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| Have you really ever felt really lonely?
Posted: 6/4/2006 8:57:16 PM | Yes... When I was growing up I felt like I was an outsider looking in. I could be alone in a crowd. One of the reasons I got married to a woman I didn't love or even really care for. She said she loved me so I said ok marry me. Spent 18 lonely years in a bad marriage. Took me forever to become fine with being alone. I still feel bouts of loneliness where I would give anything to touch and be touched by another human being. But, then I manage to get myself out of it eventually.
So yes, I have felt VERY VERY VERY lonely...
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| Have you really ever felt really lonely?
Posted: 6/6/2006 2:50:28 PM | | Yes, in particular is when you need a friend to lean on or someone special to be by your side when things go wrong ....That's when you get lonely alot...I mean I do have my family and such, but someone to care about when you need to talk about issues or just plain anything for that matter...These are just a tidbit of things when you do feel lonely.. | |
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| Have you really ever felt really lonely?
Posted: 6/7/2006 1:07:18 AM | I remember this one night , My girlfriend at the time called me to tell me that morning that she met another guy and she wasn't going to wait for me to come home anymore.
I was working in my band and we were playing in Winnipeg doing a festival thing, I had a rental car and I drove away to get away because everything was stressing me out .
I found this little place where it was a little beach on a lake and as far as you could see there was nothing but trees . the lake was as still as glass and it was very quiet. This was when I realized that loneliness is not really such a bad thing . It can be very peaceful if you let it .
Once in a while when it get's hectic I remember that little spot and try to take myself there. oh and as for the girlfriend she was a bitch anyway, I think it took me about 3 minutes to get over that one. | |
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| Have you really ever felt really lonely?
Posted: 6/7/2006 1:11:44 AM | Heheh; well better luck next time!
That is called, solitude - doncha think? Different from lonliness. True lonliness, I experienced once for a couple of days. I don't mean that in a flippant way. It was true, heart sickening loneliness that I had never, ever experienced before. NO words to describe it. But, I was happy for the experience, because now I understand better what some people go through. | |
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| Have you really ever felt really lonely?
Posted: 6/7/2006 10:44:19 AM |
Oh, Keeping, you know you're lonely without me! lol
Ok, maybe a little.
I've always wondered....."what is lonely?" ......Devoid of something? | |
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| Have you really ever felt really lonely?
Posted: 12/3/2006 12:27:40 PM | Loneliness just becomes a way of life after a while. It's best to accept it until things change.
I've always wondered....."what is lonely?" ......Devoid of something?
It's feeling one's self completely alone and longing for the company of friends.... social isolation... a feeling of desolation... being devoid of human companionship and affection. | |
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| Have you really ever felt really lonely?
Posted: 12/3/2006 12:31:08 PM | | Yes I do, and it's worse around the holidays. :o( I have my kids, friends and family (and wouldnt trade them for the world), but its not the same as having a significant other who makes your heart flutter. | |
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| Have you really ever felt really lonely?
Posted: 12/3/2006 12:48:00 PM | Romantic love -- has become
an emptyness....
a hollow memory.....
nothing to give..
feeling drained.
An illusion
without magic...
thoughts swirl....
sadness...
emptyness...
endless waiting
for.....???????
time for more
  
then onto the     
and a  to all you lonely  | |
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| Have you really ever felt really lonely?
Posted: 12/3/2006 12:53:06 PM | in general no I dont feel lonely...but like many there are moments which do trigger my "lonely" responses:
Seeing an old couple who actually seem to enjoy each others company.
One too many satudrday nights without "plans"
Anytime some romantic venture fails to "deliver"
I dont even know if its really loneliness..as much as "desire to have someone"...but I guess that just me using nicer words to describe the same feeling..lol. | |
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| Have you really ever felt really lonely?
Posted: 12/3/2006 1:43:20 PM | | You have heard "I'm never alone, I'm alone all the time" ... sometimes you go through the motions and can appear ok, but inside the loneliness is still there, wanting to share it with someone. I am the "rock" in our group of friends, I put on a good act, if you ask anyone, I handle everything perfectly .. HA!!! I should get paid to act. | |
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| Have you really ever felt really lonely?
Posted: 12/3/2006 9:36:43 PM | Lonely for a relationship, or alone in life? That feeling was directly tied to the worst depression I've ever been through, the feeling of being totally alone after an auto accident that ruined my vehicle, my finances, my relationship, and affected my employment, my friendships, and my self-worth. The day after the accident, 5 people called to see how I was doing (4 family members, 1 friend). Two days after, I'd only received 1 call from someone other than my insurance company (and I'll plug Progressive here, they were awesome). But the fact the the person I was riding with, who was my SO, never called me, that hurt worse than the gash in my arm or the chemical burns from the air bags, and The Blues became a depression that threatened my life at times. Thank God for the one person who called to check up on me!
But sure, now that I'm myself again, I do still feel lonely, but I don't feel "totally alone" much anymore. I can call the new friends I've made, or just e-mail my old friends. Or grab my oldest friends (my books) off the shelf, if all the humans I know are busy. Going to the gym helps, too, because at the very least I can bother the person at the desk, in order to get some human contact!
But I agree, normal people feel alone like you're talking about a few times in life. Abnormal people feel it often, or never. I'm glad to say that I'm normal, in that regard.
* No sympathy about the accident, please. My new car's paid for, my job is stable, and I'm safe, sane, and healthy now. My family has an extensive history of being more stubborn than the rough stuff fate throws at us, and this little incident only set my life back by about 10 days, before I was working on a concrete plan to reclaim control of my life. I'm good now!*
-B. | |
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| Have you really ever felt really lonely?
Posted: 12/15/2006 11:30:50 PM | Been lonely for way to long,
when will pain be gone.
A empty bed and a broken heart
rip this life apart.
I lay on a pillow soaked with tears,
trying to ignore my fears.
My fears of dieing alone
a shallow grave that holds my bones.
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| Have you really ever felt really lonely?
Posted: 12/15/2006 11:36:23 PM | Wow, OP - you touched a nerve, good post.
I had never felt that kind of lonliness that you speak of, until my husband left me. I know that it was a lot of my doing and i take full responsibility for it.
I had a dream the other night, that he was lying next to me in bed and I woke up and it was as if nothing had happened...
Yes; we all want to feel acknowledged, loved and completed and - listened to.
Love you all and have a great holiday.
BIG HUGS AND FREE COOKIES!!!  | |
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| Have you really ever felt really lonely?
Posted: 12/16/2006 4:13:56 AM | yes, when i've lost friends and family. to death. death is a lonely feeling. all other times, never. there is too much to do and see in this lifetime....alone or with company. with company preferred!! and i extend the hand just often enough to spark very cool and solid friendships lasting a lifetime and across the globe!!
lonliness is a choice, as is love. | |
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| Have you really ever felt really lonely?
Posted: 12/16/2006 4:14:48 AM | Yes. In my marriage I was very lonely.
There is nothing (to me) worse than the feeling of disconnect and loneliness while ostensibly in a relationship. I'd rather *be* alone than ever feel that again. | |
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| Have you really ever felt really lonely?
Posted: 12/16/2006 4:42:17 AM | I rarely feel onelythough I am an empty nester..I enjoy my solitude..which is different from loneliness.
Loneliness is when you dont have any goals to look forward to ..take up hobbies that are solitary where u could do without having to find a mate..I love sewing, knitting , crotchet..art , reading, writing..all solitary hobbies that have helped me go thru the most tryng of times in my life..it teaches patience, endurance and throught it u could also find friends..
We all sleep alone at the end of our journey, never seen a coffin built for two,so get use to sleeping solo. | |
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| Have you really ever felt really lonely?
Posted: 12/16/2006 5:18:48 AM | | loneliness is different to alone. I am alone now but don't feel nearly as lonely as i did in my marriage. It is the most desolate and soul destroying of emotions.always better to be alone than to be with someone who makes you feel this way. There are probably very few people that have never felt this way...take comfort and know from that alone that we are all in the same position at one time or another in our lives | |
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| Have you really ever felt really lonely?
Posted: 12/16/2006 5:43:06 AM | | I think the loneliest time of my life was when I was married...my husband would come home from work..and fall asleep on the couch..I use to look at him and think..there has got to be more to life than this...20 something and this is it? And so it went downhill from there...needless to say he is still lying on the couch (his mother's) and I have 2 love seats no couch | |
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| Have you really ever felt really lonely?
Posted: 12/16/2006 9:02:16 AM | | I've been alone (mostly) by choice for four years now. I suffer from chronic depression. The lonliness i have felt has given me the strength to change. I don't want to be alone, so i have no choice but to get better through meds and therapy. It's working. I'm getting better. Eventually i won't be alone. I hope. | |
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