| boyfriends jerking off to porn.
Posted: 6/14/2006 9:31:03 PM | "lol still can not get myself to watch porn with a man, but hey making progress!!"
It's because your gut is telling you it's wrong and your gut is right. Do you think that the majority of porn portrays women as a co-partner in the sexual relations or as a submissive peace of meat that caters to any wish of the male gender.
What signal does it send to men who watch? It tells and reinforces to men that "hey I'm the person in control of the relationship". "Woman you submit to me". "I make the decisions in what house/car to buy". "Your a subordinate, not a partner". | |
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| boyfriends jerking off to porn.
Posted: 6/14/2006 9:42:13 PM |  Even I touch it to porn!....don't really care if my man does too! That would be like the pot calling the kettle black... | |
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| boyfriends jerking off to porn.
Posted: 6/14/2006 9:48:12 PM | Porn addicts do exist and the problem ruins families. It's not about insecurity or childishness. It's about hours and hours apart from their loved ones, getting tired and miserable and being unable to participate in family life, spending bucks, lying, hiding the problem, and the complete disrespect one has to have to visit the problem on either your partner or your kids. Calling anyone a name for disagreeing with your desires is unacceptable. There are no rules around what someone can or cannot tolerate. When you care about the other person, what bothers them should matter to you. It's okay to say, hey, jerking off to porn is something I'm not willing to give up so we're over, but don't blame that choice on the person who's not wild about what you're doing. It's your choice...you own it. I like porn more than I like you. End of story. People break up over all kinds of things. Or choose people for all kinds of reasons. I don't date smokers, for instance. No comment on their choice, just making one of my own.
Porn is good. Extremely hot. Have my own preferences for sure. But, should be a shared thing, or an okay-with-your-partner thing, not a "I'm going to jerk myself happy and lie about it" thing. That said...if you're single...enjoy whatever you like whenever you like it. | |
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| boyfriends jerking off to porn.
Posted: 6/14/2006 10:11:55 PM | | philip that was LAME!!!!! obviously you've only seen one porn in your life... you should check out the millions of dvd's that specialize in putting MEN in the submissive spot... where yall should be!!! lmao | |
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| boyfriends jerking off to porn.
Posted: 6/14/2006 10:19:41 PM | | my input... I do what I want... lol... well really i would rather know he's doing that then doind someoneelse... anyday... I have never been against it in fact i have bought porn for my bf's before... somethign to do together.. to learn from and to just let him do it if he wanted to... or if he was asleep... something for me to do too lol... it shouldn't be something a girl frowns upon in a relationship.. just be happy if your getting some and he's not doind someone else | |
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| boyfriends jerking off to porn.
Posted: 6/14/2006 10:43:27 PM | i hated it!
i always feared that he would have thought of "her" while we were having sex!!!! but that was years ago! look at me now lol!
i think i watch it more than him! boy how the tables have crossed! | |
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| boyfriends jerking off to porn.
Posted: 6/14/2006 11:15:37 PM | Some people use the excuse that it is healthy to do so. IMHO if you need to use porn to get off when there is a perfectly fine partner in the next room to use, then WTF is wrong with you? It's one thing if they are gone for 2 months in Iraq or something but c'mon people. Why get with someone if you aren't sexual equals?
My answer is: No. If I have someone I never do - really. I find the lack of masturbation makes you alot more horny and therefore increases the amount of sex you and your partner are having let alone making it alot more satisfying when it's all over. | |
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Posted: 6/14/2006 11:35:41 PM | | ^^^^^^^^ I disagree. I masterbate every freaking day lmao. Andwhen I was in my last relationship it didnt effect my sex drive at all. When you look up the word insatiable its has my pic beside it lol. And porn is just porn. | |
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| boyfriends jerking off to porn.
Posted: 6/15/2006 12:16:13 AM | I think dudes and porn are something that generally go together and I dont see why ladies should harbour jealousy over the fact their men look at porn. At least theyre not cheating on you. If it bothers you so much take some sexy pictures of yourself for him, or join in. Porn is for girls too.  | |
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| boyfriends jerking off to porn.
Posted: 6/15/2006 12:48:23 AM | I love to see women embrace porn now a days
I mean why not?
If your boyfriend is a home 'pulling his goalie " to porn that means he is not out on a saturday night ..........looking for a hookup at the bar | |
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| boyfriends jerking off to porn.
Posted: 6/15/2006 1:34:16 AM | when i was married, after a while the ex stopped having sex with me. well, maybe not stopped, but i'd be lucky to be lucky once a month or so.
"no problem", i thought, "porn's always been there for me in times of need."
so...i picked up a mag, tossed it in the nightstand and rubbed a few out when she was out.
well...one day she found it (not that i was hiding it) and i was told that for some reason or another having a little porn around was a bad thing.
so i hid it. and she found it.
i let her berate me over it for a while, and once she'd exhausted herself i let her know that if she wasn't going to be satisfying my needs, and she wasn't going to let me have material around that facilitated my self-satisfaction, she was either going to have to have more sex with me, or someone else would.
...sometimes i wonder why i'm divorced... | |
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Posted: 6/15/2006 4:47:44 AM | | I don't think there is a man out there that does NOT watch porn (ok....for just the sake of saying it, MAYBE there could be one or two). And I agree with someone up above about being bothered by it when you are younger (and notice the OP is only 23 years old). | |
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Joined: 3/11/2006
Msg: 39 | |
| boyfriends jerking off to porn.
Posted: 6/15/2006 6:09:35 AM | | OP: nothing strange about it..Porn was meant to be watched and enjoyed by both sexes..why not indulge in some every once in a while? We all know they do it, anyways...so who cares if he's doing it while watching a video... | |
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| boyfriends jerking off to porn.
Posted: 6/15/2006 8:23:37 AM | | As long as I get my needs fulfilled then why not! Mutual masterbation while watching porn can be fun as well! | |
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Korara
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Joined: 2/13/2006
Msg: 44 | |
| boyfriends jerking off to porn.
Posted: 6/15/2006 10:32:45 AM | | I would rather have my beau be jacking off to porn than bang another chick.. I mean who really cares...sounds like your friends like to have WAY too much control over their men! | |
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| boyfriends jerking off to porn.
Posted: 6/15/2006 10:59:19 AM | | To the OP, whatever happens between consenting adults is fine, but the rest of you seem to be making a choice between condoning bf's viewing porn or having them find the real deal. I know most of you will consider me to be an old, prudish lady, but I can promise this ain't my first rodeo. There is a fine line between the fantasy of porn and the reality of one night stands. Are any of you ready to bet your emotional or physical well-being that your guy won't cross it? | |
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Joined: 12/17/2005
Msg: 46 | |
| boyfriends jerking off to porn.
Posted: 6/15/2006 11:10:32 AM | Sexual fantasies are very healthy to have. Just as in we used to read comic books to escape into a world of fantasy, we now watch TV instead. In the past they would have looked at women in their pajamas or closed their eyes and imagined their fantasy. Thanks to modern technology all we have to do is put our fantasy into a DVD player and there it is right infront of us in full colour.
Porn is nothing more than a sexual fantasy in moderation. It is our fantasies that allow us to explore our own "self". It gives us energy, in the way that opposites create energy. You fantasize about "gang-banging a slut"(will call this the positive end) but you won't because your with someone and can't betray them (will call this the negative end). Just as the opposite poles of a battery can make energy, so can the opposite poles of our psychy.
If you have a really big problem with your guy masterbating to porn, you need to take a good long look inside yourself. That problem is steming from insecurities inside you, conscious or unconsious.
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Posted: 6/15/2006 11:45:10 AM | i dont care if he does .........but
i much prefure to watch it together , that way were both aroused and all hot when we do "do it " | |
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Posted: 6/15/2006 12:20:41 PM | QUOTE:
"philip that was LAME!!!!! obviously you've only seen one porn in your life... you should check out the millions of dvd's that specialize in putting MEN in the submissive spot... where yall should be!!! lmao"
Sorry, I don't pay money for porn. I pirate it on the net. The reason I use it now is because it's a crutch for me in not having a relationship and because of some other circumstances of mine that i know need to be changed.
I agree that there is a full spectrum of different kinds of porn but you'll find since men are the biggest consumer, women in the scenes are the victims who accept the big pay check because of external economic pressures put on them or because of their own psychological problems.
Living in this free society of ours though I understand that just cause some people choose to abuse it or desire women to questionable things in scenes, doesn't mean the rest of us should suffer by having it totally taken away. I don't wish for our country to turn into china. | |
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Posted: 6/15/2006 1:28:40 PM | Hi all I am new here, I think that porn is cool. Its great to see a forum with support for it. Well you all sound interesting, I will have post now and then randomly knowing me!
Happy to join the party  | |
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| boyfriends jerking off to porn.
Posted: 6/15/2006 1:41:51 PM | You ppl seem to forget that masturbation is a personal choice... Stop comparing the real thing with masturbation.... stop wanting to be there when he masturbates... If he's with you, it's not simple masturbation anymore, it's group masturbation... What's wrong with wanting to spend a little time alone... a guilt-free selfish sexual moment that doesnt hurt anyone...
You shouldnt stop masturbating coz you can have the real thing... WTF? You cant compare having sex and masturbating... When Im with someone, they're my priority... Masturbation is the only moment ONLY for me... | |
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