| a question for the 'socialites'
Posted: 6/2/2006 3:31:57 AM | I do think that some people who go out all the time are needy. They can not stand to be home alone. These people are not comfortable in their own skin and look to find comfort and acceptance from others.
I do agree with Mojo and think that his comments were misunderstood. There are some people who stay home because they do not get invited out so they think that those who go out all the time are needy. I do not think that he was saying that the OP was needy.
~Carrie B. | |
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| a question for the 'socialites'
Posted: 6/2/2006 3:32:30 AM | Golf?
thats nothing !!!
A man who managed a large nationwide community
offered me a condo in southern calif....
to "stay" at...
free of course...
He was also a married man... who looked at me like he wanted to eat me
alive...
I told my boss and she said:
"dammmmmm.... how come nobody ever makes
me those kind of offers ?... your going to end up filthy rich
if you do... not only with the gravy high paying job he gives you...
maybe managing 100's of communities, traveling free...
but later
with the hush money he gives you not to tell his wife
he has a woman in his area living he is seeing and set up in a rent
free place... and having sex with"...
I puked a little in my mouth and quit. | |
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| a question for the 'socialites'
Posted: 6/2/2006 5:35:04 AM | If I didn't have some alone time, my head would blow apart. I have times when I want to be around other people, but I must have alone time too!!! Always have been that way.
As to threads being deleted, it seems like only the truly silly ones stay on here.
Just because you don't agree with someone's post, doesn't mean you should try to get it deleted!!! | |
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Posted: 6/2/2006 5:52:43 AM | | I love people and getting out away from the TV or the quiet at home - I love to chat and interact with warm bodies, not just the computer screen. I don't 'need' to be out, I love to be out. I also love to be in - cuddling with my partner, as well as sitting quiet alone with my thoughts. A good balance of both is fulfilling. | |
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Posted: 6/2/2006 9:17:09 AM | I work around and with people ALL day in a very life essence sucking capacity, although I do LUV my job.
That is too much people time for my sensitive artistic soul. Time away from people permits me to recharge my life essence so I can return to work and do it well and enjoy it. it also permits me to have the energy to enjoy my time around the people I want to be with.
I don't understand the social butterfly thing. My room-mate is 1 and she has people over or drags me out. She keeps insisting that I don't really dislike people because she is with me all the time, but I told her she is a pet not a person.
I am not good at spending time around other guitar players because they are fricken lound and I have to wear earplugs, so I can't hear what they are playing or saying anyways. And when I turn around too fast, I tend to smack them upside the head with the headstock of my guitar.
BTW, guitar, I am cooking this enormous turkey for my sister's sendoff today, message me if you want me to bring you some dinner. | |
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Posted: 6/2/2006 10:35:56 AM | been thinking about what you said guitarman :"I just think some people really don't have a dream they are working toward . they are just spending time aimlessly really"
Don't you think time in general is aimless by nature?? And that whatever you migth be working towards is also pretty futile and aimless (I mean on the big universal scale, no offence)? I'd rather extract all the fun out of this world and live to the fullest while I bread. They will be time enough to relax and think on my own when I'm grey and old. What do you think. | |
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Posted: 6/2/2006 11:37:35 AM | I'm a very social guy.
I like hanging out with friends. Having fun.
But I don't "need" to.
I mean, I try to find a nice balance between spending time with my lady, hanging out with friends, and having some quiet alone time. | |
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Posted: 6/2/2006 11:50:24 AM | cynicalgirl,
Who you kidding girlfriend look at your profile pics, talk about contradictions. I'm onto you. No lack of partying going on in your life, as should be the case when your 21 fo' sho'! | |
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Posted: 6/2/2006 11:58:48 AM | As posters have said above..."Its all about balance!"
I like to go out.
One thing I don't like to do often is hang at the pubs. It leaves me with little money and often the conversation isn't that great.
What I don't like feeling is guilty about not going out, when sometimes I would rather spend my time on something productive. | |
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| a question for the 'socialites'
Posted: 6/2/2006 12:11:07 PM | | I am a social butterfly. I believe that the need to always be around people and maintain relationships with people comes from my need to help people.The better you know them, the better you can learn to help them. I also feel like I should give all of my friends equal attention. Thats hard to do when you're in a relationship though. | |
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Posted: 6/2/2006 1:15:59 PM | guess I am an oxymoron lol stay home through the week doing what I gotta do then party it up on the week ends, love it, I guess someday I will grow up but I do not want to look back on my life saying woulda coulda shoulda have done  | |
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Posted: 6/4/2006 10:24:21 AM | my question is for those people that always need to be out with friends at like 3 or 4 times a week
dinner,movies,dancing,shopping etc
what gives with that?
why so needy?
does your head blow apart if you are not around people?
don't you have stuff to work on at night?
Because they want something to talk about the next day or Monday morning. 'Cause, y'know, EVERYBODY had better be SOMEWHERE on a Friday or Saturday night!!! God forbid you're at home.
You hear it on the radio. WEEKEND! WEEKEND! "Whatcha doin' this weekend?"
Gotta go aht and do sumpin this weeked!!! Ya gotta!
Or, "What did ya do this weekend? What? Not much? Is there something wrong with you? Man, I partied so hard I pissed myself and fell down a flight of stairs. I had a blast!"
PAARRRTYYY!!!! WOOOOOHOOOO!
They're afraid of what people will think of them. The pride themselves on "having a life".
"Heh, unlike YOU, I have a life."
You know how people are. It's all so dumb.
Also, these people who go out all the time usually tend to be broke or in debt up to their eyeballs since they spend money like water.
Hey, I'm not hating though. I should probably go out more also, but I never have anywhere to hang out. And the hours I work aren't that conducive to it. | |
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Posted: 6/4/2006 10:32:41 AM | Garden party held today
Invites call the debs to play
Social climbers polish ladders
Wayward sons again have fathers
Hello, Dad, hello, dad
Edgy eggs and queuing cumbers
Rudely wakened from their slumbers
Time has come again for slaughter
O on the lawns by still Cam waters
A slaughter, it's a slaughter
Champagne corks are firing at the sun again
Swooping swallows chased by violins again
Straafed by Strauss they sulk in crumbling eaves again
Oh God not again
Aperitifs consumed en masse
Display their owners on the grass
Couples loiter in the cloisters
social leeches quoting Chaucer
Doctor's son a parson's daughter
W where why not and should they oughta
Please don't lie upon the grass
Unless accompanied by a fellow
May I be so bold as to perhaps suggest Othello
Punting on the Cam is jolly fun they say
Beagling on the downs, oh please do come they say
Rugger is the tops, a game for men they say
I'm punting, I'm beagling, I'm wining, reclining, I'm rucking, I'm ****ing
So welcome, it's a party
Angie chalks another blue
Mother smiles she did it too
Chitters chat and gossips lash
Posers pose, pressmen flash
Smiles polluted with false charm, locking on to Royal arms
Society columns now ensured, returns to mingle with the crowds
Oh what a crowd
Punting on the Cam, oh please do come they say
Beagling on the downs, oh please so come they say
Garden party held today they say
Oh please do come, oh please do come, they say
~Marillion (Garden Party)
-Script For A Jesters Tear | |
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| a question for the 'socialites'
Posted: 7/26/2006 12:37:40 PM | I'd do it, if I had the time/money and my friends did 
On a side note, I dance alone and usually shop alone. | |
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Posted: 7/26/2006 12:40:03 PM | I'm not a socialite. In fact I hate when I have to go to the college parties and socials because my friends force me to. If it were upto me, I'd stand on a mountain top and scream all day instead of going to a bar or a club. But that's because I am a recluse and I like being one.
"I get invited out tons,I just have better things to do."
That is very true! I get invited too, but I just have better things to do.
I'd rather be studying my a$$ off while my friends are partying on a thursday night in spite of knowing that Friday is a college day too! Can we say responsibility....like hello!
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Posted: 7/26/2006 12:47:56 PM | ahhhhhhhhhhh
I gotcha now
that kind of socialite.
I like doing those things with friends and people I care about...
but not so much with strangers.
:( | |
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Posted: 7/26/2006 2:32:00 PM | Although I am FAAAAAAAR from being what most people consider a "socialite".....I feel the need to chime in here......
....There seems to be a direct correlation between the over-abundance of self-loathing (some admit, some deny)going around lately and the need to "just be out and about" NON-STOP......(Place your own theories here).
...and hey....did reddragon get the boot or something??....because much of this thread has made no sense...but that's not all that uncommon.... lol | |
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Posted: 7/26/2006 3:07:09 PM | I love being around people and never had understood why people don't want to get out and enjoy life. People are a trip yes there are times I like to stay home and just have me time, and there are times I want to just go up in the woods and be alone. I'm perfectily comfortable alone, but I also love to meet new people. I don't drink so I'm not a club hopper but lets face it I get bored home alone. Hell I get bored if its the same friends I hang around all the time, I like variety.
I look for change, most people hate change I get bored if things don't change, life is too short for a routine. About the only routine thing I do is work, and thank god I'm a carpenter and things change there too. I tried framing, what a boring job, build the same thing month after month. Yes I have goals, and I have accomplished most of what I set out to do, but a goal is something I want to accomplish, not the only thing I want to accomplish. I work to live not live to work, I love to have fun. I even said "I'm a carpenter" which isn't true I'm a person that does carpentry to make money to live and do other things I enjoy. | |
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Posted: 9/16/2006 5:43:57 PM | | I get invited out fairly often, but the people who invite me are usually not people I like being around. Plus I'm not into boozing and hitting clubs or handing money to strippers. | |
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Posted: 9/16/2006 5:55:17 PM | I don't think I am a socialite, just social. I attend a lot of functions through work, enjoy film festival parties and charity events and seeing friends. I'm not out every night by any means, but I like to live a full life that is balanced and filled with interesting people, places and things.
I also enjoy my time at home, downtime when needed, being on school council, being on the board of directors for my condo, watching reality TV etc etc No not needy, maybe busy within reason? | |
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Posted: 9/13/2007 10:07:51 PM | | im pretty much the same way when it comes to hanging out. yeah sure, parties can be fun once in a while, but hanging out with that small group of people u like makes the evening a lot more enjoyable on average than going to see a bunch of people, the majority of which you probably dont even want to see. these people probably like to congregate to see and be seen. if the only time someone is fun is when theyre plastered, fuhgetaboutem. too much rambling, sorry. | |
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Posted: 9/16/2007 8:44:24 PM | | That's just what single people do. They get out and about and meet people. Relationships and kids limit your ability to get out in these ways. | |
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