| thoughts of a single father with two boys
Posted: 5/23/2006 10:32:31 PM | | i have the same problem but more so because of my age guys who take interest in me are ok with me but not ok with my son who will be 2 in november..i have to look into guys who are older because guys my age are not into the mommy thing... | |
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| thoughts of a single father with two boys
Posted: 5/24/2006 11:36:42 AM | Your situation may be more challenging, but don't give up hope. You may want to consider pursuing women a little older. Younger women may be overwhelmed with the prospect of an instant family. It is understandable and doesn't mean they are looking down at you. Just that you and some women are at different places in life.
Enjoy spending time with your family now, especially since they are so young. It won't replace the loneliness, but keeping busy does. The right one may or may not show up, but you do have family.
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| thoughts of a single father with two boys
Posted: 5/24/2006 12:15:31 PM | Hi Chad...
Well...this is my first time on POF forums so I sure hope I'm doing this right...lol...
Anyways...like most people above have said....you WILL find someone...who will love you AND your boys. I know how you feel. I am a newly single mom (however, the father is still in the picture) but already, I keep thinking...how am I ever gonna find someone who will love me AND my kids. Because now, it's not the question if the person is good enough for you....but are they good enough for your children?!!?!?
Don't worry....she's out there somewhere  | |
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| thoughts of a single father with two boys
Posted: 5/24/2006 4:21:28 PM | well, i cant add much other than what has been said, my kids are grown now but i raised them alone, my husband left when my youngest daughter was 3, he didnt want the responsibility, wow, imagine that, suppose i hadnt either , my kids would have ended up in the system, any way, i know how it is to be a single parent, and i have the greatest admiration for fathers who stand strong for their kids, not nearly enough of them out there.
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| thoughts of a single father with two boys
Posted: 5/25/2006 8:01:44 PM | thank you all for the support and nice things. I never knew a place like this was here. I always went to work came home to my boys and bottled the rest up. All of you deserve rewards for the help you give others.
thank you
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| thoughts of a single father with two boys
Posted: 6/25/2007 2:10:19 AM | hey good for you, you take pride in wot uv done for ur kids and walk with ur head held high, im a single mum of 2 have been for 3 yrs now i knw wot u mean about dating as the guys runa mile when they find out iv got kids, but i know i do a good job with my kids and one day ppl like u and me will find the rite person, take care xxx | |
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| thoughts of a single father with two boys
Posted: 6/25/2007 3:24:55 AM | I have so much respect for single dads, my brother is a single dad and i have seen how much he struggles. I think that if women dont want to date you or even talk to you there mad! lol, i would love to meet a single dad, it would neverp put me off.
You keep going guys you are doing a fantastic job, and you will find that someone for you.
Good luck to you all.
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| thoughts of a single father with two boys
Posted: 6/25/2007 11:26:02 AM | | I prefer single dads I must say. They know what I go through every day. And I agree they get a bum rap a lot of the time. Society will straighten itself out one day. I remember single moms getting a bum rap and it's not so bad any more. Drop me a line some time. I'd love to chat! | |
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| thoughts of a single father with two boys
Posted: 6/26/2007 7:59:39 AM | | I haven't read the other responses, I just want to say that single dads are the greatest to date especially by single moms!!! I LOOK for single dads! | |
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| thoughts of a single father with two boys
Posted: 6/26/2007 11:04:20 AM | im listening and im sure im not the only one either what you are doing is the right thing...raising your children. time to move past the anger and her childish ways and find true happiness. we could talk sometime...yahoo or aol im me wendi0518...and dont forget to breathe. we hear you, i promise | |
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| thoughts of a single father with two boys
Posted: 6/26/2007 5:32:02 PM | I have alot of respect for single dads. It's not easy either way but it's nice to see dads taking more interest in their kids.
When i was growing up you didn't see alot of dads doing anything with their kids. Now i see it all the time and it makes me smile. It would be nice to date someone who can relate to what i, as a single mom, am going through.
Give it time and you will find someone who loves you and your kids. | |
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| thoughts of a single father with two boys
Posted: 6/26/2007 5:37:20 PM | I completely agree with what many of the women are saying here. The fact that you took on this responsibility makes you an exceptional guy to begin with, which should be attractive to ANY woman. Also, there are many single Moms, like myself, who have found that only another single parent can understand the demands that they are both under. The men I have dated who do NOT have children usually have a tough time sharing me with my son.
As long as you understand that you also need to have your own life . Your kids will always be your primary responsibility, but you will need to have a commitment to your partner also. It's a tricky balance, isn't it?? | |
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| thoughts of a single father with two boys
Posted: 6/26/2007 6:03:02 PM | i must be retarded. i want more kids. what's better than having them arrive pre-made? i am not sure that my body would want to be pregnant again. a 2 and 3 year old?
HEAVEN TO ME. | |
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| thoughts of a single father with two boys
Posted: 6/26/2007 7:57:47 PM | A possible different scenario for you. I have a good friend of mine who was involved with a single dad. The mom bailed when their daughter was just under a year. For a little over 4 years, she stayed with him being what she thought was a mom to a little girl she considered her daughter. Imagine doing this for a man and child you love, the sleepless nights when she was sick , the first steps, the first words - 100% devotion. Then one day the Uterus returns and wants her daugher - wait wrong word - her family back. Guess what happened, HE TOOK HER BACK!!!!!!!!. In one short day, my friend did not just lose her man, she lost her family. She will now not even consider getting involved with a man with a child. She said the devastation she experienced was too great and she would never set herself up for heart break again.
I am not defending the actions of plain heartless wenches, I am just saying - there may be a deeper reason behind women running when you mention single dad. | |
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| thoughts of a single father with two boys
Posted: 6/27/2007 7:23:20 AM | Do not feel so bad.... I am a single mother with 2 girls and 1 very auwsome 4 year old boy.. I get alot of family help but I can understand the loneliness part.. Most of my day is spent working and the past 5 years I have spent in the court room for support in which I still have none. Happiness for single parents is few and far between.. I find that friendship has been the best gift and in certain circumstances more than friends.. You still have to have faith that not all people are irresponsible teenagers and the ones of us theat aren't are looking for partners such as yourself.   Keep your head up because love can be found in the most inlikely places. | |
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| thoughts of a single father with two boys
Posted: 6/27/2007 7:26:45 AM | | You have the most important job in the world that doesn't ever give you time off or let you be sick. I am also a single mom and let me tell you older guys are to a degree better but the ones that are my age I have found have some what the same problem. Chin up! | |
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| thoughts of a single father with two boys
Posted: 6/27/2007 2:28:38 PM | | dont worry mate,it will happen,bringin up my little girl and hard at first,just concentrate on them boys,the rest will all fall into place | |
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| thoughts of a single father with two boys
Posted: 6/27/2007 2:55:39 PM | I am a single mom with 3 boys. I know how it is to have people not want to get involved. I would much rather date someone who has kids because then they can relate to everything that I have to go thru with mine. As I am sure that they are going thru the same things! LOL Kudos to all the single dads out there for stepping up where some of them can't take the responsibility seriously enough. If anyone would care to chat anytime, just give me a shout! Cheers to all the single parents out there!!
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| thoughts of a single father with two boys
Posted: 6/27/2007 4:27:50 PM | hun its the same for many of us single moms.......ive been fighting the courts for awhile now and honestly i gave up dont want or need anything from my childs "FATHER" Im doing a great job by myself. as for finding someone who can deal with it not having much luck but as long as im happy with myself and doing what needs to be done I dont feel like i need to explain anything to anyone if they are interested they will step up I dont need a father for my child i can handle the mommy, daddy, friend part. Keep the faith and may happiness find you and if not be happy with who you are what you are doing to raise your children....... | |
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| thoughts of a single father with two boys
Posted: 6/27/2007 4:45:38 PM | Hey chad,
Yeah it is tough being a single parent whether you are male or female I think. As for being looked down on ..... I think we all feel that way sometimes. Or pretend sympathy .... aww poor them .... they couldn't make their relationship work !!
My kids are 6 and 4, so in about 8 years I should be able to go out after 7 o'clock at night and get a pint of milk from the shop lol But until then I have to stay home every night. But life is still better than when I was married ..... much better. My kids are happy now. And yeah it's hard work, but I won't have it any other way.
As for meeting somebody else, well the time will come and the right person will come along .... just when your not looking !
Keep smiling chad, it will get easier as the kids get older and you become more comfortable being you.
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| thoughts of a single father with two boys
Posted: 6/28/2007 12:20:24 PM | To sniffer
 "Dude, you rock!"
Ok now that I've 'dated' myself, I couldn't have said it better myself!
I'll follow up to Chad's request, if you have reference to an .org or something let me know, we'll see what other shit we can stir up! | |
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| thoughts of a single father with two boys
Posted: 7/6/2007 6:52:32 PM | | Personally I would rather date someone who has kids! At least that wayI know that they are going to be sincere about the time that they spend with me and appreciate that time as well. I love the time that I spend with my kids but I also enjoy the time away sometimes too! Anyone that has kids that live with them on a full time basis can relate to this sometimes! LOL But single fathers are to be commended for taking on the responsiblities. Single moms have been doing it for years! Anyone wanna get a single parents event going? | |
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| thoughts of a single father with two boys
Posted: 7/6/2007 7:14:19 PM | Hi Dadchad,
I understand what you are going through, just hang in there. Your boys will appreciate you when they get older. Have fun with them. | |
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