| 40 year old virgin question?
Posted: 6/12/2006 3:13:32 PM | I have a friend like this who I believe is 39 and I did not run from him at all.......WHY would I? He does nothing to hurt me, he is a very caring and thoughtful human being and I personally have not noticed anything different or odd about him. If anything he is a lot more caring and thoughtful that a lot of men who have been sexual.
It his choice to wait until he finds the woman of his dreams and I accept that and respect that about him.............gee people give these guys/girls a break. We have become such a damning society that it makes me sooooooooooooooooooooo sad.
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| 40 year old virgin question?
Posted: 6/12/2006 4:57:51 PM | I was trolling (in the good way Mods) for interesting threads that I know at least a little something about and could contribute too in a meaningful way and look what I've found.
And "writer's" friend here (ME) is both not ashamed and is MAN enough to admit my virginity (and yes, I recently turned 39). I also accept her compliments most humbly  as I value her friendship and understanding. I send these  s out to you, dear friend!!
Now to the thread at hand:
I agree that some of the posters on here have chosen to behave immaturally and rashly!! Running away? Shame on you!! Just because guys like us, for whatever the reason, are still virgins at a later age in life doesn't mean we are like a plague that has to be escaped from.
Some of you ladies think that the guy is going to automatically fall in love with you the moment he climaxes and you will have to escape his clutches somehow. Got NEWS for you, most of us in this day and age probably won't (at least as long as we are not mislead as to why the sex is happening) so you can take a CHILL PILL and relax. If all you want is a quick lay, one nighter/weekender, or short fling there are virgins out there who would be happy to oblige just that. Guys who would like to learn and maybe have a chance to practice technique so when they do meet THE ONE who wants to spend the rest of their lives with them they have a clue where to start from and then learn what their partner enjoys most. And, as an earlier poster mentioned, you won't have to worry about STD's. Another side benefit, you won't have to deal with the ego of the guy who thinks he is "God's gift to women!!" and THINKS he knows all !! {Don't you just hate it when a man thinks he is getting the right spot and refuses to listen to what you are trying to tell him!!!}
Not all of us are handsome hunks but most are just your average joe (Ladies, look to the last show of this name for inspiration for finding someone who can truly fulfill you) and go unnoticed because we are generally on the quiet side or have genuine difficulties like S.A.D. Befriend us and see a real man blossum before your eyes who is as outgoing as you desire.
So, whether it is for religious reasons, personal choice, bad/no luck, S.A.D., or any combination thereof or something else entirely, VIRGINS are a part of our everyday life no matter whether they are near 40 or much younger or older and should always be shown the same respect as anyone else deserves. Sometimes deserve even more if their choice was to never take advantage of a girl/woman even though they could easily have done so. To them (like me) I say......BRAVO!! 
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| 40 year old virgin question?
Posted: 6/12/2006 5:00:12 PM | I'm a 35 year old virgin, and not gay or anything either. Just happy to not have made the biggest mistake of my life by:
1. Getting a woman pregnant who was uncertain about our relationship.
2. Getting some virus that is sexually transmitted.
3. Overcommitting to someone who did not show enough interest.
I do not like to force anything on anyone. I've met a few women I'm quite attracted to, but none have turned into someone who wants to get engaged with me. It isn't because I'm anti-social either. Just haven't met women who are ready to get into a serious relationship. And they realized it just about the same time I did.
So we parted company and went off our own ways. Some I occasionally make contact, but it seems they aren't interested in anything else.
For those women who would go the other way, give a guy the chance to be himself, and show that he can be kind, friendly, empathetic, a listener. Some take longer simply because they have not the experience of being social. Sometimes that's the curse of being smart, is that you get obsessed by computers, and other technical things, and you make women afraid that you'll outsmart them. Well let me tell you, of all the women I've met, most could outsmart me at at least one thing. Knowing how to make small talk. You want someone real, genuine, ready to be your only one, well consider that they have known no other, the virgin is the ideal person to meet. So no matter what age they are, give them a chance to be yours. | |
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| 40 year old virgin question?
Posted: 6/13/2006 7:24:49 AM | | You know, I think it really depends on how you feel about that person. If I was attracted to him and got to know him and felt comfortable being with him than why not? When you are in a relationship you learn from each other what pleases you. So a man that isn't experienced is just a man that's more open to learning in my opinion...lol | |
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| 40 year old virgin question?
Posted: 6/13/2006 7:33:37 AM | | tedjmil....47 virgin?? I can see if you were retarded to be a 47 old virgin. did you ever kiss someone before?? | |
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| 40 year old virgin question?
Posted: 6/13/2006 8:04:26 AM | crossroad, I like your attitude! Don't ever change it. Sex doesn't define a person but
who the person is emotionally, mentally and intellectually and persons' ability to love deeply.
Sex is. an expression of that love for another and completes the intimacy. By itself it's meaningless. | |
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| 40 year old virgin question?
Posted: 7/12/2006 4:56:48 AM | You can`t be judgemental. The lady saying she would run the other way is the most heartless statement I think I have heard yet. I am sure there are far more virgins out there, but because you have some hate filled ignorant people out there, they keep it in the closet.
There are alot of reasons why a person might still be a virgin.
It could be choice. There are some who abstain for religous reasons -- even up to the ripe old age of 40.
First he might be painfully shy. Lets face I am sure most painfully shy guys are probably virgins. And maybe they are justifiably shy because they aren`t that attractive to women.
(I do advise like this though, that confidence(without being****) can easily compensate for looks.)
A few mentioned a low sex drive. That can be too. If that is your case, I might seek some medical attention though as there are some underlying medical conditions that can cause this.
There are also many unusual circumstances that people are in. We shouldnt overlook the socio economic factor either. I knew a guy who was a virgin till he was 32 because he was dirt poor, as was his family. Never could get enough money to buy a car or the proper wardrobe. And Im talking real poor. This guy grew up not knowing where his next meal was going to come from. His self esteem suffered because of that. Once he had his car,good job finished school, he finally had an interest in women.
Its a deviation from the norm, but you can`t be hateful and judgemental. But unfortunately many people are. I`m sure if someone got news of some "40 yr old virgin" in my neck of the woods, there would be a lynch mob after him -- he`d probably would be killed. | |
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| 40 year old virgin question?
Posted: 7/12/2006 10:24:43 AM | lol....I recently saw the movie too, it's was okay. I do agree though, I really couldn't believe that his co-workers took such an interest in his virginity.
I'm a 25 year old virgin and I basically figure that out of all the co-workers I have had...none of them would care about a personal matter such as that.
It is possible to be an adult and be a virgin, and be completely normal. There's nothing wrong with it. So, if I met someone that was my age or older that was a virgin, well good for him. We could deffinately be friends. | |
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| 40 year old virgin question?
Posted: 7/12/2006 10:43:06 AM | | If I met a woman who was a virgin at my age, I'd make a distracting movement, and then run while she was looking the other direction. | |
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| 40 year old virgin question?
Posted: 7/12/2006 1:02:29 PM | | Remember the basketball player A.C. Green? He waited until he got married when he was 38 years old. He now runs a youth foundation that recomends abstinence. | |
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| 40 year old virgin question?
Posted: 7/12/2006 7:21:00 PM | A 40-year-old, never married virgin? As a Christian, I'd be highly impressed, as I myself am waiting for my husband. I've (unfortunately) had to come to terms with the fact that the man I eventually marry, a Christian man, will probably not have waited for me. I suppose that's just the way society is, huh? I'm still waiting though, more for myself than for my husband to be quite honest. I'm not so sure that a bride's virginity is really respected or valued anymore. Times are changing! But I respect myself and my own virginity, and so I have chosen to wait.
How has this post ended up being about me? Enough about me! haha... A man who's chosen to wait, and managed to wait, 40 years to meet his wife gets my respect. | |
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| 40 year old virgin question?
Posted: 7/12/2006 9:11:16 PM | I'm a 23 yr old virgin. I have no interest in trying to get into someone's pants for bragging rights or so someone doesn't label me as a loser. Not to say I didn't have a couple opportunities, but I just didn't have any sexual interest in someone I didn't love and was just whoring herself out to me. I guess that makes me an abnormal man, but oh well.
I'm right there w/ ya. I'm curious...why the hell does everyone think virginity is such a bad thing? Its just confusing. You'd think having had partners would be worse, but apparently thats not the case anymore... | |
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| 40 year old virgin question?
Posted: 7/18/2006 9:30:28 PM | | I loved the movie and thought it was hilarious. I also enjoyed the ending where he finds his true love. It shows that getting to know the inside of the person ( their dreams, thoughts, interests, character etc) is the most important and sex when both are ready is the icing on the cake. I know people who are virgins for religious reasons and want to wait for marriage but still have full, interesting lives but just havn't met the right one yet. Having sex is not indicator of success in a relationship. How many people have had sex early in a relationship and it still ends poorly. I once dated a physically attractive man who had a very shallow personality. I was not interested in being physical with him as his shallowness on the inside was unattractive to me. Needless to say, the relationship didn't last long. Attractiveness is not only skin deep, it includes the whole person. In my opinion, the best relationships start with connecting with the inside of the person. | |
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| 40 year old virgin question?
Posted: 7/18/2006 11:47:59 PM | HOw would I react.??
I'd wonder why. And I wouldn't make any decisions or assumptions. There are too many options for the reasons why.
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- relegious nut - fridgid - man hater - LOOKs too pure to get laid. | |
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| 40 year old virgin question?
Posted: 7/19/2006 7:57:38 PM | Anybody no that Guy who discovered Gravity
I think his name was Sir Issac Newton.
On his Death Bed he was asked what his greatest accomplishment was:
He answered, "Living my whole life as a Virgin."
Hey Look how smart 'George Costanza' became after he stopped having sex. | |
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| 40 year old virgin question?
Posted: 7/19/2006 9:47:45 PM | Well, I'm not a woman.
But if I was, I would definitely give it up to him. But then again, I'm a slut...:) JK.... | |
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Posted: 7/19/2006 10:15:58 PM | 40 year virgin? ya mean it's possible? well I thought it was just a funny sounding title [shrug]
Here's what I think..A SEXUAL. I hope those that are are smart enough to realise they are and to clue the rest of us in when appropriate!
The capn' has spoken. | |
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calaf
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| 40 year old virgin question?
Posted: 7/20/2006 4:57:06 AM | | I had heard that about Newton. As I remember it he was super-neurotic about the whole thing. He couldn't deal with the penis being used for urination as well as sex. | |
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| 40 year old virgin question?
Posted: 7/20/2006 8:58:10 AM | | I don't really get it, why do women ridicule men who are virgins. I would think that the message men would get from that is that they need to lose their virginity as quick as possible so that they can 'appear' normal, experienced, and confident....as well as gain acceptance from their male counterparts. Do you really want to be the girl some guy loses his virginity to so that he can appeal to other women when you two are through. I think if virginity in general wasn't seen as such a negative thing, men would feel more comfortable in waiting till they were ready or found the right person. | |
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| 40 year old virgin question?
Posted: 8/22/2006 10:53:24 AM | | Well... it depends if you mean i just met him, and it was our first date, and i was basically looking to get laid then i would say "sorry... but see ya later". if we had been dating for sometime and i loved him or even just really liked him alot i would stay with him and work on it. LOL!! | |
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| 40 year old virgin question?
Posted: 8/22/2006 11:06:57 AM | Kimm that was one of the rare few mature responses on this board. Im a 39 year old virgin
and im actually waiting till marriage but from most of the responses i have seen from the women on this board i can truely say that most of you havent matured yet and some are in your 40's. Our society has focused so much on the act of sex itself that it has forgotten how special and unique it is. I say thank god for the way my parents brought me up and the woman i will marry will feel the same way about sex or she wont be my woman period. Most of you women seriously need to go back to kindergarden and im talking about the kindergarden of life. | |
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Posted: 8/22/2006 11:09:32 AM | | Sportsdude if ur goal is to wait till marriage u might have to stay a virgin till 40, if not then anyone can get sex and im sure u can also if u really wanted to. Just make sure u do it the way u feel comfortable with dude. | |
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