| What does it take for a man to attracted to a bbw
Posted: 6/29/2006 4:21:29 PM | | Yes Lukas is wright, no one cares why your fat and why you want to loose weight or why this and why that and me this and me that, millions of fat people buy Billions of dollars of weight loss products and keep making the sellers getting richer, so get it together, just lose your weight and get a life. | |
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| What does it take for a man to attracted to a bbw
Posted: 6/29/2006 5:29:14 PM | oh great im coming to montreal for the weekend....is this place anti-fat? crap..... so much for gettin laid.
and lukas someone can be happy bein overweight...its society's perception of the fat chic that has everyone thinkin we are unnaceptable and cant get hot guys or girls or a good job, its one choice to be big and they have to live with it on a day to day basis. not you or anyone else who isnt fat | |
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| What does it take for a man to attracted to a bbw
Posted: 6/30/2006 1:52:51 PM | | If you are so hot Lucas why do you spend your time on the forums arguing with women about there weight take a good look at yourself because in a matter of a few years lets see what you look like. We have kids and go thru hell and you mr. pretty boy are a big zero. | |
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| What does it take for a man to attracted to a bbw
Posted: 7/4/2006 5:53:12 AM | As a BBW in Montreal what does it take for a man to be intrested in us. Men have told me I am attractive but when it comes to my weight they cannot deal with it. I am seeing this guy and we have become great friends. We talk for hours almost all day everyday, and spend alot of time together. He is very much into me and everything is postive. However he wishes that I was not overweight. It is the only thing that he does not find attractive in me. Can I have suggestions on what I can do. I care for him and wish he would accept me the way I am.
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Ah Poohbear.
Work with what you got.
Sometimes it is a combination of things.
1. Perhaps it is clothes. Body flattering outfits will get get you eye approving stares.
2. Confidense, pride and dignity and a feel good sense about yourself.
3. As sense of humor, and the right amount of flirtation.
4. Aim for classy gentlemen that adore curves. Wouldn't you rather be with a gentleman that desires your company instead of fair weather friends or "shallow hals"?
5. The magic of availabilty. Make yourself busy: a hobby or some creative past time.
Unless you really aim to make yourself available to the right guy, making yourself elusive to the the world does have this quirky glamour. People who are too available get conveniently put on the shelf for some ones later on use. You do not want to feel you are collecting dust somewhere. Make yourself somewhat unavailable so that you really get cherished.
The Mystery lady is intriguing.
6. Poise and bearing. Who do you wish to be? the duchess or the maid... | |
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| What does it take for a man to attracted to a bbw
Posted: 7/5/2006 4:43:32 PM | Hey Mystic, I tried all of the above and I’m still alone, so what do I do after I had done everything you said on msg-31, what is the next step? is there a next step? I think I’ll go get that surgery done, the problem here won’t get solved with words, men don’t care about outfits, confidence, pride and dignity, even the classy ones don’t care, the only ones that give me attention is the ones that are not available. I have friends here that treat me like they are my friends but behind doors they whisper and laugh at me. I know I sound insecure, but how would you sound if your life was like mine, and no matter what anyone says, nothing will happen till I do something about it myself. | |
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Posted: 7/5/2006 5:45:22 PM | Hey Mystic, I tried all of the above and I’m still alone, so what do I do after I had done everything you said on msg-31, what is the next step? is there a next step? I think I’ll go get that surgery done, the problem here won’t get solved with words, men don’t care about outfits, confidence, pride and dignity, even the classy ones don’t care, the only ones that give me attention is the ones that are not available. I have friends here that treat me like they are my friends but behind doors they whisper and laugh at me. I know I sound insecure, but how would you sound if your life was like mine, and no matter what anyone says, nothing will happen till I do something about it myself.
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Alympia,
After you have done all the above, you may take this one more or maybe two more steps:
1. Place a profile in Largefriends.com. This site is dedicated for BBW admirers.
2. Attend parties where BBWs and their admirers meet, dance and start bonds.
3. Start new freindships and bonds with people who truly do cherish and love you. Discard the fair weather freinds & the shallow hals & heathers. Remember what a famous Jewish Essene prophet once said: DO NOT CAST PEARLS AT SWINE. (never give the best of yourself (or any of yourself) to the undeserving).
I was once just like you.
I once weighed 300 lbs. And it hurt being pushed aside. But I dealt with the issue my own way. My way was to lose weight. But that path was for me and worked for me. And that path and decision is what I chose and is uniquely mine. I am NOT asking you to do the same. Nor should you. Do what is good for you. Do what makes you feel happy. Do what you feel and think is right to YOU. Never do anything for someone else, do it all for YOU.
There are some things that some people can not change. If that is the case, play the cards you have been dealt with the best way you can. Before you love another, LOVE THYSELF first. You WILL connect with a sincere person. Give it time. Some one will see your heart of gold and claim you as his. You will KNOW it when it happens.
Keep thinking the positive and it will happen, this is karma. What ever energy you put out to the world, that is the energy and response you will get back.
As a sage once said: your decisions will determine your destiny, choose wisely. | |
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Posted: 7/6/2006 1:08:19 PM | What does it take for a man to be attracted to a BBW, in my case, what does it take for a woman to be attracted to a BBM. I use to be 420 pounds, and I hated every one that turned away but it did not bother me, one day my bro got a stroke, he was way younger than me, 10 years younger, and 300 pounds. It opened my eyes and I did something about it and lost 180 pounds, I’m almost there, 40 more pounds and I’ll be secure. It took 6 years, so why am I saying all this, is it to brag about myself? No it’s to inspire all the cry babies here that want to here that they are a beautiful person and if no one likes us the way we are then go to hell. Wrong attitude. Loser attitude.
I am proof of a person that lost the weight, no matter what anyone told me, no matter what the shrink had to say, nothing will change in anyone’s life if we don’t loose the weight, sooner or later you will realize that no matter how tough you want to be, it’s all a lie in your heart, no one wants to be over weight and hard on the eyes as they say it, I guess the guy Lukus B on meg-35 said it well, and I don’t think he cares about the negative response from the frustrated people that can’t accept the truth. I’d like to tell you one thing, a person that cannot lead there own destiny to take care of them selves do not deserve to be happy in life, no one will do the workout for you, stop being a crybaby and listening to mumbo jumbo and take care of yourself. I did it and now dating and being secure.
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| What does it take for a man to attracted to a bbw
Posted: 7/6/2006 11:34:12 PM | | never met a man who did not view a "little" extra as exciting after meeting me. self confidence is sexy - add a bit of****ness, a pinch of mystique and a spoonful of cleavage - trust me-- i would always prefer to have a little too much than not enough - be yourself - if that dosent work - ****-em' - and i don't mean that literally. luv jenn | |
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Posted: 7/6/2006 11:38:38 PM | btw - i have the blood pressure of an athelte, and it's a good thing cuz i can carry my skinny friends home from a hike, save them from drowning, and still drink a 12 before having lunch with Mom.be grateful for what you have, health issues are my only concern for you. i am also not prone to ****iness all the time cuz i don't deprive my self ANYTHING!
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| What does it take for a man to attracted to a bbw
Posted: 7/7/2006 4:37:39 PM | I agree with Scatterbrain although he was a little harsh about it. I think we as a society try too hard to defer blame or redirect it elsewhere whenever something is not to our liking or when the truth is too hard to hear.
However, it's not ok. Being obese is unhealthy and it's not visually pleasant either. Yes I do believe personality is more important in the long run and I personally prefer a person's face above all else but some things are hard to ignore no matter how much time passes and no matter how charming or pretty faced a person can be.
I myself was quite big for a short time and although it did hurt when people judged me by that I never lost sight of one thing: Being big was my own doing. I didn't buy into all the excuses that some will make for themselves: metabolism, genetics etc. Most people don't realise that overall obese people generally have HIGHER metabolisms than thin or average people because they consume more calories. The higher the intake, the harder the body works to try and burn it off. If you eat less like thin people do, the body actually burns less as well.
One thing remains constant and true about being fat and how to lose it: If you consume more calories than you burn, you'll gain weight. If you burn more than you consume, you'll lose. This is why gastric bypass surgery works. They consume less food and they lose the weight quite fast. No excuses about metabolism or genetics. They ALL lose the weight.
It's simple mathematics and there's no denying this. A good way to start (which is what I did) is to set yourself a limit in terms of calories and fat. Regardless of metabolism, The numbers I chose were 1300 kcal and 20g respectively per day, numbers low enough for any person to lose weight by no matter how low your metabolism your doctor claims is. By looking at the labels of most junk food and fast food you'll see it's difficult to stay below these numbers and still feel full or satisfied. So the key to losing weight (and staying below these numbers) is to find the foods that have low calorie/fat contents.
Examples of substitutions: white meats instead of reds, rice instead of fries, pita bread (whole wheat is even better) instead of sliced, mustard instead of mayo, skim milk instead of low-fat or whole milk, sliced turkey instead of bologna or processed meat slices (which are fat, bones, meat and other junk all mixed together), grilled foods instead of fried, frozen yogurts instead of ice cream, fruits and veggies as snacks instead of chips and candy etc..
And by finding substitutes that are just as good (or in some cases even better) than what is being replaced, you will not miss those things you've stopped eating. I certainly don't miss mayonnaise, that's for sure.
By doing this I lost all the excess weight in about a year and was still able to eat till I felt full. But most importantly, I reserved one day of the week where I'd indulge a bit and eat some fatty foods (pizza mostly.. I totally avoided burgers. Burgers, especially those of the mcdonald's or burger king variety, are extremely high in calories and fat and most don't even make you full so you'll definitely still eat more later.) to my heart's content.
Anyway, the point I'm trying to make is what do you have to lose by losing all the weight and getting back in shape? Nothing! You'll feel better, you'll look better and you'll be healthier. So instead of asking everyone else to change for you, why not change yourself for everybody AND for yourself?
And yes it may be hard at first and yes it might seem like the diet is not working. For the first 3 weeks after I started my diet nothing happened, and then suddenly i started to lose weight and the weight loss was gaining speed and I was losing more and more as the weeks went by. At my peak I was losing about 1.5 kilos a week. So yes it takes a bit of time to start seeing the effects but after that the pace will increase and you'll actually start losing weight faster and faster.
P.S.: I should clarify that I'm only talking about obese and morbidly obese people. If you just have "a little extra" here and there that's fine I think. I won't become unattracted to someone just because they have a little extra weight on. On the contrary, I prefer someone who has a little extra than someone who's a little too thin. | |
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Posted: 7/8/2006 4:17:11 PM | | Well, to start with, if she cares about herself and is willing to change…but not for me or someone else, but for herself--her own health and happiness. As with anything one desires to accomplish in life; until the decision is made that a change must occur (usually brought about by an epiphany) our situation will remain status quo. AND, the catalyst sparking that burning desire to change may come from many sources. It does not matter if it is the desire to have a successful love relationship. It does not matter if it is manifested from a book, a movie, a whim, or even a harsh comment from another person. But once it is internalized and made a part of ones fiber, (that desire to make a change for oneself) you will no longer see yourself as a fat person, a broke person, an unattractive person, or whatever is a detriment in your life. You will see yourself the way you want to be and that is key. You will make the desired change. BUT, to reiterate—it will only happen when we (ourselves) make the finally DECISION and live it. I conclude by saying, I have found that most people are beautiful in one way or another and have something beneficial to share if you are willing to open their book and read a few chapters. | |
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Posted: 7/8/2006 7:53:29 PM | The phrase "Big Beautiful Woman" (commonly abbreviated as BBW) is used by its proponents to denote an attractive, self-confident "woman of size". BBWs are also the focus of a subculture with interests centered on the acceptance, support, and admiration of obese women. Exceptionally large women are called SSBBWs, with the SS standing for "super size". The term "BHM," which stands for "big handsome man," is not nearly as prevalent as the term "BBW."
Men who are attracted to BBWs are known as "chubby chasers," "fat admirers," or simply "having a fat fetish," though many would reject the notion that attraction to women who are not thin is necessarily a fetish. Some of these men are attracted exclusively to BBWs, while others are simply attracted to good-looking women regardless of size.
The term BBW spread rapidly via the Internet during the 1990s. Although the original meaning of BBW was restricted to attractive full-figured women, the term has largely been corrupted to refer to any full-figured or overweight woman, whether she is attractive or not.
Most BBW websites are pornographic, and feature women who are barely overweight to those who are morbidly obese.
BBW has many near-synonyms with varying shades of meaning. "Rubenesque" (referring to the art of Peter Paul Rubens, known for portraying full-bodied women) is probably the closest synonym. "Full figured" has a more straightforward connotations, whereas "voluptuous" and "zaftig" usually connote ripeness, sensuality, ample bust and wide hips.
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Posted: 7/8/2006 9:45:57 PM | whereas "voluptuous" and "zaftig" usually connote ripeness, sensuality, ample bust and wide hips.
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They should have a category for voluptuous: BBB (BIG BUTT BABES)
hour glass figure as in narrow in waist, wide at the hips, a BIG BUTT!
Now that would be my kind of gal!!! a vamp or a vixen!
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Posted: 7/10/2006 9:14:14 AM | If you are so hot Lucas why do you spend your time on the forums arguing with women about there weight take a good look at yourself because in a matter of a few years lets see what you look like. We have kids and go thru hell and you mr. pretty boy are a big zero.
Typical fat girl repsonse. | |
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Posted: 7/10/2006 9:17:35 AM | oh great im coming to montreal for the weekend....is this place anti-fat? crap..... so much for gettin laid.
and lukas someone can be happy bein overweight...its society's perception of the fat chic that has everyone thinkin we are unnaceptable and cant get hot guys or girls or a good job, its one choice to be big and they have to live with it on a day to day basis. not you or anyone else who isnt fat.
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Gimme a break. No one chooses to be fat. What's wrong with you? Are you really serious?
And I know women have to go thru kids and all that, no one is questioning that. But the point is, the poster here was complaining about being a bbw and not getting attention. If you're happy with being fat then fine just shut up about it and don't complain. But the second you complain, lose it or live with the consequences. | |
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Posted: 7/11/2006 2:08:16 PM | Hahaha!! Never had any comaplints, Jenn? Really? Sorry, I really try not to be mean to ANYONE in these forums, but... I couldn't let that one slip past...
(as for the rest, she really is a super, fun, funny and attractive woman, no doubt) | |
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Posted: 7/15/2006 7:19:46 PM | I think it would be best for you to move on. If he can not accept you for who you are he will never accept you for who you are not. You could lose the weight but as most of us know the more we diet the more weight we gain and the worse we feel about our selves. It is a very rare thing for diets to work. I think we need to accept our selves for who and what we are. Keep this in mind , what happens if you lose the weight and then it slowly creeps back? are you ready to live in fear of him leaving you for someone thin?? I sure would not want a man like that.
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| What does it take for a man to attracted to a bbw OR a woman in a wheelchair...
Posted: 7/18/2006 8:07:19 PM | As a woman in a wheelchair living in Montreal the same same question can apply to us..what does it take for a good decent,honest man to be attracted to us? The answer is simply in your reply...:)
Altho I have not had much success so far on the dating scene, I am now in contact with a very nice man whom I contacted on this site and am hoping that things will evolve even further between us.
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| What does it take for a man to attracted to a bbw OR a woman in a wheelchair...
Posted: 7/20/2006 7:04:20 PM | YUP Scatterbrain,
There IS hope for everyone :), providing one takes the time to look '' outside the box'' sometimes. This man I hope to have a relationship with is not disabled, has dated a disabled woman before, and is secure enough ( unlike many men) to look beyond my four wheels to find what he is looking for.
Thank you for your reply :)
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