| What do women look for in a man after 40?
Posted: 2/16/2009 10:28:15 PM | In my opinion, a guy who thinks "child support" made us rich in our older years.. #1. has NO idea what it actually costs financially to raise children.. and #2. has very little real love/compassion for their offspring because all along they secretly wished all they had to do financially was a few birthday presents.
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| What do women look for in a man after 40?
Posted: 2/16/2009 10:54:30 PM | hmm. the first thing i do is to make sure not to get together with the bitter posters who hate ALL women because they had a bad marriage or relationship. time to take one's "own" inventory. for me, i try to figure out how i get where i got, in the first place. after all, another pof male friend once said to me: "we" are the only common denominator in all of our relationships. geeze. but, there are woman like that as well. so, let's get them a pity party with a 95 percent match!
what i said above stands, minus this particular group. there is a man for me and he won't be for someone else. i will be for him and then we start the business of partnering. but first, there needs to be a whole bunch of factors that make us even want to consider the practical parts. it has to be worth it emotionally, physically and spiritually. then i'd take the risk in a heart beat. why is it a risk? seems the daily practical matters enter in, no matter what. that is where the "work" lies, including the most important factor of all: communication and following through on what is said and agreed upon. otherwise it's just talkie and no walkie.
ps there are two other things, i would like to add: honesty and ability to not only listen and say "yes dear", but also truly hear "me". | |
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| What do women look for in a man after 40?
Posted: 2/17/2009 6:20:56 AM | I am looking for a man who I really fancy, in every way, who is adventurous and still wants to better himself , someone I can be proud of.  | |
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| What do women look for in a man after 40?
Posted: 2/17/2009 8:49:17 PM | All the things I didn't pay enough attention to when I was under 40, does he have friends, is he happy with himself, is he looking for companionship, sex or just an ax to grind, does he have a clue who I am, is he looking for the same thing I am looking for? Has he learned anything in the last 40+ years about living or about being basically at peace with himself. ?
Has he bought in to being "old" because he is no longer a whippershnapper youth, and given up being capable of thinking of himself as exciting; or has he clued in to how exciting a man who knows himself can be? | |
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| What do women look for in a man after 40?
Posted: 2/17/2009 9:22:01 PM | | Men after 40, hmmm... Easy going, kind, humorous personality, no whining about the ex's or being taken to the cleaners, etc... (that's old news...yadda yadda yadda), Maturity in the sense of knowing how to treat a woman respectfully, Intelligence rather than full of p*ss & Vinegar, grounded mentally & in life, a Good Conversationalist, & FUN! That's just my take on it.... where is he???? | |
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| What do women look for in a man after 40?
Posted: 2/18/2009 3:02:57 AM | {Mr. Beemer: Ms. Moonchild is far more diplomatic than I. Your comments are mean spirited and show your own lack of character and understanding. To assume that a woman of middle age has what she has because she has gotten it out of a divorce settlement or from child support is a broad generalization not, in millions of cases, backed up by the facts.} Actually Ms. Moonchild and I had a private email and I would think what I was trying convey she understood. And not ONCE did I say it was ALL women..Talking about jumping to conclusions {maybe thats why your single}
Congradulations on all your great accomplishments the way. I have traveled quite extensively..As a matter of fact I get paid too...do you?
Broad generalization no I just pointed what I have observed in life. I have seen many friends with kids paying child support ,sometimes even $800 a month for one kid working two jobs living in small apartments while their ex gets the house child support and the big tax write off.........I have observed Ms. Moonchild's writings and what some men do..And I did post that men do it too earlier { } So do not assume.
{Your type of remarks are what keeps certain types of men from being appealing--men who think in limited ways, ways that tell women such men actually don't seem to really like our gender, as you seem to think we are weak, lacking in ability and independence, not honest, etc. That could be why you are still single.}
There you go assuming again. You don't know me, you don't know anything about me, you don't have clue what kind of man I am , you don't have a clue what I think. 5000 miles away do you a crystal ball that tells you all about me?
I can read between the lines who actually hates the genders here.
By the way I like women in the 45 to 55 area. Don't really care for the Barbie doll type.
I like one can actually think and not be a dog or slave. I like the ones I can actually hold a conversation with..You know things besides how great they are. One that will work in the solution not stay in problem...
{So gday mate or as they say in Great White North...Take off eh }
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| What do women look for in a man after 40?
Posted: 2/18/2009 8:01:36 AM | Congradulations on all your great accomplishments the way. I have traveled quite extensively..As a matter of fact I get paid too...do you? Yes, I do. 
you don't have clue what kind of man I am From the way you express yourself and the reasoning you display, I think I do at least have a clue.
There were at least 3 female posters, including me, who objected to the generalization you made about how middled aged women have attained whatever prosperity they have. I just happened to be the one who was most straightforward and open about what we all thought.
I can read between the lines who actually hates the genders here. Yep, you got me there: I absolutely loathe men.  | |
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| What do women look for in a man after 40?
Posted: 2/18/2009 10:47:06 AM | at some point in life I think we have to accept that we can't blame
gender or the times or the upbringing or the finances or whatever.
some times we have to accept the fact that some people just don't
like us. the end.
you can whine all you want and lay blame where you want but in the
end...9 million women can't all be wrong.
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| What do women look for in a man after 40?
Posted: 2/18/2009 4:51:07 PM | I'm 48 and seeing someone who is 58.
Same things apply now as when I was younger.
Right now I'm looking for sex and fun, looking for it to turn into a relationship. You have to date a few to find the right one.
I wonder how many really know what a soul mate is?????????
I was looking for my twin flame not soul mate and found him.
They aren't the same thing.
What is chemistry really, is attraction for one another.
Ultimately looking for love and relationship but you got to start somewhere. | |
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| What do women look for in a man after 40?
Posted: 2/22/2009 9:36:41 AM | I know excactly what I want in a man.Be self supportive,without a baggage,know who you are but mostly do not enter my life and start criticizing me just because you have been treated badly by your bad choices in life when it comes to women.
Have courage to start over and give me some room to enter your life with my "bo-boos"I am not perfect but hell I know how to love a man!!!!!!! | |
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| What do women look for in a man after 40?
Posted: 2/25/2009 11:08:37 PM | A man who is confident, and compassionate,
One who not only gives a shoulder to lean on, but accepts a shoulder when he needs one
One who is honest about what he wants and needs from me, and listens and understands what I want and need from him.
A friend and lover, when the time is right.
And one who is free and over his previous relationship.
oh, and one who can take a joke, as well as tell them... | |
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| What do women look for in a man after 40?
Posted: 2/26/2009 12:30:16 AM | So true, as we have been through things which make us know what we DON'T want more readily than what we do and thus probably we are losing hope of ever finding what we really do want.
I know I am! I am getting cynical that all the good looking, available men want someone 29 - ugh. We don't want a jobless, homeless, out of shape guy with a lingering ex girlfriend/spouse or an ugly drug habit, no matter how good looking he is. I love the guys who want age "29-50" women, YEAH RIGHT. They want them ALL? We want a guy who knows what he wants and we hope it is us and only us, simple.
We probably look for stability, maturity, and hope in another.
I cannot stand the word "soulmate" and yes things do get fuzzy. We will probably all end up with Peter Griffin like guys anyway, and if they are not Peter Griffins, they are probably gay or cheating on us with a younger brunette. HAAA!
Just kidding.
One good thing, after 40 we are not looking desperately for a second father for our kids. We are looking for a more serious in Life partner, person, lover who feeds the whole woman, not just the making babies part of us.
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| What do women look for in a man after 40?
Posted: 2/26/2009 8:44:35 AM | If women don't know what they want? Then how do they know when they find it? Seems like and has been a double edged sword for me. Just turning 45 on Friday.
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| What do women look for in a man after 40?
Posted: 2/26/2009 9:15:04 AM |
I absolutely loathe men.
Quite a statement. Quite a generalization. I find it hard to believe that anyone in their right mind would loathe their fathers, uncles, nephews neighbours and the horde of men in the world they have never even met.
Its such a strong statement that it is not even funny as a joke. I really do trust, for your own sake, that its not true in any way. | |
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| What do women look for in a man after 40?
Posted: 2/26/2009 9:23:15 AM | | Hey Mr. R? Welcome back. The poster you responded to said what she said as "tongue in cheek" so to speak. Am sure she meant no harm. I don't believe she was trying to be funny either quite honestly, just wanted to get her point across hun! | |
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| What do women look for in a man after 40?
Posted: 2/26/2009 7:35:26 PM | | Don't lump us all in one basket. I know exactly what I want. I want man who knows how to treat a woman....in many different ways. I want a man who is just as excited about the rest of his life as I am. I want a companion to travel with, to do outrageous things with, like make love on a beach in Spain...and maybe go to jail for it, and tell the judge in english that I'm a repeat offender. I'm not dead yet, and not ready to lay down and rest. It's just not time yet. I've been responsible all of my life and maybe it's time for a little irresponsibility. | |
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