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| Have you really ever felt really lonely?
Posted: 2/21/2008 9:02:17 PM | | all the time, but that just gives me a reason to enjoy my independence a lot more and to use my time more wisely to get rid of that lonely feeling and keep focusing on getting my priorities straight. | |
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| Have you really ever felt really lonely?
Posted: 2/21/2008 10:46:15 PM | Andre de Silva: You like my country's music, right? I can tell there is a little bit of Brazil in you.
Erin Castleton: Oh yeah?
Andre de Silva: See, you are sad and happy. You don't smile but you are content. You are sad and happy at the same time. In Brazil we have a term for that - it's 'Saudade'. It's like ... melancholic, nostalgic; it's very Bossanova.
From the excelent movie, "Next Stop Wonderland". At one point the main character, Erin, says she doesn't feel lonely when she is by herself but that she feels that way when she is in a crowd. I think I'm that way too. | |
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| Have you really ever felt really lonely?
Posted: 3/16/2008 8:19:44 AM | | Everyday, but I'm used to it.I work 12-14+ hrs/day by MYSELF,(can't stand working with people).I go home for 8hrs or less to NOBODY because I live by MYSELF. shit,shower, shave,eat, sleep(by MYSELF) , get up and go do all over again for the rest of the week.How many of you do that? By friday I'm wiped out,crash out by 8(sometimes earlier),sleep 8-10 hrs.On weekends I'll go to dinner and a movie by MYSELF.I go on vacations by MYSELF. Vegas this April by MYSELF.Yep, I feel lonely sometimes, but I've been doing it for years. | |
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| Have you really ever felt really lonely?
Posted: 3/16/2008 8:47:04 AM | | yes i do feel that way right now..i think it's normal to feel that way sometimes when you are single..or better yet, when you've been single for a long time. | |
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| Have you really ever felt really lonely?
Posted: 3/16/2008 8:50:17 AM | I've felt "alone" -meaning not having someone to make life long plans with, share intimate feelings with, intimate joys and sorrows, someone to tell a funny story that happened at work in the evening etc.
I never feel lonely though - I can entertain myself for hours - if I need external stimulation, I'll call a friend and do something with a friend. I have the option to vacation by myself or a friend. I usually prefer with a friend then I have someone to share memories with. Sure it would nice but a SO but in the meantime, life goes on and it must be lived. | |
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| Have you really ever felt really lonely?
Posted: 3/16/2008 12:35:02 PM | | Yes, right now actually. I have just moved from South America, no friends in town yet, no relationship or dates either; so yes, I'm feeling really lonely but I know it will pass, is just a difficult moment I'm going thru'. | |
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| Have you really ever felt really lonely?
Posted: 3/16/2008 12:44:28 PM | I have felt that way every single day since 5/15/05, the day my husband died.
You wouldn't know it to look at me, and I don't talk about it very much, but
it feels like the best parts of me died with him. | |
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| Have you really ever felt really lonely?
Posted: 3/16/2008 12:50:27 PM | | I think we all experience the feeling at one point in our lives. Hell yeah, I've been there a few times. Friends are great, but they don't fill certain voids in our personal life. But they help! I believe it is human nature to have that special someone in our lives and the lack of such leaves a hole in the core of our being. Some just deal with it better than others. When I was younger, it wasn't a strong feeling, but as I have aged it has become more important. One doesn't get out with the buddies and go playing quite as much as days gone by. Hence a lack of distraction from it. | |
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Joined: 1/10/2008
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| Have you really ever felt really lonely?
Posted: 3/16/2008 1:53:39 PM | | Of course. And a lot of the time I am perfectly content by myself too. The big problem with us single guys is that the women we really want do not want us and the ones we do not want are lined up outside our doors trying to figure out why we do not want them. | |
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| Have you really ever felt really lonely?
Posted: 3/16/2008 1:55:36 PM | Sometimes,But felt lonelier in my marriage:My ex-husband was "There" but definately not emotionally.
After being with him for 12 years he decided to tell me he was "GAY"
The feeling dosent go away its how you deal with it that matters.
Although i am on my own & feel lonely sometimes I would rather be where i am now than be in a relationship thats a lie,a sham.
Just for the sake of not being "on my own". | |
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| Have you really ever felt really lonely?
Posted: 3/16/2008 2:48:42 PM | Tinyterror
That's a real doosey! I have seen it happen before and I really feel for you. This is one situation I'll never get! How could they not know beforehand? | |
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| Have you really ever felt really lonely?
Posted: 3/16/2008 2:53:08 PM | Being a long haul trucker, haven't seen home in two months, stuck in a Pennsylvania snow storm while your children are in Oregon, haven't even hugged anyone in those two months. you find some serious depths of loneliness. Never been in jail or prison, but I'm sure it is close.
The real key is learning to be OK with it. Once you are OK with being alone, you will be amazed at how differently the world appears.
I'm home much more now, but I did the above in my quest to see the country. And I loved almost every minute of it.
Thank you galonthemt!
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| Have you really ever felt really lonely?
Posted: 3/16/2008 2:56:01 PM | | i only feel truly lonely when i get sick, which doesn't happen often. but when i get sick, i wouldn't mind having someone to help me out with things that need to happen. and to keep my mind off how miserable i feel. other than that, i enjoy time by myself, since i've spent 14 years listening to people's problems, solving their dilemmas and helping them out. | |
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| Have you really ever felt really lonely?
Posted: 3/16/2008 2:59:09 PM | | Well loveoregon..next time you are stuck in Pa. contact me and I will cook you a good Pa. Dutch home cooked meal. And you can sit as long as you want in a warm enviornment talking to your kiddies. Thats the pits!!!!!!!!! | |
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Joined: 1/8/2008
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| Have you really ever felt really lonely?
Posted: 3/16/2008 4:39:26 PM | Gorko64
I think they do know as i said they are born that way.
Unfortunately,(this is only my opinion)I think a lot of gay men get married & have kids because it is expected of them by family,friends,etc.
As some people say"Living The Norm".
Thank you for your kind "Words".I can actually laugh about it (Which is a positive thing).I am a much stronger person now.
But i wouldnt wish it on my worst enemy. | |
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| Have you really ever felt really lonely?
Posted: 3/16/2008 4:54:02 PM | | Custis ! you have nailed it on the head. Couldn't have said it better myself. Now it all makes sense. Back to the forums, the books, work and school. At least I'm busy and it keeps me from feeling too lonely. I hear Roy Orbison singing in the background. | |
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| Have you really ever felt really lonely?
Posted: 3/16/2008 5:28:51 PM | | Sometimes.. but most of the time I'm pretty content. I'm an introvert, being alone is what I'm accustomed to I spend alot of time by myself. I often come off as anti-social even rude because of my introvertedness. I have a very small circle of friends It's just the way I am. There is a difference between being alone and being lonely | |
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| Have you really ever felt really lonely?
Posted: 3/16/2008 5:33:20 PM | | Lately, there has been times when I felt a lost part missing in my life. I have my daughter who is the one thing that keeps me going. | |
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