| Have you really ever felt really lonely?
Posted: 9/13/2007 11:18:56 AM | | Yes I feel it every second of every day, And not just because of a lost of 1 love. I have lost a lot in life,my very farorit nephue who was only 26 and full of life untill it was taken from him and him from us, 1 sister, 1 brother, grandparents, aunts uncles, cusions, 1 husband, and 3 wonderful men, and not one of them coming back could make it any easer, when you lose someone, they are gone and nothing can fill the space left empty, you can cover the spot they left but the hole will always be there. And for a time you can pretend and go on but at some point the memery will come back and so will the feelings and there you go empty and lonley. | |
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| Have you really ever felt really lonely?
Posted: 9/13/2007 3:26:37 PM | Yes....
I read alot of the posts here, many voiced my sentiments exactly. I have tried the many "remedies for lonliness" mentioned, none worked for me. They were merely momentary distractions. I know what it is to be alone...I'm ok with it, though it is not my preference. I know what it is to be lonely, and it hurts. I know what it is to be lonely when you are supposed to be in a relationship, but the other person is emotionally (and many times) physically absent, and that is truly devastating loneliness. The loneliness I feel most often of late is different...a sort of hopeless loneliness. It leaves you alone during the day, for the most part. At night, it attacks, leaving you feeling as if the world itself has forsaken you, and all that remains are you and your tears of loneliness. Still, it strikes me odd...we all are lonely, we all are here, so being together in this, why are we STILL so lonely? Maybe because we are more comfortable with our loneliness than we are with the thought of reaching out. That would take a leap of faith, and that personally scares the living hell out of me. | |
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| Have you really ever felt really lonely?
Posted: 9/13/2007 5:12:21 PM | ^^^^^"That would take a leap of faith, and that personally scares the living hell
out of me."
I couldn't have put it better myself regalrose! | |
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| Have you really ever felt really lonely?
Posted: 9/13/2007 5:32:48 PM | The one true loneliest feeling I ever experienced was looking at the casket of my 41 yr old husband, closed, waiting to be lowered.
That is a forever lonely that stays with you
You learn to cope with it, but it is the final moment..forever
No one can console you,
You cannot make that feeling go away..you get a grip on it | |
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GEOSC
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Joined: 7/11/2007
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| Have you really ever felt really lonely?
Posted: 9/13/2007 6:07:14 PM | Do you mean REALLY lonely?? Like where you long for someone to just be there to tell about your day and hear about theirs, or someone to put their arms around you and hug you and tell you that they love you??? Oh yeah I feel it everyday and somedays are almost unbearable. You go to the store you see couples together you go anywhere and all you see are couples together. You see animals playing with other animals people interacting with others and you know damn well you are a great person and should be with someone who cares about you. But yet that person eludes you and you feel doomed to be alone. You try to call your kids they dont have time for you either. you try to get dates online and that doesnt even pan out all you seem to find is rejection at every turn. Yes I know that feeling it is with me everyday and it just plain sucks!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
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| Have you really ever felt really lonely?
Posted: 9/13/2007 6:17:08 PM | | ^^^^I feel your pain.....lonely is more than just a feeling...more than just emotion....truely it is a state of the soul.....that person to talk to....to care for....to understand your soul....yes lonely...when it seems even your dreams have no place....yes lonely....you mean truely alone...I have felt it in relationships and out of relationships....true lonliness is the feeling of being seperasted from your soul.... | |
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| Have you really ever felt really lonely?
Posted: 9/13/2007 7:18:53 PM | If some of you want to see lonely ,volunteer at a hospital where the children are terminally ill,,,,not to make your plight sound less,,,but some of theses kids ,their parents have left hem for dead,,life is just so unfair..... | |
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| Have you really ever felt really lonely?
Posted: 9/14/2007 2:34:46 PM | ok whatever I am gonna be quiet on this before I get on a soapbox and spit into the wind cause it will hit me in the face and no one else will know what I am saying anyways LOL!!!
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| Have you really ever felt really lonely?
Posted: 9/14/2007 3:46:07 PM | At times I feel really lonely, my home was destroyed by a fire, and lost everything. Including my pets  And all this one day before my wedding day :X I'm single though, long story with that! but I do feel a big emptiness | |
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bec44
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Joined: 9/8/2007
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| Have you really ever felt really lonely?
Posted: 9/19/2007 12:27:06 PM | | I so agree with that first posting here of yours rhyno...and walker, hon I know how that feels. I had a dog I literally grew up with and the day I left for college, as I left the drive he headed for the woods, and dad found him the next day. He was 17 yrs old...and I could not function, literally, for two weeks solid afterward. I cried as if my soul had been sliced to ribbons. That is a pain only equaled by losing a close family member, and rightly so, because many times that is what our pets are. I am so sorry for your loss. | |
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| Have you really ever felt really lonely?
Posted: 9/20/2007 9:54:48 AM | I think it's almost natural. I have this goofy belief that everyone has the soulmate out there they have not found, and the odds of finding them are heartbreaking. There would be no divorce if everyone matched with their intended soulmate. My viewpoint is from a spiritual angel. The loneliness itself is a pretty detestable feeling sometimes, you could be amongst all kinds of friends and family and that knawing will not leave. I sure hope everyone here finds theirs.
I deal with myne by just trying to keep busy, and working with others. Lonelyness still manages to rear it's ugly head more than I care to admit.
What's worse is when you know damn well you met your soulmate to late in the game and they are spoken for. Frikin ouch baby!!!
Good luck to everyone. | |
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| Have you really ever felt really lonely?
Posted: 9/20/2007 12:38:02 PM | | Im feeling lonely right now..why do you think im here i just want to meet the ultimate love of my life..why is it taking so long..im not a patient person ,im really trying to hold on but am so lonely without him | |
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| Have you really ever felt really lonely?
Posted: 9/21/2007 9:50:00 AM | I have a great life/friends/job/home – My life is full of all kinds of adventures but wow, when that lonely feeling hits…
Especially around my friends...I am the single in the crowd. I feel the loneliness in the pit of my stomach when I see one of their "secret" smiles, a hand at the small of her back, holding hands under the table or catching one of the couples sneaking a kiss in a darkened hallway...
When hearing about their frustrations in their relationships, then the sigh, half smile & giggle before the "Yeah, he drives me crazy" comment...because all I get to do is listen and feel jealous.
Sometimes I wake at 2 in the morning and wish I could hear someone else's breath beside me, making the darkness seem less overwhelming.
On cold winter nights when I turn up the electric blanket instead of having arms wrap around me.
When taking a bubble bath with candles and a glass of wine – no one is sitting on the edge of the tub telling me how gorgeous I look in bubbles.
Coming home to a blinking light on the answering machine and not one message is a “just because I am thinking of you” call.
My life may be full of adventure/friends/family, etc…but it is the simple everyday things that make me feel that loneliness seep in. | |
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| Have you really ever felt really lonely?
Posted: 9/21/2007 2:00:18 PM | | Yeh of course, i have tried alot of datingsites like freedatingforyou.com and match.com plentyoffish but i havent find my love yet. But when i do i probobly not feel alone again, i hope.... | |
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| Have you really ever felt really lonely?
Posted: 9/21/2007 5:27:40 PM | | I think everyone has experienced some level of lonliness in their lives at some time or another....one of the things I have done in the past when I was lonely was to volunteer my time...once I volunteered at a VA Hospital, where our veterans and current solders were receiving care and often very far away from their family and friends. There surely is no way to feel lonely when you are volunteering...it makes your soul smile when you see the people's face light up when you walk in their rooms. Try it, bet you won't be lonely for long. | |
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