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Posted: 6/19/2007 11:17:18 PM | I know this is mainly for single parents of Autistic children, but I thought I'd post being I'm an Autistic. I was diagnosed with High fuctioning Autism in 1998 (11 years old)...or if you really want to get technical, Asperger's Syndrome. I've gone through my ups and downs and I'm doing great to this day. I'm taking courses in University (not the task program, but rather courses in Early Childhood Education). I have found Special Olympics to be a great activity to make new friends and succeed in many sports.
I'm interested in meeting others with Autism and even parents too to help share a little hope with them. Many people think (as already mentioned) that all Autistic people are alike and that they all are non-verbal and hand flap. Then they take a look at me, and can't believe it. I've given many parents hope for their Autistic children because of my success over the years. I've also worked with others with Autism, and currently working with a young boy one on one.
If you have any questions reguarding what it's like to have Autism, or would just like to chat with me, feel free to ask me either on here or by message. And no question that you have will be offending to me. I like it when others are curious about things. | |
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Posted: 8/4/2007 5:23:54 PM | im a single mum, to a 6yr old autistic boy im currently dating a guy off here. ive been with him a year now and its not been easy has the bigest issue, is my son n how i deal with him ranging from using drugs to calm him or ask to mate to have him, to sending him to a special school. this was cos he couldnt have a so called " normal " convo with like other kids. he also said after going to the shops 1 day he didnt like how people looked at us all while my son was having a tantrum at the shop. Mainly cos he never had tht experience before, where i had about 4 yrs of it. was also to do with how tired i became after 1 of my sons tantrums . What i said is that in future to discuss whats on his mind and whats bothering him at the time . It worked i find also my son loves him coming round n interacts with my boyfriend in his own way like i said he would. I know it will work in the end wished it didnt take 5yrs to find him tho  | |
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Posted: 8/5/2007 10:21:46 AM | | I am not a parent with an austistic child, but a dance major,and a dance teacher.I am interested in working with kids with special needs, using dance as therapy.Has anyone here ever had anything liek that for their children? I am trying to find out what kind of job market there is, or what other degrees i am going to need.(i am getting a bachelors in dance). I have taught for 10 years now, and had a couple of special needs students, but have not had any students with Austism.Any infor or comments are appareciated! | |
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Posted: 8/9/2007 11:00:54 AM | | my son is 11 and has high functioning autism what i find difficult and upsetting is how lonely and isolating his life is compared to others his age. he does nt do what others do like football etc so dont mix as much and hasnt got the confidence to go and play out and about much, also people dont quite understand his sense of humour or ways . he understands what is different about him but i am dreading him going to high school in sept! | |
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Posted: 8/10/2007 3:07:58 PM | | Hi, my nephew is autistic, I'd say in the severe level, he's 6. He goes through phases of different kind of stemming: he's very fascinated with ropes/strings, pretty much anything he can manipulate and put into loops, then he had a phase of throwing things on the floor to make loud sounds, then to screaming/screaching which he's doing now. He has classes at home and he will be in 1st grade special ed that's focused on just having autistic kids. His school at home, the teachers/supervisor, they don't know how to prevent the screaming/screaching. So I was wondering if anyone has gone through this with their child or know anyone who has gone thru it and what worked ot help at least minimize the screaming/screaching. | |
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Posted: 8/10/2007 3:35:51 PM | I am a mum of 2 teenage boys. The 15 year old has ADHD, the 13 year old has ADHD, Aspergers Syndrome, Epilepsy, Diabetes and they are now looking into bi-polar and odd as a possibility.... yes it is hard work parenting them but I love them with all my heart.
i try and involve them withfriends children and am about to take them to a POF picnic this sat and possibly sunday but it is hard for them to mix with other children, particularly the youngest. It is also wearing as many adults cast judgements on him and indeed me without them knowing the full picture - I often want to be wearing a t shirt that says my son has hidden disabilities so that they get the picture...but I bite my tongue and try to explain as much as possible.
There is a group near me called the crusaders that is for children with autistic related discorders and we are going to join in September. The youngest also goes to a disabled archery club and he adores it...everyone accepts everyone else and they have a fantstic time...my fear is for a few years time when he will be 'on his own' in many ways....but we take each day as it comes.
If anyone wants to email me to chat then I'm more than happy.
Take care all and remember to focus on the child within not the outward behaviour.
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Posted: 8/10/2007 3:42:53 PM | ^^^from my experience with workng with severvely developmental delayed persons, some autistic, most non verbal with iq's less than 70, when they scream they are wanting something....remember this...key phrase that i learned in school..."all behaviour is communication"...so when an autistic individual is displaying a behaviour that person is trying to communicate something.
If your autistic child is verbal, lucky you, you can try to communicate with them. Patience is the key. Repitions and teaching are important.
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Posted: 8/10/2007 3:58:31 PM | | I see your point, and sometimes he does it for attention, when he doesnt' get what he wants, but for the most part he does it because he's stems from it (somehow he gets stimulation when he is screaming, reason why I say he's stemming because he didn't do this til after he was going thru a phase of throwing things, when that was gone, the screaming occured) they've tried food intolerance, foods he don't eat, but the foods he won't eat he now eats and he laughs when they give him the food so they can't force him to eat it. I don't know about other autistic kids but my nephew likes to do things repetitiously and in a pattern. He has improved tho, because before he screamed a lot and now it's just sometimes. When he doesn't have class during the weekend, he screams more. | |
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Posted: 8/13/2007 2:21:07 PM | there was something like reaching a autistic child through music n dance but im not sure if its still about in nottingham i did find a site tht has some things related to that if its any help http://mikestanton.wordpress.com/2006/06/03/creative-partnerships/
as for bein thankful your is vocal not all good it took my son about 5 yrs to start talking again but its not words u want to hear sometimes as he at the echo stage but very repetitive with certain words as for behaviour coping i went on courses to cope with it sometimes they work but its the situation area etc heres what courses i been on
more than words, autism in primary schools, positive parenting, time out for parents, w.o.t.c.h ( which was very useful for understanding and stopping bad behaviour), i also go to a autistic drop in at the local hospital the chilrens centre just finding playgroups and after school clubs that cater for children with disabilities.
an update on the guy im with hes recently told me that he wont get engaged or marry cos my son has tantrums in public n his parents find him very stressful . God help them if they was in my shoes
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Posted: 8/19/2007 7:26:46 PM | Well Goddess, I hear you loud and clear. Sometimes others who try to understand what you are going thru and sympathize and WANT to relate, just CAN'T. No matter how much you try unless you are a parent of special needs kids, you just can't handle the stress. As a single mom of two children with autism, I have resigned myself to the fact that no one will WANT a serious relationship with me because of the kids and their demands on me so I live life to the fullest, have fun with my friends and on this site, I go out to events and enjoy myself when I can. God chose me to mother my children for a reason, so here I am.
I hope everyone on this thread realizes how special you are to be a parent to these children. We can't cure them, but we can help make their lives better by having society accept them as they are and NOT what Society wants them to be. | |
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Posted: 8/19/2007 8:38:24 PM | hi there...
i am not sure what to think and how much to believe right now...am wondering if someone could help me out. i am a single mom with 2 beautiful lil children and my son turning 4 in a couple months has the pedritian telling he has adhd and autism. i have done many searches online and many different checklists describe my son, but not the entire list ever. he was born premature by 4 weeks has had a rocky first 18 months, pneumonia many many times, born with club feet, and other things too...has always been medicated for every thing and am worried now he gonna have problems with kidneys and liver and such as because all the different medications he has always been on, so not sure if i want to believe what the pedrian is telling me...sorry bad spelling...dont get me wrong though...if indeed he does have need for medication so he can get the best out of his lil life that i/we can give him then i will. not sure though thats all...so am wondering if anyone can help me out with their opinions an whatever?
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Posted: 8/19/2007 8:58:58 PM | | I have a son with aspergers syndrome. He is 8. This year he has decided he wants to attempt to play flag football against my better judgement. I do not want to limit him and he did ok at baseball, so we are going to attempt it. I know how you feel about back to school. This year my son will be going to a different school and I am afraid that things are going to get worse. Before he was in a small country school and now we moved to a larger city school. It just makes me nervous for him. My son has a lot of socialization problems and I often worry that he will be the blunt of others jokes because he often hits objects on his chin, rocks back and forth, and does many other things that are not socially appropriate for his age. He also does not play very well with others and often throws fits if things do not go his way. I am really worried about him as well. | |
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Posted: 8/20/2007 10:03:47 AM | I know just how you feel. I have a six year old girl that was diagnosed with autism last august. we are coming up to our one year. Before last year she could barley speak 10 words. Now through hard work, and some excellent teachers that took their time, she can almost talk she is still way behind but it's not as bad as it was. I find it hard because all my friends with kids, don't have this problem. When they look at my duaghter they see a normal kid, just out of control and that is not the case. As I am sure you all know. She was also diagnosed with ADHD, and possiable bi polar.
It's hard being a single mom of any child but then you add a disablity to it, and it's darn near impossible to find that special someone who wants to take all that on too. I am still trying to find out all that she can qulify for since being disabled, just not sure where to look at. Any advice. | |
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Posted: 8/20/2007 4:44:38 PM | Greetings all.... I use to post under Wakanda last year, but left POF for a while. I am trying to contact SpyderHam... the one who started this tread, If anyone know how to get a hold of him or if he changed siggy's like I have, please let me know. I found some research he had asked about.
For the rest of you here's an interesting read. I have this printed on my desk at work and sometimes read it 2 - 3 times.
I am ..............for mothers.
By Michelle Guppy
I am the little engine that did. When on my journey in life, my tracks led me to a mountain - a diagnosis of Autism - I looked at it with defeat - thinking there was no way I could climb over it. I then pondered the obstacle before me, and I then said to myself over and over, "I think I can, I think I can...," then I slowly started climbing the mountain saying to myself over and over, "I know I can, I know I can,...." and then I made it over that ominous diagnosis of Autism and continued my journey. I am the little engine that did.
I am more devoted than Noah's wife. I am cooped up in this "houseboat" for 365 days and 365 nights a year, constantly taking care of and cleaning up after my "herd of animals." And when the storms of isolation and monotony become most unbearable, I do not jump ship. Instead I wait for the rainbow that is sure to come.
I am Xena. Real life warrior goddess of Autism. With my steel plated armor I can fight anyone who gets in the way of progress for my child. I can fight the stares and ignorance of typpies - those without autism in their lives - and educate them as to why my child is the way he is, and why he does the things he does. I can fight the schools to have them properly educate my child. And I can fight denied insurance claims to get coverage for my child. Yes, I am Xena - and I am armed for battle...
I am Betsy Ross. I am part of History by my contribution to the Autism Awareness Quilt -- many pieces of fabric representing many states, stitched together, that will collectively symbolize Freedom. Freedom from the lack of information about Autism, Freedom from not knowing what causes Autism, and Freedom from the lack of funding and research to treat, overcome, and live with - Autism. Like Betsy's piece of fabric, my piece of fabric will someday sit in a museum, for others to see my 12.5 x 12.5 inch memorial of a battle well fought. Whether my child is "cured" in my lifetime does not matter, in the end what will matter to me and to my child, is that I never surrendered.
I am the Bionic Woman. I have X-Ray vision - I can see through the mask of autism on my child's face, and see the beauty in his soul and the intelligence in his eyes --- when others can't. I have super-hearing - I can look at my child when he smiles at me, and hear his voice say, "I Love You Mommy," --- even though he can't talk. Yes, I am thankful to be Bionic.
I am Mary. A not so well known mother of an Autistic child who was brought here to touch the souls of those around him, in a way that will forever change them. And it started with me. By teaching me things I would never have known, by bringing me friendships I never would have had, and by opening my eyes as to what really matters in life. Things like keeping the Faith, never losing Hope, and knowing a Love that that words cannot express. Yes, I too am blessed by a special child, just like Mary.
I am Superwoman. I am able to leap over tall loads of laundry in a single bound, and run faster than a speeding bullet, to chase my child as he dashes out the front door and heads for the busy street. Oh yes, without a doubt, I am Superwoman.
I am Moses. I am doing my part in leading other parents and society to more awareness, knowledge, and resources, and most of all - Faith. Like Moses did, I too, will sometimes meet with resistance from those who don't believe. And like Moses, God will give me the small Miracles here and there, needed to accomplish my mission.
I am Stretch Armstrong - a mom that can be stretched beyond belief - and still somehow return to normal. I can stretch limited funds to cover every treatment and therapy that insurance won't. I can stretch my patience as I explain my child's biomedical issues with yet another uneducated doctor. I can stretch what time I have, and share it with my husband, my
children, my church, and still have some leftover to help others. Yes, my name is Stretch. And I have the stretch-marks to prove it!
I am Rosa Parks. I refuse to move or waver in what I believe is right for my child --simply because my view is the minority, not the majority. I refuse to believe "What can one mother do?" But instead, I will write, call, and rally to the government, and do whatever it takes to bring equality for my child.
I am Hercules. The Greek god known for strength and courage. The heavy loads I must carry would make others crumble to the ground. The weight of Sorrow, Fear at uncertainty of the future, Injustice at having no answers, and from Tears of despair, would alone possibly be too much, --- even for Hercules. But then the Joy, Laughter, Smiles, and Tears of pride, - at my child's accomplishments, - balance the load to make it easy to bear.
I am touched by an Angel. An Angel who is often described as living in a world of his own. And it's true. He lives in a world of innocence and purity. A world without hatred or deceit. A world where everyone is beautiful and where no-one is ugly. A world where there is always enough time. A world where he goes to bed with no worries of tomorrow and wakes up with no regrets of the past. Yes, I most certainly am touched by an Angel, and I sometimes think that his world is better....
I am a mom of a special needs child, all the above, and so much more. Somedays I will want to be none of the above - and just be a typical mom with a typical child, doing typical things. On those days I will know it's o.k. to be angry, and to cry, and to lean on my friends for support. Because after all, ---the most important thing I am, ..... is human.
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And on this special day, and every other day I need to, I will read this as a reminder, of just who it is, ~ I am......
c. May 2000 By Michelle Guppy - for those "Special" mom's | |
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Posted: 11/2/2007 3:24:34 PM | update
ive been dumped cos he found my son too much in the morning and he wanted alot of attention when my son was there but its ot like he wasnt warned before i met with him i never hid that he was autistic n that it was easy cos it isnt sometimes butthen its his loss it hurts but il get over it i cant choose him over my son cos my son is a child n hes an adult
my son as now started to hit and pinch and bite n swear since this guy went teachers dont want him at school cos they cant control him has any1 else had this | |
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Posted: 11/2/2007 3:49:18 PM | | Sounds like he's going thru a phase, it could be his way of acting out stress since the environment has changed. since he bites/swears, give him foods that he can't tolerate. My nephew at one time screamed a lot, we gave him foods that he can't stand, and that has helped a lot. Does he have an aide with him at school? i forgot to look if ur in the states or not, but try to ask the school if they can provide an aide to go with him to school so he gets more one on one. It sounds like the biting/pitching is to get attention. does he do this at home too? He's using that as stemming as well so you need to redirect him to do programs to keep him occupied. I'd try the food intolerance, but you need to keep it consistent to make it effective. | |
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Posted: 11/2/2007 5:23:04 PM | I also have a 9 yr old son who is awaiting a final apointment at the hospital following a "multi agency meeting" or something along them lines, to either say he has or hasnt got aspergers ( though the doc he has been seeing believes him to have it and slight poss of ADHD also ). Its nice to be able to relate to other parents here going through the same issues, such as real problems at school with getting him to "access" the curiculum as the teachers put it , they all say he is a bright boy but is falling behind due to the problems with school , ie getting distracted so easily, annoying other pupils and so on, even at times being sent home early due to disruptive behaviour or worry about him hurting himself when he was banging his head off a window after being told off for something he did in the playground. I must say his school have been very understanding about him ( as they say he can be a lovely little boy ) and have pushed for getting help for him as they believed that he was lacking self confidence, had low self esteem and emotional insecurities, also that he seemed very depressed ( yet at home he seemed fine to me) but knowing what i do about aspergers these are all classic signs of someone with the syndrome but it never really clicked into place untill the doc at the hospital mentioned it , i have to say it was a relief to finally be told what may be the reason for my sons behviour for the last few yrs.
As for the dating part well i can but say my last partner whom i met when my son was just about 4 yrs old , from the start didnt click with my son and always thought he was just a "naughty child" ( wich im sure alot of you have had your child labelled as to ) so for about 3 yrs he was hard on my son expecting things from him that my son obviously found it hard to give , ie eye contact when being spoken to and not to always been competeing with his daughter who was a yr older ( we know that aspergers kids are all about me me me of wich they cant help its just how they are) and other things, then he was putting him down often ( again aspergers kids have low self esteem as it is so this didnt help ! ) ...anyways not being in that situation now i can look back at it and slot things all into place and be thankful that now not living with my ex partner , that he and my son now get on well and my son wishes to see him and by choice calls him dad. ( though i always have the guilt of allowing myself to let that situation carry on so long as i am weak i know )
Anyways sorry to of rambled on but it is nice to share with those who understand, and nice to read all the other stories :) | |
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Posted: 11/4/2007 1:08:42 PM | angelluv0,
as a parent with a 9 year old autistic child and a single mom that has been part of this new world for 6 years and met the most amazing people whom are autistic, it's great to read all this. You're not accepting messages from same gender but if you'd like to chat message me.
I met a man with aspergers at an adult panel and he's brought me hope, strength and peace seeing an adult with autism. My son is my light at the end of the tunnel, and I know this is the hardest obstacle in my life and I lead a very lonely life cause people don't understand the devotion and all I gave up for my child. He's my world, autistic or not and I wouldn't change it for anything. I pray one day he can do things alone and out of the nest.  | |
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Posted: 11/4/2007 5:47:34 PM | What a great forum.
It's difficult enough being a single parent, but being a single parent with a special needs child can be incredibly overwhelming at times.
My son who is now 7 was diagnosed as highly functioning autistic at 2 yrs old. We were lucky due to the dilligence of our doctor who immediately alligned us with specialists. As his diagnosis came early he made incredible strides. I am so proud of him and continue to see him grow and overcome obstacles on a daily basis.
There are still moments, but for the most part he is a healthy , independent and fully capable individual who is currently able to keep up with his classmates in mainstream school.
I'm lucky as the school he's at now is very active in ensuring his continued success.
I totally agree with one of the posts which indicated using a visual schedule to maintain routine. My son is very agreeable when he knows what is coming next. He doesn't like surprises .
I believe though , that all autists are individuals and it is through trial and error that we find what works best for their individual needs.
I wouldn't mind though, some advice on how to curb his hyperactivy. | |
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Posted: 11/5/2007 6:41:32 PM | My son was diagnosed at age 2 and I was divorced when he was three. The divorce rate is high with autism, but then again it's high period! He is now high functioning and doing beautifully! I had started a support group in my area about 4 years ago, I don't lead it anymore but it is still going strong and I still connect with them. I wouldn't have made it if I didn't have someone to talk to who understood the dynamics of the disability. Behavioral approaches are different and take careful planning and strategy. There are many times my son had a tantrum, (rarely now) and there was absolutely nothing I could do but sit and wait for it to end. I actually dated one man who went out and got a book on autism so he could better understand. We didn't work out, but I really appreciated his effort. I sympathize and support every parent raising a child with special needs!  | |
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Posted: 2/16/2008 11:59:40 AM | hi everybody on this thread
i have 2 boys ,my eldest -6 is dx autistic spectrum disorder,my 5 year old is not dx but often seems to think and do along the autistic scale -though not as severe as my 6 year old,
im also a single mum-ive had trouble with relationships because of the nature of my sons condition,ive found theres not alot of understanding about it........ive just about given up really-as all my energy and time goes on my children -id rather be on my own because i know how to deal with it -rather than going through explaining it all again to someone who at the end of the day fails to grasp the concept of it all.
anyway nice to read these posts and meet you all  | |
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Posted: 2/17/2008 11:06:40 AM | | so sorry to hear your problems with your sons school . i had to take on the education dept last yr firstly my son is incontanant . he was sent home covered in urine nappies were so damp he and other children were getting out class room . i went round 3 times and seen children from his class unsupervised in the corridor much to my horror. my son started behaving oddly for him . biteing himself eating his jumpers being very unsettled . he couldnt tell me he wasnt happy but boy did he get his little msg across . last straw was when the head teacher came to my door 1 hr after my son had been collected by the school bus . said he had got acess to the school gilateen and that he was being sent home as this behaviour was not aceptable . i said who s behaviour we talking about here your s and staff or a 5 yr old autistic child . he looked at me i said my son will never step foot in your school again , he never did . fact is b4 placement we should all check that the school has a specialist in autism i no now that school did not . a yr later new school my boy is happy . and the new school understands my boys needs . we have a right to no the teachers qualifications anyone can contact national autism assosation if they need help with education issues and my experiance is there great | |
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Posted: 2/17/2008 12:07:49 PM | I thgink the divorce rate for familes with an ASD child is about 80%. Never seen any stats on single parents with ASD kids and the success at long term relationships but from my experince its very rare.
My son is 4 and I've been raising him entoirely on my own for about 2.5 yrs. The relationships Ive had I couldnt mainatin as free time is so short and i usually spend it catching up on sleep. Im appauled at the professionals and their approach to ASD kids at times. Ive met a few gens that have been very valuable to my son but also some that youd want to drag behind your car in a cactus field. One daycae just let him sit in dirty diapers rolling a car around in the corner not even undressed from being out side and boiling hot. You complain and they retaliate. Isnt this about helpless little kids I ask myself and realise that compassion and compitancey isnt part of the job description. Yet the literature states how they are there to help the kid and the family...rubbish. Our government here had be taken to court in order for them to help ASD kids. Kinda says it all ,eh?
Good for you for fighting for child in the face of stupidity and finding a good place for him. Some days Im not sure if i have another fight in me. They dont want to support the parents beacuse that will make them more effective advocates. God knows how 'the man' doesnt like to be challeneged. But i rant...off to spend my respite time cleaning carpets.
Keep uo the good fight cause its all your kids have they can rely on. | |
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Posted: 11/15/2008 9:23:29 AM | I am no longer available to date...but I googled autism and saw your message...I am with a girlfriend now...who I met on the internet...and she has a severely autistic child.
I would be happy to talk about my dating experiences with her.
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Posted: 11/15/2008 4:27:35 PM | I am in the process of trying to get my almost 9 year old son diagnosised. He has many of the Asperger's symptoms. Fortunately for me his school principal is being proactive and we are proceeding forward with and IEP and some tools to help him in his areas of weakness without being formally assessed and diagnosed. Here it can be a long road to a formal assessment and diagnosis, but in the short three weeks since I had him in to see his GP and to get a referal going for assessment his school has held a school based team meeting that I was invited to which saw four very positive things happen as a result. First within two days they had taken his "normal" sized desk out and replaced it with a double desk ( huge work surface and storage area) for him to work at by himself. Second he was given an alphasmart keyboard and instruction on how to use it to assist him in the what is for him the very labourious task of hand writting everything out, although he will still have to print some things ( and next week I will talk to his teacher to see if cursive writing wouldn't be easier for him). Third they have insituted a playground plan for him ( the place where most of his social incidents occur). In conjunction with him every day a learning assistant connects with him before morning and lunch recess and they plan for one or two of his classmates to accompany him to the gym or a "less busy" part of the playground for them to do something which is more structured ( he has finally expressed an interest in trying to make social connections for the first time). Four .. all the adults that are connected to him in the school are using the same language when they talk to him. We have developed a firecracker analogy that he seems to be understanding when he lashes out and that he has a short fuse that burns quickly .. together we are all trying to help him realise when the fuse starts to burn and to extingish it before "he bangs" and in conjunction we are trying to help him "grow" his "fuse" longer. The week after next there are a minimum of 5 people ( it keeps growing it seems) meeting together to develop an IEP for him.
I am so fortunate to have found a school and a principal that insteed of wanting to just punish his outbursts and incidents ( mainly involving throwing and hitting) are trying to work to reduce his stress levels and find coping techniques that can be caught to help him learn how to better understand his behaviour. Like many in the autism spectrum he thinks differently and he has problems understanding language, that is commonly used, but makes little or no sense to him confusing him. He has real problems adapting to unexpected changes to routines, yet when properly coached and told of changes to the normal routine he can adapt and display appropriate behaviour modeling. Since these changes have occurred ( a relatively short period of time) we have seen his incident rate go from 2 - 3 incidents/meltdowns or near misses a day to one or two a week. He hasn't changed so much as those around him are better learning how to make his environment such that he is not placed in so many stressing positions. I am taking this as the first step in a long road of finding ways not to change him as a person but teaching him techniques to cope with social situtations. This is merely a stop gap will be employed until we can find ways and the appropriate help so he can learn coping techniques. | |
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