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| What does a man mean by taking things slow???
Posted: 11/25/2006 10:57:05 AM | It means don't start nagging him to move in and/or get married for at least the first year.
nagging = bad. open honest talk/communication = good.
Unfortunately, I think sometimes women think nagging=communication. While I agree, it is to a point, it only becomes communication when you are willing to listen to the other's feelings/views on it. When it becomes "this is what I want, and I don't care how you feel" then it stops, in my mind, even being a valid *relationship*. It becomes too one sided. It begins to violate *ourselves*, and what kind of relationship do you have if you don't have yourself? In any relationship, you have to respect your own feelings/views, and the feelings/views of your partner. If you don't have that respect, you have nothing. | |
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| What does a man mean by taking things slow???
Posted: 11/26/2006 5:22:14 AM | Well it can mean different things;
1. Past experiences make him hesitant.
2. He may want to play the field.
3. Simple wisdom that says getting to know one takes some level of time and effort. The better one gets to know the other, the better the relationship in the end. Now how long that is will very on each individual. The question is, how much time are they investing in you? If they are spending their time exclusively, and spending a considerable amount of time with you, chances are they are serious, if not, then 1 or 2 above in in affect. | |
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| What does a man mean by taking things slow???
Posted: 11/26/2006 5:57:51 AM | | I am not into u as u are into me but hang around until I find something better and if I dont then I will go for you if I decide to...we can mess around though in the meantime..thats what it means.. | |
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| What does a man mean by taking things slow???
Posted: 12/18/2006 7:28:00 AM | I think it means different things to different people and of course, it's said for different reasons as well. Try not to get caught up in symantics and worrying about deciphering "what they really mean". Just take things one step at a time and which I think is the best way. And since most people always try to put their best foot forward in a new relationship and try to do everything perfectly and right, then the real person may not show up for about 3-6 months after the relationship starts. So if a true, solid and life-sustaining relationship is what you seek, then taking things slow and respecting each other's lifestyle will be key. And if the two personalities are meant to gel and bond, then it will happen because the courting personalities will allow it to be so.  | |
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| What does a man mean by taking things slow???
Posted: 12/18/2006 10:42:42 AM | Scientific studies have concluded that it takes a year to get to really know a person. It is of no use jumping from one frying pan to another.
Now if both parties are looking for sex (and advertising it), then that is a different matter.
Otherwise, it is better to be prudent than sorry. | |
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| What does a man mean by taking things slow???
Posted: 12/18/2006 12:59:45 PM | | taking things slow can mean many things; men with integrity and morals might choose to remain a virgin until they've found their half soul. Women, why do most consider men gay if they don't committ to sex? is sexual satisfaction more important than romance, spiritual closeness, communication or trust? No...sex comes through and with time, it should be reserved for a special moment. Sorry I had to get that off my chest, most women are getting on my nerves because they can't believe i'm a virgin. see, often times ya'll believe a man is all ****ed up...well, it is because we're often tired of being doubted. okay continuing on, taking it slow means to kiss after the 3rd or 5th date, nothing really physically close until a year or 2. yes i'm saying a year or two because in that period it gives more time to know the person (not 100% though). taking it slow means talking on the phone once a day for 30 minutes rather than 3 hours. taking it slow also means TO LOVE CAUTIOUSLY, be careful who you love. Not everyone that has superficial qualities (good looks, charm and sex drive) can have genuine assetts. | |
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sddude
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| What does a man mean by taking things slow???
Posted: 12/18/2006 6:02:29 PM | To me taking it slow is not be be plaining how many babies and choosing furniture before we are actually serious .
Poet dude , hahahaha yo is funny , yes of course women think a guy is weird or funny in a fruity way , they may even think your sexuality is neutral if you are a virgin or celibate.
I am celibate and get told I must me gay , seriously gay. Women are always in my house in droves using it for a party house since I have no neighbors to annoy , they use it for a girls night out to drink. Or the pijama party house where they do their hair and I buy the booze.
This weekend were at my house. I tell them time again I am not gay , sometimes I wake up to a naked 18 year old after a drunk party and they feel for the woody to veryfy I am a "MAN" . I tell them to behave , it is humiliating and fun at the same time. I am showering 2 join me to see if wood happens, humiliating and fun, they fel secure and protected since I am celibate.
Kiss them all , do not bang them and they will kill for you and fight for some reason .
People say I am a player and a pig, I do not have to do anything just taking it slow .
If I was a horndog , I would probably have alot of problems with the parents and drama, even parents know I am celibate .... "honey if you are going out with Leon , hey go all night I do not care , he is a good guy ".... only with him okay ? Come back after he takes you to church tomorrow , hehehehe. yes it does really happen .
It is great being a great guy , taking things slowly, one day I will have that long relationship when I am convinced by one that took it slowly so I really got to know her in every way, then the orgi will begin .
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| What does a man mean by taking things slow???
Posted: 1/2/2007 7:44:38 PM | | it means"why don't we take it slow while I can get this other chick off of my "schlong" nothing more than that. I always take that approach if I want one girl and go onto the next. nothing innocent about that, but then you get older and you start thinking slower is better | |
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| What does a man mean by taking things slow???
Posted: 1/2/2007 7:45:38 PM | My my what a bunch of cynics?
From this thread I have to wonder if all the men that are finding negative connotations to the words are not players trying to mess us ladies up. The ladies that are finding negative connotations perhaps want this in a man but simply don't believe it truly exists.
I like to take it slow simply because I have been hurt in the past and I do want to be sure that it is the man I care about and not the sex or having "someone" around. I choose to assume that a man will say it for the same reason...it is called projection.
I've met a man who has said this...we have been physical but are backing up that train to focus on getting to know each other. I feel like the luckiest girl in the pond right now because this man has respect for me and he is honest. Rather than assume anything, I actually asked him what it meant...he told me what HE meant. That really does work you know.... COMMUNICATION! Maybe in a week/month/few months, I might decide he is not right for me or he may decide I am not right for him. At least I will know he was interested enough in me to get to know me, not just my body. | |
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| What does a man mean by taking things slow???
Posted: 3/30/2007 12:50:33 AM |
I've met a man who has said this...we have been physical but are backing up that train to focus on getting to know each other. I feel like the luckiest girl in the pond right now because this man has respect for me and he is honest. Rather than assume anything, I actually asked him what it meant...he told me what HE meant. That really does work you know.... COMMUNICATION!
GASP!!! My god, itsallinthesoul, *communication*??? Oh no, people can't do that, its so much easier to just assume things based on a few experiences, rather than treating every person as a unique individual, and actually talking to them! | |
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| What does a man mean by taking things slow???
Posted: 3/30/2007 4:19:33 PM | In man language, taking it slow means exactly this :::
I don't want a boyfriend/girlfriend relationship, but if you want to sleep with me, I will go for that"
In woman language it means :::
I would like to take the time to get to know you well to see if I like you before I sleep with you
Man and woman are always opposites when it comes to stuff like this.  | |
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| What does a man mean by taking things slow???
Posted: 3/30/2007 7:54:35 PM | ^ In Kclady's *assumption* of what I would mean its:
"I don't want a boyfriend/girlfriend relationship, but if you want to sleep with me, I will go for that"
In reality, what it would mean (for me) is:
"I like you and would like to pursue it furthur and see where it goes, but I'm not interested in sleeping with you until we get to know each other a little better. "
Thus the value of *NOT ASSUMING* it means anything, until you actually ask the person what they mean. But, as I said, not like *communication* is important in a relationship or anthing, if she wants to *assume* what I mean, I'll gladly count it as someone I wouldn't have wanted anyways, because obviously they are more apt to run a relationship on guesses and assumption than on open and honest communication. And why would I want a relationship with someone with such a negative opinion of me that if I have to work late one night, she's probably going to be "assuming" I'm cheating, and where does that end? Reality is, if you can't actually talk to the person and ask what they really mean, forget about a relationship anyways.
edit: Funny, too., that quote, coming from someone who has in their profile: "I trust until I am shown that I can't". That assumption doesn't sound too trusting to me. | |
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| What does a man mean by taking things slow???
Posted: 3/31/2007 12:52:20 AM | | it means hes a player and keeping his options open.......whilst looking for others......lots of them.. and women around.................................................................. | |
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jimi77
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| What does a man mean by taking things slow???
Posted: 3/31/2007 1:07:15 AM | | it means he is not sure how he feels yet and doesn’t want to have kids, get married, and commit full time until he knows you a bit more.. Or he is a player looking for poon. | |
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| What does a man mean by taking things slow???
Posted: 4/28/2007 11:31:42 PM | | "My my what a bunch of cynics" watch what you say lady...cynicism works both ways. You imply we lack communication? How so, if when we speak our minds you tell us to shut up and immediately come to the conclusion we're ***holes. Women claim communication is key, yet when we conversate and there is a thing that we say you don't like...you women deliberately break up with us. To make matters worst you expect us to cry for you while with your girls you're saying how horrible we were. for once why don't you speak about the ups and downs for both persons rather than one alone? | |
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| What does a man mean by taking things slow???
Posted: 4/29/2007 1:02:13 AM | | Taking it slow is simply an expresion. It might mean something else to everyone and their Mother's, but one thing is for certain. For one reason or another, they are wary about throwing themselves full swing into a relationship. Whether it be sex, commitment issues, confidence issues... whatever. | |
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| What does a man mean by taking things slow???
Posted: 5/22/2007 1:24:35 AM | I was still nursing some pain of rejection.
Started seeing this woman. Turned out I wasn't very into her.
Not a lot of attraction. Not a lot of connection. Not a lot of chemistry.
But she was into me. And I'd fallen for 2 women that I just hung out with for a few months.
So I thought if we spend a few months together, something might develop.
So I told her I wanted to "take it slow".
Anyway, she kept getting hot and heavy. She kept talking about us still being together months away. It was too much. So I dropped it.
Would it have worked? I don't know. All I know is that it didn't. | |
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