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| Why do Men ask to see your pics then NEVER talk to you again....?
Posted: 6/11/2006 7:08:46 PM | its unfortunate some people just dont have the courtesy to take a minute of their time to reply. i see it as, if soemone has the curiousity to ask what you look like,,,they should have the manners to reply back. even if its just a thank you for the pic. it was thier request in the first place.
to me..i see it as..why let it bother you. its not like your life will change over them being illmannered. brush it off and continue on.
i see so many people complaining over what others do...wether not reading a email/deleting it, to rude responses etc.
i am glad i never experienced any of it. i responde to all and have had replies that were polite back. emails i sent out..all the people have replied back so far. even though i am not delusional to think it will always happen this way.
 look forward to the replies that matter and this will mean its a person you will want to get to know. | |
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| Why do Men ask to see your pics then NEVER talk to you again....?
Posted: 6/11/2006 7:37:34 PM | | I find it hard to say I'm not interested in someone. I don't like getting my feelings hurt, so I hate hurting someone elses. I would never just disappear though. It doesn't matter what they look like, I can still be friendly and chat with them. I have a question though. I was talking for days with a guy and sent him more pics of me. We still talked that night, but the last two he hasn't been around. Now when I search for his profile its not there. Does that mean I'm blocked or am I being paranoid? I'm knew on here and not sure how everything works yet. | |
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| Why do Men ask to see your pics then NEVER talk to you again....?
Posted: 6/11/2006 8:01:31 PM | tallgirl IF you are blocked when you send a message it tells you this person has blocked you...trust me I know..LOL....one guy that I met face-to-face was not a great person HE did things I was so scared...and when he got to his car I guess he had NET on cell phone he blocked me so I could not send him what I thought of him and his actions....so beware of some guys on POF....not all but some... | |
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| Why do Men ask to see your pics then NEVER talk to you again....?
Posted: 6/11/2006 8:41:53 PM | It is because if the guy doesn't like what is on the outside then he will have no interest on the real you.
That's a very broad generalisation, but even if it were completely true it goes both ways.
When you meet a new person (guys or girls) in real life, say for instance a new person at work, you see them day in and day out. Even if there really wasn't much of a physical attraction at first sight, their personality might be so very attractive (they are super funny and great to talk to) which in turn makes them more attractive in your eyes....you know how it is. Over time, you are looking forward to seeing this person everyday...you may even fall in love and wind up together....with someone you didn't even think was very attractive at first sight. (But hey, let's wake up and smell the coffee....nobody's meeting anybody at work.)
Meeting someone online is not like that. It's actually quite the opposite. Looks are all you have to go with at first. I don't read profiles without a picture. Posting a good clear recent pic is just a way of showing you have nothing to hide. Some guys say they are from a small town and people they know will see it. Who cares if someone you know sees it. Do your friends not realize that you are single and looking? Is it a big secret that you want to be happy and loved? Is it something to be ashamed or embarrassed about? I don't think so.
It is so easy to get a pic. Digi cams are cheap and you can even just take a photo to some place like Staples and they'll scan it and put it on a cd for you. To me, it shows that a person is willing to put forth an ounce of effort. (And make it a clear face shot, some of the pics people post are almost as bad as no pic at all.) I think the worst thing you can do is say in your profile "I'm no beauty" without posting a pic. You are basically telling people that you are so hideous that you don't even think people will be able to handle seeing a photo. And I highly doubt that is the case in most of the non-photo profiles. But I'll never find out.
Even if you look in the mirror and think you are not that attractive...you never know who is going to think you have the face they've only ever seen once before...in their dreams.
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| Why do Men ask to see your pics then NEVER talk to you again....?
Posted: 6/11/2006 9:27:05 PM | I don`t have the magic answer here but, I do know that inner beauty far outweighs outside beauty. I think its more important to know your own self worth and pay less attention to men who ask for something and then lay it aside and never respond again. You are simply worth more. Its their loss in the end.
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Catwm
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Joined: 3/1/2006
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| Why do Men ask to see your pics then NEVER talk to you again....?
Posted: 6/15/2006 7:23:24 AM | | hey women do the same thing. Its the down side of not posting a pic. Personally I do not post a pic because I do not want any Tom****Harry or Jane to know who I am or that I am using this means to meet someone. I will selectively provide a pic to those I want to have one. To assume all those without pics are married, men or women, is faulty and depriving yourself of a possible opportunity to meet someone perfect for you. Whats wrong with reviewing profiles and asking for a pic if the profile suits you otherwise. If your asking me for a pic you better make sure you send one with your request. I don't get excited if no pic is there and I rarely ask for one. Often they are years younger and 50 pds lighter than reality or not them at all. The only true measure is to meet over coffee for 15 minutes and save all the emails back and forth. I for one do not have the time for the mating dance until after I establish there is a mutual interest. | |
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| Why do Men ask to see your pics then NEVER talk to you again....?
Posted: 6/15/2006 11:19:04 AM | HotpinkAngel,
I found this site by accident googling for something else, and this thread caught my eye enough to want to join the forum.
I don't necessarily agree that the guy is shallow. I don't know the guy, so I can't really say, but I will say this: Lasting love requires - among other things - an initial spark of attraction. The guy did not find that in your photo. I don't think his lack of a response was cowardly or rude. He was probably trying to save your feelings. Why do you need him to confirm that he's not interested by telling you what you already know?
There are a couple of woman friends in my life who are interested in me, we get along great and are compatible in many ways. I have even dated one of them. She's a great person inside, we make each other laugh, she'd make a great mom, and we agree on many things, but there's something missing: I just don't feel "that way" about her, plain and simple, and it's not necessarily that I don't find her physically attractive. I have TRIED find that spark, but I couldn't force it to happen no matter how hard I tried. Am I shallow?
As others have said, you can avoid this frustration in the future by posting a pic on your profile. | |
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| Why do Men ask to see your pics then NEVER talk to you again....?
Posted: 6/15/2006 12:05:28 PM | | It's not that they're not man enough...I just don't think they would want to hurt your feelings...I know from my experience that when I ask to see a pic because attraction is important to me and if I don't find them attractive I just don't respond...not to be hurtful towards them...but because I don't want to hurt there feelings...cause I may not find them attractive doesn't mean they're not attractive....I just don't want to hurt there ego....there's nothing worse than rejection...so instead of looking at it as a bad thing look at it as...they may not be responding to you because they want to spare your feelings....for you to say in your profile you're not a beauty...I think everyone is beautiful and there will be someone out there of the opposite sex that will see the beauty in you...so don't waste your time worrying about the ones that don't respond...take time for the ones that are interested!!! | |
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| Why do Men ask to see your pics then NEVER talk to you again....?
Posted: 6/15/2006 12:15:09 PM | Tallgirl is right on it. Post a picture up front so you'll only hear from people who find you attractive. I've been on the soap box for a long time that if you are embarassed or ashamed or SO cautious of being seen to have a photo posted then you probably don't really belong here anyway.
This isn't 5th period study hall. This is grown up stuff. People looking to make connections. The handful of staunch believers in Hollywood romance will dispute that, but it is what it is. | |
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Joined: 6/28/2006
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| Why do Men ask to see your pics then NEVER talk to you again....?
Posted: 7/13/2006 12:13:11 AM | We are all humans, but we are not all the same. Everyone reacts differently.
About the::: ("NEVER talk to you again ...? ) Means: Their silence did talk instead of words.
For example: I used to have a Web Camera (cheap blurry picture) on my profile. I did send messages--- l did get messages---some did not answer. The ones l had no answer, the WRITING WAS ON THE WALL : They were not interested.
Others said l was attractive; others replied: "not interested" I had dates, but l had more desappointments than surprises. Women can fix their faces with makeups, at least they look faken good. Men can't do this; There are many things women can do, men can't...LOL
--I couldn't stand looking at my blurry (earthquake) picture; so; l removed it. I have no pictures there now. A few weeks ago, l installed a --16 years old picture on my profile-- just for the hack of it. Was not a joke, it was my picture. I wanted to see the reaction. I had to removed that picture two days later, of course, l didn't want mislead the ladies, although l was misleaded many times. Long stories; Will not elaborate...
I will not go to the studio purposely to take a picture to put here. Also, l will not post a picture of a dog-- or a cat-- or a grandson, instead of myself, or put a miniature picture in my profile to require a magnify glass, in order to see if is anybody there...
My policy: No pictures! I RATHER HAVE SURPRISES THAN DESAPPOINTMENTS. | |
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| Why do Men ask to see your pics then NEVER talk to you again....?
Posted: 7/13/2006 12:43:45 AM | | Because he doesn't think you're attractive. Duh. Post a picture of yourself, throw it out there, and stop hiding. Stop apologizing for what you look like, then whining when you experience rejection. All of us have been there. God knows, I'm no Brad Pitt. | |
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| Why do Men ask to see your pics then NEVER talk to you again....?
Posted: 7/13/2006 1:20:21 AM | women do that just as much as men. it is the easiest way to say not interested nowadays. i cant 100 messages out with a picture and get maybe at the most 2 responses were people would say not interested.
it goes with the same measure of read/deleted.
why get bent out oh shape over that. i bet all the people that complain about no responses would be more bent out of shape if they said "your not my type" or "im not interested in you". and if someone would do that kind of response, the other person would keep e-mailing with the question of why. why dont you like me, why are you not interested, why, why, why.
i have done that a few times to people because i have found it was easier that saying your not my type. because the ones i did say sorry im not interested to would e-mail me back non-stop with the questions of "why?", "why? is it because im ugly?", "why? i think we would be good together. why dont you like me?". than when you do stop taking to them, they keep e-mailing you with the questions of why dont you talk to me, or thats when they start the well your missing out on a good thing speach followed by the various use of choice words or threats that we would be so perfect together and if i dont go out with them they will kill them selves. | |
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