| Have you really ever felt really lonely?
Posted: 6/3/2006 9:10:16 AM | | Used to be when I felt really lonely I would find the nearest sweet treat and partake of it. Packed on weight and pertended I was happy. Inside I was crumbling... so lonely. Then I meet up with POF.. Got to say you super people caused to realize friendship is as near as my computer and here 24-7. You are indeed my super heroes..... | |
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| Have you really ever felt really lonely?
Posted: 6/3/2006 1:44:12 PM | I remember when I first got my house. I was happy and proud because I did it all by myself. So, after moving in, I invited friends over, we would hangout, play games, watch movies, etc... But at the end of the day, it was always just me, alone in 3 beroom house. No pets or anything. Just me.
Now, honestly, for awhile I really enjoyed it. Being alone, my own place, do what I want, when I want. I would date now and then but nothing serious. Mostly a quick movie, bite to eat, hangout, etc...
Then, one time not long ago, I got hurt at work, and the doctor said it would be best if I stayed with someone for awhile. So, I went and stayed with family. I would go home every few days to check mail, pay bills, check on things around the house, grab a movie to watch, etc...
One time, I was going through the house, getting clothes, mail, etc... Then it hit me, I really didn't want to come back here. Why? Because, I would be all by myself, no one to really talk too, or just hang with, no one to watcha movie or tv with. Just me, myself and I.
That's when I realized that yes, at that moment, I was lonely.
It's gotten better now but somedays you feel so alone and you wish someone special was there with you to spend your time with.
I keep thinking to myself though, I really don't want to get old in this house all by myself. | |
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| Have you really ever felt really lonely?
Posted: 6/3/2006 4:16:35 PM | Yes I have and today is a time I feel really lonely. It has nothing to do with missing a special person. It has to do with me and what I chose to do about being lonely. It is unusual for me to be lonely, so just for today, I chose to loath in my loneliness and be as miserable as possible because tomorrow is a new day, and I have already made the choice that I am not going to feel lonely tomorrow.
When I am lonely I get my Rolling Stones music out and listen to a lot of seventies music. It helps me be as lonely as possible. I make sure I do a good job of being lonely and get it over with as soon as possible so I can go on with my life. Loneliness is a choice. Loneliness is also a feeling and feelings go away.  | |
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Joined: 4/30/2006
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| Have you really ever felt really lonely?
Posted: 6/3/2006 4:22:44 PM | I'm usually quite content and happy. I have a full life, an amazing daughter. Not really any time to be lonely. When I have alone time, I usually enjoy and savour the moment.
Although, there have been times I have felt lonely. When this happens it's usually at night, after my daughter is in bed, I maybe watching TV, or reading, or even just laying in bed. There is an emptiness. The house is more quiet than usual, the bed is larger for some reason, my heart feels heavy. Thank goodness those times are few and far between. | |
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| Have you really ever felt really lonely?
Posted: 6/3/2006 4:34:15 PM | I used to. . . .
But, I realized I cna't do anything about it. I surely cannot pickup women out shopping. So I just stopped getting lonely. | |
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Joined: 5/25/2006
Msg: 57 | |
| Have you really ever felt really lonely?
Posted: 6/3/2006 4:39:55 PM | Yes,and will always feel lonely.I will forever want the unreachable and forever know that it is beyond my doing.sometimes it brings me to my knees and I want to stay there on the floor.
Then a little voice says mommy and I get up and continue.I thank my Ian for putting up with my loneliness,my quirkiness,my moments,hrs of tears free falling.Time does not erase the loss of a child,nothing in this world can. | |
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| Have you really ever felt really lonely?
Posted: 6/3/2006 5:31:09 PM | Oh, nucci. I am so very sorry for your loss. I can't even begin to imagine how that feels.
I was going to say I just went through a bout of loneliness but somehow it seems pretty trivial now compared to your situation.
I know time doesn't fix everything but I do hope it will ease your pain a bit.
My thoughts are with you. | |
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| Have you really ever felt really lonely?
Posted: 6/3/2006 7:25:10 PM | | Just had to say Boy do I know that feeling. Even worse than going to a wedding reception is when your out with friends, the only single one in the group, and you know that they are taking turns sitting out slow dances so you don't have to sit alone. It's either go out with your friends and their other half or sit at home alone, since I don't have the courage to go to a club or bar alone. You all can see where I'm spending my saturday night at. | |
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| Have you really ever felt really lonely?
Posted: 6/3/2006 7:26:36 PM |
I mean no atter where you go, or if you hang out with a lot of different people , you just for some reason miss that special person?
Hmmm ... no, I never really missed any special person. The only time I've ever felt lonely was when I was married. | |
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| Have you really ever felt really lonely?
Posted: 6/3/2006 7:34:05 PM | Music Music Music....nothing cures the lonely blues like some good tunes.......some good friends....good food....good drinks and good atmosphere and you wont feel so lonely anymore.....and when they're gone and you're still alone....take a nice long bath, light some candles......pamper yourself....drink some wine.....write in a journal.....then go to bed....you should be back to your old self come morning | |
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| Have you really ever felt really lonely?
Posted: 6/3/2006 7:42:04 PM | | I felt lonely after I gave my teddy bear away. He was so cute, came with a little tag that said he was no match for a jealous bear. And if ever the day should come that you can no longer love him, please give him to a good home. He was shipped from the Vermount Teddy Bear factory, even his little arms and legs were bendable. I had a weak moment and gave Bandit to a little kid.......things just haven't been the same without him. | |
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| Have you really ever felt really lonely?
Posted: 6/3/2006 8:44:33 PM | Tom404--
A marriage can get that bad, but it doesn't have to, if you and the one you marry are both committed to it 100%; not 50/50, but 100/100. It means compromise and letting the small stuff go. When respect goes out the door, so does the relationship. | |
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| Have you really ever felt really lonely?
Posted: 6/3/2006 8:51:50 PM | I try not to think about the loneliness too much, but there have been a few times where it really hits me. I miss my kids.
I miss passionate kissing, sex, being touched and held as though I am truly cherished. I miss the touch of skin next to mine and talking to someone that truly cares about me.
Personally, I think people are too "busy". I don't believe in being too "busy" for people. If someone needs me, I am available. | |
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| Have you really ever felt really lonely?
Posted: 6/3/2006 9:07:42 PM | If you haven't ever felt lonely, you aren't experiencing life.
"I like to think that the day you're born you're given the world as your birthday present. A gorgeous box wrapped with incredible ribbons! And some people don't even bother to open the ribbon, let alone open the box. And when they open the box, they expect to see only beauty and wonder and ecstasy. They are surprised to find that life is also pain and despair. Its loneliness and confusion. It's all part of life. I don't know about you, but I don't wan't to pass life by. I want to know every single thing in that box. This little box named Pain. Well, it's mine, too, and I'm going to open up pain and experience pain. And this little box is marked Loneliness. And you know what happens when I open that box marked Loneliness? I experience loneliness. And when you tell me "I'm lonely," I can understand a little bit about your loneliness, and there we can come together and hold each other's lonely hands. I want to know all of those things." | |
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| Have you really ever felt really lonely?
Posted: 6/4/2006 1:39:07 AM | | I like being alone, but my first marriage taught me the true meaning of loneliness. There is no loneliness like being alone while in a relationship. | |
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| Have you really ever felt really lonely?
Posted: 6/4/2006 1:44:36 AM | | Oh yes. Like tonight because someone I care about, is upset with me. It usually hits me when I am upset, or something from the past comes back and smacks me one when I least expect it. Last week was a very hard week and one night when my grandma was having some issues, I felt incredibly alone and lonely. | |
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| Have you really ever felt really lonely?
Posted: 6/4/2006 1:56:50 AM | | I have been lonely in two ways. First there is lonely when you are by yourself and wish you had someone to share your life. And then there is onley when you are with someone that you are supposed to be in a relationship with and they are never there. I would rather be by myself the second is more painful. | |
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| Have you really ever felt really lonely?
Posted: 6/4/2006 2:07:17 AM | | I've spent so much time by myself over the years, i've got use to being lonely. Hey my life isn't going to be like this forever, so i can handle it for now. Things can only get better, i hope lol. | |
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| Have you really ever felt really lonely?
Posted: 6/4/2006 3:43:44 AM | | Yes, every day. Like a hole in my soul. So I try to connect to other human beings, even if only on a forum like this. I force myself to put my best face on and get out even if to take a walk to the corner store. Human contact is the thing that helps me get past the feeling, but I think a loving relationship would cure it. I know the blah, blah, blah, talk says that we have to feel whole on our own, but no man/woman is an island, and feeling loved and a sense of belonging is in my opinion, the secret to feeling whole. | |
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| Have you really ever felt really lonely?
Posted: 6/4/2006 6:27:36 PM | ^^^^God yes, I'm lonely right now. A big hole, like something's missing. ^^^^^^^^
A big hole, that's what it feels like... dark, no bottom, just black space. I can try and keep myself busy, but sometimes it is a real downer, makes your heart feel heavy, when you see two people walking and holding hands - going to the movies - just picking up and doing whatever--with that someone....
It's funny, everything you took for granted without giving it a second thought when in a relationship, how automatic it was to just do things with your partner. Saying "how about we _____________ ?
It hurts when there is just no "we" anymore, and you're feeling it. | |
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| Have you really ever felt really lonely?
Posted: 6/4/2006 7:15:57 PM | | At work I am fine. When I get home and the kids and I make dinner and do HW and other things like playing catch, I am also fine. It is as the song goes, in the wee small hours of the morning, while the whole wide world is fast asleep...For me 3AM is the hardest hour of the day. I wake and can't fall back asleep and the silence is deafening. | |
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