| | why do women run when they find out your a single dad?????Page 7 of 14 (1, 2, 3, 4, 5, 6, 7, 8, 9, 10, 11, 12, 13, 14) | | i completely understand where your coming from..tell me............does it seem like your the odd ball out with some people in your life in regards to your little on??? some just don't understand that when you have a kiddo your life changes and so do your priorities. you can no longer do certain things at a drop of a hat.........and they sure as heck can't phone you ten minutes before they're going to the bar and expect you to beable to make it.... lol. anyways if you need someone with a good ear to vent to contact me back. bye | |
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| why do women run when they find out your a single dad?????
Posted: 9/4/2006 10:49:44 PM | | I seem to have a different experience. It seems that my devotion to my children is a very attractive and appealing thing. I've never been nearly as sexy as I am now, and most of that is 90% father, and 10% Guy. | |
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| why do women run when they find out your a single dad?????
Posted: 9/5/2006 7:48:57 AM |
It just seems that a lot of people look for the same person they always have looked for, but yet everything has changed. Maybe we really need to change who we're looking for.
DragonRider, has it right. There are so many women near your age it should be easy, children or no children. Take a good look at your children's mother. Are you willing to accept someone that looks like she does now or are you looking for someone that looks like she did years ago.
I know this divorced engineer about 45 at work. He told me there are lots of women at Parents without Partners (PWP). Find the local PWP and attend their events. Just find someone with looks comparable to what your ex-wife looks like now and, from what I'm told, I'm sure at PWP you will find a number of women that will accept you and your children. | |
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| why do women run when they find out your a single dad?????
Posted: 9/5/2006 6:15:09 PM | John,
Once again, you're sooo out in left field! Hmmm, are you even in the ball park??? If you READ DragonRider's post, then you'll understand that he's not talking about how someone LOOKS. People have a tendency to go for the same personality traits as what they are accustomed to. That's why women tend to go for men like their fathers...good or bad. What DragonRider is saying is that as we grow older, we have changed as people, hopefully matured. We have to keep that in mind and look for those who meet our needs or wants as we are now and stop living in the past! | |
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| why do women run when they find out your a single dad?????
Posted: 9/5/2006 6:43:46 PM |
...If you READ DragonRider's post, then you'll understand that he's not talking about how someone LOOKS. People have a tendency to go for the same personality traits as what they are accustomed to. That's why women tend to go for men like their fathers...good or bad. What DragonRider is saying is that as we grow older, we have changed as people, hopefully matured. We have to keep that in mind and look for those who meet our needs or wants as we are now and stop living in the past!
Browneyedgagirl, you are absolutely right and I agree with you. I just expanded?? [changed] his definition to include looks because I thought looks might applicable. Certainly, I'm am sure you are aware that pretty young girls on POF that state in their profile that they are only seeking guys in their early twenties and below are being contacted by men in their thirties and forties. That is, unless they also limit the ages of who can contact them | |
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| why do women run when they find out your a single dad?????
Posted: 9/5/2006 9:16:59 PM | | I've been a single dad for 2 years now, and haven't gone out to date to speak of either. Between work and my family I don't have alot of time to do this. I am sure there are many women out there that feel the same way. They also have children and have the doors slammed in their faces when they mention kids. Alot of people don't want the responsibilty of someone else's children or want to hear the new relationship and their ex fueding either. Even in some cases, depending on age, some just don't want to do the children thing again. They did thiers and that was it. No more!! lol I find it a shame that people can't care for another no matter what their situation is. "Children? Oh hell no!" "You have a nice house and are financiallly stable? Oh hell yes!!" Only in America~ | |
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Posted: 9/6/2006 7:34:28 PM | BamBam,
Hi, I am a divorced mother of a 10 year old girl and I ask myself over and over why being a single parent is such a stigma when it is presented to a potential partner. I've noticed it isn't too bad with other single parents but none of us with kids have too much time for one-on-one with anyone but our kids. I don't know about other single parents, but there is NO way I an going to introduce my daughter to anyone until I feel comfortable with them myself. I also feel that anyone who judges me negatively because I am a single parent isn't worth considering anyway!! I sincerely wish you and all of the other single parents out there the very best of luck in finding true love and a damn good step-parent!!!  | |
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TrenaS
| | Joined: 8/17/2006
Msg: 158 | |
| why do women run when they find out your a single dad?????
Posted: 9/7/2006 8:19:27 PM | BamBam,
I am so sorry you feel that way & more sorry you've been made to feel that way. My best friend is a single day and I so admire what he's done and gone through to make a good life for his daughter and the relationship they have.
I pray you have better experiences. | |
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Posted: 9/7/2006 8:29:37 PM | We are MADE to feel by the kids, like we're replacing the mother. Because we're women, it seems to be our deepest fear.....to have our ex-husbands go out and replace us and for the kids to abandon us for the other woman...for me, it would be too much to take. Rent the movie "Step Mom".
I have had a relationship with a man who exposed TOO may of his relationships with women to his kids. Hence...I was just his live in sex. Even though they had issues with Mom, they made me feel like an outsider.
Something to consider, food for thought.We have a better chance if your a widower and they kids were too young to remember their Mom.
Terrice | |
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| why do women run when they find out your a single dad?????
Posted: 9/10/2006 11:16:46 PM | i think myself i would not date a ladie if she has no kids i have 2 and want more!!!and i know i can love there kid/s just like my own!!! so i'm with the single moms cuz they have kids 2 and know its not all about us!!!! kids come first!!
zack>>>>>>>>>>>>>. | |
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| why do women run when they find out your a single dad?????
Posted: 9/11/2006 6:02:49 AM | | strange, I prefer to find a friend that has kids instead, that way, he would understand when I have problems meeting him because my daughter has something on at school, or with friends that makes it difficult on a particular day to go out and/or meet with him. Just hang in there. There are great women out there, as there are great men!! Good luck. | |
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| why do women run when they find out your a single dad?????
Posted: 9/11/2006 12:35:12 PM | | WOW! Women actually do this? run away when they find out u have kinds...gezz I mean men have only been doing this for decades... im not saying its good, or nice whatever, but maybe they just want a man who will have only there children...selfish? YES! But there decision...and good riddance...leaves more chances for the rest of us who don’t mind, infact prefer single dads...usually he has a job, and sense of something more important then himself, a routine, and a heart. (Im a bad speller sorry peoples...lol) | |
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Posted: 9/11/2006 1:36:34 PM | HIYA , WELL I MUST SAY I DO DATE DADS WITH KIDS , I FIND THEY R MORE UNDERSTANDING TO US SINGLE MUMS PLUS THEY UNDERSTAND ABOUT KIDS CUM FIRST , SORRY THIS IS PROBERLY ALOAD OF CRAP TO U , BUT THERE R WOMEN OUT THERE WHO DO LIKE SINGLE DADS OK TC LISA X | |
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ash585
| | Joined: 8/8/2006
Msg: 165 | |
| why do women run when they find out your a single dad?????
Posted: 9/11/2006 3:05:57 PM | | not all women think like that believe me..the father(my ex) of my little girl has another daughter from a previous relationship and i have to say it didnt bother me.. i no for some women it can be difficult because they feel like they are a stepmom to kids they dont even no and kinda have to take on that role they dont even want..i no for me it was difficult because it cut in on our time together but u get over it..good luck | |
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Posted: 9/11/2006 7:48:20 PM | I don't think all women run when they find a single dad. Some women are done raising their children and simply do not want to have anymore and being a "blended" family is not always easy.
I personally seek out men with kids because when I see them interact with their children I know they will be good with mine. I also think you can tell a lot about a man by how they treat their kids.
Good luck & don't give up the search yet! | |
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| why do women run when they find out your a single dad?????
Posted: 9/12/2006 5:12:50 PM | Not all girl run when they see a meet a single dad with kids. I for one am looking for a guy with kids. Cause i'm a single mom of three little boys.
I think it goes both ways when it comes to guys or girls runnng when they no you are single and rasing your kids. | |
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| why do women run when they find out your a single dad?????
Posted: 9/12/2006 7:18:23 PM | it's a tough question to answer
i have two kids myself, one doesn't have a father so she's always been with me 24/7. guys will ask me why it's so hard to get out....well, I don't go out more than once a week without my kids and that's looked at as a bad thing or I'm looked at like I don't have a life. I'm a great mom and would be a great step-mom (i had an amazing one and know how it's done right) and yet guys think and have told me that my kids are a burden. To that I say....NEXT...it's just hard! | |
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Posted: 9/12/2006 7:32:53 PM | Well I respect a man that is raising his children and have dated a few guys like that. Personally, to me a man who isn't partially helping raise his children part time or full time I would never even consider dating. Too bad you are only interested in women up to age 40 bc I'm 41....darn it. I have been divorced for 7 years, have been raising my 3 children...with the youngest one of 17 left at home now. Unfortunately single moms have the same problem sometimes, some men want a woman that can just drop everything at a moments notice because but when you have kids....they come first and you just can't do that. Hang in there...the right woman will come along....of course she might just be too old for you and she might be in Texas...LOL. Have a great one!!!
J | |
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Posted: 9/12/2006 7:46:43 PM | Newly single mom, and new to the single scene, I would prefer to date another single parent... someone who can relate to the challenges of being a parent. I am absolutely convinced that there is no job in the world more important, more challenging or more rewarding than being a parent.
In a relationship, I am looking for someone who is patient, kind, giving, honest, sincere.....if I meet a man's child (ren) and they have these qualities..... | |
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Posted: 9/12/2006 7:53:42 PM | | I've never experienced this, but then I can't think of anyone that I have gone on a date with that doesn't know I have a daughter. She is a part of me, and to be quit honest - is probably the reason I get any dates at all... she's much cooler than me... | |
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| why do women run when they find out your a single dad?????
Posted: 9/13/2006 8:31:41 AM | | I MUST SAY THIS IS SO STUPID!!! I'M A SINGLE FATHER WITH THE KIDS LIVING WITH ME FULL TIME, THEIR MOTHER HAS NOT COME AROUND IN TWO YEARS TO SEE THEM. AND THAT'S FINE!! THAY ARE MY LIFE AND A WOMAN THAT CAN'T SEE THAT I'M A FATHER AND CAN BE A GOOD BOYFRIEND, WELL THAT JUST IS HER LOSE NOT MINE!!!! MAYBE IT'S NOT THE KIDS, JUST MAYBE ALL YOU FATHERS THAT CARE SO MUCH WHAT EVERYBODY ELSE THINKS!!! STOP BEING WEAK MINDED AND THINKING WITH THE WRONG HEAD!!!! A REAL WOMAN WILL LOVE YOU AND YOUR KIDS! IF NOT GET RID OF HER NOT YOUR KIDS!MAYBE THE WOMAN RUN BECAUSE YOUR NOT A CONFEDENT FATHER!! BE PROUD TO BE A FATHER! STAND TALL! I THINK WOMAN WELL SEE THAT AND KNOW THAT COME HELL OR HI WATER YOU WILL BE THERE FOR YOUR KID AND HER "IF" SHE WOULD LIKE TO BE PART OF "YOUR" LIFE!!!! "SINGLE DADS ROCK" AS MY SON WOULD SAY!!!!!!!!! | |
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Posted: 9/13/2006 1:35:12 PM | well bambam they are not the one for you and your lovely kids,i think many men and women lose out on good relationships just because we are single parents...............................SO TO ALL YOU WOMEN OUT THERE TAKE A CHANCE ON A SINGLE DAD IT MIGHT BE THE BEST THING YOU HAVE EVER DONE.good luck bambam don't give up. | |
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Posted: 9/13/2006 1:53:18 PM | wow! what women have you been talking to? I am a single mom and I prefer to date single dad's, because at least they have some understanding of what I'm going through.
Men without children expect their date to go out anytime and act like its no big deal to find and pay for a babysitter - keep looking, I know there's other women out there that feel the same as I do. | |
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Posted: 9/13/2006 5:46:07 PM | funny, i was wondering why guys don't want to have anything to do with single women with kids.
Can't tell you why, since i'm wondering the same thing, but hang in there...even though it's frustrating, and you think you'll never find someone to accept you and your children, you'll find the right one soon enough and i'm sure it will be worth the wait in the end. | |
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