GT99
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Joined: 5/13/2006
Msg: 26 | |
| Have you really ever felt really lonely?
Posted: 6/2/2006 9:05:04 PM | sure, everyone can get lonely, I was when the reality set in the ex left...it was mutual and had to be done...but we were both lonely.
lucky for me I have 2 roomates to keep me company in the lonely times boomer and kiera, my babies (my dogs). They always put a smile on my face.
the offer was recently given to me to move 5 hours away and work on our realtionship....the ex claims to have made a mistake, but as hard as it was...its the best thing for us, certain problems dont go away, Sometimes you need to move on, we were going in different directions, she saw it when I didnt, she acted on it as it is something she had to do for herself......now she wants me back,,,yet I see what she was talking about, I am moving on,,,,just the way it goes.
I think we both deserve better. | |
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| Have you really ever felt really lonely?
Posted: 6/2/2006 9:55:57 PM | Yeah, more than I'll ever care to admit.
It isn't related to anyone, it's just something that is there, underlying everything. No one would ever know it either because I'm always so full of life and "up", but when it's really bad is when I push people away the most. | |
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| Have you really ever felt really lonely?
Posted: 6/2/2006 10:39:36 PM | | To see me out and about with friends or at work I'm usually smiling, laughing or joking around. It would appear that I was one of the most happy go lucky guys there is. That all is good and not a care in the world. But there is a feeling of loneliness deep inside my soul. Missing that special someone to share life experiences with on a more intimate, physical, emotional and spiritual level. | |
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| Have you really ever felt really lonely?
Posted: 6/2/2006 11:27:18 PM | I remember having a high school English teacher who went on to marry the high school librarian (how much sweeter can you get than that?) but who had once shared with his pupils : "...for the longest time in University I was just plain lonely."
Ever heard of a saying before: its lonely at the top? Makes a person wonder. There are so many countless songs, old and new, lamenting ones pain of being alone.
Theres probably enough people profiting on peoples loneliness. It deserves to be criticized
in the same way the self-help industry is. I think its great when people care. Whereas I have cried tears of pain, I have also cried just knowing how much another soul can care.
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| Have you really ever felt really lonely?
Posted: 6/2/2006 11:38:45 PM | I never,ever felt lonely in my life until my ex left me. It was more a feeling of abandonment and a big 'hole'... I am happier now than I have ever been - but it was quite an eye-opener to have that feeling of loneliness - temporary though it was.
I see people on the street and some ask for money. I wonder about them. I was there myself, once - as a teenage run-away.
"All the Lonely People, Where do they all belong?" (As the Beatles once wrote - in Eleanor Rigby).
I now know that I had feelings of loneliness/abandonment many times in my early life, but I didn't recognize it. I just kept on going. Kept on being a rebel and a pain in teh butt.
I 'feel' for you, OP. Just keep on moving, I suppose. It's all you can do. | |
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| Have you really ever felt really lonely?
Posted: 6/2/2006 11:44:22 PM | | There have been times when I've been so lonely it's been an actual physical ache - thankfully it hasn't been that bad in years. There are times now when I feel lonely - usually in the middle of the night when I can't sleep for whatever reason - but never as bad as years ago. I don't think I've become used to it...I think that now that I have made a life for myself by myself, including building a career that I love I am more complete than I used to be, and crave a companion rather than a ... savior, maybe? Not quite so painful when I know I can do it all myself... | |
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| Have you really ever felt really lonely?
Posted: 6/3/2006 12:23:54 AM |
Yeah, more than I'll ever care to admit.
It isn't related to anyone, it's just something that is there, underlying everything. No one would ever know it either because I'm always so full of life and "up", but when it's really bad is when I push people away the most.
Been there done that one to!!!! | |
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| Have you really ever felt really lonely?
Posted: 6/3/2006 12:31:23 AM | Sure we all have our days of introspection and times of looking back on the past.
To miss someone is to be of the heart, this is a quality.
The key is to not get stuck looking backwards for too long.
baggage is baggage...make it Gucci!!!
Smile with a tear in your eye if need be... | |
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| Have you really ever felt really lonely?
Posted: 6/3/2006 1:45:52 AM | | I thought I knew what lonliness was. I thought I had endured it many times before. And then I learnt how deep lonely waters could run.. And I never want to feel that lonely again. | |
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| Have you really ever felt really lonely?
Posted: 6/3/2006 4:30:31 AM | | Yes,but it depends on how everyone takes it.I do feel lonely and there times am locked up in my own world and i wish for many things.......... | |
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Tom404
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Joined: 5/29/2006
Msg: 37 | |
| Have you really ever felt really lonely?
Posted: 6/3/2006 4:36:36 AM | | Yes. I never used to be lonely. I was alone but didn't have problem with but its like someone flicked a switch upstairs and an overwhelming feeling of loneliness hit me. | |
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| Have you really ever felt really lonely?
Posted: 6/3/2006 4:47:12 AM | | Hi Elizabeth..I hear ya!! I am wondering?..is it just me, or is it harder to meet a good person to be involved with, as we get older? I suppose the number of available people drop as we hit the 30's and 40's. I have often asked myself "when is it going to be my turn" I know you can't go back to being 20 something, but I sure miss those days sometimes..dating seemed easier. I sincerely hope you find that special someone for you. Please take care of you ok?..Thanks. | |
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| Have you really ever felt really lonely?
Posted: 6/3/2006 7:08:37 AM | Oh yeah,, definitely. Most recent was Memorial weekend my last single cousin got married (which means now i am the last one). At the reception,,,,everyone was of course there with their spouse/ S.O. but ohhhhhh there was me,,,,still single. I walked outside by myself and had a smoke while the bride threw the bouquet.  | |
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| Have you really ever felt really lonely?
Posted: 6/3/2006 7:14:55 AM | You know... I have not ever felt really lonley...
I think I am too busy to sit and dwell on it maybe.
I know some who cry about it a lot... and I notice they are
often very idle people and self absorbed.
The cure for lonliness is not dating...
its helping someone... so if your feeling lonley... find someone like a neighbor
or an old person near you and help them
by cooking them a meal or changing a flat tire...
or whatever you can do for them...
maybe read a book to a blind person... go and help someone
and you will not be lonley and focused on yourself...
it also helps to first help yourself and do what you can do
for yourself... so you are able to help someone.
I used to go and help this old women clean her house on saturdays...
because she couldnt do it alone...
I would mop, vaccum and take her to the grocery store.
She was a sweet lady and I developed a nice and
very healthy relationship with her... developing a
great deal of respect for her.
She had terminal cancer... and her spirit AMAZED ME....
she inspired me to never give up or feel sorry
for myself.
She finally died but she died in action... never stopping living
until she died...
I will never forget her or the lifes lesson she
showed me by just knowing her.
The worst thing to do is try to fill your void by dating...
that is the worst thing to do.
You have to be happy and forfilled in yourself before you can be a good
partner for anyone.
Currently.. I have run into a 12 year old boy who needs help reading...
and I am trying to help him.
I am learning from him.. what its like to feel like a kid
again :)
I never run out of people who will need something I can give to them... and in turn
I am usually blessed... sometimes in very unusual ways.. that I never dreamed of.
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| Have you really ever felt really lonely?
Posted: 6/3/2006 7:17:58 AM | I have felt utter bitter loneliness.. but it wasn't due to someone missing in my life.. a far different situation.. I was in.. something happened and the people that where there for me.. turned against me.. even in the mist of them still being there I never ever experienced a feeling like that.. its hard to explain only those that know my story fully understand..
but I have never felt lonely for a relationship.. | |
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| Have you really ever felt really lonely?
Posted: 6/3/2006 7:27:56 AM | | Being single I feel alone. It is nice to share experiences and deep thoughts with someone. But the time I felt loneliest was the last 5 years of my marrige. It was as much my fault as hers and I plan to never let that happen again. A relationship requires constant attention. | |
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| Have you really ever felt really lonely?
Posted: 6/3/2006 7:47:07 AM | Yes, I'm so lonely that it's amost hard to breath sometimes. I've been single way too long. I've been working myself into the ground so I don't have time to feel it.
Luna | |
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| Have you really ever felt really lonely?
Posted: 6/3/2006 7:49:15 AM | "In his lonely solitude, the solitary man feeds upon himself; in the thronging multitude, the many feed upon him. Now choose".
(Friedrich Nietzsche)
Nostalgic...Take My Breath Away...human...emotions...feelings...life...love...nostalgia...
death...re-birth...love...life...circle...of...life...
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| Have you really ever felt really lonely?
Posted: 6/3/2006 8:11:50 AM | | My view is pretty much the same as Luna's, and I've been lonely so long now that it's just a numb feeling that goes away while I work. Then when I shut down for the day just return to numb feeling. Wonder if it will ever go away? | |
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| Have you really ever felt really lonely?
Posted: 6/3/2006 8:26:15 AM | Yes
1)After the love of my life died
2)After I spent 13 years of my life NOT dating
3) After some *** dumped me for a better product
And you know what? You get over it and you move on
You find some other way not to feel so lonely. You get into a project , you travel, you work hard,you set goals, you lose weight , you go back to school, you do whatever you have to do to fill up that lonely time and you survive
Remember that which does not kill you makes you stronger | |
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| Have you really ever felt really lonely?
Posted: 6/3/2006 8:37:58 AM | I was far lonelier in the last five years of my marriage, than I am today.
The only time it ever really temporarily hits, is when I cook for myself. Nothing quite like preparing and eating a meal and having no one to enjoy (or **** about it) with.
Silly, huh ?
That's why I eat out most times, and avoid that situation. | |
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Tom404
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Joined: 5/29/2006
Msg: 49 | |
| Have you really ever felt really lonely?
Posted: 6/3/2006 8:57:22 AM | You know that scares the sh*t out of me that a *marriage* could get that bad.
I sometimes wonder if Im so far behind in the relationship department that when I do find the *right one* that she will be a dry run. Not a good thing to admit on a board like this, but heh, Im honest. I'd rather share my fears and doubts than let them grind away in the background until the fears were realized. At least having your fears out in the open allows for your significant other to deal with it, with you. Someone tell me I am naive? | |
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kmhstx
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Joined: 8/23/2005
Msg: 50 | |
| Have you really ever felt really lonely?
Posted: 6/3/2006 9:08:15 AM | The day I was finally living alone, something I had wanted for along time, no room mate. My room mate for the last 2 years had been my younger brother, and we get along great. That day that he was finally gone, and I came home from work. I cried my heart out. LOL I wanted this...him to leave....but I realized that quickly no one would care about my day, I had no one around to laugh with to tease/bug. No one who cared that I was home at all. That was a very lonely moment.
BUT I am over that. Of course I would like to have someone amazing and special in my life, but I know thats the only way I want to live with someone again....if they are sharing my bed/not the room across the hallway. I like this independence. | |
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