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| Why do hot girls never give a chance to an average looking guy?
Posted: 4/9/2009 10:39:01 AM |
The average looking guy is just an excuse for guys that are sloppy and piggy! Get a make over get in shape and start taking care of your image. Its all about grooming.
Riiiiiiight. And based on this site and other site, "average" when it comes to women (especially in the "body" term) comes to define an obese cow that spends her life saying men are shallow. The funniest ones are the ones who chop their hair all short and are practically dressing like men.
I agree with you though on the idea of putting your best foot forward. I don't think a man or a woman should have to hit the gym hours every day and be some toned athlete/model, but they shouldn't be holding a big gut and dressing like they lay around the house all day. Go shopping, look at magazines, find a style that fits you AND flatters you.
Only time I'll say men or women are shallow is then they turn away an actual average looking person putting their best foot forward because they're seeking models/athletes.
I also said it before...if you put your best foot forward and people reject you, then be happy they did. Shows you they don't deserve you. | |
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| Why do hot girls never give a chance to an average looking guy?
Posted: 4/21/2009 1:33:40 PM | | I've always felt this way too.. I mean, I think I am fairly attractive, but the perfect 10's always seemed out of reach. On the other hand, I have had two instances where girls that I thought were absolutely stunning finally opened up to me and told me that they had liked me for a long time but didn't have the courage to talk to me. So have confidence in yourself.. But in my experience, on both occasions, the girls turned out to be downright stupid. | |
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| Why do hot girls never give a chance to an average looking guy?
Posted: 4/21/2009 1:47:39 PM | | Why are you going after hot girls that's even out of your league? Try going after average girls that may have potential? As they say don't judge a book by its cover, you maybe surprised at what she can be a great truly person that she could possibly be... | |
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| Why do hot girls never give a chance to an average looking guy?
Posted: 6/1/2009 3:39:14 PM | no need to hate. what league? didnt know anyone joined one? we all have potential. pity you that make a statement like that. now you have to convince everyone that reads this that you are not shallow in your heart and in your mind. I might remind everyone,,,we are looking for love, a connection between a man and a woman, and love knows no limits, bound by no fence, race, creed or color, no league, class, or age. love is just what it is, love. you can only guess as to what you left the person feeling like after reading your reply...he is out of their league??? ouch. no bandage going to fix that one, it is not like scraping your knee on the sidewalk, cant bandage feelings, but maybe next time you feel the need to impress a guy, try a steak cooked to perfection, but try not to throw it at him. just go with what u said...dont judge a ogre by its looks, could be a really wonderfull person inside that could make you the happy person you and everyone on this site are trying to find and be. good luck yo.                      | |
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| Why do hot girls never give a chance to an average looking guy?
Posted: 6/1/2009 4:19:59 PM | Why are you going after hot girls that's even out of your league? Try going after average girls that may have potential?
This sound good in theory. But in reality this is often not the case. At least in my experience. Average looking women can be just as picky as attractive women. I have contacted plenty of average looking women ( both on internet dating sites and elsewhere ) and most of them weren't interested in me. Many people ( both men and women ) will want the very attractive person regardless of how attractive they are or what they bring to the table. | |
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| Why do hot girls never give a chance to an average looking guy?
Posted: 6/1/2009 4:30:36 PM |
Dress nice, clean up, no drugs, get a job, work out regularly...you'll get a hot chick. .
This is truethy but not the rule. You can dress like a leprous homeless man and still stumble into situations that beg the question "can this be happening?" Some uber hot chicks want whatever they like, they're not trying to impress anyone with the guys they're seeing. It helps to dress well (I hear) and I suppose not being a complete drunk and having more than change in your pocket can help (again mostly reports), but something else does seem to matter to a few, and it ain't conversation, money or even shared goals. I have no idea.
Average looking women can be just as picky as attractive women. yeah... maybe more so. | |
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| Why do hot girls never give a chance to an average looking guy?
Posted: 6/1/2009 7:21:27 PM | I like average. A guy who looks like a Ken doll is boring to me.
None of my girlfriends have ever been attracted to any guy I've ever been with. I, however, adored them.
In short, I like an average- to good-looking guy, with some genetic "flaws". I fall in love with society's definition of physical imperfections. | |
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| Why do hot girls never give a chance to an average looking guy?
Posted: 6/1/2009 8:08:23 PM | That's not true.
A good-looking millionaire doctor (literally, a millionaire) proposed to me close to a year and a half ago. He continues to pursue me. I said no the first time, and I will continue to say no.
Sure, money, status, and education are attractive. But it takes a hell of a lot more than just those three things to lure me in. And seriously, average in all three regards is just fine if he has the rest of the (intangible) qualities I'm looking for. | |
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| Why do hot girls never give a chance to an average looking guy?
Posted: 6/1/2009 10:39:19 PM | Thank you Danny!!! I am not a 10 but I have had plenty of men reach out to me with phone numbers, emails, aims and have no more to say other then you are beautiful and call me. Now men, I want you to hear me and hear me good: women, just like men, run from men who are too eager! We see it as a red flag (its creepy and desperate) and more importantly...its a huge turn off I had an experience like this very recently with a member name chocolatepapi( ) who could not grasp this idea. I was told that I had issues because I was unwilling to exchange contact info with a man who calls himself chocolatepapi and who had no conversation for me whatsoever.
Now I am sure you are wondering, 'why should you go back and forth?,' but I can tell you that if a woman is interested then she will give you time and eventually her contact info. Every person is different but men, you should also be leery of a woman who easily gives up her contact info. The world is a scary place and you all know what I mean.
To the man who says that beautiful woman are uneducated and/or ugly ducklings that somehow blossomed LOL your a hater. If you are all about substance then why are you even checking for "beautiful" women? People are people and should be judged based on the qualities that you find most desirable. Beautiful women with average men who have loot is a symbiotic relationship - she enjoys the finer things in life and he wants something good to look at (just like you!). Why is he so much better because he can afford it and she less of a person for accepting it? Oh but wait.... what if she is extremely smart and is actually attracted to men who know how to make money because they tend to be alpha males???? And if she is superficial with no appreciation or awareness of what a truly wonderful and giving guy you are then why in the hell do you want her????
And what about sexual attraction? Thats a loaded question and one that can only be answered by a long hard look at yourself naked in a full length mirror  How many plane Janes have you given a chance to? | |
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| Why do hot girls never give a chance to an average looking guy?
Posted: 6/1/2009 11:22:54 PM | I've had very hot girlfriends. Unfortunately the ones I've had are a little too self obsessed and it gets lame! I care about them like mad but too many of them are afraid to show that they have brains upstairs! Show it ladies! Please! Don't act dumb so the guys will like you more!
I treat them like my special woman, not a trophy. Whoever does that doesn't deserve to have such a pretty lady ^_^
And I'm sure I'm not that great looking but I treat they no different than an 'average' looking woman.
And I'm single! Women in Calgary, Alberta... your missing out!
Austin ^_^ | |
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| Why do hot girls never give a chance to an average looking guy?
Posted: 6/27/2009 7:01:16 PM | | Do you have a certain type of person Lorethian? Because are you saying you won't go for average girls yourself?? lol! I don't consider myself as 'hot' but regardless of what a guy looks like there has to be an x factor/chemistry. It sounds like you are only going for these supposed 'hot' girls......good luck | |
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| Why do hot girls never give a chance to an average looking guy?
Posted: 6/28/2009 5:08:09 AM | I find most men (and women including myself) just average.
But when you "connect" with the true inner person that shines through... they become geourgously sexy and beautiful.
I thought every couple thinks their partner is t he most beautiful perfect person in the world! | |
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| Why do hot girls never give a chance to an average looking guy?
Posted: 6/28/2009 5:28:40 AM | I look at everyone being average...then as you get to know them the scale slides up or down accordingly.
Because someone looks "sexy" doesn't mean you will have sex with them and that they "owe you"
I'm attracted to eyes (the only physical element I'm "fussy" on), but if there's nothing behind them, then to me that person would never fall into the "hot" category.
try not thinking from your pants and you might get somewhere | |
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| Why do hot girls never give a chance to an average looking guy?
Posted: 6/28/2009 6:17:19 AM | Ok, I posted this in another thread.
In the real world, people often comment on the men I am with in terms of "what a hottie!", "he a cutie" etc. etc.
So.
Then I come online and the type of men who contact me are NOT as attractive as in real life. There have been a few, but to be honest most of the men who contact me are not my type at all.
One of the main reasons? The photos are screwing it up for the majority of us. I have seen many attractive men at POF events, then when I looked at their profile they truly were not someone I would find attractive. And please don't say "take a chance". What if the person really doesn't look better than the photo? I've become a slave to the photo just like everyone else. I'd like to go back to the days of phone dating, I really would. Too late though.
Looks do matter, even at 50-60. At every age I've been, I've been attracted to the same age range. Obviously these people are aging, but so am I and there will continue to be people that we won't be attracted to even when we reach 60.
This is the main reason I tried going to the events. Unfortunately the men that went were not in my age range, those that were either smoked or did not work out.
I've met a few men who were, but that doesn't guarantee a match.
And frankly, I'm not "hot" either, but I think I project better in person. I'm interested in someone who is similar to me. All my life I've dated thin to fit to average. I'm not interested in a bigger guy. I'm not that big myself.
So people won't attend an event to try to broaden their scope. So these folks are going to reach their 40's and 50's and discover all their friends are married or gone and they have no more means to meet people and we will all just start posting in the forums! THEN some will start going to these events. Seems kinda silly to me to wait until you are "forced to search" (for lack of a better word).
Myself, I don't readily search for someone, but if I don't take some opportunities and sit around at home, where will that leave you?
The hottest girls I have personally known dated VERY average and shorter men.
Exactly. In the real world things are not the same as on here. And frankly, what is with this height thing? The tallest I've ever dated was 5'10 - for me that's tall. I prefer a taller guy, but for me 5'7 is tall LOL. | |
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| Why do hot girls never give a chance to an average looking guy?
Posted: 6/28/2009 7:08:08 AM | Beazutiful peope have merely lucked out in the genetic lottery.
They can be good, bad, or indifferent as regards to personality.
Some beautiful people are beautiful inside, others... not so much,.. just like every other damned person out there.
If anyone thinks beautiful women as a whole homogenous group are dumb, or spoiled, or shallow, then my question is why would you want them? Just to use them as a sexual fantasy, to get your sexual kicks out of their hotness and then move on? Well, thats saying a lot more about the character of the person who wants to sexually use a 'hot woman'.. than it does about the woman herself, doesnt it.
Men.. please understand,.. you are not entitled to a 'shot' at anyone.. hot women are not prizes to be won, or given out. They are human beings too.
Sheesh, hard to believe this needs to be said.
G. x | |
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| Why do hot girls never give a chance to an average looking guy?
Posted: 6/28/2009 10:39:09 AM | I'd also like to throw out there to the "average joes" and "average janes" that you should not look at the upper echelon of men and women in the physical looks department as "luckier". It's funny how many average joes and average janes are finding Mr or Ms Right, marrying, etc...while the upper echelons are getting older and constantly complaining how there are no good men or women out there.
I read some article somewhere called the "Bachelor Paradox" and in one part the author spoke of how it seems the better looking people keep constantly holding out for "something better" than what they see around them that they end up shooting themselves in the foot. Author Jillian Strauss also alluded to that in her book "Unhooked Generation".
I see it too, the guys that most women drool over seemingly carry an attitude that they don't trust women and will never commit to anything more than a one night stand, or they'll talk endlessly of how most of the hot women around them are worth a lay, but haven't met one yet they would marry. Same deal with the women most guys drool over. They get too many guys coming on to them (most of them willing to lie through their teeth to get her into bed) and thus they have a hard time trusting men and even other women (some get catty), plus many of them take their pains as a belief that they should shoot for a better class of male...but often times focus on the wrong characteristics that should be the "better".
Now then, my point to this is for all the average joes and average janes who are out there being rejected by anyone they find attractive, look at yourself honestly and see if you are the type of man or woman who someone like that would want. We tend to all play by this double-standard where we believe we can shoot for a higher level than we are actually able to get, but the other gender should "come down to reality" and such.
The hot people of the world aren't always living the best lives when it comes to love. Look how many models and celebrities seem to never be able to stay married. Y0ur goal isn't supposed to be some hot thing on your arm, but the person you can wake up next to every morning.
If you're average and the "hot" are rejecting you, then what's wrong with going after the averages of the opposite sex. Let the hot ones who keep holding out for a bigger better deal end up alone in life. | |
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| Why do hot girls never give a chance to an average looking guy?
Posted: 6/28/2009 11:23:18 AM |
Why do hot girls never give a chance to an average looking guy?
Duh...
Because they're pretty enough to attract men who are closer to their ideal without lifting a finger...
And honestly, I don't see (virtually any ) men (even less than attractive men) clamouring for the attention of less than "hot women".
To condemn all "hot girls" of not giving an average looking guy a chance is pure fallacy.
"Hot women" beat out men in the "give them a chance" department, by a landslide.
I've dated or been in relationships with women who I thought were more than a couple of notches higher on the food chain than I, only to find out that they thought it was the other way around...
I very often see very attractive women with very average, or quite less than average guys.
Thankfully, beauty is on the eye of the beholder...
So quit your whining.... | |
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| Why do hot girls never give a chance to an average looking guy?
Posted: 6/28/2009 4:03:51 PM | I think it's time to face it... everyone wants hot! Man or woman, good looking or not, disability, physically and mentally fit/stable... doesn't matter. We all want the best for ourselves... or as close as we can get. What determines who is hot or who is the best remains a subjective mystery; though for some reason it seems we are all attracted to the same type of people appearance wise and personality wise, even when conventional wisdom says beauty is in the eye of the beholder.
For the mean time my only advice for anyone having problems getting a date or relationship; Get social, Get money, Get in shape, Get a professional makeover! | |
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