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Posted: 5/2/2007 2:06:36 PM | Historically, I used to date women that were 5' nuttin' and around a hundred pounds. If one of these little pixes gained 50 pounds, you would have a very different woman on your hands, physically speaking (a woman and a half really).
While it is easy to love your mate regardless of how badly they go to hell physically speaking and stay in love with them, it is a whole 'nother story when it comes to being sexually attracted to them.
What if you just cannot perform for a fat chick? I mean, I sincerely, with all my heart, wish everyday that I was hyper attracted to large women because, in case you haven't noticed, there is an endless supply of such women online these days.
But, I have been cursed thus far in my life to only be physically attracted to healthy, physically fit women. Bummmmmmer! 
Just an after thought. Have you ever noticed what the first thing men and women do after splitting up from a LTR is? Join the gym, start walking, start all sorts of fitness things. Obviously they are not motivated to do so for the mate they love, but they sure as hell will work like an SOB to get in shape for the next vic -er- love of their life. Now that is some f*cked up thinking...
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Posted: 5/2/2007 3:17:42 PM | ok,people with weight problems,
when the genetically pure talk about people with weight problems,what they really mean is that they have a problem with other peoples weight,and that problem is that they are shallow | |
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Posted: 5/2/2007 4:54:06 PM |
Obviously they are not motivated to do so for the mate they love, but they sure as hell will work like an SOB to get in shape for the next vic -er- love of their life. Now that is some f*cked up thinking...
In a 1997 interview with Cornell University Nutrition Newsletter, Sobal said some studies have found that weight loss of a spouse can lead to divorce, while other studies have discovered sabotage attempts on the part of the spouse who wants to maintain the status quo. | |
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Posted: 5/3/2007 9:18:52 PM | You people crack me up. How you actually put these kinds of actions, in the same category as "fat" ... is beyond me. I suspect an abuse surivor would think really highly of you right now. ~ crystallinesunshine
I thank you for that comment crystallinesunshine cuz I am an abuse survivor and I was thinking that very thing to myself as I read his comment. Leaving someone cuz they are fat and leaving someone cuz they are beating you or raping you are two totally different things trust me I know. If you have questions on that I can send my ex husband over to your house and let him have a go at you to answer them for you so you know for sure the difference for yourself. That way you dont have to take my word for it that they are different.
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| love and weight gain
Posted: 1/2/2009 4:54:23 AM |
Historically, I used to date women that were 5' nuttin' and around a hundred pounds. If one of these little pixes gained 50 pounds, you would have a very different woman on your hands, physically speaking (a woman and a half really).
I'm not much over that height but I agree with this. Being quite short means that when I did used to put weight on I looked totally different.
While it is easy to love your mate regardless of how badly they go to hell physically speaking and stay in love with them, it is a whole 'nother story when it comes to being sexually attracted to them.
I agree...which is why I always maintain my weight. It's part of me keeping up my end of the deal where a relationship is concerned.
Just an after thought. Have you ever noticed what the first thing men and women do after splitting up from a LTR is? Join the gym, start walking, start all sorts of fitness things. Obviously they are not motivated to do so for the mate they love, but they sure as hell will work like an SOB to get in shape for the next vic -er- love of their life. Now that is some f*cked up thinking...
Oh yeah!! Absolutely!
Call me shallow but if I gained 50lbs then I would expect my man's eyes to begin to wander which is why I lost weight (I used to always be on diets but lost weight and became more active about 10 years ago), surely it would only be fair for him to respect himself enough to keep himself in shape for himself and for me too? | |
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Posted: 1/2/2009 5:46:21 PM | | It would depend on why they gained the weight. If they just decided to gain the weight for the hell of it -- I wouldn't be amused and I'd talk to them about it and see what's up. I wouldnt just pack my bags and be on the next plane out of the country. If it were because of something that they can't control I wouldnt give it a second thought. | |
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Posted: 1/2/2009 5:56:56 PM | If I loved the man, it wouldn't make an enormous difference to me. I'd be worried for his health's sake, but it wouldn't turn me off.
But we're talking 50lbs, right? Make it 100lbs...it's all over, red rover..
I couldn't go there.. | |
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Posted: 1/2/2009 5:57:21 PM | | I have dated several men who would have dumped me if I had lost weight, but then men who like larger women tend to like the women to be larger than I am. Some people take "for better, for worse" to mean "as long as you do not gain weight I will stay with you", I suppose. | |
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Posted: 1/2/2009 6:03:37 PM |
So If you met someone and fell in love with them and then the relationship progressed to very serious....etc.etc..and this person was slim when you met them but gained 50lbs or more would you still want to stay with them.
No.
Sexual attraction is critical to maintaining a romantic relationship. For me, significant weight gain would kill the sexual attraction, and thus, the sex life. It's the #1 deal breaker for me. | |
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Posted: 1/2/2009 6:15:23 PM |
So If you met someone and fell in love with them and then the relationship progressed to very serious....etc.etc..and this person was slim when you met them but gained 50lbs or more would you still want to stay with them...I am just interested in what people think about this subject...I dont think there is a right or wrong answer..just opinions are interesting.
I don't think anyone just *magically* gains 50 lbs, OP, without noticing that their jeans might be getting a bit snug on their a$$, so really, if it's 50 lbs we are talking.....
....that's a bit excessive. But, that weight gain on your partner probably didn't "sneak up on" you without you having noticed either, no offence. Did you say something when you first noticed your partner gaining that kind of extra weight?
I would probably ask my partner if we could maybe start participating in some more exercise-oriented activities, rather than hurting their feelings outright. 50 lbs is a lot to gain though....so I'd also want to know were they depressed? Trying to compensate for something they felt might be lacking in their life with me? Not many people actively WANT to gain weight...so I'd try to work through the underlying issues for that with my partner first.
If all that failed though...and they didn't want to make any changes? Then yep, I'll admit...my physical attraction to them would probably lessen. | |
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Posted: 1/2/2009 6:36:07 PM | If it is something you have noticed why not take the initiative and look the both of you joining a gym or taking dancing lessons, yoga, kick boxing (martial arts), or some sport.
In a past relationship both my and my girl gained a bit while we were together, all the eating out, overtime work, winter blues, and heavy Italian cooking. All it did was toss all the weight on both our asses. We got into running as a couples activity, slow to start but gained to be 60-90 min runs every second day.
Your mileage may vary. | |
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Posted: 1/2/2009 6:42:03 PM | This subject just cracks me up....There are so many factors that contribute to weight gain. It is not just a matter of eat less, excercise more.
Often times, it's the relationship itself that contributes to the weight gain. And I'm not talking about eating a gallon of ice cream in response to a fight or something. But it is true that chronic stress (often caused by dysfunction in the relationship) overworks and eventually burns out your adrenal gland, which regulates the hormones in the body. The hormones have more effect than anything else as to how the body uses the nutrition from the food you eat, how much fat is discharged or stored, and even where it is stored in the body.
Case in point: me. Weighed 125 when I got married. (actually too thin for my height, 5'8") Eat normally, try to get a workout in at least 3 times a week. Over 17 years, I accumulated about 25 lbs, even though my eating/excercise stayed consistent. This pissed my ex husband off to no end, and he worked hard to make me feel bad about myself....pretty sure it was the chronic stress from the constant criticism that started the problem in the first place. When we split, I didn't change any of my eating/excercise habits. I didn't notice it happening, but about 4 months later, i weighed myself, and 17 pounds had just vanished....kind of makes you wonder. Interestingly enough, a very painful chronic muscle spasm in my shoulder that had plagued me for years, even with regular chiropractic care, also vanished completely. Dissatisfaction in relationships has a huge impact on a lot of things thatare not easily seen by the naked eye.
But regardless, judging, criticizing, or demeaning people about weight gain does nothing but exacerbate the problem. If you truly love this person, you can either accept them as they are, or provide loving supportive encouragement and assistance to address the problem.
Funny, the whole time I was being criticized aboout gaining what I think was a paltry amount of weight over that time period, he had a little spare tire growing himself...only i wasn't supposed to notice or acknowledge that.....
Everyone that's being so harsh and critical of their spouse or partner....make sure you're taking a long clear look in your own mirror.
Everyone that's struggling with their weight, please look up adrenal fatigue and adrenal shutdown. There is information there that can make your struggle a lot easier. | |
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Posted: 1/2/2009 7:01:12 PM | Go with her to the store to pick healthy foods
This is an admirable perspective to have... to add a few things I don't think I saw due to the weight gain issue:
Bearing children. It's hell on the body. Guys can't do it and therefore can't really understand fully as much as some want to. Really, nothing compares to the changes that the womans body goes through, and even after you have lost the 'baby fat' afterwards, everything is different. (and not in a good way lol)
Good food also costs much more money. McDonalds (and other fast food) is way cheaper! (No I don't eat that kind of crap either). Has anyone looked into how much money weight loss programs are? More than a car payment (including insurance) a month. So unless you have an extended or bottomless pocket book, that may not be an option.
Having a full time job and children does not leave most of us with enough hours in the day to add "exercise" to the daily schedule. That is a factual statement. Unless of course, I take time away from something: sleep, work, or child time. I am not willing to (or can) do with less of any of those, so... oh well. :)
I can do what I can to keep the impending weight doom down to a minimum or to a state that makes me still happy the way I am. If someone were to dump me because of it, I would say "good riddance!" and know I am the better person because I would never do the same to them. Same thing goes for men losing their hair, hearing, eyesight, and growing hair in weirder places than they did in their 20's or 30's. 
I'd rather be fat(ish) and happy than skinny and vain. | |
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Posted: 1/2/2009 7:11:41 PM | ^^^^^^^ some that are extremely skinny are not vain.. some that are vain are not skinny... post baby does take a toll ... takes three full years to replenish the body and for the bones jarred out to resettle ... and of course the body is altered... having babies is natural and an evolution of a story ... of LOVE...
but nope fast foods versus whole foods is a myth... most people are unaware that whole foods are as easily attainable and more reasonable in most cases ... Jamie Oliver is not the only person that can put a meal together on a dime... cashiers usually can't believe what I can buy for what I pay...
nourishing our bodies with proper nutrients is essential to human health .. and it is not a burden but something we owe ourselves and the people we want to engage our time and act in love with... it is not a burden it is a necessity ... or you will get ill .. the body will tell you via health if you don't give it what it needs....
What do you know of her or his emotional being? .... weight gain is an emotional issue , it is never about eating it is about why someone does this..... when I see obesity it is completely related to pain ... how can any0ne judge pain .. you have no idea what is going on inside of someone that is in emotional pain or the triggers that people who go thru this are in... The best way to undergo a transformation to health is to initially start eating whole foods without processing this is already a stabilizer especially for the moods that exacerbate the already damaged internal dialogue and painful things that people who are damaged reinforce ...
I believe that if you have met the one whom you feel bonded to and are compelled to bond with the shape or nature of the persons dimensions in space do not matter .. it is the essence of all that the person is, is what matters ... and you care for their molecules to be okay much as you care for your own... You don't miss someone who died that you loved because they had a slim waste you miss who they were ... how deep you touched each others lives .. the time you invested in connecting in each others air space how you worked to make it real and make it feel.
My last great love had jaw cancer he had much of one side of his jaw removed and was facially disfigured .. underwent chemotherapy many times and I loved every friggin molecule of his being ... I miss his smell , his voice .. his dreams, his jokes ... his amazing eyes ... the way he walked.. his temper .. his genius... mostly his love for everyone that caught his air space ... he was a magnet ..... I doubt any0ne that does not know what love truly feels like will ever understand the depth involved in the real deal.... to see extreme obesity beyond the flesh is to look into someone and understand that their pain is what you need to address ... what got them to believe that they don't need to matter to themselves and to always convey to them .. that to you .. they do matter because all that is around you is affected by your perception of that space. You can affect someones molecules by how you feel and treat their space ... if you send them love it will alter their space ... | |
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Posted: 1/2/2009 7:41:08 PM | I have no excuse, no reason, and no regret.
I cannot believe how silly some of the things I read are sounding.
Many posters shouldn't be judgemental, and should they gaze into the mirror, they may be more accepting.
If when I met you, you were young and kind of cute, but age made you wrinkly and kind of ugly, should I leave you if you are still good to me assuming you always had been?
People posting things that it depends on the person, may be just as wrong as ones who say someone is letting themselves go.
Admit it, you are not as cute as you once were. You are probably not as charming. Maybe now all you have is your substance. Now, how does that look on you? I see flatulent waste.
Ok, so I personally wouldn't get with someone if I were depending on thier looks to get us through it, and if you are, well,.... I think you are vain, and in for a slice of reality. good luck | |
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Posted: 1/2/2009 7:48:11 PM |
What do you know of her or his emotional being? .... weight gain is an emotional issue , it is never about eating it is about why someone does this..... when I see obesity it is completely related to pain ... how can any0ne judge pain .. you have no idea what is going on inside of someone that is in emotional pain or the triggers that people who go thru this are in... The best way to undergo a transformation to health is to initially start eating whole foods without processing this is already a stabilizer especially for the moods that exacerbate the already damaged internal dialogue and painful things that people who are damaged reinforce ...
I believe that if you have met the one whom you feel bonded to and are compelled to bond with the shape or nature of the persons dimensions in space do not matter .. it is the essence of all that the person is, is what matters ... and you care for their molecules to be okay much as you care for your own... You don't miss someone who died that you loved because they had a slim waste you miss who they were ... how deep you touched each others lives .. the time you invested in connecting in each others air space how you worked to make it real and make it feel.
My last great love had jaw cancer he had much of one side of his jaw removed and was facially disfigured .. underwent chemotherapy many times and I loved every friggin molecule of his being ... I miss his smell , his voice .. his dreams, his jokes ... his amazing eyes ... the way he walked.. his temper .. his genius... mostly his love for everyone that caught his air space ... he was a magnet ..... I doubt any0ne that does not know what love truly feels like will ever understand the depth involved in the real deal.... to see extreme obesity beyond the flesh is to look into someone and understand that their pain is what you need to address ... what got them to believe that they don't need to matter to themselves and to always convey to them .. that to you .. they do matter because all that is around you is affected by your perception of that space. You can affect someones molecules by how you feel and treat their space ... if you send them love it will alter their space ...
howbigisyourlove: that was a wonderful post.
You're absolutely right. My post was shallow and insulted the whole concept of love. | |
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| love and weight gain
Posted: 1/2/2009 10:10:03 PM |
No one's body is going to be the same as it was...eventually we all disintegrate and lapse into hideously sagging beasts.
I beg to differ. Its not only possible, but totally attainable to keep yourself fit with regular physical activity every day and proper diet. As long as you do everything you can to avoid unhealthy of risky lifestyle choices, IMO, that's all anyone can ask for. Its not the end of the world to put on "a few" extra pounds over the years, as long as you recognize it, and keep on top of it. I will always do that and would hope my partner values that too, and looks after her self without having to be reminded. I realize its different for women because they don't have to maintain an erection. But with most men, they need physical stimulation to perform, and having arguments with you're spouse about losing weight tends to kill the mood. Of course, this is only my opinion, disregard at you're own discretion. | |
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| love and weight gain
Posted: 1/2/2009 10:32:18 PM | Alyourpal,
You must be buggin out...cuz according to your profile, your body type is "extra pounds"... so who are you to judge someone and his/her weight issue??? | |
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| love and weight gain
Posted: 1/3/2009 6:11:58 AM |
howbigisyourlove: that was a wonderful post.
You're absolutely right. My post was shallow and insulted the whole concept of love.
Love is not an intellectual process, nor is it subject to "fairness". One can feel guilty for his/her feelings, and act on intellectual "understanding". In romantic love, though, the factor of sexual attraction either "is" or "isn't". Some will reconcile themselves to overcoming their feelings, and continue to act "lovingly", but feeling "desire" for one's partner, and the quality of the sex life, are affected by feelings beyond our intellectual control.
The question isn't whether a man, or woman, should "dump" a spouse, with children still in the home, because of the other's weight gain. The question is whether, for some people, significant weight gain will undermine the love. For those who are responsive to attraction factors and for whom sexual attraction is important, it often will. It's just a human thing. One isn't "wrong" for his/her feelings, but how he/she responds to those feelings does get into matters of "right/wrong".
For me, if you're married and have children at home, you have an obligation to give your children two parents at home, for as long as possible, and whether your spouse is now unattractive to you or not, you "should" stay. No one can tell you that you're "wrong" for your feelings, though. However, if it's just a relationship between two mature people, with no children involved, no, I wouldn't stay if attraction went away. I wouldn't nag or complain, but if sexual desire faded out, there'd be no purpose to hanging around out of some notion of "fairness" or insecurity that someone might call me "shallow". | |
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Posted: 1/3/2009 7:02:01 AM |
Good food also costs much more money. McDonalds (and other fast food) is way cheaper! (No I don't eat that kind of crap either). Has anyone looked into how much money weight loss programs are? More than a car payment (including insurance) a month. So unless you have an extended or bottomless pocket book, that may not be an option.
I'm gonna have to disagree with the above.
Also I'm going to use mainly metric here so bear with me.
A MacDonald's burger costs about the same as a kilo (2.2lbs) of apples, or two bunches of celery, or one whole pumpkin. These foods are healthy and are higher in food volume than one burger.
Some french fries would cost about the same as two bunches of broccoli
If I took myself and my two boys to Macca's for one meal it'd cost me the same amount of money as about 4 days supply of vegies.
Far healthier and more in food quantity.
I've gone on a weight loss regime for the past year and through shunning rubbish junk food and fatty foods, I've lost over 100 lbs, (48 kilograms). I did this through a healthy diet, no junk food and exercise ie input of kilojoules is less than output. I did not use any exercise programme such as Jenny Craig, Weightwatchers, nor did I use any of those expensive (and teach you nothing about why you were overweight in the first place) meal replacement shakes. I took it upon myself to go it alone without any organisation, as I alone put the weight on in the first place.. my responsibility. I looked upon it as employing myself in a new job. A job of gaining health and fitness.
I was chubby when I met my ex.. and let myself go. I weighed over 150kg when he left me for a woman he met over the internet and cheated on me with. His reasoning (I found out later) was that I became so obese that he didn't find me attractive anymore.
During our relationship, he'd bicker about my weight, I'd promise to lose it and for some strange reason, he'd go straight out to the shops and buy chocolate and my fave flavoured potato crisps. I'd wonder why he did it but still ate the food and didn't lose the weight. Yep my doing and I take full responsibility for scarfing out on that no no food. I learned later about 'diet sabotaging' and realise he bought it to 1 - make me happy and 2- keep me overweight so he didn't have to work at losing weight also.
So fast forward 4 years and I FINALLY get it and lose the weight! It's been a great journey, I feel so fabulous and look soooo much better. Weight loss is more a journey of one's mind than a physical journey.
I understand people gain weight once in a long term relationship, especially after having kids (hey he gained 14 kilograms too) but I think it's just a combination of contentment, familiarity, tiredness (looking after a baby means lack of sleep) and feeling that once in a relationship that's so cemented that one can just enjoy, relax and let go a bit. No biggy there. No judgement either.
I lost my weight for me, learned why I overate by questioning myself as to why I wanted to eat (depression, boredom, filling some emotional void) and I now constantly keep a loving vigil on myself and my health. My boys are so much happier too. They can finally put their arms around me!
It's best to encourage a loved one to lose weight with positivity than bicker and complain about that new spare tyre. I didn't lose weight with the latter aimed at me but sure lost weight when I realised that only I can lose the weight with self love and support from friends and family.
So folks, if your partner is looking a bit chubby , suggest a fitness regime and a healthy diet and join in... do it with joy and positivity so it's a win win situation. | |
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| love and weight gain
Posted: 1/3/2009 10:30:03 AM | While I was married I gained fifty extra pounds within a less than two year span.
I had two children who are eleven months apart.My husband never used my weight against me. In fact he thought I was sexy no matter how much I weighed.
I looked at his "sympathy" weight the same way. Never a mean word or thought about it.
I loved him for him, and I know he felt the same about me.
I lost all of the weight through eating right and exercise. He was extremely proud of me.
He lost all of his extra poundage by, hmmm, I think it was his switching to lite beer! | |
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| love and weight gain
Posted: 1/3/2009 7:43:22 PM | | Pythagorus .. anyone that stays in a marriage just for the motions without offering their most of acting in deep compassion and love and is just a show of what the outside world perceives is not living what the body needs .. and teaching their children that lack of authenticity and deep caring are not necessary... that as far as I am concerned is emotional neglect ... firstly of oneself and secondly and sadly of your only link to life beyond you which is all we leave behind.. true love of our atoms is true love of the ones we made. .. for some divorce may bring inconvience and monetary shifts .. it is far more nurturing to your children to have the act of practised love in the atmosphere and deep caring and spontaneous fun .. anyway most shallow people are completely unaware of the internal value of deep love... this ride of our beings in NOW only happens once and the longer I live the deeper the road is.. I have always lived my life believing that no matter if I died right this second.. I have no regrets... If you love yourself you could not offer anyone else less because that would not be you ... so those who do not know that on a visceral level it does not matter because your molecules understand .. looking into the eyes of love its vastness in you to all you see .. the feeling has no dimensions there is nothing outside of that .. once you understand that you are love ... it is beyond shape or dimension as it is not imprisoned inside it is always moving outward or it dies.. it is directly connected to the beginning and the end of who you are and the energy that connects you to the entire vastness of all that is or all that ever was and all that will ever be and that is all of us. No one is excused from this greatness or immune to this form of love ... it is offered to all of us and some accept it as simply and as complicated as breathing ... when someone eats for emotional purposes they are in need of healthier eating practises to alter their metabolism to absorb organic nutrients .. which heals the endocrin system and the impulsivity .. and alot of hugs and love which help secrete the hormones necessary for feeling worthy.. endorphins ... and to be reassured that their bond to you matters. I have helped so many people outwardly believe in their inward worth that they shine like lamp-posts ... Action is love and sexual desire is created from action .. so anyone that leaves someone because of what they don't see is someone that can't see anyway and you leave you with the same disservice that you leave everyone with... belittling your own inward greatness. Weight is not a deal breaker for a lifelong union it is a symptom of a couple that need to treat each other with more energy of love for themselves and each other. | |
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| love and weight gain
Posted: 1/3/2009 8:33:47 PM |
Weight gain or loss is of no issue. I don't understand why anyone would leave someone because of weight gain. It happens to everyone at some point in their lives.
You would probably rethink this if your wife who was 5'1" and 109 lbs when you married ballooned to 245 or more 20 years later. Happened to me. After the kids grew up, the divorce happened. I have no idea what she weighs now, but her stomach hangs down around her knees.
Still think it is not an issue? | |
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Posted: 1/3/2009 8:56:37 PM | Re: Post #222
First, in terms of staying in a marriage for your children. Every study shows that children fare better in a 2 parent home. IMO, the only truly unconditional love is the love of parent for child. Also, the only ones "entitled" to love, no matter what they do, are children, who are entitled to the love of their parents. So, if there is reasonable harmony, and parents act "lovingly" towards each other, the fact of no longer "being" in love, does not remove the obligation of the parents to be there, day by day, for their children.
However, sitting on a mountain top, with your fingers formed into an "O", while chanting "UMMMMMM.....OHHHHH" and prattling about "inner beauty"...does not address real people, in the real world, for whom attraction is part of sexual desire, which is a major component of "romantic love". Feelings are feelings, not outgrowths of political correctness or odd life philosophies.
My "story" is very similar to the one related in post #223. With the additional point, that while dating, my ex wife knew that I could not respond to heavy women. Yet, as the pounds piled on, she resisted any effort to reduce.
It's odd, that those who expound on what love "should" be, never address the issue of the one who is chosing to put on weight, knowing it is less attractive to his/her spouse, is acting selfishly and unlovingly. I'd wear something, if my partner liked to see me in it. I'd let my hair grow longer, if I knew it were attractive to her. I've chosen to maintain the same weight that I had, when I finished college, knowing that most partners prefer it.
So, how come the one with the weight gain gets to say "it shouldn't matter, if you love someone", because he/she chooses to indulge, at the expense of his/her partner?
Regardless, feelings are feelings. Neither right nor wrong, and feeling "desire" is a feeling. One can put his/her own interests aside, for a time, for a "higher purpose", like raising children. Why would one ignore it, though, if it's just a "relationship"?
Regardless, just one more reason for people, post divorce, to not marry. It makes both people attend to remaining interesting, attractive, and to put out the effort to continue to keep the other interested. | |
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Posted: 7/26/2009 8:44:22 PM | | I gained weight when i was living with my fiacee due to some steroids i took for my asthma. My fiacee did not like my extra weight that i put on. This was one of the many reasons why the relationship ended. I saw him a year ago and he is very porky now. I say what goes around comes around. In my life i have seen so many people who were once thin and than later on got so Fat. | |
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