| Are We just kidding ourselves??????
Posted: 6/2/2006 6:52:58 AM | I don't think I'd call it kidding myself.
I suppose I could be trying harder - I've just recently started searching again and updating my profile...but I guess speaking from past experiences, I'm scared of the fish here! 
When I see the occasional, seemingly nice guy...or get an occasional nice e-mail...I respond, sometimes keep in contact. But I guess, all in all this would be called not looking. I'm here, a waste of space. Taking up breathing room. Wasting precious time. LOL Nah, I enjoy the forums, and like I said, there's the OCCASIONAL nice guy...and if he's nice enough, well then bye bye once again to my profile. | |
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| Are We just kidding ourselves??????
Posted: 6/2/2006 6:21:18 PM |
your own post shows you were talking to 2 women at the same time...what gives?
he has a bad case of Double-Standarditis.
it's quite common among the sub-species Masculinus-Jerkus. | |
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| Are We just kidding ourselves??????
Posted: 6/2/2006 6:32:34 PM | I've been on this site for just over a week and have had conversation with a number of men. I haven't taken the plunge for a date yet because I don't have the nerve. I've also only talked to one person on the phone.
I'm going to have to take the plunge soon because the ones that I've emailed seem very nice, but they will only be so patient!! | |
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| Are We just kidding ourselves??????
Posted: 6/2/2006 9:34:27 PM | I have no problem emailing anyone I look at it this way they will either talk or not there loss if they don't because I no I am a good person!
Now what in the hell is with this FATCHICK thing I am a BBW proud of it I think to hell with it if someone does not like the way I look MOVE ON but I get alot of msg and not from freaks or pervs but from some really great people!!!!
But that could be that I don't have high standards when I rate someone on the site I usually will after watching them post in the forum for a while read their pf and then if I think they have a great attitude I will give them an above average rating or I may even send them a msg to let then no what I am thinking.............
I think that confidence goes along way and people can see that you are either confident or you are someone in need it is all in the way that you carry yourself your attitude and the way you express yourself that will bring in the fishies. No you don't have to sell yourself just be yourself........
And to the young lady that keeps calling herself a FATCHICK your beautiful so I think you should start calling yourself a beautiful chick not a fatchick!!!!!!! | |
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Posted: 6/2/2006 9:47:16 PM | I have been on here also for over a year...... and i have met a few off of here........but there was no sparks. I have not been out on a date since before xmas. I have talked to a few but havent gone any farther than talk. I guess i am in the not sure what i want stage........ so lately i have been sticking to the forums and not even checking out profiles........ but i am sure that in time i will be checking them out again.........
but for now......... read and post and enjoy the forums.................. | |
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| Are We just kidding ourselves??????
Posted: 6/3/2006 12:04:59 AM | This site has many things to offer and I've gone through a progression since I joined last fall. I did 'date' three men initially. Got burned by two - but such is life. I don't actively contact people through email or profiles. Never did but I do answer most emails. Now, I am really enjoying the Hamilton patio nights and the occassioanl POF party. Made some great friends. I much prefer meeting people in person as opposed to over a keyboard. I hate the whole "first date' thing. So, I guess my expectations have changed since I joined - but all for the better.
And, yes- I am a forum addict! | |
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| Are We just kidding ourselves??????
Posted: 6/4/2006 4:39:11 PM | Generally I'm just here to confirm my suspicions that not everyone is in a happy "Make you puke in the park they're so cute" relationship... Once and awhile I'll send out a few msg's but not often. Although, I did see someone from here in town one day and asked them out in person *laughs*.
Too bad they got all weird, thinking I was a stalker when it came out that I saw them on POF | |
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Posted: 6/4/2006 4:43:46 PM | | I won't make the first move and write to someone cause it seems everyone I am interested in, is not interested in me, oh well at least there are the parties and forums | |
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Posted: 6/5/2006 2:24:33 PM | So I actually asked myself this question today!
I am not sure what my deal is, but I think I may be crazy. I can't help being crazy though. In this case it is just who I am. Anyway here's the deal.
There is a guy that I think is totally hot, way too hot for his own good.
We talk and smile and I get all giddy, he laughs at me being giddy. It's a fun chemistry.
Again though..he is waaay too hot.
Anyway long story short, I am told that he thinks I am hot in return by his friends today. He also told me today that I have beautiful eyes but all I could respond with was more laughter and embarrasment...yeah right.
Anyway...yada yada...people say they are going to hook us up. I should be all over it. They invited him out for drinks for my birthday even.
As excited as I am by all of this.....I am in denial.
I just think yeah right. He is A..too hot for me. B..every other excuse in the book that I can think of.
Am I kidding myself? I don't know. Do I actually want to be single or is this just a case of boygay!!
Yes I am officially skidly in the love department! | |
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bernzg
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Joined: 10/17/2005
Msg: 36 | |
| Are We just kidding ourselves??????
Posted: 6/5/2006 2:34:01 PM | Well Roxy, if it's right, it's right. You'll know soon enough! Get to know him with your friends around.
Listen to me, like I know what I'm talking about. I'm about the most dense person when it comes to this stuff...at least for myself. Like I would know interested if it came up and smacked me in the eye, spit in my face and knocked me to the ground.
It usually takes backing me in a corner and explaining it in very simple terms. Then I blush and stuff. | |
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Posted: 6/5/2006 2:36:27 PM | I wouldn't say i'm trying too hard to find someone right now. Not very often do I actually send messages out to men. To be honest, I more or less just sit back and let the men message me. If i'm interested in the person who messaged me than i'll continue on a conversation with them. Every now and then i'll see someone who's profile pulls me in and i'll send them a quick message to let them know that I like what I see. It usually leads to us exchanging a few messages back and forth and by then usually I can tell if I wanna continue things and add them to my msn or not.
I don't think i'm kidding myself on here. I mean, i've been fortunate enough to meet some great people, i've made some awesome friends. I don't depend alone on this site to find myself someone. If I meet someone on here GREAT if not, i'll never give up hope. I live a very active life away from my computer. I'm a social butterfly and i'm constantly meeting new people and trying new things. I believe there is a chance I can meet someone great on here but I have an even greater chance meeting someone when out and about doing my thing.
Every now and then I will come across someone that I find very attractive and I would think "there is no way in hell that guy who even look in my direction" but i'm learning to stop thinking that way. If I see someone and i'm truly interested in what I see, I don't think anything should stop me from making it known to them. | |
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| Are We just kidding ourselves??????
Posted: 6/5/2006 2:38:09 PM | Sounds protective to me... We all fear rejection... and we all judge ourselves way too critically... sometimes it gets to a point where all we see are our flaws...and we forget about the good stuff... Like someone with an eating disorder... their perception of themselves is inaccurate...
Roxy... you are a very attractive, funny women.... We all see that here and I'm sure that other people see that as well... I'm sure your "hot guy" sees that as well..
Take a deep breath... give yourself a big hug... and go for it...
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Posted: 6/5/2006 2:43:37 PM |
We all fear rejection... and we all judge ourselves way too critically... sometimes it gets to a point where all we see are our flaws...and we forget about the good stuff...
I agree with you. I'm my worst enemy. I can point out my own flaws so fast but not very often do I see others flaws that they see in themselves. I will admit that at times I believe that everyone can see my flaws like I see them. That's when my AMAZING friends bring me back down to earth and give me a wee shake.
I've learned that when I find something about myself that I don't like, I always meet someone who loves exactly that about me. | |
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bernzg
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Joined: 10/17/2005
Msg: 40 | |
| Are We just kidding ourselves??????
Posted: 6/5/2006 2:50:22 PM | Insecurities about ourselves is rough. Constantly wondering if we measure up. I think as you get older, that portion of it alters.
I don't worry about rejection. I don't invest my feelings in a person until I know something's there....both ways. I also am leary of infatuation. Although, I can't even get to the infatuation stage unless a person's mind turns me on. I just don't get to the panting part until there's been intelligent discourse. That's when I start to drool. Then it can evolve from discourse to...yeah right.
There are the right people out there, just takes some time and patience. I must have tons. | |
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| Are We just kidding ourselves??????
Posted: 6/5/2006 4:57:22 PM |
Roxy... you are a very attractive, funny women.... We all see that here and I'm sure that other people see that as well... I'm sure your "hot guy" sees that as well..
Take a deep breath... give yourself a big hug... and go for it...
Thanks so much for the smile(which is ear to ear right now), and the words of encouragement!
We shall see I guess! | |
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| Are We just kidding ourselves??????
Posted: 6/5/2006 5:28:26 PM | Roxy Goddamnit give yourself some credit!
Your insecurities will get you dead if you keep talking like that!
Obviously this guy is MORE than interested in you, than you will let yourself believe!
Chooch!
Stop it rodent! Your georgeous AND fricken' nuts!
A winning combination, if you ask any man | |
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Joined: 5/4/2006
Msg: 45 | |
| Are We just kidding ourselves??????
Posted: 6/5/2006 6:36:32 PM | As far as Im concerned we arent here forever.We have one life and if we dont live it and enjoy it while we have it, then whats the point? Nothing ventured, Nothing gained. If we get hurt along the way, chalk it up as a life learning experience , take something good from it and move on. We are all protective.But I refuse to live my life in a little shelter.I am who I am.Take me as I am or dont take me at..
ROXY!!! Do it girl ! We should all think we are hot,because in reality to someone we are.!!! | |
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Posted: 6/5/2006 6:40:56 PM | Did you really expect to meet her less then 24hr later?
No guts no glory?
Good thing she recognized you! LOL
Talk to you later...
"The shy one.." | |
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Posted: 6/5/2006 11:25:57 PM | Hey Roxy,
I just wanted to share my experience with ya. I met a guy on this site and we were talking for a bit of time and I figured he was too good looking and too much of a sweet heart to want anything to do with me. Then he asked for us to meet up and play pool at a local pool hall. I agreed but so was not up for going....thinking I was joking myself that this was going to turn into anything. (I even pushed meeting him to a later time so I could run and get a tan to look half decent) Well we met up and he was even better looking in person. We had a blast playing pool and even went out for dinner afterwards. We actually hit it off and have been out doing random things together on almost a daily basis. I am so glad I didnt clam up and cancel because we have been dating ever since.
Just take a deep breath and go into it with self confidence....and who knows, maybe he is thinking the same thing about you? He may be thinking you are too good for him!! LOL
Have an awsome time non the less!
Ciao babes!!
Sherri | |
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| Are We just kidding ourselves??????
Posted: 6/6/2006 12:29:15 AM | I agree with a lot of people here in the thread about the fear of rejection, which I why I have not sent out very many emails. Many of the ones I have, have been read and deleted without an acknowledgement. Maybe I am a masochist for including rating my picture, and when you start getting 4 straight 1's, you kind of wonder if they raters see something you don't and that is why no one really responds to you. Self confidence is something I suppose I need to work on, yet so many times I see someone's profile and think, "wow I would love to write them, but I am not even close to being in their league."
I suppose we all want approval that we are date material, but the negative experiences with mailing people, certainly knock our ego down a few notches. | |
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Saige
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Joined: 5/4/2006
Msg: 50 | |
| Are We just kidding ourselves??????
Posted: 6/6/2006 5:16:45 AM | | Ahh but again, We are ALL date material.We just need to find the ones we connect with.Every person is date worthy, we of course are our own worst enemies.Can words from a complete stranger hurt? If so, ask yourself why, when you dont know that person and what kind of person they really are..Some people go around rating peoples pics just to be jerks, so remember that even here there are all kinds of people, and I wouldnt put too much stock in those ratings when you dont even know if the people themselves are kind inside..Have a great day.. | |
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