| How does a women know when a guy uses sex to show he cares, or just using her for sex??
Posted: 11/14/2006 10:07:43 AM | ITS A LITTLE OF BOTH I THINK,WE ARE NOT 15 ANYMORE SO ITS BOTH OF US, HAVE YOU EVER USED SEX TO SHOW U CARED,,,I HAVE AND IT BRINGS US CLOSER TOGETHER,,,I DO NOT REALLY USE MEN FOR SEX,,BUT IF WE BOTH ENJOY IT ITS ALL THE BETTER,,PATTY        | |
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| How does a women know when a guy uses sex to show he cares, or just using her for sex??
Posted: 11/24/2006 1:12:07 PM | Don't put out right away!! If he's willing to stick around for the sex he's probably into you!
Women have sex for love, men love to have sex -- That's just the way it is.
A man having sex with you is NEVER an "expression of how much he cares" A man can pound the crap out of a woman he loves or make love to a woman he just met depending on the mood he's in. | |
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| How does a women know when a guy uses sex to show he cares, or just using her for sex??
Posted: 11/24/2006 1:21:00 PM | | It goes both ways, stop beating men up about SEX - I am a woman, I don't necessarily have sex for love, doesn't compute in my brain, perhaps not Venusian? If you are a woman, you are an adult, you FEEL like having sex with a man, GEESH - go for it! Doesn't mean you sleep with everyone, but, sometimes the catalyst driving you in that direction is worth it. I am tired of "are you using women for sex", women do it all the time, let's be fair. I would never buy a pair of shoes WITHOUT trying them on. I know it is cliche' but it's a fact. I am no more interested in dating someone where the physical aspect isn't there. Personal choice, but honest too. | |
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| How does a women know when a guy uses sex to show he cares, or just using her for sex??
Posted: 8/5/2009 9:10:12 PM | He spends the night. (On purpose, just didn't fall asleep after cuming)
2. He cuddles before falling asleep.
3. He makes sure you get off at least once.
4. He does something sexual that he is not that big on, but drives you crazy.
5. He knows your name.
6. He wants to spend time with you outside the bedroom.
7. He stays up late playing video games with your kids instead of coming to bed and having sex. (occasionally, if its like that all the time, its a little creepy)
If that's love, then I am quiting men | |
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| How does a women know when a guy uses sex to show he cares, or just using her for sex??
Posted: 8/5/2009 9:24:58 PM | Ok guys I have a question, can you please answers: how does a women know when the guy is into her and using sex to show it, or when he is using her sexually and that is it?
A valid question. If he is taking it slow, taking his time with her and making it clear that the situation is about her - he is using sex to show his love and affections.
If he is just trying to hike her skirt up and bend her over the corner of the coach? Not so much. He's just trying to get off. | |
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| How does a women know when a guy uses sex to show he cares, or just using her for sex??
Posted: 8/5/2009 11:27:01 PM | Because in addition to having great sex, we have great conversations, great vacations, great silences, he does little things like puts a headlight in my car, or takes the trash out without being asked, looks for things that I collect when he's online and surprises me with them, watches girl movies with me and television shows with me and discusses politics with me even though his views and mine are different...the list goes on and on.
I do similar things for him. I watch guy movies with him, and have learned to like them, I fall asleep with my head on his lap while he watches sports, I go to car lots looking for his ideal sports car (while in a dress and heels) on Sundays, I cook the foods he likes and avoid the ones he hates (like shells and cheese because his ex-wife cooked it all the time).
That's what love does to us. It makes us thoughtful, and considerate and giving.
Most of the time.
LOL
Beth | |
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| How does a women know when a guy uses sex to show he cares, or just using her for sex??
Posted: 8/6/2009 6:30:10 AM | Just wanted to add that you also have to beware of the guys who go through the motions of doing all the extras everyone's mentioned. Some guys know you should do all those things so the girl won't think you're just using her for sex so you have to watch how they are doing things.
Do they only do nice, sweet, non-sexual and romantic things only after you ask, complain, and/or have had a fight?
Do they do these things begrudgingly or with smiles on their faces because they're happy to be spending time with you?
Do they act like they are doing you a huge favor when they do little things like take out the trash or fix something on your car?
Do they happily spend their free time with you or do they only give you the scraps of time they have left over at the end of the day when they're bored and have nothing to do? | |
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| How does a women know when a guy uses sex to show he cares, or just using her for sex??
Posted: 8/6/2009 8:45:08 AM | If he's breathing, that's usually the first sign.
But seriously. I am fascinated by men's ability to completely fake relationships. BUT I have noticed a significant shift in most men's ideas about love and sex at the age of 30 and up. While most are too busy playing the field in their twenties (before someone starts protesting that I'm stereotyping younger males, I DO realize a "FEW" of you aren't like this--note the word FEW!) I think as that challenge begins to wear thin, they start entertaining the prospect of settling down and actually finding someone to share their life with. They also see their best friends and drinking buddies starting to settle down and it starts making them wonder if there really is something to this "love" thing.
Then again, some just meet that "right" girl...you know, the girl that he can't believe his luck he found, usually beautiful, sweet and willing to put up with his shit (okay, okay, that's cynical I know, but I'm trying to inject satire here--chillax) and after she' s popped out a couple of kids and started annoying him by asking him to take out the trash, somewhere around that point he starts to yearn for yesteryear when he was the epitome of hotness (before she realized she'd have to put up with his sh*t--har-har) and wants to find a woman who "understands"...
At which point the once sweet and beautiful vixen will spend most of her time pursuing child support while he goes out and searches for his lost youth. If he makes enough money, has a big enough penis or finds a dumb enough female who has an even greater capacity to put up with his sh*t, he may just have a second chance at it.
Then he'll come to places like this, tell the world that his children are the most important part of his life and that his ex wife screwed him over somehow and rag about how women play games and don't want to give him the sex he deserves.
Okay, well it may be flawed, but it's one theory at least. | |
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| How does a women know when a guy uses sex to show he cares, or just using her for sex??
Posted: 8/6/2009 9:09:46 AM | 1. He spends the night. (On purpose, just didn't fall asleep after cuming)
2. He cuddles before falling asleep.
3. He makes sure you get off at least once.
4. He does something sexual that he is not that big on, but drives you crazy.
5. He knows your name.
6. He wants to spend time with you outside the bedroom.
Nice list and so true.
May I add to it?
7.He tells you he cares about you and shows you in actions.
8.He listens to your concerns and fears and doesn't laugh in your face.
9.He helps you around the house without doing it begrudgingly.
10.He takes you out and show's you off and makes you feel special.
11.He doesn't hesitate to tell you he loves you after sex.
12.He's willing to make an exclusive commitment to only having sex with you.
13.He compliments you on something other than your sexual abilities.
14.He waits for you to come first.
15.He moves in and it's the best thing that's ever happened to you.
I could go on and on now that I found someone
who I KNOW doesn't just want me for sex.
Talk is cheap.....show me you care, outside the bedroom.......is my motto.
Some men have a heart on......and some men only have a hard on.
Knowing the difference and not settling for less than you want is KEY!
Women have sex for love, men love to have sex -- That's just the way it is.
Can I call Bullsh*t?Believe it or not...ALOT of men have sex because they love a woman.And ALOT of women love to have sex without emotional ties.
It's about the individual.
I LOVE you Mike!
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