| Are you worried about family and friends knowing you are on this site?
Posted: 10/2/2009 11:37:03 AM | Seems this thread was resurrected from the dead, we must 've run out of new ideas...
But anyway, all my friends male and female know because are here on POF too, I write or edit their profiles and sometimes I shoot a decent picture from them. Even some people from work know, but that's because they are here  too...
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Sannia
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Joined: 9/11/2009
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| Are you worried about family and friends knowing you are on this site?
Posted: 10/2/2009 12:29:48 PM | No, but it's simply my business. I decide whom I tell and whom I don't tell. Is not that I have to justify to the general public what I do or why I am here. Personally, I don't like to be available to the public, simply because I am discreet. This is why I keep myself hidden and only those I pick I can communicate with. I like to pick, that's all. I don't want to waste my time having to say No, thank you. If you keep yourself open, you just get too many messages. Without a photo is different, this is why I prefer not to show it, if I open my profile. It's the same reason why I don't talk publicly about my private business. Why should I? I also dislike lack of privacy in others. Somebody that would keep himself open and available at all times doesn't really get much approval from me. I tend to think: Is he always available? Why? Is he discreet enough?
A person that doesn't worry about privacy issues is not somebody I would want to deal with, especially on a personal level.
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| Are you worried about family and friends knowing you are on this site?
Posted: 10/2/2009 1:30:38 PM | | I am definitely NOT embarrassed by being on this site. I have met a remarkable man and I don't hesitate to tell anyone that we met online. If people will stop acting like it's an unsavory thing to do, societal opinions will change. They already are. I know quite a few couples who have met online. It's a new millennium and times have changed. | |
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| Are you worried about family and friends knowing you are on this site?
Posted: 10/2/2009 3:31:11 PM | I have been meeting people off the internet since 1997...including my ex-husband in 1998.
I did met a man who I dated for a few months and when he went to introduce me to his father he told me to say we met at the gym vs from online...he didnt want his family to give him a hard time about it...his father never asked but it changed my whole view of him!
Both my daughters are on this site, they never check their mail...they just thought it would be a fun thing to do to join the same dating site as me. | |
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| Are you worried about family and friends knowing you are on this site?
Posted: 10/2/2009 3:57:51 PM | No not worried about it. This is a great place to make new friends, and maybe meet "the one"! 
In reality it is just another social networking site like "my place", "pages of faces" or any of the business networking sites. Its cool because it is specific to relathionships and romance and love.
Go for it OP, and no regrets. | |
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| Are you worried about family and friends knowing you are on this site?
Posted: 10/2/2009 4:32:59 PM | My whole family and most of my friends knows I'm on here. I tell as many people as possible so they will join as well.
My nephew met his wife on line and then his sister turned around and met her husband on line. My brother-in-law's brother met his wife (#2) on line and two of his children (by wife #1) met their spouse on line as well. Another niece met her soon-to-be-husband on line but after meeting up with him discovered that they graduated from the same high school only in different years.
So many other family members have met absolutely wonderful spouses on line that I figure I just can't go wrong!!!!
Shucks even if I would meet a man here ... I've made so many wonderful friends that I doubt if I'd ever really leave the site. I just love the forums. | |
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| Are you worried about family and friends knowing you are on this site?
Posted: 10/2/2009 5:19:48 PM | My family too know I'm here..
Matter of fact, two of my girls (daughters ),
a couple of ex-wives,
and even a few ex-girlfriend are here at POF.
I told them about this place while finding them
at some of the other date sites..
I think having people you trust kind of
nosing a bit in your business does give an added
amount of security, and at times, encouragement..
But it sometimes makes me watch my "P"s & ""Q"s..
Does it make me worry..??
Nope... I can use all the help I can get..:
---SoldierByte--- | |
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| Are you worried about family and friends knowing you are on this site?
Posted: 10/2/2009 5:35:03 PM | What's to worry about? Lots of my friends and relatives are on here.
One thing that had me laughing hysterically a few minutes ago - I was reading profiles and every guy's profile I pulled up had an advertisement for another site right next to the guy's picture. The promo for the other site read:
DATE WEALTHY MEN
STOP Messing Around With Losers!
OMG, how hilarious is that. Aren't dating sites a howl!!  | |
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| Are you worried about family and friends knowing you are on this site?
Posted: 10/2/2009 5:52:57 PM |
What's to worry about? Lots of my friends and relatives are on here.
Oh, my goodness, Miss Sisted Twister....you are on THIS site? And I know you? Just wait 'til I spread THIS story around!
Do I have a problem with this?
Family-wise, no...They all know me well enough to know that I can't get anywhere in real life.
Friends-wise...heck, they know me even better! So, of course not! After all, my best buddy met his fiance here...the first and only gal he ever contacted here. Even after I siggested to him that he check out this site, and he fought me on it for six months! And he ends up being the lucky one! Now, my luck has not been that good, but I know that my family and friends would be pulling for me, at this one last- resort chance. | |
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| Are you worried about family and friends knowing you are on this site?
Posted: 10/2/2009 5:56:00 PM |
Yes, and we have all been wondering if you moved to Australia! Is he moving here?
Sorry to hijack the thread. I bet you don't even know people have been asking how
it's going between you two! I will be moving to Australia and we are planning to visit the States often. His trip here has been temporarily postponed due to some unexpected difficulties we have both encountered. We are hoping to be together by the end of the year, at the latest. Things are going wonderfully well with us and we appreciate all your good thoughts and wishes.
See, if it wasn't for online dating sites, we never would have met. Our families and friends have all come to recognize how much we care for one another and most have become very supportive regarding our relationship. There are still a few skeptics, but for the most part everyone is very happy for us. | |
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| Are you worried about family and friends knowing you are on this site?
Posted: 10/2/2009 11:51:44 PM | i've nothing to be embarrassed about and i'm not misrepresenting myself...
so no,
i'm not at all ashamed of my profile on here.
as for worrying my friends and family?...
being online is a tame alternative to other things i've tried in my dating life...lol
some of my best friends i've met online...
male and female.
friends i'll have for life.
this is the only dating site i've ever joined...except for a brief time on one other well known site. a couple of days there was more than enough.
i think filly mentioned that attitudes have changed in relation to online dating.
a few short years back it was much maligned...
"how could you be soooo desperate as to get online looking for romance?" would have been a common reaction from many.
for those who have found romance...congratulations.
i'm happy to partake in the forums with my friends?... | |
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| Are you worried about family and friends knowing you are on this site?
Posted: 10/3/2009 3:33:48 AM | I would not be on here if I was embarrassed about it. A few of my single friends say that they would never meet people online and wish that I would not. However, I could care less what anyone else would do, this is MY life, not theirs.
At 51, I am way too old to live worrying about what anyone else might think. My family knows and is supportive of me. | |
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| Are you worried about family and friends knowing you are on this site?
Posted: 10/3/2009 7:25:47 AM | Absolutely not! I love the fact that we (women) now can actively participate in choosing who we do or don't want to date. Of course, we always could, but personals dating, whether by Internet or placing printed ads in a paper (which was popular before the advent of the Internet) has made us equal to men in that area.
My friends do tease me about my escapades in the world of dating, since they all think they're too old (and they think I am too) to still be interested. To me, dating sites are the best way to go, aside from meeting people during real life activities. I do both. I don't go to bars or singles dances, or other "meat market" venues.
I am not embarrassed nor ashamed of anything I do. My family and friends know I am on dating sites, but I see no reason to tell them which ones! What I say or do here is my business, not theirs. They don't need to know my views on dating, sex (which is sometimes discussed on these forums) or any of the other things we discuss on here. I don't discuss my dating life with them, so why would I make it a point to tell them where they can read about it? They want me to live my life and do what makes me happy, but I'm sure my family is not interested in reading about my views, etc. on dating and relationships. | |
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| Are you worried about family and friends knowing you are on this site?
Posted: 10/3/2009 10:02:02 AM | Funny thing,,,
I went somewhere Wednesday night and two women told me I looked familiar,,,
By the time I left, I had one convinced I looked like her Dad and the other was convinced I looked like her brother in law
Don't know if it was from the site or not but couldn't put our fingers on any other reason for me to look familiar,,,
Do I care?
Nah,,,
Should I care?
Probably,,,
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| Are you worried about family and friends knowing you are on this site?
Posted: 10/3/2009 10:23:17 AM | To FriendlyFreeSpirit, Msg:42
I was over at my son's house the other day (he lives just three doors away) while my eldest teenage grandson and his parents were in the kitchen. I told my son and his wife that they did not have to worry about being an embarrassment to their son; his grandfather would look after that! | |
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| Are you worried about family and friends knowing you are on this site?
Posted: 10/3/2009 1:51:43 PM | Unfortunately, 4_all_seasons, that idea wouldn't work. My father is perfect in his granddaughter's eyes.
Actually, I am pretty embarrassing..
My father told me to go online. It was after his dentist told him he had had found true love that way. Before that, Dad was saying "only losers going online"...lol..He can't get his head around the concept. But Dad's a bit of an entreupreneur. After his divorce, he started his own singles club. As president he got first pick! He dated for 16 years until he remarried - I have no idea how many women he took out, but he was never short of a date. So Dad thought it was a sign of desperation if you had to resort to the web.
Mmm. Maybe he thinks I'm desperate? | |
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| Are you worried about family and friends knowing you are on this site?
Posted: 10/3/2009 6:42:44 PM | Unfortunately, 4_all_seasons, that idea wouldn't work. My father is perfect in his granddaughter's eyes.
Actually, I am pretty embarrassing..
My father told me to go online. It was after his dentist told him he had had found true love that way. Before that, Dad was saying "only losers going online"...lol..He can't get his head around the concept. But Dad's a bit of an entreupreneur. After his divorce, he started his own singles club. As president he got first pick! He dated for 16 years until he remarried - I have no idea how many women he took out, but he was never short of a date. So Dad thought it was a sign of desperation if you had to resort to the web.
Mmm. Maybe he thinks I'm desperate?
He might think you're desperate. You might sometimes think you are as well. LOL For some people, however, myself now included at this time, it's just kind of bothersome and time consuming to connect up with prospective partners in crime when I'm simply not moving about in social environments where the odds are much in my favor of finding someone.
It might be easier if we developed a worldwide "color-and-number-code" for when we were walking around and about in the world. You could have numbers represent your "status", and colors represent what kind of relationship you were looking for. When you felt in such a mood, you could clip this code on your lapel, like "3-Green" which would represent that you were on the market, your status, and what you were looking for. Then you could take particular interest when walking into a coffee shop you encounter another "3-Green" who looks particularly interesting to you, see if they greet you with a welcoming smile when you say "hello there". | |
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