| love and weight gain
Posted: 6/11/2006 5:27:30 PM | | Falling in love is no reason to get lazy and gain weight. Weight gain doesnt eventually ahppen unless you let it. If i fal lin love with someone i woudl expect them to stay in shape, bedcause i would do the same. I will never be lazy , i dont want to grow old and have health problems when im 60 and i would hope my mate would feel the same | |
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| love and weight gain
Posted: 6/11/2006 5:34:45 PM | | Another thing ive noticed on these threads is theres always an excuse for wieght gain. Sure a small percent has a a condition that they cant controll and weight gain is inevitable, but for the rest it stems down to laziness. Weight gain isnt herriditary. In my family being overwieght is a common thing, i was once an obese child, but i made a choice that thats not the lifestyle I wanted to live so i changed it, and now im by no means obese (205lbs with 8% bodyfat). If you want to be fat youll be fat,, im just sick of hearing excuses of why people are overweight. Put the chips down, the hamburghs, the ice cream, get out of the house and do something. Insanity is doiing the same things over and over expecting to see the same results. | |
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| love and weight gain
Posted: 6/11/2006 5:38:34 PM | if your inlove with them ,then why would it matter if they gained 50 pounds unless there all ready 50 pounds over weight. but then again if your that shallow then you wouldnt know what real love is and wouldnt decerve that person anyhow ha ha | |
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| love and weight gain
Posted: 6/11/2006 5:50:47 PM | I second that notion! ^^^^^^^
I could care less. If they are healthy and happy, then so am I. | |
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| love and weight gain
Posted: 6/11/2006 5:58:32 PM | Hal9000 
Really it shouldn't matter how much wieght they gained,was it there wieght you fell for in the first place,probably not. My wife gained some wieght after my daughter was born 6 years ago i never once brought it up and she has finally lost it. Just be supportive and patient.Do not lie be honest when they ask. | |
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| love and weight gain
Posted: 6/11/2006 6:27:11 PM | | My husband said it don't matter if I am skinny and could blow away in the wind, or as big as a trailer, he would always love me, and never give me up. Thats a good man. | |
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| love and weight gain
Posted: 6/13/2006 10:39:51 PM | by far NOT excuses but perhaps here are some REAL reasons women ( and maybe some men) gain weight....
POST childbirth/in the childrearing years.... lack of sleep, stress, infrequent eating patterns, lack of sleep, stress, lack of sleep,..
ALSO let's assume your g/f looked great before kids.... not that the pregnancy made her gain a huge amount of weight but if she worked HARD at it before,..... ie: hours a day or week,. WHEN WHEN WHEN is she supposed to find time to do that now???? Spouses are you in there helping with the childcare 50/50 so he/she can go out and keep up their regular exercise routine???????
Just a thought...............hmmmmmm?
and a cute joke to go with this......
Dan and his wife are working in their garden one day when Dan looks over at
his wife and says "Your butt is getting really big, I mean really big. I bet
your butt is bigger than the barbecue". With that he proceeded to get a
measuring tape and measure the grill and then went over to his wife's bottom
"Yes, I was right, your butt is two inches wider than the barbecue".
The wife chose to ignore her husband.
Later that night in bed Dan is feeling a little frisky. He makes some
advances towards his wife who completely brushes him off.
"What's wrong?" he asks.
She answers, "Do you really think I'm going to fire up this big-ass barbecue
for one little wiener?" | |
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| love and weight gain
Posted: 6/13/2006 10:50:05 PM | Thats your fault for not doing the things together before you got together. What did you do get lazy and stop going out for walks together or dancing? Now you have her you just stay at home and do nothing and expect her to do the same? Unless it's a medical condition or medication adding to her weight gain, or pregnancy.
I tend to lose weight when I meet someone because I'm a lot more active. | |
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| love and weight gain
Posted: 6/13/2006 11:31:27 PM | | unless it was extreme weight gain or loss and a health concern or health issue, I wouldn't have a problem with it. Everyones weight fluctuates. I didn't fall in love with them because of their weight , I wouldn't leave them because of it either. | |
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| love and weight gain
Posted: 6/14/2006 12:27:13 AM | | it would be made clear that any excessive(25lbs) weight gain is going to end it. As long as you are up front and he/she knows what you expect then it shouldnt be a problem because A) they will not agree initially, B) agree and cant be mad if you leave due to contractual(verbal contract) break | |
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Posted: 6/14/2006 12:42:54 AM | | it happens....people fall in love they go out more...resturants and movies you snack and at home u watch movies and order pizza......nothins wrong with it..jus dont get to the point where ya both are stuck in the bed and 1000+pounds each.... | |
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Posted: 6/14/2006 7:27:26 AM | | Sorry people, but after reading a few of the last threads I just can't stand pregnancy being used as a "reason" to get fat. Sure, DURING the pregnancy you swell in certain areas, but not for years after. Just plain isn't true. I know a LOT of women who want to claim it is the reason for their fat, but it is just as bogus an excuse as the ones who take a week off work every month claiming "female" problems. The cases where these two excuses are viable are so few and far between, it just always ticks me off when women try to adopt them as LAME EXCUSES. A women standing in the checkout line ahead of me in a grocery store, obviously huge, was telling the checker how she had just had a baby and that was why she was still carrying so much extra weight. I happened to have my then 4 month old daughter with me, and was already back to my size 3 levis. I asked, "so how old is your baby?" She turned saying "two" and stopped abruptly when she saw me and my infant. Yeah, busted, I know you were lying. She turned red, grabbed her groceries and hurried out of the store. | |
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| love and weight gain
Posted: 6/26/2006 6:00:28 AM | To people who are shocked, appalled, etc. about weight being a deciding factor...
If it was a deciding factor going in, it's going to be a deciding factor going out.
Now, maybe I myself wouldn't leave. I don't know, it really depends on the person, and how I feel about them. But if being fit and attractive was something they "brought to the table", and they decide through carelessness and laziness to lose that once I get into the relationship with them, then the value they brought is diminished. Will I leave them? I don't know. I'll try my best to encourage them to lose it, even participate in the process. But if they are dead set against it, or they can't, then it's going to have an effect on the relationship.
Everyone has a market value. Ever see the hunk of a guy walking hand in hand with the frumpy, dumpy gal? sure, it happens, and what is your first, knee-jerk reaction? "I bet she's got a great personality". Or how about the reverse, a really frumpy, unattractive guy (or possibly a good deal older than the gal) with a bombshell of a gal? "He's probably rich".
Those are certainly extremes, but everyone brings things to the dating table: Personality, Looks, Family background, Wealth, Intelligence, Social connections. When someone in a relationship loses what they brought into the relationship, the relationship suffers and the other partner will inevitably respond by lowering what they bring (if not outright taking off, which some people do as well). Was her beauty her strong point, and now she's not taking care of herself and she's lost a fair amount of her looks? The guy might respond by being less generous in bed, or being less considerate than he used to be. He's subconsciously evening the score. Was he a Fun-loving, gregarious guy that lit up the room, but now he's working 60 hours a week and is tired and snippy all the time? The woman may start withholding in the bedroom, or is lazy about doing those special things she used to. Did he bring a lot of money into the mix, with his corporate job, only to lose it in a merger and now he's broke? Something tells me she's not going to be happy about this circumstance, and it will strain their relationship.
This isn't something I'm suggesting should happen. In a perfect world, Yes, Unconditional love. But this is a far cry from a perfect world, and this is how people behave. And many people do try to overcome the tendency, but most don't even notice it. | |
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| love and weight gain
Posted: 6/26/2006 6:25:33 AM | ^^^^
Well said Differentnames... I'm speechless, there's nothing I can truly add to that.
Well done sir! 
P.S.: I don't so much care about weight as in hopping on a set of scales, I care about maintaining one's proportions (women can put on muscle and that can cause a spike in weight gain if they're the sportsy-sort). But if the weight is 100% old-fashioned jello, sayonara sweetie, because this is one cat that's staying fit and lean until he dies  | |
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Titian
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Joined: 6/23/2006
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| love and weight gain
Posted: 6/28/2006 2:06:24 PM | When you love someone ..You love them..It shouldnt matter after that...So let me get this straight...If a guys says he loves me and everything is fine ...and I get into a wreck and damage my face ..Does that mean hell leave me cause I no longer look the same....
Fact is not many people know what true love is..and need to get a clue...Its not all about what you look like...Its all about your heart....When we die...our bodies ( shells ) will be thrown away ...its the core of the person that matters most...We will grow old ...and lose weight,gain weight,lose some strands of hair...Why should the love go away ? | |
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| love and weight gain
Posted: 6/28/2006 2:55:44 PM | | If you fell in love with the person before they gained weight..and you didnt want to be with them anymore after they gained weight..then you were never in love in the beginning. That's really shallow of someone to change their feelings and not want to be with someone anymore because they gain weight...if you love a person, you love everything about a person, not just their size | |
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| love and weight gain
Posted: 6/28/2006 3:06:18 PM | | People tend to gain weight when they fall in love and get comfortable with each other, especially men. I fell in love with my woman and we have both packed on a few lbs. Now we are working together to loose the lbs and inches and it is working. We motivate each other. | |
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| love and weight gain
Posted: 6/28/2006 3:10:58 PM | | Let em gain I like a woman of size bout 3fitty...U come home & its on,you start by restling her to the floor,use your ultimate fighting techniques & don't let her pin ya or its over...just try to breathe alot...damn...j/k RUN.... | |
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| love and weight gain
Posted: 6/28/2006 4:28:49 PM | Nope, wouldn't matter a bit to me. Course, I like a beefy man and my current bf is in great shape. I, however, wouldnt allow myself to gain much weight. I tend to eat more when I'm in a good realtionship..."happy fat". And when I'm sad or depressed, I dont eat much at all. Hence the current extra five pounds I'm carrying around.  | |
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paulUK
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Joined: 6/17/2006
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| love and weight gain
Posted: 7/2/2006 6:18:04 AM | well, I got to agree with you there.. in fact quite true, personally I quote, a woman needs to be told from time to time , how much you feel .. and love them for who they are  | |
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| love and weight gain
Posted: 7/2/2006 6:23:46 AM | I blame the womans good cooking on my fatness.
Yep.. That way I can both compliment her and her skills in the kitchen, and insult myself because I know I'm fat. :)
I'm already pretty tubby, but eh, I'm average looking .. :) | |
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Posted: 7/3/2006 9:37:31 AM |
I'm already pretty tubby, but eh, I'm average looking .. :)
You're cute and you know it 
And I have to agree with the concept that if you love them it shouldn't matter. (Though I tend to run on the heavy siode so I may just be biased)
K.R | |
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| love and weight gain
Posted: 7/3/2006 10:40:36 AM | So If you met someone and fell in love with them and then the relationship progressed to very serious....etc.etc..and this person was slim when you met them but gained 50lbs or more would you still want to stay with them...I am just interested in what people think about this subject...I dont think there is a right or wrong answer..just opinions are interesting.
I'd stay with her if she gained weight(It's called unconditional love) however , majority of people probably won't.
Sad thing is people have absolutely no concept of what true love is suppose to be....It shouldn't matter to your spouse if you gained few extra pounds unfortunately, that's not reality. | |
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