| leaving the kids in the car :(
Posted: 7/18/2007 6:41:51 AM | | She should know the risks. Abduction, heat stroke, car theft (with the kids inside!) if sh eleaves the engine running. Any way you look at it, the risks of harm to teh babies are just TOO high. Find information and give it to her, so it doesn't appear that you're "judging" her, if you must, but MAKE SURE SHE KNOWS the dangers of leaving what should be the most precious things in her life alone in a vehicle. | |
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| leaving the kids in the car :(
Posted: 7/18/2007 7:21:59 AM | | I'm sorry but I would have gone off on my sister if she had done this and blasted her even worse for her idiotic comments. | |
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| leaving the kids in the car :(
Posted: 7/20/2007 7:21:06 PM | | does ur sister know that there are pedophiles in this world. I'd be the first to call the cops on her. i have called the cops on someone before for that and if i were you i would do it. it sounds like she is not using her brain, tell her the truth and sooner or later she will forgive you. | |
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| leaving the kids in the car :(
Posted: 7/21/2007 5:18:35 PM | Ok, Ok, I am guilty of doing this BUT within reason...if it's a day where it's not too hot or too cold I will run into an ATM to get money but I am gone for about 30 secs max. Even still, I have come out only to find a person or two giving me dirty looks. Well, if you had a young baby and it was finally sleeping when it hadn't slept all night and you absolutely need $$$ you would be tempted too. I just wished there were more drive thru ATMS...
Now, about leaving them in the car while grocery shopping that's just plain horrible. You have to be careful about discussing this with your sister. Part of me wants you to just ignore it, but my conscience won't let me advise you to do this. Tread softley when you wish to discuss this mattter...Good luck. | |
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| leaving the kids in the car :(
Posted: 7/21/2007 5:45:52 PM | Who hasnt for those 30second things. If it is an atm where i can see my kids i have done it.
I try not too. Especially with the heat here in the Okanagan. it would kill my dog and my kids.
And there are too many physco's out there to leave kids unatended. | |
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| leaving the kids in the car :(
Posted: 7/21/2007 5:47:49 PM | | I agree with you on that one. I haven't done the ATM thing in a long time becaus e I felt guilty and besides, she is old enough to watch while I do it. I also go grocery shopping too so she's in a cart. Glad I moved! I couldn't do this before where I used to live. | |
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| leaving the kids in the car :(
Posted: 8/2/2007 7:31:59 PM | | Hope I can help here. Approach her calmly and sit down to talk with her. If you must you can find stories to back you up. I have heard stories of childcare centers leaving children in the vehicle for periods of time and them dying from the heat, children being kidnapped from being left alone in the car, and have personally witnessed and even helped save a child from a locked running vehicle with a leaking carbon monoxide problem. Just remind her that you are only trying to help because you love the children. Also remind her that if she is caught by the police that they would consider it neglect and you would never want to see that happen to her. Much luck! | |
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| leaving the kids in the car :(
Posted: 8/2/2007 7:37:32 PM | | There was one here last year where a toddler watched his baby sister strangle in the car window because he didn't know what to do nor should he. I don't have the answer on how to talk to your sister but you should find a way. When I see it happening I call it in to 911 and it's probably better for her to hear from you than the authorities. | |
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| leaving the kids in the car :(
Posted: 8/2/2007 11:08:11 PM | I had to call 911 in the mall parking lot a few yrs ago, some couple left a baby in the car while they shopped. The baby was asleep but I saw i through the window when I parked my car. I stood beside the car for 10 min thinking some dumb broad would come out "in a min" but then after 15 min I had no chioce.
Security smashed the window when the baby woke up and started crying and then police arrived.The dingbats were more pissed about the fkn car window!!!!!!!!!
I didnt stick around long enough I was in tears and disbeleif. Family, strangers or not NO CHILD DESERVES TO BE LEFT ALONE BECAUSE THEY ARE THOUGHT TO BE A NUISANCE 30 seconds or less is all it takes for a kidnap.. breakin.. or the child to unlock the door and wander off.  | |
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| leaving the kids in the car :(
Posted: 8/3/2007 6:50:17 PM | | Your number one priority is the children....because all of the things that I've seen posted here that could possibly happen...really do happen...I am an emergency nurse and you would be shocked at some of the things I see go on in this world. How would you feel if one of them did...and you maybe could have made her look at her own behavior for herself. | |
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| leaving the kids in the car :(
Posted: 8/3/2007 7:04:44 PM |
Ok, Ok, I am guilty of doing this BUT within reason...if it's a day where it's not too hot or too cold I will run into an ATM to get money but I am gone for about 30 secs max. Even still, I have come out only to find a person or two giving me dirty looks. Well, if you had a young baby and it was finally sleeping when it hadn't slept all night and you absolutely need $$$ you would be tempted too. I just wished there were more drive thru ATMS...
Now, about leaving them in the car while grocery shopping that's just plain horrible. You have to be careful about discussing this with your sister. Part of me wants you to just ignore it, but my conscience won't let me advise you to do this. Tread softley when you wish to discuss this mattter...Good luck.
There is NO "within reason" here. I had TWO young babies and my lazy arse STILL took them BOTH out of the car to run the simplest of errands. It takes a professional car thief MAYBE 10 seconds to drive away in your car.
I'm going to repeat myself ONCE AGAIN on this subject and tell you to Google "Jake Robel". His mother left him in the car for "30 seconds" and her car was jacked and Jake was drug down the Interstate HANGING OUT OF THE CAR to his death. She thought she could get to him in time, and she did get to the car, but couldn't get him out of his seatbelt.
I know you people won't Google like I suggested, so just imagine your baby being drug outside of the car, against the ground to his/her death. Fun stuff, isn't it? I bet he looked real pretty after being drug at 80 mph down the interstate.
But you go ahead and take your keys in with you and lock that door and think everything is all hunky dory. Just don't come crying here when you are picking your kids' innards up off a highway, K? And don't get all pissed off at me when I call you on leaving your kids in a car while you took "30 seconds" to run into a store. | |
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| leaving the kids in the car :(
Posted: 8/3/2007 8:06:00 PM | | For the childrens' safety, please say something to her. Have you heard about all of the heat related deaths lately? | |
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| leaving the kids in the car :(
Posted: 8/13/2008 5:25:46 PM | Do some people just not learn??
I was leaving the office tonight... Locking the door and I heard this little voice yelling "MOMMY WHERE ARE YOUUUUUU MOMMMYYYYYY" I turn around and looked at a frieghtened 3 year old standing on the seat with his head out the sun roof screaming for his Mom... At first I thought he was messing about (My daughter would have done the same if she was in the car with an adult but I had left her... ) So I started walking past the vehicle... and I couldn't see an adult in the car.. by this time I did however see a younger child in a car seat, and the little boy was now hanging out the driver side window Yelling again MOMMMYYYY MOOMMMYYY Where are you... looking very scared.. (I guess mom thought she had done ok by her kids... she left the windows open for them... )
I stayed by the vehicle for a few minutes.. No parent showed... I grabbed my cell out... and was in the process of dialing 911, when a lady came out of a store from across the street and came yelling at the kid for making a scene!!!!! After she finished I went up to her and said you Know you really shouldn't leave your kids unattended right??? She goes (in a snitty voice might i add) YES i know they shouldn't be left unattended, but I was getting their medication (Sorry she came OUT of a health food store... didn't realize they filled prescriptions these days)... I came back with GUESS WHAT kids can be taken into stores... she didn't look impressed with me... got in & drove away...
Question... Should I have continued my call to 911??????? | |
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| leaving the kids in the car :(
Posted: 8/13/2008 8:01:57 PM | In California it is ILLEGAL to leave a child alone in a car. I know because I taught "Family Safety in the Car" for the courts, and remember when it became a law. However, as a parent myself, I do understand why people do it. You can explain the dangers all you want and people will STILL not listen, but I managed to put it in another way... the child's worth.
I'd present this scenario to my students:
Okay, you are a parent alone with a child in their carseat. They are secuere and asleep (finally!). You really need to run in and get just "one thinge" - drycleaning, milk, medicine, whatever, it should only take you a minute. You are tempted.
Do you crack the window and leave the child locked in the car, while you quickly run in? (Ususlly several would admit to this, or say they were tempted.)
Now, what if I replaced "your child" with "a million dollars cash"? Remember, you only need to run in for a minute... you can still crack the windows... would you be tempted to leave a million dollars cash on the seat (in plain view, as a child is)???
They'd laugh and say "OF COURSE NOT!"... at which point I'd remind them that it's much easier to replace a million dollars cash than a child!
Sometimes things just need to be put in a different, less-threatening way for some folks to "get it".
Just my two cents,
p.
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| leaving the kids in the car :(
Posted: 8/13/2008 11:25:43 PM | In my state it's illegal to leave your DOG in the car while you run into the grocery store, never mind your kids. It IS hard to tell your family members when they do abusive things - specially when they don't get it. On the flip side, you'll have to live with whatever the consequenses are forever.
Good luck. | |
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