| What do women look for in a man after 40?
Posted: 10/28/2006 5:13:19 PM | "You are too young to be so hard about life. Wait until you perhaps 50 years older. I don't think you want a man, you want a robot. I am sorry for you. "
Grant me strength - you have to be kidding me!
What I don't want is a robot. I need a man with the strength of character that I have. One who cares enough to stand up for what he believes in. One who isn't afraid to risk the wrath of governments by appreciating the work I do in the Third World. One who isn't afraid to rescue abused or injured animals. I could go on and on. Until I find a man who can be as thrilled with life and lifes value as I am, I will stay alone, and do things most people only dream about. I would be bored to tear other wise. | |
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| What do women look for in a man after 40?
Posted: 10/28/2006 6:12:48 PM | Earth bound angel,
You forgot the most important thing about men over 40: we tend to have a slower pace and enjoy seeing a women pleased with our (my) endeavors all the way to the end. She shound be satisfied too.  | |
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mizbex
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Joined: 9/8/2006
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| What do women look for in a man after 40?
Posted: 10/29/2006 5:03:28 AM | | I would love to find a man who is strong enough to exhibit compassion and empathy while still being true to himself and be brave enough to take on controversial issues. There are a lot of people (men and women) who confuse being blunt and at times very ignorant, with being passionate and holding true to their convictions. It really is a question of being a good communicator and knowing the secret of good delivery. I guess I can add that to my list, a good communicator who understands that delivery is just as important as content and understands that deep, meaningful conversation does not include name calling and judgements. | |
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mizbex
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Joined: 9/8/2006
Msg: 205 | |
| What do women look for in a man after 40?
Posted: 10/29/2006 8:08:56 AM | | I have met many men who are great communicators, who remain passionate about their beliefs without becoming beligerent, condescending or for that matter angry, are you saying that is not possible? | |
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mizbex
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Joined: 9/8/2006
Msg: 207 | |
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| What do women look for in a man after 40?
Posted: 10/29/2006 9:33:33 AM | "^^^^ I don't understand why that's so much to expect"
I second that statement. I just amazes me the reaction I get from people for the work I do in my life, and my stand on issues. I get so much out of being able to make a small difference in the world. I don't need their approval, or these types of people in my life. It does however, make the pool a lot smaller for my chances of finding a compatible relationship.
This isn't male bashing, women can act the same way. I have a hard time the older I get, when people tell that my accomplishments shouldn't have been done. All I can figure as that some people can only live in their safety zones, and feel threatened by people who's safety zones aren't as small as theirs. | |
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| What do women look for in a man after 40?
Posted: 10/29/2006 9:48:05 AM | someone who is into me & 80% compatable. I can fantasize about this & that, but the bottom line is- if he just aint into me-it aint gonna work. Emotionally available & compatable. I think a person has to be open to it. | |
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mizbex
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Joined: 9/8/2006
Msg: 210 | |
| What do women look for in a man after 40?
Posted: 10/29/2006 11:30:27 AM | | Moraima, I have always been a fan of yours. You are truly a strong and independant women. Who clearly knows what she wants in life as well as what you don't want. Men (and women) sometimes criticize what they don't understand instead of respecting everyone's individuality. I guess that would be another thing I am looking for in a man over 40, one who will like me just as I am, I think Freesa mentioned that in her post as well. | |
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| What do women look for in a man after 40?
Posted: 10/29/2006 2:08:39 PM | | No I'm saying, and meaning " good luck with that and hope it works out for you." Please, don't take tone from my text, that just isn't there. No vocal inflection or tone can or should be inferred,..... | |
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| What do women look for in a man after 40?
Posted: 10/30/2006 10:33:54 AM | I'm not a judgemental person, but one should never put all their apples in the same basket as it sound like you have done. As your occupation doing "science stuff", please quitt disceting "us" women. Many of us do have a CLEAR understanding of what we want in a man after 40. I won't take up a page writing it, but female sapphireblue and (Male, newandready
who replied) pretty much dots the i and crossed the t! The only thing I would of added is, that I would appreciate (not EXPECT) being able to wear my favorite blue jeans and T-shirt, or tight fitting dress when I want. Speaking of what we DON'T want, is someone like you again, putting us all in your SMALL little wicker basket. I'm looking forward to seeing if you're on the forum of "What men look for in a woman after 40?" | |
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| What do women look for in a man after 40?
Posted: 10/30/2006 11:04:06 AM | | I have most certainly found that I grew older I am more intrigued by intelligence than looks. (although, no, I don`t want to date Quasimodo). I mean if the conversation is no more than "duh" I won`t be hanging around long. I would also like to believe that a man in his 40s should be what I call "established"-working and with a place of his own. He should have a good sense of who he is and what he likes in his life. | |
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mizbex
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Joined: 9/8/2006
Msg: 217 | |
| What do women look for in a man after 40?
Posted: 10/30/2006 5:36:39 PM | I am looking for a man over 40 who sees all the potential in himself that I see in him, who is confident and sees my potential too and together we explore how far we can go, both as a couple and as individuals. Who has enough faith in himself and me to stay the course when things get a little rocky and knows that ultimately I am on his side, my side and really our side. And who knows that I am truly interested in investing in his future happiness and well being.
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PeteS
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Joined: 9/20/2006
Msg: 218 | |
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| What do women look for in a man after 40?
Posted: 10/31/2006 4:55:32 AM | Well-I am 51 and my criteria is definitely different from when I was 18. I want someone who makes me laugh; is intelligent-and if "smarter" or equal to me it's a plus; a good kisser (HEY GB that would be you). Looks are nice-but it's definitely not my first criteria. I'm no "Barbie" so not really looking for "Ken".
When I married my late spouse it was Lust at First Sight-then it turned into love. I don't see that Lust thing first anymore. I think that developes over time, especially in men and women around my age. After all the women are in the "prime" or "peak" of their sexual identity and the men no longer are. So if and when it gets to the point of a sexual relationship it would take time, patience and knowledge of what to do when. Can be very satisfying.
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| What do women look for in a man after 40?
Posted: 11/1/2006 6:50:35 AM | OP: Guess i won't know what i want till i actually find it. I think guys over 40 have been there done that, but in some cases they havn't moved on with their lives and still carry their past around with them. I just want a guy who can respect me for who i am, love me , make me laugh, grow old with me, listen to my complaints, cry with me, and can give a decent grease and oil change on a regular basis, say 6/7 days (I like to rest on Sundays). Is that asking too much???  | |
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klnu
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Joined: 7/18/2006
Msg: 221 | |
| What do women look for in a man after 40?
Posted: 11/2/2006 11:52:23 AM | I know exactly what I want...
Energy
Sex Drive
Passion
Honesty
Enjoys Life
Issues are all in the past...moves forward...
Financially stable as I am.
Hugs
K
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| What do women look for in a man after 40?
Posted: 11/3/2006 6:25:11 AM | | Preferences in men over 40? Oh my goodness, no question about it: content, content, content… definitely content. Nothing more alluring that an earned sense of humor, an eye for things interesting (seen, tasted, felt and yes, I know, survived too.) Oh-oh-oh and articulation… tell me a story, use that perception, exercise that clear communication, explicit and couth; display something about respect and appreciation. If one's been aware, surely there is something. Ahhh, and open-minded-ness… certainly enjoy an old dog that has learned that trick, and it’s a toughy. A knowing of one’s self that includes self-ownership is a definite attraction in a male over 40: that self-comprehension of one’s values, sexuality, and the investment in life; not much is free, I've found. But a grown man (sometimes) has taken a look at what it took to grow and perhaps has gotten past treating others as one’s personal trash can. Younger men are sometimes still getting their thick biceps around that one. Without it, I’m happy to go back down the age train. | |
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| What do women look for in a man after 40?
Posted: 11/3/2006 3:50:55 PM | | Wow your right on the money. I ask these questions of men. I find a lack of energy in the people I meet. If theres snow on the roof you can bet the furnace has a fire. | |
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| What do women look for in a man after 40?
Posted: 11/3/2006 4:34:57 PM | Well said Shirley.
I want a man who will place his heart in my hands knowing that sometimes I will bruse it.
I want a man who knows the work it takes to have a good relationship and is willing to do it.
I want a man who offers emotional and financial stability (not wealth )
I want a man who is intelectually bright
I want a man who has a good sence of humour and is fun to be with.
I want am man who has taken care of himself emotionally and physically
I want a man who is mature (a grown up)
I want a man with similar values
I want a man who is compatable
I want a man who is not afraid to learn to dance like no one is looking
I want a man who is happy with himself
I want a man who wants to be with a woman who offers him all of the above.
PS I want a man who can spell because I can't | |
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