
R. | |
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| Why do hot girls never give a chance to an average looking guy?
Posted: 2/19/2005 5:35:43 PM | | with some exceptions most of the "hot" girls do not even know they are hot so if it seems they end up with above average guys it's probably because that is the type of men who feel comfortable aproaching them. If you remember that confidence is a major turn on for women and keep track I think you will be rejected by the not so hot women just as often. Apply for a government grant to do a study and go out there and start your research. you may have trouble defining "hot" though. I knew a guy who liked his girls over 400 lbs. | |
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| Why do hot girls never give a chance to an average looking guy?
Posted: 2/19/2005 5:38:53 PM | see, when i hear yall say hot immediatly i think
blonde, blue eyed, big silicone breasts, suggestive posing in their pics, i mean, that is what "hot" is to guys on here, right? why would you even want to date someone who posts porno pics on an internet dating site...c'mon... | |
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| Why do hot girls never give a chance to an average looking guy?
Posted: 2/19/2005 5:42:45 PM | | yes i believe that it is the inner qualities that make a good relationship. finding out what these qualities are take time and that's something most people have little of. once again look at how high the divorce rate is. a lot of people are looking for the physical attraction and when that fades, there is nothing left and they move on to something better. if we could just slow down a little and get to know one another, maybe relationships would start lasting a little longer. | |
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~Jim~
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Joined: 11/10/2004
Msg: 71 | |
| Why do hot girls never give a chance to an average looking guy?
Posted: 2/19/2005 5:49:23 PM | | JT2, it's probably not the fact of an "average looking guy" that women don't go for. I think it probably has something to do with what is said after "hello". A guy can't act like a wuss and expect a woman to be attracted to him. Wuss can mean many things and sounding desperate is definitly one of them. | |
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| Why do hot girls never give a chance to an average looking guy?
Posted: 2/19/2005 6:55:30 PM | okay quit the whining, the reason some girls dont look at average guys, is because guys are showing that they are nervous and intimidated or just desperate and that is the turn off.
I have dated who are ugly as sin, but found them sexy because they were not intimadated by me | |
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| Why do hot girls never give a chance to an average looking guy?
Posted: 2/19/2005 8:21:57 PM |
How come every hot girl I have tried to ask out turn away or say "sorry, your not my type" when they don't even know me or have even met me? I think most girls are to superficial espically in high school.
90% of women go for 10% of guys.
The only card you'll usually have is if you have money.
Sometimes thats not the case. | |
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| Why do hot girls never give a chance to an average looking guy?
Posted: 2/20/2005 1:42:59 AM | | Well i can say this i dated a hot girl then went to a club she left and ****ed my best buddies at the time when i asked what happened i got the old phsycho routine i tried to leave then got ko'd for behind all i am saying hot girls never again average girl yeah because hot girls aren't worth three months in a wheel chair just got out of one begininng of febuary | |
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| Why do hot girls never give a chance to an average looking guy?
Posted: 2/20/2005 2:57:49 AM |
We forgot how to lead and women are tired of it
Maybe where not allowed to anymore?
Maybe expectations are unrealistic?
Obviously there has to be some physical attractiveness but it is only a small part.
Exactly. Beauty fades, dumb is forever - good footnotes for both guys and girls | |
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| Why do hot girls never give a chance to an average looking guy?
Posted: 2/20/2005 3:05:46 AM | Let's not forget that shallowness runs in both genders, and I'd say it runs even deeper in guys.
It's even harder being a girl, I imagine, because in general guys regard looks as sort of a prerequisite to considering someone for dating. True: guys (dare I say in all optimism, most guys?) weigh personality as the most important thing in looking for a girl because looks only go so far. But guys won't even think about dating a girl they don't know very well unless they thought she was hot FIRST. If you're attractive, you get into the "to be considered pile" and if you're not, well, then extenuating circumstances will have to apply, such as insider info about how funny she is. Hell, maybe you get to know the girl and everything changes, but intitially, where there's no other info, I think both sexes do this.
But I have a feeling women put less emphasis on the looks department - I think they're actually less strict about it. Instead they also look hard for personality, even though it's rather impossible to tell from a breif conversation. Maybe it's this part that makes it even harder for the guy - you might be a good looking guy, but if you dress wrong, you're out. But she's still discriminating based on personality somewhat & not entirely on looks. What I'm saying is it's more mixed.
I think 4evafresh has made a very valid point. Let's not kid ourselves. There are leagues, but the great thing is it's easier to jump leagues than it is to change your personality. So if your personality is great, getting a new look is simple. Girls that are "hot" tend to look for the same because, well, what other information do they have to go on in the begining anyway? You can always change your look, and I suppose it's shallow in a sense, but when the ratio of guys to girls on here is 13-1 US guys are the fish. They have to pick and choose from a pile of people and they don't want to spend the time gettin gto know all 50 guys that mailed them great messages. | |
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| Why do hot girls never give a chance to an average looking guy?
Posted: 2/20/2005 3:29:37 AM | | Unfortunatley Jazzy we live in a shallow world, not to say all of us are. So I think it's just better to have friends and enjoy your life. If you are happy and carry yourself in a positve manner this will definitely reflect off of you which I think can be a turn on for some. Achieve happiness and be confident in yourself and eventually if you put yourself in the right place love will hit you unexpectedly. Atleast I'm hoping that will work for me :) | |
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| Why do hot girls never give a chance to an average looking guy?
Posted: 2/20/2005 4:15:51 AM | From your other posting you seem leaving the girls too long (one year) before asking them out, I have no trouble dating any woman I ask them for a date as soon as I meet them if they interested, the rest is usually long term relationships, just be bold and daring and go for it ask for a date on first or second time you meet them.
girls admire daring men, other wise you loose the initiative and some one else get in her mind at least, I am tantric master over fifty and dating ladies half of my age, taller, shorter, average, attractive, focus on beauty within that will help compatibility in your companionship, never give up and be positive. | |
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| Why do hot girls never give a chance to an average looking guy?
Posted: 2/20/2005 8:49:17 AM | Yeah showing confidence, but not being****, is a good thing. Some girls like a little bit of shyness too--they think it's cute--but too much and they get bored... I'd taken a huge break from dating because the last girl I dated tried to argue with me that water turns blue when it freezes, so needless to say I've had no luck... She was one of those "hot" types that thinks so highly of themselves, but what she didn't realize is that being dumb as bricks can be ugly. If I had to choose between sending a her or a rock on Jepardy, I'd probably send the rock... What I'm trying to say is what a few on here have already said--usually hot women are shallow and not worth wasting time on... It's also a good idea not to "look" for love per se either. I know this from experience... When I'm looking I try to rush every time I meet someone I think I like, and that just messes everything up.
I have, however, lucked out and found someone on here who's completely incredible. Only problem is she lives in South Africa, and I'm broke. :) It sucks because the dating pool in this area is...shallow...every time I dive in I hurt my brain ;)
Best of luck!
Jay | |
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