| Have you really ever felt really lonely?
Posted: 12/16/2006 9:20:50 AM | I love my friends dearly, but they don't fill that void of companionship... I keep telling myself someday....There's someone out there for all of us....
Happy Holiday's every one  to all
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| Have you really ever felt really lonely?
Posted: 12/16/2006 9:32:22 AM | Yes. I've felt like I'm missing some half of myself since I was a pre-teen. It's funny, Marilyn Monroe, whom I know I LOOK nothing like, had some type of thing about her that I can relate well to. She'd get married and still want her 'real' husband. The woman was not stupid. She knew she was really married. But real meant something else to her.
Real has only ever meant one thing to me too...one person in particular and then another who looked so much like him and whose life kept intersecting with mine that I was sure it was the same guy. | |
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| Have you really ever felt really lonely?
Posted: 12/16/2006 9:47:17 AM | | I think everyone feels that way sometimes in life. I date, I have my daughter, family, friends, job, dart team, etc. but sometimes I still feel lonely. I think emotionally if you are not 100% satisfied, which who the hell is ever, you can have feelings like that. The key is to keep busy and hang with friends or family and not alone too much | |
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iris37
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Joined: 7/15/2005
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| Have you really ever felt really lonely?
Posted: 12/16/2006 10:13:07 AM | Being single can be lonley but being in a unhappy relationship is even lonelier....nothing worse than being in a unfullfilling relationship to make you feel lonely.....at least being single I'm free to do as I please....but yes being single can be very lonely at times. | |
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| Have you really ever felt really lonely?
Posted: 12/16/2006 3:20:34 PM | Yes I am lonely, married and divorced after 14 years, he was my life and so were "his friends".
I do not know what to do with my time, I date but that does not help at times because some are not the right ones. I have some friends but I do not see them that often. I am starting my life over and it is very hard, still trying to figure it out and stay positive. There is a reason for this I know, but hope it is over soon. I have the freedom to do what I want but I do not know what I want right now..The person I want to be with lives far away...the person I see now I do not see that much..But we all need to focus on ourselves no matter what, the only person you can depend on is yourself and only you can make you happy! | |
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| Have you really ever felt really lonely?
Posted: 12/16/2006 3:31:02 PM | I have a bit of a loner side to me,,so when I am alone,,I'm actaully happy,,just to get away from it all and have some me time,,its great
so my question would be can a loner be lonely???? | |
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| Have you really ever felt really lonely?
Posted: 12/16/2006 4:17:53 PM | hey, even a loner can be lonely, it happens. Sometimes a person just wants to socialize for a bit.
For me, I am alright with being alone most of the time, but there's been plenty of times where I find myself wanting a conversation, see someone laugh, something like that.
I have felt lonely for a while now, and thats from not have a soul to talk to...that I can relate to somewhat. I would have to say 95% of my time is spent this way, the 5% comes from going shopping...when I get asked, "Will this be all?"  | |
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Joined: 10/31/2006
Msg: 109 | |
| Have you really ever felt really lonely?
Posted: 12/16/2006 4:20:11 PM | Im recently divorced and can relate to this topic closely. Trying to start over sucks especially if you live in a place you where you only have a couple of friends that are married and never go out. So if there is any one in the Prattville/Montgomery Alabama area interested in getting together send me a message. it's lonely being single. | |
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iris37
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Joined: 7/15/2005
Msg: 110 | |
| Have you really ever felt really lonely?
Posted: 12/16/2006 4:24:23 PM | | Yes a loner can be lonely because I too love my alone time but as Ravager said sometimes it just nice to be in the mix. Most of my friends are involved so spending time with them is different than having someone special. | |
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| Have you really ever felt really lonely?
Posted: 12/16/2006 4:56:28 PM | | I felt the way you do some years ago when I was first seperated then divorced. It took a long time to get where I am now. I had a dog that I was very close to and really helped me. I said good-bye to him last year and had a relapse into this pit of loneliness and depression that I hadn’t experienced in a while but the worst part of it didn’t last as long. It comes and goes but the dips aren't as bad as they used to be and don’t last as long. OP – I don’t know what your situation is but it gets better, I swear. | |
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| Have you really ever felt really lonely?
Posted: 12/16/2006 5:39:39 PM | | dude you go through your whole life lonley until you meet someone who fills that void and then when they're gone you think youi're lonley. so just know that everyone at some point in their life has felt lonley. hope that makes it easier on you. | |
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| Have you really ever felt really lonely?
Posted: 12/16/2006 7:32:01 PM | | I think everyone has at one time or another..If your lnely most of the time seek therapy...or join a club, reach out to people. I am more of a loner so I enjoy my own company...but every so often I can feel lonely. | |
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| Have you really ever felt really lonely?
Posted: 12/16/2006 10:17:27 PM | | the loneliest I have ever felt , was when I found out through a phone call, that the mother of my kids was cheating on me.and my kids were playing around me, and I couldnt smile.that is a feeling i"ll never forget. Problem is it was most likely my fault.as have been most psat catastrophies in my love life.self defeating learned behaviours,DR phil... | |
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| Have you really ever felt really lonely?
Posted: 12/16/2006 10:30:53 PM | | yes i do,very day,i feel something missing.a good man,his arms aroud.we might in every way,but we need and wont some one in are lifes. | |
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| Have you really ever felt really lonely?
Posted: 12/17/2006 8:40:15 AM | | To come home from work early in the morning. call to your wife of 14 years, and here no reply. go to the living room and see her lying on the couch, so lovely and peacful. the envelope is all that is left the message has been sent. always in my heart. lonely...yes... | |
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| Have you really ever felt really lonely?
Posted: 12/17/2006 11:43:57 AM | i've felt lonely most of my life growing up. i am still single and alone. never married. haven't found the right person to be with. i have had friends but moved away.
there are many nosy intruders in my life now, i choose to be alone at this point because i do not like the feeling of being invaded or spied on or stalked. when people know you are alone the troublemakers come out to harass and abuse.
i try not to think about being on my own. to think about it like i am now is depressing.
for holidays, i just avoid anything that reminds me of them..treat it like its just another day of the week, nothing special. i make plans for myself to do something on my own without other people. to plan with others is always a guarantee that your plans for the day will be ruined.
i am feeling lonely right now because i had an unpleasant visit from family....in fact, you'd think christmas is supposed to make you feel unlonely but spending it with my family is always going to end up lonely
rather not even see them,ever,
its not worth it
they aren't worth it. my happiness and good feelings about myself should not be threatened by their presence but it is. so that is why they are not welcome in my life | |
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Joined: 10/31/2006
Msg: 119 | |
| Have you really ever felt really lonely?
Posted: 12/17/2006 1:05:38 PM | | I do not suspect I will be single long. I'm average looking but well educated and have a good career going for me. It's just really lonely right now because I live in a area where I have no friends or family. We moved here because I was sent to Montgomery with the guard to perform homeland security duties. | |
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| Have you really ever felt really lonely?
Posted: 12/17/2006 2:40:55 PM | I have felt really lonely before, when I moved to Toronto for the first time and was away from home the first time, it used to happen, even when I was with other people, I used to feel really lonely and home sick sometimes but haven't felt lonely in years. I like being alone, a lot, and if I get too lonely or bored and there's nobody around, I'll just go shopping, it's my vice. I can't wait to be alone again now though. Haven't been really alone in a long time, looking forward to it.
I lived alone for 3 years and just loved it, stopped feeling lonely after about the first week in my own place. | |
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dwomen
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Joined: 6/4/2006
Msg: 122 | |
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| Have you really ever felt really lonely?
Posted: 12/17/2006 4:22:54 PM | | I'm very lonely today. I tried to go out with a friend of mine, but we really don't like each other. So, it's been a really bad day for me, today...Tomorrow I know will be better... | |
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| Have you really ever felt really lonely?
Posted: 12/17/2006 5:22:13 PM | Loneliness is an insidious state of mind I suffered with since entering this world. It didn't matter what i did i felt completely alone. Sure i reached out did all my life, got married had a child and still felt completely alone. I felt as though i was in the wrong place, some how born to a world i didn't fit in. The world seemed a harsh place and everything around me stunned me, it was like electrical shock waves.
I couldn't understand why people were the way they were and couldn't relate to anyone, i tried church and Christian communities, joined spiritual communities and felt unreachable. And unable to reach another human being. It got so bad at one time i cut off the world locked the door and isolated myself for six months. Was the hardest six months of my life... I read somewhere that if a person couldn't be with themselves by themselves in solitary confinement they couldn't be with anyone else, i was desperate to be with others so i thought this was the answer. I'm glad to say i'm still sane, barely sometimes... During that six months i wrote a book called mindbomb (shattering of illusions) four hundred pages of an inner quest to come to terms with being in the world. during this time something did happen. I allowed myself to feel as completely alone as i could take, and reached desperate levels of loneliness, sorrow and pain. And consciously allowed myself to go even deeper. Till one day something did happen, something shifted, i couldn't feel lonely anymore even when i tried. I was finally able to be with myself by myself and be ok.
I still felt defective or fundamentally flawed but just accepted that fact, i don't beleive that any more but at the time i was ok with feeling this about myself i didn't need to be anything other then i was or felt about myself. I could finally re enter the world and be ok being by myself. Feeling fundamentally flawed I still didn't want to be with anyone and worked very hard to change something that didn't even exist. It took meeting some one very special to finally dispel the belief that there was nothing wrong with me.
I still don't get why the world wants to be the way it is but am able to be in it. I don't need to understand everyone. I feel like Gary Jules describes in the song mad world, actually listening to it as i type. I don't recommend the isolation to anyone this was a part of my journey, i've always handled my pain on my own.
I'm finding now days The sheer joy of relating to a special person in a way i always believed to be the way but never dreamed would be my reality in this world. Two minds, two souls, two hearts found each other in a world that makes no sense at all. If all the pain and sorrow i've suffered was the path to her heart I would gladly walk that path a hundred times over again.
To anyone who is feeling alone, You are Loved deeply and wholey just as you are. We feel deeply, some times so deeply it feels as though we are feeling for the world, and perhaps we are who knows. There is an equal amount of joy to feel so don't be afraid to feel deeply because you will feel the joy of Limitless Love because you feel so deeply.
Hugs to everyone who feels alone on this day,
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