| Why are men threatened by an Independent, educated woman???
Posted: 5/23/2006 10:34:21 PM | Men like to feel needed and wanted. If you come off like you don't need them, then why be with you? Even if its a emotional need. I can admit to that. Our attitude does affect how we come across to others. Its ok to show frustration, but not to attack anyone personally.
I agree with mess 41:
"Stop dating hillbillies. Perhaps, well, independent, educated, no nonsense men threaten you.. Many women can't control smart men so settle for azzes. " I have done this too. In the past.
Currently with a quality good catch of a MAN, who is manly. Like in the Irish Spring soap commercial. Wow...he blows my socks off. | |
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.Lisa
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Joined: 2/4/2006
Msg: 104 | |
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| Why are men threatened by an Independent, educated woman???
Posted: 5/23/2006 11:13:48 PM | may-be so but true, all women's lib has done for woman is give them more work. At home and out in the world. And even in families where there is a couple (male , female ) she still does most of the house work. I bring it up cause it peeves me when I here comments that believe a woman who stays at home is Lazy. For the record i did both and was single doing it. Both areas of your life suffer cause there is only so many hours in the day and so much energy available.
Women's Lib was suppose to give woman the freedom to choose, Yet those who do decide to stay home are put down for their choice by other woman as well as men...Ms. Irish | |
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| Why are men threatened by an Independent, educated woman???
Posted: 5/23/2006 11:20:38 PM | I've known very bright women with stellar careers who put all their experience into teaching their own flesh and blood kids how to become great young people. They enjoy it greatly even.
It depends on the woman and what she values. It's a powerful career move actually. | |
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| Why are men threatened by an Independent, educated woman???
Posted: 5/24/2006 1:44:29 AM | I didnt read the whole thread , Just the title , and a couple of replies .
The answer is , we're not all afraid , and we're not all threatened .
SOOOOOOOO many generalizations , gets tiring .
Find one who isnt threatened by you , sheesh. | |
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| Why are men threatened by an Independent, educated woman???
Posted: 5/24/2006 2:43:51 AM | | Im not threatened by them one bit...... I can say though that thorugh my experience I dont want anything to do with them, becasue ive found them shallow, vain, and have expectations too high for an ordinary fellow like myslef to fullfill so I guess you could say I just dont bother..... It would be nice though that when posting like this the person would qualify there statement ... perhaps like this " why are all men I choose to date threatened by an ..........." | |
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| Why are men threatened by an Independent, educated woman???
Posted: 5/24/2006 5:22:30 AM | Unfortunately you probably won't read this since it is on page 5.
Like most women you aren't looking at the real reason SOME men aren't interested in you would rather create some excuse that makes you look good. WE ARE NOT THREATENED by your independence, education/intellect. In fact we preferr it since you can likely contribute financially.
LOOK at the real reason men aren't interested in you. It is likely because you are persueing men who DON"T find you attractive... That is the bottom line. | |
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| Why are men threatened by an Independent, educated woman???
Posted: 5/24/2006 5:08:50 PM | not to sound too sexist but it is the mans role, in his dna make up, to be the provider and take care of his women. you have to think it is only just latley that women have been able to be independent. the women who fought to make this happen where feminist so therefore we look at all independent women as such. either that or you might just be to pickey and unwilling to compramise which you look at as independence but most men look at as just being a pain in the ass. either way im sure there is someone out there that will be willing to let you change him into something you arent. look at the clintons. | |
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Dru
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Joined: 12/17/2005
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| Why are men threatened by an Independent, educated woman???
Posted: 5/24/2006 5:49:05 PM | | Bah, different folks, different strokes, or something like that. Personally, I'm attracted to highly independant people who actually have lives and goals beyond the SUV and the white picket fence. All it means to me is that you'd likely make for good conversation. | |
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| Why are men threatened by an Independent, educated woman???
Posted: 5/24/2006 6:01:42 PM | I personally look for the independent.
The problem lies when it is SO independent, that you don't allow your man to be a MAN!!!!
Let him be the boss every once in a while, let him think he wears the pants from time to time, and you will have fewer problems, I guarantee it..... | |
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| Why are men threatened by an Independent, educated woman???
Posted: 5/24/2006 6:06:34 PM | | I actually really want an educated and independent woman in my life!!! One that has goals and ambitions just as much as I do if not more!!! That is more attractive than anything else on a womans body!!! So if there is anyone out there like that get a hold of me!! lol | |
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arri
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Joined: 10/5/2005
Msg: 123 | |
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| Why are men threatened by an Independent, educated woman???
Posted: 5/24/2006 8:10:30 PM | This is a very real problem. I am an Ivy League graduate student. I don't have to look hard for girls who have essentially never been in a real relationship. I was dating a 23 year old ecology graduate student last semester who had never had a guy she had known less than three years try to start a relationship with her, and had essentially been single her whole life up to that point! She was probably 5 foot 7, 130 pounds, got one of the highest GRE scores I had ever heard of, perfect score on the math and quite good on the verbal section an all around impressive girl. However she got totally ignored by men.
That said, many guys say they would love an independent girl. That is true beyond a shadow of a doubt. An easy way to see this is to look at how likely a girl is to get married with at each education level. A high school graduate is more likely to get married than a high school drop out. A girl with a bachelors degree is more likely to get married than a girl with a high school education. However a girl with a graduate degree is actually less likely to get married! For comparison men increase their chance of getting married with any increase in education.
In my experience it is usually not the intelligence of these girls that gets them in trouble, but things that go along with it. For one: they usually have absurdly high standards. I personally have been shot down by brilliant girls who had not had a real date in years, and didn't for years afterward. Pretty quickly you learn that these girls are a whole lot of work, while a slightly less intelligent girl would be much lower maintance. Along with that, they often don't send out messeges indicating that they are interested. It is nearly impossible to tell who many of these girls are interested in. So its really easy to say, well she is smarter than me, and isn't acting interested so I will move on.
Also, many of the smartest girls I have known totally ignore their appearance. I know a great number of really smart girls who for example never wear makeup. So it is often a choice between a girl with a graduate degree, who isn't terribly attractive and a better looking slightly less educated girl. Most guys take the cuter, easier girl to impress...
All is not hopeless though. I know other equally smart girls that do fine in relationships. While some are that way simply because they are hot, others have learned to get over the initial barriers. Essentially guys are going to feel you are out of their league. If this is your problem, than it is really important to make guys feel they have a chance. Any thoughts of playing hard to get, throw them out. You're really going to want to make things easy for the guy, or he will move on. No guy says they don't want a smart girl, so if you show them they have a chance they are likely to take it... | |
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| Why are men threatened by an Independent, educated woman???
Posted: 5/24/2006 8:26:16 PM | All men dream of being with an educated, self sufficient woman, the problem is that when they do find one, most men (I'm not saying all men) eventually feel resentment and it all has to do with that thing of theirs called an EGO!!!!!! You go girlfriend, eventually you will find someone who does not find you threatening.
True story: When I split up with my ex we/I went for marriage counselling and the first
question that was asked was; What is your education level and what is his?
I thought it was a weird question but the truth of the matter is it all boiled
down to communication, resentment and the difference in paychecks....Believe
it or not....and well I'm still looking for someone who doesn't feel intimidated
and its been, well lets just say long enough....LOL  | |
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