indri
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Joined: 10/30/2005
Msg: 101 | |
| 40 year old virgin question?
Posted: 9/22/2006 8:35:10 PM | i have nothing against virgin, for example, could be a priest who met the love of his life at forty although he observed his vows all before......
the only problem i'd have with a virgin of any age is that..... well..... we wouldn't know what to do..... and that is not because i am a virgin myself mind you..... it's just that i can't figure out being there and explaining all that.....
then again, you know what, if it did happen to me to fall in love with someone who's a virgin for GOOD reasons..... i probably just wouldn't care at all...... now, there's left to define good reasons..... the priest's the only one that comes to mind really.... ever seen a really sexy priest?... ' '
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| 40 year old virgin question?
Posted: 9/22/2006 9:01:58 PM | Why this is an issue is beyond me..I'm still one and if a man wants to run the other way just because I am then it's his loss. I have chosen to wait for love and not be the typical female of our generation. SEX is not what a relationship should be built on ..It's important but first things are first..I realize my point of view is old fashioned, but lust fades .Just look at all the cheaters online..If love was truly in the equation in those relationships then the man or woman would not NEED to be looking outside their bedroom for fun!..When you truly care about someone then your sex life should be fine and you should be able to talk about your needs, wants and desires and not have to shop around for it outside the relationship!
Anyway, too each his own and it's a matter of values, morals, and what matters to you.Many people see nothing wrong in bed hoping and again that's their choice; however, so many of those relationships fail..Why? Chances are they never got to know one another as people first and just let the sex rule..Then they find out later that they don't even like one another or would even be friends aside from the sex..Yea, that may be great fun but again to me I would much rather wait until a man came along who stuck around and didn't let virginity be his ruler for staying with me... I've always believed when I found the right man then intimacy would not be an issue. If a man simply says, YUG, you are a virgin therefore I can't get laid, so I won't waste my time with you, well sorry charlie he ain't the man I want to spend time getting to know in the first place!.."
By the way experience is not the key to being a great lover..First key is realizing no matter how many people you sleep with, we are all different and what turns one person on, may not turn another one...So you may have slept with a number of people but still have no clue how to please someone..
To many I may be a joke and that's ok...However, If I can withstand peer pressure or whatever and hold out for my own values, then perhaps if a man truly wants someone who will be faithful, loving and family oriented, then perhaps I'm not that big a joke after all..
Virginty should not be the issue when making a decison about getting to know someone and if it is YOUR main concern, then you are focusing on all the wrong things...God Bless all and Good luck in your search.. | |
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| 40 year old virgin question?
Posted: 9/22/2006 11:27:02 PM |
But I believe guys should get that first one out of the way quick. Then when you meet a great girl, you won't be obsessed with performance anxiety. You've already done it, you know you can, and you have an idea what to do with her.
I used to think that way...but my experience tells me the exact opposite...
try to "get that first one out of the way" and you end up trying to sleep with someone who:
-you're not attracted to
OR
-you're only in "lust" with because you're both drunk and she's kinda cute....
...now the lust can be OK if you manage to run into a girl who doesn't do things in bed to turn you off....(ie. not DO anything at all)
...best to wait for a connection so both will actually have the desire to turn eachother on...instead of just focusing on "getting sex" or "getting the first one out of the way"
...on the other hand...some sluts can get performance anxiety when they meet "the one" (for lack of a better term) because their emotional attatchment gets in the way.... | |
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| 40 year old virgin question?
Posted: 9/23/2006 8:04:24 PM | I have total respect for you being a virgin, orchid38, but you seem to be on a different planet.
SEX is not what a relationship should be built on
Nobody said it was. Plenty of relationships are not built on sex, yet sex is part of their relationship.
but lust fades
I beg to differ. I was in love and lust with everyone woman I dated, right until we broke up. And sometimes after.
When you truly care about someone then your sex life should be fine
A healthy sex life needs more than just love, it depends on more factors. Love does not automatically guarantee an awesome sex life.
By the way experience is not the key to being a great lover..
Sex advice from a virgin?
No one thinks you are a joke for being a virgin. But you sure are quick to put sex down or make it sound disgusting or blame it for failed relationships. Most of us have had relationships as virgins also. So we know first hand what part sex plays in a relationship. All you know is what you've read.
Good luck though. | |
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| 40 year old virgin question?
Posted: 9/23/2006 10:06:25 PM | It depends on the person as an individual just like wioth anything else. Why are they a virgin? Do they chose to be? Couldn't get any? lol Totally depends...
BTW, The 40 year old Virgin was one of the most hilarious movies I have ever seen! I laughed my ass off! | |
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| 40 year old virgin question?
Posted: 9/24/2006 5:35:40 AM | I liked the movie for the sake of it being a movie, not because the individual was literally a 40 year old virgin. It was "the way" he portrayed the character, not the characters sexual history, or lack-there of.
If someone is 40 years old, and a virgin -- hey, I can't judge them. I have no idea what reasons they've not had intercourse. | |
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| 40 year old virgin question?
Posted: 2/11/2007 2:02:33 PM |
I don't really get it, why do women ridicule men who are virgins. I would think that the message men would get from that is that they need to lose their virginity as quick as possible so that they can 'appear' normal, experienced, and confident....as well as gain acceptance from their male counterparts. Do you really want to be the girl some guy loses his virginity to so that he can appeal to other women when you two are through. I think if virginity in general wasn't seen as such a negative thing, men would feel more comfortable in waiting till they were ready or found the right person.
Women ridicule men who are virgins because women have this perception that men who are virgins are inferior, less of a man than other men, and therefore not worthy of them. The reason behind this perception is that 95% of adults have had sex, and so if those men fail to do what 95% of men did, they must be less of a man than 95% of men.
There is a say that goes that the reasonable man changes himself to fit the world, while the unreasonable man tries to change the world to fit himself.Our society has decreed that virginity is shameful; therefore, you can be reasonable about it, and join the rest of humanity, or you may be unreasonable and go about trying to convince other people that your alternative lifestyle is somehow superior.
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| 40 year old virgin question?
Posted: 2/11/2007 3:53:51 PM | If you dont use it -do you lose it??? -that movie was the funniest thing i have seen since scary movie 3... i would love to have friends and co workers like them     <img src=http://www.plentyoffish.com/smiles/icon_201.gif border=0>         | |
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| 40 year old virgin question?
Posted: 2/12/2007 3:57:37 PM | Well, when the question comes up, there's really only one right answer: "Sure I am. Just like Justin Timberlake told the media when he was still dating Britney Spears."
Sure, you're all saying "I'd run" or any other close-minded response. If someone will reject you outright just based on that, you're probably better off. And like it shoulda been said a zillion times before: you say that now, but everything else is in place (personality, confidence, attitude, etc. etc. etc.), then it won't matter at all. Seriously.
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| 40 year old virgin question?
Posted: 2/12/2007 4:10:54 PM | well i wouldnt run the other way as fast as i could just because i met a guy who was a 40 year old virgin. if i like him i would still want to get to know him and maybe when he was comfortable would tell me what the reasons are. there must be some good and probly interesting reasons as to why he is waiting. sex isint everything and it wouldnt stop me from wanting to hang out with and get to know the guy.  | |
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| 40 year old virgin question?
Posted: 2/12/2007 6:21:00 PM | First off, I thought that movie was hilarious...
Secondly, I prefer a man with a bit of experience. | |
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| 40 year old virgin question?
Posted: 2/12/2007 8:07:10 PM |
Secondly, I prefer a man with a bit of experience.
why?? its not rocket science. its one of the most natural things humans can do. do you remember your first kiss?? did you not just "know" what you were doing?? | |
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| 40 year old virgin question?
Posted: 2/12/2007 8:15:59 PM |
why?? its not rocket science. its one of the most natural things humans can do. do you remember your first kiss?? did you not just "know" what you were doing??
Anyone can have sex. Not everyone can get me off. | |
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| 40 year old virgin question?
Posted: 2/12/2007 9:00:42 PM |
Anyone can have sex. Not everyone can get me off.
well don't you think a bit of communication is in order then??? | |
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| 40 year old virgin question?
Posted: 2/13/2007 4:39:16 AM |
well don't you think a bit of communication is in order then???
I've tried that. Some people are just hopeless.
It's a preference. You don't have to understand it. | |
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| 40 year old virgin question?
Posted: 2/13/2007 5:02:59 AM |
for me i have had many oppertunities, had a few test and tempt me.. but i have stood by my faith and morals and am going to until the day i get married or die (which ever comes 1st)
I'm sorry, but to me it's just not normal for a man especially, to be celibate at 30. Good luck trying to find that good-hearted unselfish woman, though... 
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| 40 year old virgin question?
Posted: 2/13/2007 5:24:35 AM |
well don't you think a bit of communication is in order then???
The poster you refer this to makes it sound like it's a one shot audition. | |
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Tramp
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Joined: 2/8/2007
Msg: 118 | |
| 40 year old virgin question?
Posted: 2/14/2007 6:56:58 AM | Hey, how about me. Why should one loose virginity.
I have been in a frozen display case until today, I am saving it for the soul-mate.
Sacrifice, sacrifice.... | |
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| 40 year old virgin question?
Posted: 2/14/2007 7:58:05 AM | | When I was 19 I met a guy and we were dating and he told me that he was a virgin, he was also 19 at the time, I know this sounds bad but I couldn't get over the fact that he was still a virgin at that point I myself had only been with one person so I was freaked out by it. If I was to meet a guy now that was a virgin I wouldn't react the same way. I actually think it may be more of a turn on that he respected himself enough to wait until he found the right woman to be with. | |
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calaf
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Joined: 2/27/2006
Msg: 120 | |
| 40 year old virgin question?
Posted: 2/14/2007 8:58:55 AM | | He waited till 19!?!? I can see why that freaked you out. NOT. But the original question was about a 40 year old virgin. I gave a good example of a good well adjusted person who waited until marriage at age 38 - the basketball player AC Green. There is nothing freaky about it. Or him. | |
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lala69
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Joined: 10/31/2006
Msg: 123 | |
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| 40 year old virgin question?
Posted: 7/10/2007 3:34:10 PM | OH PLEASE give me strength!!! strange as it may seem....ever think there may just be SOME GUYS out there, that, well just never LUCK of meeting really anyone where thing GOT that far what-ever reason......and with all PICKY PICKY PICKY people out there....I wouldnt dout it. oh and I certainly would have written you directly..vs posting on here, but wasen't able to for obvious reason's.
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| 40 year old virgin question?
Posted: 7/10/2007 4:01:58 PM | A 40 YO virgin woman is either brainwashed by religion, has deep-seated issues with sex, or is extremely undesirable (like weighing 500lbs). I can understand a late bloomer, but 40? Women rate my profile pic at just a 3, and I still get action. :)
BTW I thought the movie was hilarious! | |
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