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| What do women look for in a man after 40?
Posted: 10/8/2007 4:44:41 PM | | Money does not buy true love. he works hard for his money as well, women work hard for thier money. I would like to find a guy that could be open and honest, fun to be with and one that can take a joke and give them back. Someone that can open my eyes to new experiences and me them. | |
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| What do women look for in a man after 40?
Posted: 10/8/2007 6:30:18 PM | I can say I really don't know! I never thought I'd find myself available at 46, so right now, I'm just trying to find one who'll write back! 
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| What do women look for in a man after 40?
Posted: 10/8/2007 9:57:46 PM | I like what earth bound angel has to say
I unfortunately became obsessed with a man who is 41 yrs old. It's just that fact that there is something about him that I can't quite put my finger on. It's not the looks necessarily (though he is attractive), but some unexplainable chemistry that makes you want to get naked together. Hope that didn't say too much, but it's the truth y'all. | |
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| What do women look for in a man after 40?
Posted: 10/10/2007 8:20:01 AM | Maturity, optimism, common sense, sense of humor(even about themself), self esteem w/o arrogance, fidelity, open mindedness, and a few more i can't think of at the moment, but did i mention maturity(?) ~~ And forget the hair replacement..just shave it off.  | |
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| What do women look for in a man after 40?
Posted: 10/11/2007 6:57:39 PM | Moraima I agree with you...I'm just not the mushy type either. Here's my short list.
1. has a job that he likes and makes close to the money I make.
2. we like/tolerate each others kids and families
3. we don't need to be together 24/7
4. we can make each other laugh and conversation is easy but not always necessary
5. we are sexually compatable
If you all know anyone who fits this bill...please let me know. And if I hear someone mention "soul mate" again I think I'll puke.
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| What do women look for in a man after 40?
Posted: 10/11/2007 7:20:14 PM | | A friend with benefits would suit me nice...no expectations,no committment, no worries no jealousy. Relationships are just too much work and where are we all now....alone. What I miss the most is waking up alone, so I decided to just go for the intimacy part and forget the rest, because next thing u know you are cleaning there house and cooking them dinner. | |
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| What do women look for in a man after 40?
Posted: 10/11/2007 7:23:21 PM | I know what I'm looking for: I want a Honest, sensitive, romantic man that is a little old fashioned (As in pays for dates, offers to open doors, etc) that is emotional support in a crisis.
To me emotional support and emotionally available. Being a strong shoulder to lean on is the MOST important.
I feel if they disappear during the hard times, they don't deserve me during the good times.
I want him to not mind public displays of affection, listen and care what I think. (Even when we agree to disagree )
The most recent man to win my heart did so because of emotional support, saying call me 24/7 if you need me. Even though this man isn't my normal preference in looks.
He must give good advice. Seeing all sides of the issue.
Be more interested in me then sports, friends, or anything else. (Of course he can have his space, but most of the time.)
Care about animals, and his pets are his family.
Be a caring, giving person
Be sexually willing to try new things, and a willingness to please. (Since sex is 90% mental for a woman, if the man makes her happy, she will make him very happy.)
I want a man that I can't help but smile when I think about, that makes me laugh, that I will not mind being apart, because I know coming together will be a joyous reunion. A man I can trust, unconditionally. A man smart enough to know that our idiosyncrasies define our personality and why we love each other in the first place.
In short: I'm looking for Prince Charming, or at least my version of him. HA!
If you find him, let me know.
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| What do women look for in a man after 40?
Posted: 10/11/2007 7:28:41 PM | I agree with you Girl
(Except that I have had a soul mate, it truly can happen)
I also think that its important that the man can accept himself, for who he is now, and not continue to discuss who he was in the past
I want him to have pride in his looks, whatever they may be, which includes clothes that fit, cleanliness, but not this ridiculous manic 'gym' thing.
Good health, or working towards it is important to me | |
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| What do women look for in a man after 40?
Posted: 10/11/2007 7:29:49 PM | | Good Luck with that, extremely unlikely....men after 40 are looking for someone to look after them the way there mama did or there ex ex ex wives did. Go for the sex its better! | |
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| What do women look for in a man after 40?
Posted: 10/11/2007 7:35:22 PM | Harliegal!
I agree with you Girl
(Except that I have had a soul mate, it truly can happen)
I also think that its important that the man can accept himself, for who he is now, and not continue to discuss who he was in the past
I want him to have pride in his looks, whatever they may be, which includes clothes that fit, cleanliness, but not this ridiculous manic 'gym' thing.
Good health, or working towards it is important to me
Certainly not really interested in 'moving in' or 'cleaning up' | |
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| What do women look for in a man after 40?
Posted: 10/11/2007 7:46:28 PM | Sally
You are right, sex without strings is great, but I have found it somewhat flat at times...
This girl is definitely not inviting or waiting for the invitation to move in'....
The caring' part seems to get lost with just sex......and I'm not looking to be 'cared for'
Tough line to walk I think....I haven't lived with a man since I was 39, but I've certainly dated a ton of them......from twenty years my junior, and on up....but very few older men, say older than five years my senior.....As I age, I ponder the changes in my desires...... | |
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| What do women look for in a man after 40?
Posted: 10/11/2007 8:02:54 PM | >well im 44 hmmmmm let me think,a wee tad of alzhemiers setting in ok im looking for a great body tall and handsome a man whom can dress down and takes care of himself,and knows how to kiss and love from the heart <
More imprortant is a man who know "Where to kiss" | |
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| What do women look for in a man after 40?
Posted: 10/12/2007 4:49:47 AM | I just read an article the other day that said that we'll all, us gals, putting too many requirements into the right relationship. Those requirements , greatly limit the field of available men. It was written by a "relationship coach", whatever the h**l that is, and the writer was a man.
In my 20s I was looking for someone I connected with on a deep emotional level.
30s...wasn't looking at all, was busy being a single parent.
40s...all the sex I missed in my 30s, and boy did I have a good time. Got involved and was off the market for 1/2 of those years.
50s...the desire for a man's company has changed again. And as several of you have said...I know what I don't want.
So I'm saying, I guess, is that at the stage/age we are currently defines what we are seeking. And what we'll put up with. | |
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| What do women look for in a man after 40?
Posted: 2/12/2009 7:22:14 AM | | They are looking for the Knight on the silver Harley to come rescue them..lol Of course he must be a professional just like them with AA degree. Then he must have a house and all kinds of money..After paying child support and giving up the house to his ex wife.. They want it all now. Sad part is the economy along with the sliver Harley is going down the drain. Keep dreaming ladies.. I gave up I just read the forums. | |
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| What do women look for in a man after 40?
Posted: 2/12/2009 7:33:51 AM |
They are looking for the Knight on the silver Harley to come rescue them..lol Of course he must be a professional just like them with AA degree. Then he must have a house and all kinds of money..After paying child support and giving up the house to his ex wife.. They want it all now. Sad part is the economy along with the sliver Harley is going down the drain. Keep dreaming ladies.. I gave up I just read the forums.
I for one do not like Harleys, do not want ride on one, nor date guys who are infatuated with motorcycles. A silver Porsche, on the other hand, is more my speed. | |
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| What do women look for in a man after 40?
Posted: 2/12/2009 7:35:10 AM | I don't know where you come from.
But where I come from most women work, have their own houses, their own vehicles and money. They don't need any of that from any man.
I don't know anyone that needs to be rescued...mostly they want to become a part of something...hopefully a relationship.
How the heck did something so simple get so screwed up?
There are a lot of bitter, angry, she/he done me wrong people in here.
That to me is why there are so many single people out there. People are so freaking damaged they assume everyone else is as well.
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| What do women look for in a man after 40?
Posted: 2/12/2009 8:39:02 AM | Its been my experience that the men who claim that women need rescuing are men
that are the least able to do it. My roommate is one of those people. I wonder why that is?
Personally...I think its just an excuse. But I could be wrong...after all I'm here posting with the rest of you guys.
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| What do women look for in a man after 40?
Posted: 2/12/2009 8:59:16 AM | | You're right there are a lot of people out there who expect the worst. I have been asked questions like: You're not a bunny boiler are you, or a stalker or a maneater.....it makes me wonder what some of these men have been through. I have met men who constantly talk about their xs and how they have been hurt, or who are still in love with them. I have had my share of disappointments, who hasn't, but it would be nice to meet someone who has the strength of character to move on! | |
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| What do women look for in a man after 40?
Posted: 2/12/2009 9:06:29 AM | A friend, a lover, and a partner....someone who is not looking to change anyone or be changed, himself.....A "goodie" if you will:
Good friend
Good lover
Good partner
Good hygiene
Good attitude
Good Job
Good (reasonably, given your age) health | |
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| What do women look for in a man after 40?
Posted: 2/12/2009 9:09:32 AM | | From where I sit in Southern California, women are quite interested in the car a man drives, the clothes he wears, where he resides and what he does for a living. Women are looking for displays of resources from men just as peahens look for equivalent displays from peacocks. This holds true whether or not a woman is highly successful herself. It is built into their biology. Nine times out of ten the very first thing a woman I have just met will ask, after a quick howdy-do, is "What do you do?" followed by "Where do you live?" How I answer will determine whether or not she continues to be interested in further qualifying me as a potential mate. I have experimented by telling a woman I do something of lesser socioeconomic status than I really do as well as saying I live in a less affluent community than I actually do and they quickly lose interest and move on whereas when I tell them the truth they become more interested. | |
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| What do women look for in a man after 40?
Posted: 2/12/2009 9:21:56 AM | They are looking for the Knight on the silver Harley to come rescue them..lol Of course he must be a professional just like them with AA degree. Then he must have a house and all kinds of money..After paying child support and giving up the house to his ex wife.. They want it all now. Keep dreaming ladies..
Anything but that ^ ... let's just say that bitterness and intellectual dishonesty are not exactly at
the top of my list - neither is misogyny. 
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| What do women look for in a man after 40?
Posted: 2/12/2009 9:44:09 AM |
They are looking for the Knight on the silver Harley to come rescue them..lol Of course he must be a professional just like them with AA degree. Then he must have a house and all kinds of money.. After paying child support and giving up the house to his ex wife.. They want it all now.
I actually think it is the opposite ... I think there are ALLOT (not all) men who it pizzes them off that they can't attract the women they want by just flaunting their STUFF.
They are now pizzed off that we can afford what we want and so don't judge a man by his toys.
Yea maybe before women had good jobs they gravitated towards men who could provide, but now we just don't give a flying fig.
So if you personality sucks, and you got toys ... guess what ??? We just pass you on by. Sheesh there are tons of men with cash and toys, and they think this is exclusive to them and so they should be attracting any women they want.
Hahaha this is hilarious ... so if you have a rotten personality, are un-kept, have bad manners, values equal to shiit ... look for a woman who matches you and quit using your toys or money or LACK there of to blame you inabality to get the girl.
This is THE most boring topic on POF ... always going back to the golddigger women. I just got to tell you NEVER in my life dating in real life have I ever met a golddigger man but HOLY CRAP they are everywhere on here.
All the men on here can do (all not meaning ALL MEN) is constantly ask little ""hidden"" comments to find out where I stand financially. Before asking me a single thing about me, my family, interests or any such other conversations that actually might make me interested in them.
I actually have removed all about me on here as I am sick to death with men asking me money questions. There are an extraordinary amount of men on here who live with their parents, x's, kids 'cause they are broke. They are looking for women to rescue them, get them out of their situation. If I date a man I want us to BOTH have our own places so that it isn't MY place to be because the PARENTS aren't getting in the way while we are all having a drink in the living room !!!! Hahahaha
Men ... give it a rest. We don't care if you have money, we only care if you are broke and looking at us to cover your ass.
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