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John, you're full of crap. You say you only post this because 'single mothers keep posting new threads'. If that were the case, you wouldn't be lugging around your soap box to every single thread you post on, regardless of topic, and talk about the Canadian laws. And that is what you do. Someone can ask how to prepare a kid for preschool and you'll jump in and say...well you know,....it's going to be hard to prepare your kid for preschool when they don't have a father in the house, and you're just going to have to live with the fact that it's going to be that way for along time, because many single men do not wish to raise anothers' child.

Just stop John. For the love of all that is good and right with the world, please. PLEASE!!

Yes I think they did.
I get a {DELETE} thing at the bottom of some threads (The last dozen or so comment)
Perhaps someone else does too and is running around playing "forum moderator"

The delete thing does not let us delete posts, just sends them to the moderators for deletion.

On a more pleasant note, Happy Mothersday to all single or otherwise.

You need to slow down. Not all single moms care about YOUR pocket book or need a man to support them and their children. To be completely honest there are single moms out there who suprisingly probably make more money then you and have more to show for it. To classify ALL single moms in the needy context you are just isn't fair.

I am one of those moms. I'm not looking for a daddy for my kids or someone to swoop in and pick up the pieces of a broken home. I don't need anyone else but I want someone elses company.

You obviously are going to end up with a needy single women with no kids that needs to be supported, is self centered and the world revolves around her. Trust me that is worst! There is always bad apples in every patch no matter single with or without kids.

It's Official: The Experiment Has Failed
For the best part of thirty years we have been conducting a vast experiment with the family, and now the results are in: the decline of the two-parent, married-couple family has resulted in poverty, ill-health, educational failure, unhappiness, anti-social behaviour, isolation and social exclusion for thousands of women, men and children.
From Experiments in Living: The Fatherless Family
By Rebecca O'Neill; Sept. 2002, CIVITAS


The following is from the newsletter Common Sense & Domestic Violence, 1998 01 30

Allegations of family violence are the weapon-of-choice in divorce strategies. Lawyers, and paralegals in women's shelters, call them "The Silver Bullet". False abuse allegations work effectively in removing men from their families. The impact that the removal of fathers has on our children is horrific. The following lists some of the consequences of the removal of fathers from the lives of their children.

The Impact on our Children
Inter-spousal violence perpetrated by men is only a small aspect of family violence. False abuse allegations are only a small tile in the mosaic of vilifying the men in our society. They serve well in successful attempts to remove fathers from the lives of our children. Here are some statistics resulting from that which show more of the whole picture.

79.6% of custodial mothers receive a support award
29.9% of custodial fathers receive a support award.
46.9% of non-custodial mothers totally default on support.
26.9% of non-custodial fathers totally default on support.
20.0% of non-custodial mothers pay support at some level
61.0% of non-custodial fathers pay support at some level
66.2% of single custodial mothers work less than full time.
10.2% of single custodial fathers work less than full time.
7.0% of single custodial mothers work more than 44 hours weekly.
24.5% of single custodial fathers work more that 44 hours weekly.
46.2% of single custodial mothers receive public assistance.
20.8% of single custodial fathers receive public assistance.
[Technical Analysis Paper No. 42 - U.S. Dept. of Health and Human Services - Office of Income Security Policy]

40% of mothers reported that they had interfered with the fathers visitation to punish their ex-spouse.
["Frequency of Visitation" by Sanford Braver, American Journal of Orthopsychiatry]

50% of mothers see no value in the fathers continued contact with his children.
["Surviving the Breakup" by Joan Berlin Kelly]

90.2% of fathers with joint custody pay the support due.
79.1% of fathers with visitation privileges pay the support due.
44.5% of fathers with no visitation pay the support due.
37.9% of fathers are denied any visitation.
66% of all support not paid by non-custodial fathers is due to the inability to pay.
[1988 Census "Child Support and Alimony: 1989 Series" P-60, No. 173 p.6-7, and "U.S. General Accounting Office Report" GAO/HRD-92-39FS January 1992]

63% of youth suicides are from fatherless homes.

[U. S. D.H.H.S. Bureau of the Census]

90% of all homeless and runaway children are from fatherless homes.
85% of all children that exhibit behavioral disorders come from fatherless homes.
[Center for Disease Control]

80% of rapists motivated with displaced anger come from fatherless homes.
[Criminal Justice and Behavior, Vol. 14 p. 403-26]

71% of all high school dropouts come from fatherless homes.
[National Principals Association Report on the State of High Schools]

70% of juveniles in state operated institutions come from fatherless homes
[U.S. Dept. of Justice, Special Report, Sept., 1988]

85% of all youths sitting in prisons grew up in a fatherless home.
[Fulton County Georgia Jail Populations and Texas Dept. of Corrections, 1992]

Nearly 2 of every 5 children in America do not live with their fathers.
[US News and World Report, February 27, 1995, p.39]

There are:

11,268,000 total custodial mothers
2,907,000 total custodial fathers
[Current Populations Reports, US Bureau of the Census, Series P-20, No. 458, 1991]

What does this mean? Children from fatherless homes are:

4.6 times more likely to commit suicide,

6.6 times to become teenaged mothers (if they are girls, of course),
24.3 times more likely to run away,
15.3 times more likely to have behavioral disorders,
6.3 times more likely to be in a state-operated institutions,
10.8 times more likely to commit rape,
6.6 times more likely to drop out of school,
15.3 times more likely to end up in prison while a teenager.
(The calculation of the relative risks shown in the preceding list is based on 27% of children being in the care of single mothers.)

and — compared to children who are in the care of two biological, married parents — children who are in the care of single mothers are:

33 times more likely to be seriously abused (so that they will require medical attention), and
73 times more likely to be killed.

Sorry Simmah, non-payment is almost a non-issue here the vast majority of fathers do pay CS, and that even if it were not the case still would not entitle a single parent to go after ex boyfriends or girlfriends for support with children that they did not actually parent.