| Lose weight first, then date?
Posted: 5/23/2006 10:29:39 AM | | If you don't like you then you're doomed to a relationship that won't work. Instead of working on your weight, you might want to consider working on your self esteem. | |
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| Lose weight first, then date?
Posted: 5/23/2006 10:48:23 AM | | You know who I felt really sorry for? Fat Bastar_d from the Austin Powers movie. Now here was a grossly overweight Scotsman with some really nasty habits - like eating babies. But did he not deserve love too. I'm sure inside was a hurt and lonely child, perhaps teased as a youngster when he wasn't crushing his tormentors with his monstrous bulk. Of course your commentator is as sleek as an otter, and who wants six-pack abs anyway, not when you can have the whole keg! Nothing a nice Bentley and a roll of dough won't cure, eh? | |
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| Lose weight first, then date?
Posted: 5/23/2006 3:58:09 PM | A shallow person will tell you "yes, lose the weight and then start dating" .... a person like me who could give a rat's a$$ about a few extra pounds says "DATE NOW!!"  | |
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| Lose weight first, then date?
Posted: 5/23/2006 4:23:20 PM | I haven't read every post on the list but I know that some of them have valid points.
If you don't feel that you like the way you look or the way you are, it's your choice to change and not society so don't let them get to you through stupid weight loss rituals and average weights for age. You should feel comfortable knowing that no matter what, if you like yourself what other people think doesn't matter. | |
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| Lose weight first, then date?
Posted: 5/23/2006 4:30:10 PM | Well, it all depends. Theres no right answer.
For me, and I lost over 100lbs in 2004. My weight loss just kind of "happened" I know its sounds bazaar, but intially I didn't go out of my way to lose weight; furthermore when the process started I wasn't dating, it was closer to the end of the process when it was like a light was turned on, and all the sudden I had a strong desire to start dating.
I would say if you looking for someone who is more attractive, you stand a far better chance being physically fit then overweight. I have no problem attracting some of the most beautiful girls that other guys might only dream of, but at one time the "tables were turned" so to speak, and I couldn't attract Herman Munster's twin sister..lol.. Aside from that, being fit has its benefits that will come into play as you go through life. Keep in mind we all want to be attractive, and be with someone attractive; however as we go through life and get older the attraction issue will become less at the forefront, and our general health will be more of a concern. Being physically reduces the many additional health risks we all have grown up to know. I weighed 250 lbs for more than a decade, and age 37 as I mentioned I lost 100+lbs, and over 10" on my waist, I once wore pants that were a size 42, today I need a belt with size 30's. My message to everyone, if I can do it, anyone can. I had the nastiest pot belly, love handles all that, now all that remains are some very faint stretch marks, unfortunately those will probably never totally go away, but it not visable anymore if I take my shirt off at the beach, and the ladies never see them, I usually bring it up while in bed with one, just to cuz it usually makes for a good laugh.
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| Lose weight first, then date?
Posted: 5/23/2006 4:42:05 PM |
My experiance is this....Females on this site are sooooo shallow in most part that it does not matter. If you do not have that right look to you then your hooped. Its all about looks and nothing else, I have seen this time and time again. So what happens if for some reason you gain weight or whatever....Let me tell you this much, from what I have seem you will be dumped and thrown in the trash like yesterdays news paper. It seem the females are all interested in looks only, you could be the worlds bigest A$$ hole, but if you have the right look then your in....... If not then your out...! Its all about what the package looks like and who cares about what is within... Just telling you what I have been seeing over and over and over on here. About 98% are shallow to the bone.
You are so wrong. Women are WAAY more forgiving than men. IRL, women are more likely to give the heavier guy a chance. Try to go out and find someone and you'll have more luck than trying a dating site. The only thing to judge a person on the internet is a picture or the description than is in your profile. | |
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| Lose weight first, then date?
Posted: 5/23/2006 7:30:07 PM | ^^^ shes right woman are more accepting then men ....
has everyone forgotten what...ACCEPTANCE means? if everyone would stop emphasing so much on how we are suppose to look like or act or talk or etc....maybe everyone would be dating someone? i mean if your going to judge me by the way i look or act or talk..then you best keep walkin...i wont change for anyone...i am who i am...accept me as i am or dont...your choice and no loss to me. | |
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| Lose weight first, then date?
Posted: 5/23/2006 8:04:45 PM | Do it for yourself, you health, blood pressure, diabetes etc etc.
I will not make a difference, except maybe give you a short burst of confidence
until you get rejected.
Bottom line, I have been 35lbs thinner that I am now and I'm just as sucessful
with women overweight.
It is personality, humour that really counts!! You also have to be at least cute!!
This site is about, loosers, I would suggest you find another avenue.
I just use this site for fun, when I'm bored and nothing is on TV. | |
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| Lose weight first, then date?
Posted: 6/7/2006 2:21:48 PM | | You should want a man to fall in love with the real you..not the 10 lbs less you...the real you! | |
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| Lose weight first, then date?
Posted: 6/7/2006 2:29:29 PM | pliu, im sure you'll go out there and have the ladies swooning, and you'll tell them 'the queue starts on the left'. With or without weight lose, you'll do it when your ready.
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| Lose weight first, then date?
Posted: 6/7/2006 3:54:02 PM | Men are just as shallow as some women. It's a two way street..it depends on who your talking to.The guys in their 50's are the worst..they want a mind of a 40 something year old..but want a 20 year old package! And it's usually the ones that should be glad to get anyone to reply to them! Some have met over 150 women ..still can't find one..they can't find her cuz she doesn't exist! Unless her ex hubby was a plastic surgeon..they better get in the real world! | |
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| Lose weight first, then date?
Posted: 6/7/2006 5:53:33 PM | | weight is a HUGE issue on here. as overweight people we are judged by society as not dateworthy. i don't think we really have the choice to date while were losing weight because no matter how motivated and dedicated u are people will still only see the extra weight and no one wants to date a fat person. so really we have to lose weight before we can get a date, trust me cuz this is advice from a pro. don't worry tho just let people who reject u know to check up on ya in a few months time or ask the person how much weight lost would be enough for them to be willing to date you. be honest with people. | |
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| Lose weight first, then date?
Posted: 6/7/2006 7:37:19 PM | First good for you, for wanting to improve you as long as its for you, yet,always remember a person can be beautiful on the outside and ugly on the inside. we will all get old, looks will fade but your soul stays the same..
Good Luck! | |
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| Lose weight first, then date?
Posted: 6/7/2006 8:06:36 PM | You know what a big man needs between his legs to attract women..attractive women??....
a......HARLEY!!!!!!!!!!   | |
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| Lose weight first, then date?
Posted: 6/19/2006 9:57:23 PM | I do agree with you 100 percent ;-)
I think that being upfront and "Truthful" with " Anything" on here is a Plus
and would help to avoid the misunderstandings and "Drama", although some thrive on the "Drama" lol !! ;-)
Good Luck !
RaverEyes Out ;D | |
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| Lose weight first, then date?
Posted: 6/20/2006 5:09:55 AM | The only thing I can say is that I've lost alot of weight myself BUT I'm still the same person inside. Yes, my self-esteem went way up and more healthier but I still think and act the same way when I had an extra 50 pounds.
Let's just say that when I was heavier, I kept wishing to loose the weight and be able to approach a guy that was "fit/toned" for once instead of "a few extra-pounds".
Well let me tell ya, now that I've lost the weight and able to approach these guys, I want nothing to do with them. They are shallow, only looking for one thing. They might have a nice body but certainly don't have a heart of gold.
So my advice to you, don't try to loose weight for anyone, do it for yourself and don't think once you've lost the weight that you'll meet a better person because you're lighter.
Best of luck to you! | |
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| Lose weight first, then date?
Posted: 6/20/2006 5:40:51 AM | Wait a minute...what makes the women on this site so differnt from the guys?? I am a full figured woman who can tell you that most men will not respond to a woman who is not the "perfect" size. Perhaps it is the influence of the media that has made us all so shallow! What a shame that the reality of life is not as accepting as the movie Shallow Hal. Please let us not list this as a victimization of either men or women - it seems that is universal. | |
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| Lose weight first, then date?
Posted: 6/20/2006 5:44:47 AM | | I dated before - during and after - it's all good !!! Learn to love yourself and get on with life!!! | |
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| Lose weight first, then date?
Posted: 7/14/2006 7:07:59 AM | Give me a tall cute BBW anyday.
There are days I want a bear hug from a lifesized teddy bear.
I want someone I can drag to the movies, to the bar, play some pool, maybe go on a road trip, take a walk at the park, go fishing, or simply cuddle or make love in bed.
If she is out there I will not wait for her to lose wait.
I want to date her NOW!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
I want her all over me!
I have adored tall amazons and always will.
Sometimes I just want someone to smile at. | |
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| Lose weight first, then date?
Posted: 7/14/2006 7:16:57 AM | | some of is are cute bbw, however we are short. I have found that men who like bbw are equally as picky about what they prefer as men who do not like bbw and are looking for a particular appearance. Women are shallow? Many of us are not at all. I have no real preference at all about the men I date as far as appearance . I have had a pic up for a few days here, have gotten several responses 2 said I was cute as a button and though busty women were very feminine, 2 said I must be a man since I look very masculine and surely had fake boobs. Gotta love this place..... | |
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| Lose weight first, then date?
Posted: 7/14/2006 7:17:33 AM | | Dating someone larger than yourself will help you feel smaller quicker. I say it's best to keep weight loss and dating separate issues, no linkage between them. Lose the weight or don't; date or don't. But do not make one dependent on the other, or vice versa. However, if you cannot get a date because you are too fat, then you will be stuck having to lose weight first. | |
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