| She asks: What do you hope to find?
Posted: 5/25/2006 8:01:28 AM |
“would I look good if I lost 20 lbs?" I said “sure” .......................
I gave the wrong answer - I was suppose to say - “you look great NOW”.
Don't know if it was so much a trick question as maybe just that the truth hurts | |
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| She asks: What do you hope to find?
Posted: 5/25/2006 11:25:07 AM | | OK, I know this does not belong here, however, I am totally confused. I started a thread - "Need an answer please" - Went back to see if there was any advice for me - thread gone - and that is what I would hope to find right now. Can anyone help? | |
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| She asks: What do you hope to find?
Posted: 5/27/2006 10:51:51 AM | | The PoF Police sometimes decide to delete your thread. And, sometimes, I'm greatful they've deleted some of mine, frankly. | |
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| She asks: What do you hope to find?
Posted: 5/27/2006 4:31:45 PM |
the nice thing about getting one's culture and literary fill from bathroom walls and stalls is ... the time saving factor
how come guys bathroom walls are so much more interesting than ours? | |
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| She asks: What do you hope to find?
Posted: 5/27/2006 5:26:54 PM | guys ask this question a lot too. what are you looking for? what do you want in a man? etc.
i guess the truth would be 'i will know it when i see it, when i feel it'
so what kinda answer are the guys looking for? (oh, i guess i'm looking for a hot hour or 2 or maybe just 1/2 an hour with you)
i always say 'you first', and when they say something like, 'the love of my life', i don't know if they are joking. because like above it seems like a question to joke about. | |
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| She asks: What do you hope to find?
Posted: 5/27/2006 10:12:01 PM | For cheryl 2006=complicated is not a problem if it envolves the love of your life.
For horselady48= aren't we all? | |
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| She asks: What do you hope to find?
Posted: 9/30/2009 12:01:57 AM | What do I hope to find? Honestly, the next "love of my life", but saying that on a first meeting would scare many men to death, so not sure I would really say that. The woman's answer, "someone just like you" is great. I will have to remember that if ever put into a bind with a question like that.
I seem to have found someone like what I was hoping to find. I didn't tell him that when we first met though. I was clear in my original goals that I was looking for long term. He was more vague listing dating, and in the body of his profile, short term romance, possibly long term. I would say that was hedging his bets.
Another possible response to someone you just met could be, someone who accurately reflected what they stated on their profile would work. Someone with an honest self assessment, and honest statement of what they were looking for. Honesty always works for me.
I must say, my current love is exactly who he said he was on his profile. Short and sweet and not a lot of information, but what he wrote was an accurate reflection of who he is. It always helps when what you see is what you get. | |
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| She asks: What do you hope to find?
Posted: 9/30/2009 5:04:44 AM | speaking of "grumpy"...
^^^she wrote this elsewhere when someone asked the same question:
I think it was smart to bump a three year old thread. This one has already passed the moderators. I am tired of getting thread topics deleted, and tired of seeing the same old threads day after day. These thread topics are still relevant, and I would say much of the blood that posted back in 2006 has moved on and been replaced by new people with new ideas. | |
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| She asks: What do you hope to find?
Posted: 9/30/2009 5:16:21 AM | | One thing that happens to me is I get a message "You have reached your posting limit on this thread". I was not aware of the existence of a posting limit, but as such, I worry about not being able to post on old threads because of it. I figure that if a thread has been dead for years, even if the topic is relevant, it should disappear. I bet there are dozens of dead threads on the system that will never come back at all. | |
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| She asks: What do you hope to find?
Posted: 9/30/2009 6:27:35 AM |
Msg 35 ^^^ What's with you digging up several posts from three years or more passed? Do you not check the last reply to a thread? If its been dormant all that time why not start your own new post about the same topic?
This is how the fora function on this site is to be utilized. The fora are not meant to be used as a chat topic but rather as a reference library on topics and/or situations that are encountered when dating and in this particular fora, for those individuals over the age of 45. To start a new thread on a topic that already has a thread, albeit three years old, would mean that the new thread would be considered a redundant thread and deleted. Case in point, as of late, very few newly created threads remain in the fora but rather find their way to the deleted section.
Unless you're seeking attention or trying one more avenue to advertise this "new current love" you're either bored and have nothing better to do or just like seeing your words on a screen.
The poster that resurrected this thread is correct in that this topic has previously been discussed and any further discussion on this topic should and is to be added to this thread.
OT: I hope to broaden my social circle by meeting new friends. | |
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| She asks: What do you hope to find?
Posted: 9/30/2009 7:41:49 AM | I think it’s a wonderful question, one that makes me think. I don’t have a ready answer – not a comprehensive, all-inclusive one anyway. But if asked, I’d go with the moment and say “I hope to find a woman who asks questons like this. I hope to find…
a little conversation over dinner, a walk or hike, a concert or museum, a get-together with friends
living side-by-side, sharing ordinary days, work, children, meals, sleeping and rising, doing laundry, working in the garden
I’d like to do that with a woman who sees my “hopes to find” as well as her own wants and needs as dynamic and changing and growing as long as we’re together, as long as we’re alive
someone who is willing to explore those possibilities, who is interested in a “relating” relationship, who is vitally interested in her own process of self-discovery and in the discovery of another in intimate relationship
and the follow-up to “what do you hope to find?” is “what do we wish to create?” because the relationship isn't “out there” waiting to be found – we will create it, by our choices, day by day | |
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| She asks: What do you hope to find?
Posted: 9/30/2009 8:38:38 AM |
What's with you digging up several posts from three years or more passed? Do you not check the last reply to a thread? If its been dormant all that time why not start your own new post about the same topic?
Unless you're seeking attention or trying one more avenue to advertise this "new current love" you're either bored and have nothing better to do or just like seeing your words on a screen
I think others above have answered your question, but I have one more comment to make. Damed if you do, and damned if you don't here on the forum.
You can't please everyone, so you better please yourself....I think the late Ricky Nelson sang that tune.
OT: What do I hope to find? I dunno. World peace maybe.
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| She asks: What do you hope to find?
Posted: 9/30/2009 8:56:57 AM | I liked the OP's response...orgasms...
But then again, I've got a sense of humor about all this stuff.
Questions like that I answer honestly - because really, if he isn't smart enough to figure out that my answer of "someone I love who loves me, someone to come home, hand over my paycheck and ask if I can have $100 to go out shopping with the girls, someone to snuggle up with every night, and miss every second we are apart" does NOT mean I've picked out the day he and I are getting married - well then! He's an idiot...LOL...seriously, I know what I would want (see above run on sentence). I have no problem saying it to someone. The implication is that I have no clue where that person is...but seek and ye shall find, right? | |
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| She asks: What do you hope to find?
Posted: 9/30/2009 8:57:43 AM | "red buttons" wrote ... (message 36)
Msg 35 ^^^ What's with you digging up several posts from three years or more passed? Do you not check the last reply to a thread?
"DivineBovine" wrote ...
speaking of "grumpy"... LMAO ... My thoughts exactly ... send his grumpy butt over to the following thread.
http://forums.plentyoffish.com/datingPosts13192291.aspx
If its been dormant all that time why not start your own new post about the same topic? Go read the posting rules ... that's not allowed. Lest I be accused of being "grumpy" ... the biggest trouble makers here in the forums are people who have no idea about the rules but want to come in here and criticize those who are following the rules.
As already stated (but some "NEWBIES" just don't seem to get) ... it's against the forum rules to start redundant threads.
OT ...
It's a question I ask ... because I want to know what a man wants. If all he wants is to "date around" and get his "dipstick" wet here and there ... then he'd be wasting my time to even meet with me.
I think it's a valid question ... but generally never really expect an honest answer.
I mean what man in his right mind (other than those looking for an intimate encounter) would come right out and just say ... "I want sex and then just want to move on." ... or do men actually do that? | |
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| She asks: What do you hope to find?
Posted: 9/30/2009 12:52:00 PM | Dating.. surveys.. she askin.. she tellin.. women ARE CRAZY...
Lighten up.. we all here for the same thing.. FUN..!!
The most RECENT Survey says...
4,000 were asked the following question...
Do you think your A-S-S is too fat or too thin..??
42% said "YES" - their A-S-S is too fat...
23% said "NO" - their A-S-S is too skinny..
35% said their A-S-S was just fine and they'd
marry him again if given the chance...
---SoldierByte--- | |
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| She asks: What do you hope to find?
Posted: 9/30/2009 1:22:18 PM |
Unless you're seeking attention or trying one more avenue to advertise this "new current love" you're either bored and have nothing better to do or just like seeing your words on a screen.
I am doing it on purpose. I am bored with the current topics that are on the recent forum pages. I am tired of threads being deleted as redundant. I was NOT around three years ago so these threads are NEW to me. These topics are still relevant.
I think what you are doing personalizing this to me is bashing, and against the rules.
Please stick to the topic. If you don't like it, then close the thread and move on to something else.
The moderators clearly WANT the old threads used rather than starting a new thread that has already been discussed in the past. The fact that you suggest I start a new post about the same topic makes me aware that YOU are clueless as to the rules here on the forum.
Now I am perfectly secure in myself, and don't need to do something so childish as seek attention. I happen to like the discussions, and like hearing other peoples opinions. My motivation for doing what I am doing is frankly none of your d*amn business. If you don't have a comment on the thread topic please keep your comments to yourself. | |
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| She asks: What do you hope to find?
Posted: 9/30/2009 1:36:47 PM |
I am bored with the current topics that are on the recent forum pages.
It is all good Ms widowsdesire ,
I too was/am getting bored with the Forums lack of content..
and i too, been "playing"..
I, -- unlike you.. did not have the courage to ressurect anything
for fear of the same complaints now set upon you..
Just keep your chin up, all will pass..
and if that new botfriend dissapoints you...
keep me on your "back-up list".. (another boring thread..!!)
---SoldierByte--- | |
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| She asks: What do you hope to find?
Posted: 9/30/2009 3:29:26 PM | I, too, am in complete support of WD's ability to find and ressurect these old threads. While I may have been lurkink way back then, I certainly wasn't posting -- I am now.
As to the original query: I think the original answer is valid - orgasms, with commentary. I would be looking for reaffirmation that I could find in a woman a commonality of desire as for what love, respect, committment, and intimacy mean in a (married) relationship. After 20+ years in a marriage I remain shaken in that what I thought those terms meant was not shared.
While I won't settle for less than a lover, I also anticipate a meeting of the minds, spirit, heart, and the physical.
TK | |
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| She asks: What do you hope to find?
Posted: 9/30/2009 4:07:31 PM | I would probably answer that question with "Someone who nurtures my spirit."
To elaborate, someone who helps me grow and develop and become a better and happier person, for whom I'd fill the same role. A truly compatible companion. And by all means, sprinkle liberally with orgasms. | |
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| She asks: What do you hope to find?
Posted: 9/30/2009 5:04:59 PM | I was hoping to find the love of my life, and I believe that I have.
I still am hoping to find just one thread though without pointless bickering.
to post # 36, and others like it, the answer to your redundant question can be found in the posting guidelines, bold added
Thread "Redundancy" occurs when the same topics are continuously created. No one wants to see the first page of any forum with the same tired topics. While you may believe the topic is new, it may not be - so please search first (Instructions Here), and simply join that discussion that is in progress, to either gain your answer, or to add your opinion, even if it has been added already. The site likes to keep the forums free of these tired subjects so don't be surprised if your topic is removed. If you don't understand this concept - please read further here Purpose of The Forums and Why Redundant Threads Are Deleted. | |
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| She asks: What do you hope to find?
Posted: 9/30/2009 5:12:33 PM | LOL! that kind of response is NEVER a smart one on a first date! But it is incredibly funny! LOL!
I was asked that recently and I said: something that could lead to long term.
his response was: be friends first and see where it goes from there.
But what he meant was the same thing you blared out! | |
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