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| When going on a date with someone new..........
Posted: 6/9/2006 12:05:44 AM | My brothers girlfriend buys him what I call Frankenstein shoes and makes him wear them all the time....very sad scene....
I personally like my style and won't change it for just anyone. If you ask once or twice like a fantasy thing that is ok, but if this is an everyday occurrence and you are trying to change the person that is not ok IMO. | |
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| When going on a date with someone new..........
Posted: 6/9/2006 2:17:25 AM | If a man asked me to the pub, and asked me to wear a skirt or dress or no date, I'd assume:
a: he only wanted an intimate encounter (no interest in me as a person at all)
b: he was quite likely to be a foot fetishist or some other quirk. | |
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| When going on a date with someone new..........
Posted: 6/9/2006 4:07:12 AM | I think anyone with half a brain could dress themselves properly based on where they were going! Talk about the date/meeting itself and let the person figure out what to wear themselves!
or if he wants to dress you so badly , let him buy you a new outfit! | |
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Posted: 6/10/2006 12:45:13 PM | That would be IT, if I was told what to wear.
Looking back when I was going to meet someone, there were only two visible indications given on my part prior the meeting - look out for blue colour of any garment I would be wearing and hey...my sunglasses would be sitting firmly on my nose. I can take care of myself what ever the weather and venue. Besides, it is about the 'mind matching', not the gear!.
'adored' - good for you, being yourself and sticking to your guns! | |
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| When going on a date with someone new..........
Posted: 6/10/2006 4:51:38 PM | Personally, I like to know where we are going...and what the other person is wearing so that I may be on the same "page" as they are.
As comfortable as I may feel...I would feel uncomfortable in any outfit if the person I am with is not dressed simular or for the activity.
I tend to wear flip flops and I can't tell ya how many times I needed sneakers instead...OR
wore a skirt and found out I should have wore jeans.
I know I would feel uncomfortable even though I am comfortable with what I am wearing.
I rather him tell me...even if its at the last minute when he shows up. I wouldnt get offended. | |
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| When going on a date with someone new..........
Posted: 6/10/2006 4:53:59 PM | Oooo...and whats more embaressing is when you go somewhere that his family or kids will be and your dressed a little provocatively.
Nothing makes ya more uncomfortable than that.
Once again...I rather him tell me. | |
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| When going on a date with someone new..........
Posted: 6/10/2006 6:34:47 PM | Okay...I am agreeing ...that style ...individual style.... IS important...but c'mon...who wants to be on a date dressed in appropraitely???
If a man specifically said...umm...you may wanna change into more comfortable clothes...or hey sweetie...we are going out to a place a bit more dressy...or even...he do you think that skirt will hold down on a rollercoaster...you bet I would change for him. That doesn't change me...I have my warddrobe...I'll pick, but pick accordingly.
Why is it that people are so offended by someone asking or telling them to dress accordingly?
I know if I had a date dressed in a suit to meet me and I was taking him to the beach...I would prolly adjust what he was wearing or offer a pair of flip flops or such or even ask him if he would like to change the plan. Does that mean I am being picky or dominateing...no it means I am being considerate and don't want his suit to get messed.
Have we become so afraid of being controlled that we can't tell the difference between common sense of someone being polite and asking...and some one trying to change and dominate us?
I think most of us are independant and self confident enough to know the difference. | |
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Posted: 6/10/2006 10:47:27 PM | tell him what he shoud wear only if you provide him with the gimp suit so he won't have to change when you take him home..
you don't want him showing up out of character | |
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Posted: 11/2/2008 10:53:48 PM | maybe he's just a 'leg' man..i dont see the big deal...i'm sure you're a big girl and can take care of yourself..and i have to say..the business attire you chose was not exactly appropiate for a dinner date..
He told you his 'preference'..he didnt 'demand' it..he wasn't 'controlling'...he wanted to see how you reacted..either positively..or negatively..we know which one you chose.
I do have a problem with him cancelling though..he sounds 'superficial'..but i also dont like the vibes you are sending off OP.
I once had a dinner date show up in 'sweats'..with her hair pulled back..and all 'sweaty'..yuck!!! Trust me..a gorgeous girl..but a total turn-off...
I have found in todays world..women are just too damned 'suspicious'..i say..go with the flow..show off your best 'assets'..and stop reading into too much about what is said or done..meet the dude...if he truly is a loser..it will show in the first 10 minutes..
Things said over the net..phone..etc..can be misconstrued or we jump to the wrong conclusions...take a chill pill..and call me in the am..
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| When going on a date with someone new..........
Posted: 11/3/2008 2:55:23 AM | | Unless you are going to a wedding or a formal dinner party then NO. Neither party has the right to tell the other how to dress before meeting up. Besides I like to see how the other person turns up and that way I can assess for myself whether he is someone I would want to date. | |
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| When going on a date with someone new..........
Posted: 11/3/2008 3:52:54 AM |
When going on a date with someone new... Do you think its ok to tell them what you would prefer them to wear, rather than let them choose for themself?
Without naming names... I've had someone try this with me. I was told I would wear what he wanted otherwise it wasn't going to happen. I laughed at him. I don't mind suggestions about where we are going or what we'll be doing, and I certainly don't mind if once we've gotten to know one another and been out a few times if he makes a request for an outfit he liked me in... but first meets (and I know the OP wasn't specifically about first meets)?? Nope.
If there's a history of doing casual things, and you want to go to a fancy 5-star restaurant, it's ok to say.. "Baby, let's dress up tonight..." | |
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| When going on a date with someone new..........
Posted: 11/3/2008 3:53:37 AM | | I wear what I want to wear, and I would expect a person I am dating to do the same. I don't want to dictate a dress code, but if asked for an opinion I will give it grudgingly. I don't apologize for wearing only skirts and dresses, I don't want someone to have to apologize for only wearing jeans and running shoes! | |
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| When going on a date with someone new..........
Posted: 11/3/2008 10:28:55 AM | I try to forewarn by describing what I will be wearing.
Some of you ladies, who keep mum and let out the rope so I might hang myself, are ruthless. imo Even assuming I get by that one, how many more unannounced tests will I hafta pass?
If you really want to see me flunk, say so; I will cannonball into that pool. Lol | |
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| When going on a date with someone new..........
Posted: 11/3/2008 10:44:34 AM | | I would think people would want to make a really good impression on a first meet. I wouldn't tell anyone else what to wear though. I would be put off if someone showed up in certain articles of clothing though. No sneakers, wife beaters, sports team logos, camo motif, speedos, etc. etc. Also, if someone looked the fool, I would have to say no I'm not me and walk out. | |
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| When going on a date with someone new..........
Posted: 11/3/2008 10:50:07 AM | i may tell them what i'm wearing -so they would recognize me, thats about as far as i would go -unless were meeting to go hiking or rollerblading etc. i may suggest she bring extra clothes in case we decide to do something else that requires more appropriate dress...  | |
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| When going on a date with someone new..........
Posted: 11/3/2008 11:46:41 AM | | I wouldn't let anyone tell me what to wear! They may suggest - depending on where we intend on meeting - but it's totally up to me how I would like to present myself! | |
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| When going on a date with someone new..........
Posted: 11/4/2008 12:38:48 PM | No one, I mean no one, tells me what to wear....or how to dress. I may ask for an opinion, but unless its asked for then be quiet as I do know how to dress appropriately for all occasions and this includes when clothing is optional.  | |
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