| love and weight gain
Posted: 10/13/2009 6:52:09 PM | | You know it's post like that that make me sick to my fecking stomach. | |
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| love and weight gain
Posted: 10/13/2009 6:53:05 PM | me too and I just ate.
Not pretty.
where IS the barfing smiley? | |
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| love and weight gain
Posted: 10/13/2009 7:22:38 PM | my wife weight 110 lbs, when we divorced, she weight over 250 lbs. she loved food more than me.
my family members are all thin, they live to be 110, 105, 104, 100 years old. they eat to live, my ex-wife's family all die befor age 80, they live to eat.
maybe she ATE BECAUSE of you!!! maybe you were her MAIN problem. and to say you are ashamed of your daughter because she is heavy is really quite disgusting. do you even love her??? who the hell wants to live to be 100 anyway?? i know i certainly don't. the country is going to hell in a hand basket and i don't want to be around for that. also if her family lived to almost 80, i'd say that's a pretty long life so it's ridiculous for you to behave like that is young to die. most people eat because of emotional reasons, obviously you weren't making her happy so she substituted food for your love. you sound more like her father than her husband. it's a shame she didn't listen to you oh wise one and regained all her weight. who knows, maybe she is happy that way. | |
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| love and weight gain
Posted: 10/13/2009 7:32:44 PM | | I think there are very shallow people who have no true morals when it comes to being a human being. My boss had mentioned his wife of thirty years had put on weight, that she had been very thin when they met but after giving birth to thier three children and life changes her body has changed. He still loves her and couldnt think of being with anyone else regardless. Thats what life is about. | |
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| love and weight gain
Posted: 10/13/2009 7:38:47 PM | first 5lbs - warning
second 5lbs - my 13" boot up her ass...
No sympathy for fatties...
that's of course hypothetically speaking...That never happens as I only date athletic women, who actually workout and pay attention to their figure. It's a life style for me, it should be a life style for her. - that's what compatibility is...
No excuse for fat gain unless she's bulking up for muscle gain, or has a medical problem... | |
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| love and weight gain
Posted: 10/13/2009 9:29:12 PM | No excuse for fat gain unless she's bulking up for muscle gain, or has a medical problem...
yes and there's also no excuse for being nasty, stupid, ignorant and judgemental so what's your excuse??? | |
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| love and weight gain
Posted: 10/13/2009 9:47:42 PM | "If I loved her, I'd stay...but can't promise my libido would be up to where it once was. If she whines "why don't we make love anymore?"...I'd say "well, you gained a lot of weight and I don't find you as attractive anymore".
Ohhhhhh boy. I agree with this post, pass shallow, do not collect $200. | |
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| love and weight gain
Posted: 10/13/2009 10:10:36 PM | yes and there's also no excuse for being nasty, stupid, ignorant and judgemental so what's your excuse???
Eww..Is that the best you could come up with ? personal attacks, for real? Are you that low IQ, insecure and low that you had to attack me for my personal views ?
Nasty ? You haven't seen nasty ... Lose the cat ... hop on the treadmill... Do you really think you're average ? really ? deliiusiiiions... Average in where ? Fatville ?  | |
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| love and weight gain
Posted: 10/13/2009 10:15:30 PM | | Give up someone I loved to death 'cuz they gained some weight? Not a chance. | |
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| love and weight gain
Posted: 10/13/2009 10:28:48 PM |
If you love someone, I don't think it matters what they look like. Don't get me wrong you still have to be attracted to them. Beauty is in the eye of the beholder.
Ditto( Simple & Short) | |
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| love and weight gain
Posted: 10/13/2009 11:38:50 PM | I probably wouldnt, not because of the weight gain but because of why they got there. If they were slim then got fat, it would suggest laziness, over indulging in food and possibly other things. Not being active and an over all general lack of wanting to take care of ones self.
There are certain events that I think I would understand, physical health etc.. But, most everything else would be something that would totally turn me off.
^T^ | |
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| love and weight gain
Posted: 10/14/2009 12:47:41 AM | | I have often thought about this subject also.I am 174cm tall & when i was married was 75kg & he said I needed to loose weight & wondered where his bride had gone.(not that he was perfect)& mind you I was 18yo.Ironically his new bride has ended up being bigger than me.But due to divorse stress I went down to 65kg when I met my partner.So over a 12month period I put on that 10kg again ( he would make small comments)& he started to distance himself from me untill we split,so have often thought was this because of the weight gain & I wasnt what he had bagained for.Any theorys. | |
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| love and weight gain
Posted: 10/17/2009 1:48:23 AM | RE: Msg 276 from goattogo
being overweight is grounds for divorce in some states. Really?? And just what states are these that allow the fact that your spouse is overweight as grounds for divorce? I would love to know where you got your information.
i weigh 170 lbs, 5' 9", yes i am overweight, i should weigh 145. when i place a dating ad i request that the woman responding weigh less than me, they are few and far between! And yet on your profile you don't state that you are 'a few extra pounds'. You state that you are 'athletic'. My goodness, isn't that false advertising? Especially since you don't even have a photo available.
I don't think that the infrequency of responses to your ad are due to to the rarity of women who weigh less than you. I think it would more than likely be due to the fact that there are few women who would want to be with someone with your mindset. An over-inflated ego is more unattractive than an over-inflated body for many of us. | |
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| love and weight gain
Posted: 10/17/2009 4:41:00 AM |
yes and there's also no excuse for being nasty, stupid, ignorant and judgemental so what's your excuse???
tsk tsk tsk...a little defensive, are we? Are you often this hostile? | |
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| love and weight gain
Posted: 10/17/2009 2:51:34 PM | OMG, i have read this whole thread with absolute disgust!
This part in particular actualy made me want to cry
my only child, a 22 year girl, weighs over 350 lbs, her mother got custody.
do you know what it's like to go somewhere with a 22 year old child that weighs over 350 lbs, chairs, car seats, tables,walkways, are to small. buying clothes, and people looking, saying, laughing.
First off........22 is not a CHILD............your daughter is an adult!
Secondly, how in the name of jaysus can you call yourself a father?
This is your DAUGHTER ffs!
There are people in this world crying out to have children, children who they will love with every ounce of their being.
And then when mother nature denies them these kids, she unbelievably gives one to you, a selfish ignorant disgusting human being!
If you are so ashamed of your daughter.............seek help for her...........cos as one poster actually pointed out............have you never ever thought in that tiny little head of yours, that you actually caused your wife and daughter to over eat.
Now do the resposible thing, and take your daughter for some medical help, and get yourself off a dating site! | |
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| love and weight gain
Posted: 10/17/2009 4:09:57 PM |
do you know what it's like to go somewhere with a 22 year old child that weighs over 350 lbs, chairs, car seats, tables,walkways, are to small. buying clothes, and people looking, saying, laughing.
It's funny how we can all read the exact same post but come up with a different conclussion. I see a FATHER who loves his daughter enough to care about her well being. As a parent one of the hardest things to do is to sit and watch your child killing themselves a slow death, and not being able to do anything about it! So give this guy a break because no one likes to see their child being ridiculed!
Parents that allow their kids to become obese should be charged with child abuse. | |
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| love and weight gain
Posted: 10/19/2009 9:56:27 PM | | 50 pounds is one thing. Especially over the coarse of years. How bout 100 or 150? What if you end up with the bed ridden guy who can't leave the house? So does it matter? Is it really a yes or no answer? | |
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| love and weight gain
Posted: 10/19/2009 11:23:40 PM | I agree with Arabian Angel... I read the post and see a loving father who see's his daughter being laughed at. As a guy he knows his daughter will always be laughed at by men, she will have an extreemly hard time finding true love and happiness. I'm not a parent but I can only imagine how painful that must feel ...
As for the OP .. 50 pounds yes I would leave. I'm not attracted to heavy women at all, so yes it would be a big problem. Sorry there is no excuse to being over weight. I don't wanna hear bout the medical B.S or having kids all that crap.. Dara tores on the U.S swim team is 41 yrs old with a kid and has the body of a 21 yr old. Take 30 min out your day and exercise. Eat halfway decent, its not that hard. You don't just become fat over night. Its a result of your actions and decisions. | |
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| love and weight gain
Posted: 10/19/2009 11:43:40 PM | I've been thin my whole life. Coincidentally I've also ate healthy my whole life as well (as a whole....of course on occasion I would have not so healthful things but all in MODERATION) . Ok so recently I decided to try and GAIN some weight. I couldn't do it by eating how I normally do because the foods simply aren't calorie dense enough to pack on weight (unless you eat MASSIVE portions which I can't since I don't have a buffalo stomach)
So I turned to calorie dense fast food to gain weight........guess what? It's working. And in my case it's the desired effect. I hope I don't need to spell out the way out of being overweight. It should be apparent. | |
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| love and weight gain
Posted: 10/19/2009 11:51:26 PM | I probably would leave as well....weight gain to the point of obesity is a sign that you dont respect yourself to exercise or eat right. If somebody doesn't love themselves, how can they possibly love me?
And to the people that are chastising the guy because he's upset about his 22 year old daughter being 350 pounds - what the hell is wrong with you? The life expectancy of someone who is morbidly obese is next to nothing, and NOT doing something to prolong the life of your child is criminal. Especially considering that the early death is entirely preventable. This is a case of political correctness just being lethal. | |
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| love and weight gain
Posted: 10/20/2009 10:45:20 AM | | It sounds like the person has no desire to continue to take care of themself anymore and that is sad because it will kill the attraction. I tend to be the opposite and take better care of myself when in a relationship. I desire for my man to become more and more attracted to me over time!! LOL I am opposite most in many respects. | |
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| love and weight gain
Posted: 10/20/2009 10:57:58 AM | | Why is it when a guy gains a few pounds it means the woman is feeding him well and it's all good but when a woman gains weight it's because she has let herself go..... The problem is society has generally labeled bigger people, men and woman alike, to be slobs, unattractive people when the truth is there are a lot more skinning no good slobs. | |
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| love and weight gain
Posted: 10/20/2009 11:05:24 AM |
I probably would leave as well....weight gain to the point of obesity is a sign that you dont respect yourself to exercise or eat right. If somebody doesn't love themselves, how can they possibly love me?
And to the people that are chastising the guy because he's upset about his 22 year old daughter being 350 pounds - what the hell is wrong with you? The life expectancy of someone who is morbidly obese is next to nothing, and NOT doing something to prolong the life of your child is criminal. Especially considering that the early death is entirely preventable. This is a case of political correctness just being lethal.
It's interesting that some people are just ready to bail without discovering WHY a
person would possibly not love themselves. It's rare you can shame or humiliate
someone into losing weight. Why not be their friend...tell them you're concerned
because of their health...get to the bottom of their distress and HELP them to want
to lose weight? (sheesh...there's a concept for ya)
And as far as the daughter...if he was as concerned about her as he'd like us to think...
he'd DO something. He wouldn't be typing to strangers pretty much telling them
how embarrassed he is and how its his ex's fault that she's heavy. Talk to her for
pete's sake...get her some help. Pretend for a minute that you really do care.
Sometimes people really do need a helping hand...maybe some of you people
could look beyond yourself sometimes and realize that.
And PS...before you give me that "you can't help someone who won't help themselves"
crappola...you'd be surprised how some people are just begging for help...all you have
to do is offer. | |
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| love and weight gain
Posted: 10/20/2009 12:45:40 PM |
It's funny how we can all read the exact same post but come up with a different conclussion. I see a FATHER who loves his daughter enough to care about her well being. As a parent one of the hardest things to do is to sit and watch your child killing themselves a slow death, and not being able to do anything about it! So give this guy a break because no one likes to see their child being ridiculed!
It is funny, because I saw no mention of his concern, just alot of his own personal issues about the matter. The way it was mixed with his feelings about his ex just sealed it! | |
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| love and weight gain
Posted: 10/20/2009 1:39:47 PM | | Good point!! IMO you would have to take into account "is the person active?" or are they just sitting around getting bigger. Is it age and hormone related or just lazieness??? | |
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