| Loners - what gives ?
Posted: 9/25/2006 6:01:06 PM | I am a huge loner, not shy at all as most people would believe. I have no problem at all standing up for myself and if needed I can be the most noticable person in any situation but I do prefer to spend the majority of my time alone or with a SO or just doing things on my own but just trying to find a woman is dam near impossible as it seems they are all social butterflies which is my 100% complete opposite.
Where would a loner type guy go to meet a loner type woman? If they had meeting for people like us should I be surprised if nobody showed up? and if I showed up could I call myself a loner anymore? | |
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| Loners - what gives ?
Posted: 9/25/2006 7:16:50 PM | Sounds just like the guy I have been going out with....he says he is not the marrying kind but he once was engaged to someone he had been with for 9 years..but broke it off when she told him she was marrying someone else...she was seeing someone else behind his back..BECAUSE ..after 9 years..you figured the wedding should have already have taken place...now this has backed up his BACHELOR claim.
We get along real well..no arguments ..heck, I have even put flowers on his mom and dads grave..thats how close we are...BUT
He is on here..looking and talking to women..and when I call him on it..he deletes it and installs a new profile..saying that he already told me that he was not looking to have a girlfriend or to get married..a cop out ..I say..
I just don't want to go down the 9 years his ex went down and still was gettingt closer to a commitment than I am... | |
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| Loners - what gives ?
Posted: 9/25/2006 10:40:25 PM | Let me see:
Bit of a loner
Stares off into space for hours musing
Interesting to talk to
Probably a bright spark who gets bored with average folk and is quite happy in his own company (living wise) but enjoys short bursts of company who visit
Living full time with someone else would cramp his style and frustrate the bejeezus out of him
The 'asexual' remark showed remarkable ignorance and judgementalism
I live a similar life. I am not asexual, but neither am I stupid or desperate.
My neighbours call me the wicked witch of the west
I correct to them to the white witch of the east
All is good
And people no longer BUG ME to 'find a nice bloke and settle down'
As if your happiness is only to be found in someone else
tap tap
Was that log hollow? | |
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| Loners - what gives ?
Posted: 9/25/2006 11:08:56 PM | | I'm a loner because my past rejections left me believing nobody would want to be my friend. They saw something here they didn't like. I get that, even though I don't see it myself. | |
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| Loners - what gives ?
Posted: 8/3/2009 9:28:23 PM | I have read a great deal of the posts here and I would like to mention a few things.
1. Schizoid Personality makes up 1% of the population. Schizoid Personality !=loner.
2. Most of the posts here actually are from people saying they consider themselves loners.
3. asexual isnt required to be a loner. there is this new thing that has been around for a few thousand years called....masterbation....maybe some have tried it? its not asexual.
I believe more and more people are going to become loners becuase in all honesty technology has given us so much we can do alone and some of it is down right amazing.
That said I have read that introvert brain actually processes information differently which also allows them to enjoy solitary things more and given that modern technology has given us HUGE amounts of things to do alone I think its the new thing.
and on that, leave me alone!:) just joking | |
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| Loners - what gives ?
Posted: 8/3/2009 9:34:39 PM | You're being judgemental.
Lots of people live alone for a reason. | |
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| Loners - what gives ?
Posted: 8/3/2009 9:41:22 PM | | You're being judgemental. I am 45, never been married, no kids, however I have lived with someone, I have come close to getting married, I have lived and I have loved. Why I am single by choice is a long and sordid and ugly story. I won't say I will never get married or live with someone or love again, but when you have been through what I have been through you would understand. | |
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| Loners - what gives ?
Posted: 8/3/2009 9:50:14 PM | "There are also people that just never desire any relationships. It is called a Schizoid personality disorder."
One of the things that puts clinical psychology right up there with "sciences" like phrenology or astrology is its reliance on impressive-sounding but ultimately vacuous terminology. Undoubtedly there are people who isolate themselves to a pathological degree. But when anyone talks about X Disorder or Y Syndrome, pretty much all it means is that the American Psychological Association lumped a bunch of adjectives together under a category in the DSM.
Wasn't so very long ago that the same "scientists" were clucking about the "disorder" of homosexuality, and "curing" recalcitrant people through lobotomies*. Their counterparts in the USSR were doing pretty much the same thing, but with a slightly different set of diagnostic criteria....
* Nowadays, things like Ritalin and Valium and Prozac do the same job a lot more cheaply. | |
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| Loners - what gives ?
Posted: 8/3/2009 10:21:51 PM | | some of the most beautiful kind men in the world, have never had the opportunity to marry someone , had kids and/or get divorced in thier 40's...everyone I have ever met like that has certainly been in love once if not many times....and knows about heartache and relationships. I don't really believe, that anyone wants to be alone forever. | |
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| Loners - what gives ?
Posted: 8/3/2009 10:30:58 PM | I have a good friend who has never been married, lives with no one, enjoys his own company immensely, and is as sane as I (uh, more sane than I). He lacks not for human interaction, is a professor at a University, goes backpacking with mates he's known for decades, and leads a relatively normal, un-plagued life while living alone. He comes over in the the fall to watch the local college football games, joins in holiday meals, is always ready to pop over for special grilling events, and is totally on the other side of the political spectrum from me -- yet we have been known to discuss our political differrences respectfully. I have helped him remodel his house, he has helped with projects around my house.
Is he any more abnormal than I who have had and will have relationships?
I am of the mind that he is an asexual loner. He just lives in a different place on the sexuality spectrum than I do. It's not that life I would choose, but it seems to work for him. He is content.
TK
{no, really, not the life I would choose, really!} | |
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