| Ever seen a mail order husband?
Posted: 5/15/2007 5:36:27 PM | The men look outside because they do not like INDEPENDENT Women.
They figure if they get women they are suspressed in some countries they can bring them here and they will be the same.
Now they are getting the surprise of their lives....alot only play our men to get out of their country. Once they get here and realize the way of life here can be different for them......They drop the guy so fast his head spins lol The laugh on them. | |
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| Ever seen a mail order husband?
Posted: 5/15/2007 5:51:27 PM | Simbad wake up and smell the coffee.
Sure there are men in cuba ,spain, all these fantastic looking men wanting us american women......for the same reasons as the european women likw american men, To get the hell out of their countries and figure we are all mostly Rich.... I know women who went to this beautiful tourist places met a man married him and he was here no time left the woman and trid for richer one........This is not saying all couples that together are all doing it for the same reasons.....However I bet there are alot.  | |
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| Ever seen a mail order husband?
Posted: 5/15/2007 9:05:00 PM |
The men look outside because they do not like INDEPENDENT Women.
They figure if they get women they are suspressed in some countries they can bring them here and they will be the same.
Now they are getting the surprise of their lives....alot only play our men to get out of their country. Once they get here and realize the way of life here can be different for them......They drop the guy so fast his head spins lol The laugh on them.
I have no problem with independent women. I have problems with independent women who want to dictate everything which goes on in a relationship. Here the extreme is either the supermodel princesses who want a guy to spend his way into poverty and then on to the next sucker. Or the down-to-earth women who happen to be much older or obese. I have no problem having friendships with these women, but I am not romantically or sexually attracted to them.
And as for the divorce rate among American men and foreign women in this country, it's most likely somewhere between 15-20%, much lower than the 60% associated with home-grown marriages.
http://www.topix.net/forum/city/everett-wa/TD7C0BCQ19E73564J
http://blog.ilanamercer.com/?cat=40
Sure, some women only want a green card and dump the guy soon after they get here, but I'm fairly certain they're in the minority. After all, turn on the 6 o'clock news and it's usually BAD news you hear because it sells.
Simbad wake up and smell the coffee.
Sure there are men in cuba ,spain, all these fantastic looking men wanting us american women......for the same reasons as the european women likw american men, To get the hell out of their countries and figure we are all mostly Rich.... I know women who went to this beautiful tourist places met a man married him and he was here no time left the woman and trid for richer one........This is not saying all couples that together are all doing it for the same reasons.....However I bet there are alot.
Hmmm..., years ago a Greek exchange student told me the only thing American women are good for is sex. Yeah, people in those countries tend to gravitate towards light-complexioned women with fair hair simply because it's something different. Scandinavian women get that all the time when they vacation in places like Italy and Greece.
European women liking American men to get out of their country? Maybe in Russia, but most European women simply wouldn't want to live in this country and do without all the socialism and month-long vacations they're used to over there. | |
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| Ever seen a mail order husband?
Posted: 5/15/2007 10:21:53 PM | OMG... that mail order site was scary! Did you notice 90% of the men were from the USA? Thank God I have two handsome boys. At least I know they can give hope to the future women of the USA!
I wonder if you could order one like you special order a car. I would choose a Keith Urban from Australia! Dang, I would definitely order from Down Under.
The only reason why US men order overseas women is because they want the woman to be subservient and not speak. | |
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Posted: 5/15/2007 11:29:38 PM | I knew a guy with a Philippine wife. One day she went off, so I asked him ‘What is she going on about?’ he says ‘That? Oh, don’t worry about that, she does that all the time, it is nice not having a clue about what she is saying.’
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Posted: 5/16/2007 5:48:37 AM |
OMG... that mail order site was scary! Did you notice 90% of the men were from the USA? Thank God I have two handsome boys. At least I know they can give hope to the future women of the USA!
I wonder if you could order one like you special order a car. I would choose a Keith Urban from Australia! Dang, I would definitely order from Down Under.
The only reason why US men order overseas women is because they want the woman to be subservient and not speak.
http://www.nomarriage.com/why_foreign_women_are_better.html
Popular Myth: Western men looking for foreign wives are only seeking subservient slaves.
Truth: Most Western men today are evolved and modern and truly believe in the 50/50 system. Most Western men are dismayed by the lack of sincerity of Western women. I can do my own laundry and cooking thank you!
Yes, Latin American and Eastern European women do make better mates because both come from more conservative and family oriented cultures where relationships and commitment are actually revered. | |
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Posted: 5/16/2007 6:56:01 AM | Wow soulful that is quite the post. You are right that we are losing our dignity, civility and our children are losing their ability to be children. But you come across like this is somehow because women have rights now and we are responsible for all the ills in the world because of this. And I would hazard a guess to say that the majority of online porn viewers are men not females so how is this our fault now?
"The increase of Caucasian men hooking up with Asian women is, I think, indicative of the fear and the alarm Western men feel deep inside as their masculinity is challenged at every turn,"
So are you saying that because you have to now share what was bequeathed to you based on nothing more than gender you cant be a man? Is it because "I say so" doesnt work anymore and men actually have to prove their worth in the workplace or when looking for a date that stops you from being a man? Please explain this thought process to me as I see many young men making it through life without having to blame womem for all their problems. | |
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| Ever seen a mail order husband?
Posted: 5/16/2007 7:33:44 AM | I would not mind ordering some of those Alaskan men from the catalogue.
I'm just wondering if you are not happy with them or some of the parts are not fully functional, do they come with 30-day money back guarantee??? And free shipping of course. | |
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| Ever seen a mail order husband?
Posted: 9/15/2008 6:21:23 PM |
missy_pq: "Just seems strange that with all the millions of singles here in the U.S., people feel the need to spend all that time and money going overseqas to get a spouse who probably only wants U.S. citizenship, anyway."
Personally, I disagree. It's all about the expectation differences between in immigrant wife and a domestic one. Women here in America expect the man to:
* have a income that can support her in a lifestyle that is greater than that of her friends in a one-income household
* have an expensive car or two
* buy a house
* have perfect teeth and not be overweight
* have a college education
* work long hours
* not complain
* have and maintain nice clothes
* large screen television, cable, DSL, cellphones, vacations, diamond wedding ring, jetskis
* keep the kids well-stocked with the necessities: iPod, CD player, laptop, computer, video games
I'd guess that an immigrant wife's requirements would be more like:
* have enough income to participate in the household expenses in a two-income household
* have a roof over their heads, whether it's a rental or a purchased home
* have a phone so that she can call her family back home
* not be hungry
* not beat her
* be reasonably loving
In other words, that immigrant wife will be happy with a lifestyle that's significantly less. With respect to the relationship she's going to be glad if you're not like the guys "back home". Simple kindness is not lost on her. You needn't have perfect dental health or all of your hair or an athletic physique. Buying her a nice dress would really make her month.
Men in the states wouldn't need to spend $15,000 to import a wife if they could find what they wanted here. It's supply and demand. Rather than shaking your head at the behavior, look at your own requirements for a potential partner and see if you're perhaps asking too much from him. | |
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Posted: 9/15/2008 7:01:03 PM | | If someone knows a mail order service that will pick up a 250 lb box and ship it one way to Antarctica I am all ears. | |
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Posted: 9/15/2008 9:05:00 PM | helll I wonna place an order too........................
lmao
I got 1 question ....
after you tryed him and you deside you dont like him , lol . can you send him back . you know ,
refund , exchange or substitution ??????????????
maby we can take him to wally world , they will refund anything ...lol( im just kidding )
okokok here is my order .
I want an aussy .
6- 6'5
sweet sexy nice butt, and has to fill out his jeans in the right places .......
so now where do I drop that order ????? | |
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Posted: 9/15/2008 9:08:49 PM | Just seems strange that with all the millions of singles here in the U.S., people feel the need to spend all that time and money going overseqas to get a spouse who probably only wants U.S. citizenship, anyway. I'll bet a lot of folks feel pretty silly when all is said and done and they find that they were just a passport.
missy
that may all be well and good ,,,, but as a green card holder its not that easy anymore ..
years ago they where able to get married , stay that way for couple of month then divorce and stay here . that dog dont fly nomore ...
I been here now a total of 17 years , and Im divorced , i got divorced 2001 and had to redo my greencard in august of last year , and I had a hell of a time ... I even considered getting remarried so they would not deport me ...... but thank god I did not have to do that ....
nope they get married now they have to stay married for quite some time | |
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Posted: 9/15/2008 9:25:31 PM |
what is wrong with the man if has to buy a bride
In most cases those are the older men without much money that want a much younger woman. In the US if he wants a younger woman he should be a wealthy man to get one. | |
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Posted: 9/15/2008 9:38:38 PM |
I'd guess that an immigrant wife's requirements would be more like:
* have enough income to participate in the household expenses in a two-income household
* have a roof over their heads, whether it's a rental or a purchased home
* have a phone so that she can call her family back home
* not be hungry
* not beat her
* be reasonably loving
Ha-ha, just for the first 3 years till she gets her green card.
If she is not very bright she would take a long time to learn English and some marketable skills, which means that her husband would have to pay for all household expenses. If she is smart, she would pick up English fast, take some classes to enable her to get a reasonably good job. Then she would dump her hubby and find someone her own age with a better social status. | |
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Posted: 9/15/2008 10:35:15 PM | Originally from a bad country to live, willing to relocate, not on marriage strike, the green card here or the blue card in Europe out of the question... I qualify for a mail order husband, just need a new set of pics.
Well, most likely, being 51, I'm the one who has to pay ... | |
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Posted: 9/16/2008 11:05:36 AM | jsphn11: "Ha-ha, just for the first 3 years till she gets her green card.
If she is not very bright she would take a long time to learn English and some marketable skills, which means that her husband would have to pay for all household expenses. If she is smart, she would pick up English fast, take some classes to enable her to get a reasonably good job. Then she would dump her hubby and find someone her own age with a better social status."
Personally I find the nicest people to be the ones who grew up *without* (wealth) and so when they finally are with that then they are appreciative.
The Asian mail order bride, let's say, is going to be a hard-working girl/woman. You have to admit that this is the case. She's willing to work any job necessary and doesn't have the same sort of pride issues that you, let's say, would have. I bet you wouldn't work at McDonald's in order to bring in some extra income, would you? *You* wouldn't be a janitor. You wouldn't be a seamstress. Regardless of the lack of jobs in your trained career field your own pride would prevent you from stepping down and taking any job necessary in order to bring in money. The immigrant wife doesn't suffer from this.
Likewise, I bet you wouldn't relish the idea of living, say, in West Oakland (not that I do). You'd be scared and you'd pressure your husband for something better. The immigrant wife wouldn't.
> "Then she would dump her hubby and find someone her own age with a better social status."
Why on earth would she dump the guy who's much better than the guys back home? Keep in mind that her husband isn't beating her, he treats her well, he makes ten times more than any guy back from her homeland. She lives in America and that's a mark of pride for her family. They all talk about her success now. She would bring shame to her family if she dumped him, having used him like you're suggesting. In fact, *you're* the one who is imaginative enough to go there, not her. You're the one most likely to use a guy and dump him for having thought of it.
This is nothing more than sour grapes on your part. Evaluate your own needs in a husband and write them down. I dare you. I'm right and you know it. You can attempt to throw anger at some guy or try to suggest that he's somehow not worthy of you but the problem here is your demands. If you (as the female collective) are too demanding then men will turn their backs on you. Take stock of your life. You're single. Maybe I'm right. | |
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Posted: 9/16/2008 12:41:03 PM |
Why on earth would she dump the guy who's much better than the guys back home? Keep in mind that her husband isn't beating her, he treats her well, he makes ten times more than any guy back from her homeland. She lives in America and that's a mark of pride for her family. They all talk about her success now. he would bring shame to her family if she dumped him, having used him like you're suggesting.
Maybe it's true for an Asian mail-order bride, but not for an Eastern European one. I am surprised that you don't know about the changes that happen in women after living in the US for few years. They see people around them and compare. If her husband is a looser she would realize it soon. If there is love, then there will be a happy end. However, the way relationships develop for mail brides there is not much time to allow them to figure out whether he is the one for her. She wants to come to the US. Period. And will be nice to almost anyone who can be her fast-pass to get here.
In fact, *you're* the one who is imaginative enough to go there, not her. You're the one most likely to use a guy and dump him for having thought of it.
Being offensive, aren't you? Did I touch your soft spot?
I've heard about those situations more than once. I didn't think of it for myself since I am not a mail order bride, and never will be. I was able to get to the US when I was 27 legally, and without any "marriage certificate".
This is nothing more than sour grapes on your part. Evaluate your own needs in a husband and write them down. I dare you. I'm right and you know it. You can attempt to throw anger at some guy or try to suggest that he's somehow not worthy of you but the problem here is your demands. If you (as the female collective) are too demanding then men will turn their backs on you. Take stock of your life. You're single. Maybe I'm right.
Ha-ha, if a man I am not interested in turns his back on me, than there is no harm done. I don't see any problem there. | |
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Posted: 9/16/2008 1:18:29 PM |
Posted By: missy_pq(d490584) on 5/25/2006 1  17 AM Message: I keep seeing threads about guys going out of the country to find a wife. Has anyone ever seen a woman with a mail order husband?
Every man that has a "mail order bride", as you put it, IS a mail order husband, as well. | |
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Posted: 9/16/2008 1:53:13 PM |
jsphn11: "Maybe it's true for an Asian mail-order bride, but not for an Eastern European one. I am surprised that you don't know about the changes that happen in women after living in the US for few years. They see people around them and compare. If her husband is a looser she would realize it soon. If there is love, then there will be a happy end. However, the way relationships develop for mail brides there is not much time to allow them to figure out whether he is the one for her. She wants to come to the US. Period. And will be nice to almost anyone who can be her fast-pass to get here."
In many country there are arranged marriages. In these countries and within the families who practice this the girls/women don't have expectations of marrying the guy they'd be in love with, they would approach this from the guidance of her parents. It would be much the same when she moves to the states to marry a man here then. I don't think a lifetime of cultural training like this is so easily dismissed as you're suggesting.
My take on this is that the immigrant can move to the states and be happy in her marriage. Your take on this is the opposite. I would suggest that I am an optimist and you are a pessimist and this is what is driving our opinions on the matter. | |
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Posted: 9/16/2008 2:02:11 PM | I haven't seen a mail order husband but I have seen a company here called Hubby for Hire
When I saw the truck go by with the logo I was curious at to what all they offer 
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Posted: 9/16/2008 4:36:18 PM |
In many country there are arranged marriages. In these countries and within the families who practice this the girls/women don't have expectations of marrying the guy they'd be in love with, they would approach this from the guidance of her parents. It would be much the same when she moves to the states to marry a man here then. I don't think a lifetime of cultural training like this is so easily dismissed as you're suggesting.
I think your knowledge of the subject is based on theory, and you don't know anyone who has or had a mail order bride. If this were an arranged by the parents marriage then the husband who lives in the US would be from the same culture. That's what you see in Indian families. Technically, it’s not even called a mail order bride. If it's an American husband to be, than he is going through the ads of women who placed their profiles on the personal sites. You can't call it arranged by parents.
My take on this is that the immigrant can move to the states and be happy in her marriage. Your take on this is the opposite.
I agree that the immigrant can be happy in her marriage, but just the fact of being married to an American is not the only component she needs to be happy.
I would suggest that I am an optimist and you are a pessimist and this is what is driving our opinions on the matter.
You can call yourself an optimist, but you are not realistic. I am talking from experience of chatting with some of those ladies. Only the ones who are married to men of their level are happy. When an old poor man marries a young and pretty woman who is ambitions and kind of materialistic that marriage will not last. As soon as she gets on her feet they are history. | |
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