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| Is being to fussy the wrong way to be?
Posted: 6/13/2006 8:13:13 AM | msg 1. if you dont
know what you want.how can you be too fussy?
seems your going to make problems for yourself...
try being more open and at least find out what you dont want...
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| Is being to fussy the wrong way to be?
Posted: 6/13/2006 8:45:09 PM | Being fussy is fine; it's actually a good idea to be very choosy when choosing something as important as a partner to share your life with. Far too many people settle for second best just because they're tired of being lonely. They meet someone and try to cram the round peg that is them into the square hole of their ideal man. It doesn't work and it eventually falls apart. Knowing exactly what you want and don't want, and sticking to it no matter how lonely you get will save you from this heartache.
Problems come though, when you pitch an otherwise great guy for a few minor faults or flaws that don't fit your idea of the perfect man. Be fussy, but don't expect absolute perfection or you're bound to be lonely for a very long time.
-Kevin  | |
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| Is being to fussy the wrong way to be?
Posted: 6/13/2006 10:07:16 PM | | I'm not really sure about this, but here goes. I 'm thinking that being fussy to the point of what bare minimum stuff you must have for yourself in a relationship must be listed and be met. That way there would be flexibililty for each others differences and interests within the relationship. Does that make sense? (hope so...) | |
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| Is being to fussy the wrong way to be?
Posted: 6/13/2006 10:28:52 PM | I dunno about too fussy, but you're likely not giving decent peeps a chance. I mean, if you make it plain that you're just getting to know each other with no guarantees or promises, what's the harm? You go out, have dinner, you may meet someone more to your liking. A date or meeting isn't a lifelong contract. Or, you could hear about a new position opening up that you may not have heard about another way. My point is, its ok to be picky, but its inane to close the door on all those who fail to meet your "metric". The guy who said "uh" before every sentence that you shot down 2 years ago may have inadvertantly led you to what you really were looking for...hell, he may have been what you really were looking for, but you shot him down - the strict "metric" and all.
I'm not saying that you should settle, I'm just saying that you could be eliminating some positives by being too "fussy". On the flipside, I'm not telling you to look for a conservative heterosexual professional male at Lilith Fair...probability is a bit low there...imaginably...
But I think you get my point. | |
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