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| Why do Men ask to see your pics then NEVER talk to you again....?
Posted: 7/28/2006 7:17:41 AM | angel...I don't think you should show the pic anyway at first. I can not stand for some guy to get on here and tell me, not even ask, to see my pic. I have been told by many people, men and women, that I am attractive but I have no idea who's at the other end of the line.
Plus I don't want some pushy guy demanding to see me. People judge us by our looks too much when really that only tells part of the story. A lot of people on here are looking to get laid and base what comes next on your picture...that's BS. Whatever happened to getting to know someone before anything like that.
Don't send your pic and stand up yourself. When you are ready to send it go for it but not prematurely. Make them wait it out for a few chats...if they don't want to wait they weren't worth your time to begin with and it's one less male on the internet that has your pic and your didginity can remain intact. | |
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halby
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Joined: 7/19/2006
Msg: 78 | |
| Why do Men ask to see your pics then NEVER talk to you again....?
Posted: 7/28/2006 7:30:36 AM | | the reason some men ask to see pics and then not talk anymore is becaues most guys are really shallow and only interested in phisical beauty. its manly the fault of the media and advertiseing due to the fact that nowadays the majority of the tv female population is cover girls, pinups and models. sad yes but also painfully true. | |
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eman07
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Joined: 6/30/2006
Msg: 81 | |
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| Why do Men ask to see your pics then NEVER talk to you again....?
Posted: 7/28/2006 7:55:58 AM | Don't cast all men in the same mold but at the same time get a pic up.
It's a real shitty feeling to have to respond to a person after seeing there pic and
that pic is a major turnoff.
I always respond, and what I say is "Sorry I'm not interested
I wish you all the best."
Kristinarib made a nice comment about why don't you show your pic in the first
place. Even if you're not that good looking you have a better chance meeting someone and she also said what do you have to hide.
One last thing. What really sucks is a woman that doesn't have a pic up
and has a username which is very misleading. Their only setting theirselfs up for a fall. | |
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| Why do Men ask to see your pics then NEVER talk to you again....?
Posted: 7/28/2006 8:07:38 AM | This is to Parteegirl,halby and all those others that are calling guys shallow and other comments.
I have 5 sisters and many girlfriends growing up and they always had some stuoid comment about guys going only for looks. Well the most shallowest people out there are woman not.
You ladies without pics are emailing who. Good looking or the magor turnoffs. No probably the good looking guys. Well that's pretty shallow especially when you don't send a pic.
Give me and all guys a break. Woman either want a Hot Man or a Guy with Bucks.
So get off the Bashing Men for being shallow.
PS PPPPUUUUTTTT yyyooouuurr PPIIICC UUPP or don't email a guy with a pic.
Last Ps Why don't you just email guys without pics up and then your both playing in the same game. | |
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| Why do Men ask to see your pics then NEVER talk to you again....?
Posted: 7/28/2006 8:26:40 AM |
I have a question though. I was talking for days with a guy and sent him more pics of me. We still talked that night, but the last two he hasn't been around.Now when I search for his profile its not there
Means his wife/gf caught him!
Seriously,ya gotta learn to shrug this sort of thing off...
I DO hear you on the deal about not hurting people's( yes guys ARE people LOL)feelings, and I try to really look at the pic, it may be just a bad photo(and sometimes, depending on tech factors, photos appear on a site with a certain degree of distortion!) So we all should be careful about blowing somebody off just because their picture didn't make our hormones(or whatever!) stand up and cheer...but yeah, sometimes ya just KNOW there is no way that it's gonna happen, just please try to handle it gracefully and kindly if you can...
What goes areound comes around.
Cindy O | |
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| Why do Men ask to see your pics then NEVER talk to you again....?
Posted: 7/28/2006 8:38:48 AM |
Plus I don't want some pushy guy demanding to see me. People judge us by our looks too much when really that only tells part of the story.
I don't know you or what you look like but that comment is typical the denial defense used by the 400 lb and up club.
If there is no photo on your profile, it's my opinion that you should say why there isn't one.
As far as people judging by looks, do you go out of your way to date the ugliest men you can find?
Face the fact. Looks are what the initial attraction is about. Personality can't come into play until people actually meet and talk. And a picture of your shoe, your car, your dog, your pickup truck, a coastline, or a ghastly photo of yourself in a robe and curlers with a beer in one hand and a cigarette hanging out of your mouth will likely get you passed over every time.
It is what it is, ya know? | |
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fpcat
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Joined: 6/5/2005
Msg: 86 | |
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| Why do Men ask to see your pics then NEVER talk to you again....?
Posted: 7/28/2006 9:03:00 AM | ..I'd rather they say NOT Interested....but not saying anything is not easy for my ego to accept...I know I am not a Barbie or a Model...heck I could model for the Goodyear Blimp but I am also honest about it...We did not get to choose who our parents are...IF we could do you think I would have sellected the ones I had.....nope I'd ask for Pamela anderson or maybe Dolly Parton's but I didn't get to ....so I deal with it by being honest ....I do not wish it upon anyone but who can guarantee that they will look as handsome/pretty as they do now....you never know what is in store...a terrible accident....fire...who knows...would you be less the person you are because of it...no....but IF you look at the outside and not the inner person you MIGHT one day get a huge awakening.... | |
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eman07
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Joined: 6/30/2006
Msg: 88 | |
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| Why do Men ask to see your pics then NEVER talk to you again....?
Posted: 7/28/2006 9:12:35 AM | | Most men look for an attraction,an not from the inside out.But that can go either way,you can meet a very attractive woman,but she could have issues with her attitude..Some men that workout an try an stay fit dont want to meet a female that has let herself go..Thats human nature,face it,if theres no attraction,your spinning your wheels. | |
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Banji
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Joined: 7/9/2006
Msg: 90 | |
| Why do Men ask to see your pics then NEVER talk to you again....?
Posted: 7/28/2006 9:35:52 AM |
They ask to see your pictures for the very same reason that we ask to see theirs! Look, be realistic. Some folks will like your looks and be your type. Some won't. In the first place, if I had my way NO ONE would be on the site if they didn't post a picture.
I have been in this situation myself and I'm a girl. Someone will email me and say they are interested in me. The funny thing about it to me is that they will invariably mention that they liked my picture. Then when I go to look at theirs, there isn't one. That puts me in the position of either pretending that looks don't matter (which they do) or asking for the picture. I will usually not email very much at all until I see a picture. I don't want to start a relationship with someone who I have never seen. The only time looks don't matter is after you get to know a person. This isn't that sort of forum.
If I receive the picture and I don't find myself attracted to the person, I usually just don't email back. What is the person supposed to do? Email you and say, "I don't find you attractive. Never mind"?
If you want to prevent this from happening, post your best picture. That way no one will contact you unless they find you to be their type. You look at their pictures, they have a right to see yours.
I know this will sound harsh, but stop whining. You suspected this would be their reaction or you'd have posted a picture anyway. What you need to realize is that you are someone's type. I have found myself attracted to men who were not conventionally handsome because they had something else goin for them. There's a match for you. However, expecting men to be sensitive to someone they have never even met is unrealistic. Besides, when they don't respond they are trying to be sensitive most likely.
WELL SAID, PENNY! | |
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| Why do Men ask to see your pics then NEVER talk to you again....?
Posted: 7/28/2006 9:53:05 AM | I think it's just natural human nature to
"look before we leap". We all have our own
personal tastes, likes and dislikes no? It'd
foolish to continue contact "blind".
As well, seeing a pic' is somewhat helpful
although certainly not foolproof in determining
wether or not a person is misrepresenting who
they are. We all know it happens way too often.
Reign,
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| Why do Men ask to see your pics then NEVER talk to you again....?
Posted: 7/28/2006 10:03:59 AM | | Yes, I feel your pain. It happens all the time. The only advice I can give you is to fake your picture and put an old pic of you up there of when you were younger and hotter. Then go meet wearing ugly missmatched flood pants and a spandex top, and be all stinky and sweaty like you didn't shower for a week. Bring a bunch of kids alone too. Borrow some, and then say, to him, "can you pick up the tab if I feed my babies in this cafe ?". HAHAHA I love it. | |
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| Why do Men ask to see your pics then NEVER talk to you again....?
Posted: 7/29/2006 7:45:32 AM | first off searching4utoday...I never called anyone shallow so that must be you projecting onto yourself. It's very disconcerting to have someone you know nothing about demand a pic when I don't feel like spreading my pic around the internet. there is nothing wrong with that. I don't see anything wrong with someone having a nice chat and not telling you their whole sexual history in the first 10 lines of an IM or mail.
If people would take the time to read profiles they would know exactly where I am coming from. I enjoy chatting with some of these peeps becaused they seem genuine(even if they are not) but they don't act as if I owe them my pic, home address or a roll in the hay. Some people are a lot nicer than others. Even you read any of my other forum posts you would see that I don't group men alone as jerks, pigs, or pushy, shallow individuals. Regardless of what city, state, or country you live in you will find paople like this everywhere...so save it. | |
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| Why do Men ask to see your pics then NEVER talk to you again....?
Posted: 7/29/2006 12:39:32 PM | | Consider yourself lucky that it happens that way. I don't have a pic on my profile because I don't know how to and refuse to crash another computer trying to. Yes I get limited responses and alot of times when they ask for a pic and I don't have one I never hear back from them and you know what, that's ok with me. It's easy enough to say that "Looks are important" but to alot of people they are. And believe it or not there are some people who will not respond if they think you are too goodlooking because "you must be shallow" or high maintence. I've met a few guys on here who accept the fact that I don't have a pic and are willing to meet for coffee. For me if I can't hold a conversation with someone and have to try to find something to say it doesn't matter what he looks like. As far as looks go he could be my ideal guy and make my heart jump into my throat but if I can't have a decent conversation with him. It's useless for long term. One night stand maybe but a relationship no way. There have been a few guys whom I've met whom I haven't been attracted to or vice versa and we never started dating but I end up with a great friend who I can laugh and talk to. YES while looks are important because you have to be attracted to them to have a physical relationship, you need more than that for the rest of the relationship. Now before you guys jump dowm my throat, I'm not saying all attractive people can't hold a conversation or are high maintence or even shallow. What I am saying is that you never know if someone (goodlooking or not) is someone you can talk to and relate to unless you talk to them and get to know them first. Personally I usually pic the ones without a posted pic because then I can usually get to know them first and when we finally do see what the other looks like and one or the other isn't attracted, then hopefully you've made a friend instead of meeting mr (or mrs) right and you're not left thinking "what a waste of time". I've yet to meet a person who has said to me "you know I have way too many friends". | |
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| Why do Men ask to see your pics then NEVER talk to you again....?
Posted: 7/29/2006 3:07:27 PM | snatch...the pictures you display on your profile speak thousands of words about ug, or should I say fug? who are you to say anything about what someone looks like? you are not even close to mediocre and you are on here trying to hurt people so you can feel better about your pathetic existence...get a life! | |
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