It isn't just anger at my past. It still continues today. People think it's just as easy as "stop eating and exercise". It isn't that easy.”
Usually, it is. And do you think I appreciate only having tennis shoes with Batman or Barbie on them available in my size? And hey, there is NOTHING I can do to control the size of my feet like you can the size of your body. I think you are just complaining about something everyone encounters at one time or another. Why can’t you just appreciate the fact that you DO have such a large selection to choose from? I could rag about NOT having as many choices.
“Food is more my friend that most people.”
Sounds like the whole basis of your problem. Make new friends.
“You got it...I eat a little too much at times. And yes, it angers me when people think that it has to do with self-control or willpower or eating or dieting.”
But it does. All of us go through hard times. Doesn’t mean we all puff up. As my parents watched my sister dying, I saw them shrinking, literally. Five days in a comma and they each lost at least 20lbs. Apparently they were more interested in my sister than feeding their faces. Also, while my mother was dying, the pounds were falling off me so fast my friends were getting very worried. When my son was kidnapped, when my daughter was born with no white blood cells, always the same thing, I shrank. I even lost weight while I was pregnant due to going through so much stress.
“So I use food to comfort myself. Is that really a reason to allow clothing companies to label me?”
Yes, you are doing it to yourself. And this is simply a label designed to assist you in finding your garments more easily. Not like they put “hog” or “blimp” on the things. And so what about a size 2, I did once go up to a clerk and ask her if my size, at the time a 0, meant I didn’t really exist, but it was just a joke. You seem to have lost your sense of humor long ago.
“And why is it only the 16-24 group who have to pay more for their clothes? Are you telling me that a size 2 costs the same to make as a 14? Yet, there is no difference there. And some overweight people are just conditioned to accept this.”
Couldn’t tell if you meant 16-24 group as age or size, but if it is meant as size, then yes, they should pay more than the same garment at a size 2, because it does take more fabric, but that isn’t usually the case. Same price for all sizes. I don’t find that fair.
“You see, when I was seven I was told I was too fat for tap dancing lessons. By my father. And that took the next 12 years from my life.”
Rather extreme reaction, must have been something else involved. When I was about 10 my mother told me that I should stay away from the rice as the Chinese restaurant we were going to because I was a little heavy at the time. Certainly didn’t ruin my life.
“Problem is, I wasn't fat. But I still allowed myself to hate myself.”
Very confusing, you weren’t fat, but YOU hated yourself so much that YOU became fat?
“And I will expose the third eating disorder for what it really is”
Which is what?
“I'm actually probably a much pickier eater than everyone on this board combined.”
Proof is in the pudding, or the reading of the scale. Of course by now you have already stated
“always hate people. Always, always, always.”
Seems like weight is just a tiny part of your problem, and you just want to blame everything on those you hate. That bit about clothing labels was just ridiculous. Time to take responsibility for what you have made yourself IMO. I think you seriously need to have one of those telephone poles installed in your back yard by now.

I don't buy the "it's genetics/my metabolism/etc." bit. Everyone's weight is determined by what they eat, and each person puts their food in their own mouths. For virtually everyone, each person makes up their own mind about portion size. Nobody but yourself can opt for a single burger instead of a double, or choose to hold the mayo.

The nice thing about our wonderfully connected world is, for whatever weight you are, you can find similar people. If you're comfortable with yourself, and can accept other people, it's not an issue relationship-wise. If you're a 300lb woman who hates to be judged by weight alone, your best match is a 400lb man.

However...have you ever had a weight problem?

WTF???

I just hate to see ppl live an ignorant life - I don't think that because I'm 220 lbs that I should have to date Joe Schmoe who is 320 lbs. I have always dated guys who were approx. 175 - 220 lbs and LIKE it that way. I don't enjoy being with someone who is unhealthy anymore than the rest of ya. However, if you can show me a 320 lb man that is heavy because his testosterone levels are outta whack who has a good heart and makes healthy chocies - that I like - I'll date him - because he's human too!

It's when I was younger I had adults blaming me for my weight problem. And I still see it to this day. People think that the kids should lose weight and be responsible. And it's not their fault.

As an aside, I think local culture has to be a factor

The only ones who have any right or reason to blame anyone but themselves are small children who are forced to "clean their plate", or have parents who make bad choices for them at restaurants and grocery stores.

I was wondering this myself as someone that often works in the ER... a lot of people are too big for the beds and are hanging off each side... makes the patient even more uncomfortable and makes a lot of medical tests more difficult to perform too.

There are hundreds of thousands of chemicals in our environment that weren't there, say, 150 years ago.

But, a longer life is not necessarily a better life...

Yep, as soon as we turn our bodies over to MDs, we're done. All they know and all they've been taught is drugs and carving out tumors.

Good news though: As hospitals gear up, we'll see more gyms and health facilities spring up too, because more people (like us) will be preventative and health-conscious! This can work both ways, people.

Leaving that second helping in the fridge as a leftover for tomorrow and heading over to the gym to get on the treadmill and weights, and sweat...g'night, people.