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Posted: 6/19/2006 9:20:45 AM | | A rat's "bottom"?Wow spaceman,you are being harsh.haha.Just say this woman is a dumb ass. | |
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Posted: 6/19/2006 9:35:28 AM | Like I said I welcome all replys good or bad. TY have a great day!! | |
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Posted: 6/19/2006 10:06:09 AM | | don't beat yourself up about it...just move on. hopefully you can still be friends. but never a good idea to sleep with your friends. since you said "I crossed the friendship line" indicates that you initiated the sex in the first place. | |
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Posted: 6/19/2006 6:45:17 PM |
Hey you know what. I'm sick and tired of dancing for someone elses feelings. Sure I care about people. I can be tactful when the mood strikes. The mood does not strike me here.
Here is exactly what I feel is happening here. This little girl (in my opinion) Wanted this guy. She could care less about the other woman in the picture. Could not give a rats bottom for anyones feelings but her selfish own. Nice lady. Real warmth.
Furthermore I see a golddigger who got trapped in her own web of deceit. How tough skinned are ya now little girl. Did you make that phone call yet? Nice person. Yeah ok. Let this nice person chum around with your man. I bet this is not the first time either.
I say this because this venue allows me too.
Beware the angry ferret!!! (OMG, too cute, all these tough words & they look like they're coming from the cutest baby ferret... LOLOLOL) | |
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Posted: 6/20/2006 4:24:22 AM | Yea that's right lady. grrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrr. I'll bite your toe. I will I tell ya. :P
Hey Mich! You make that call yet? | |
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Posted: 6/20/2006 6:31:43 AM | | What call am I suppose to be making? lol | |
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Posted: 6/20/2006 1:55:11 PM | Don't play coy with me. You know exactly what call I'm talking about. We both know you need to speak with someone to get a clear perspective on things. Be it group or single.
Just do it. You are going to be amazed at how much better YOU feel about YOU in the very near future. Just one little phone call.
YOU seem to like danger. You have opened up here.
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Posted: 6/20/2006 2:04:25 PM | | Actually im cool I have a great perspective. Thanx to all hes history ! Sorry its been rough but thanx to all your advice bad or good. Hey Im really a good person. "Very grounded belive it or not do not judge me from 3 or 4 posts if you met me in person u would be floored! Take care love to all my fellow pofs!!! Karen | |
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Posted: 6/20/2006 2:32:24 PM | he lives with a women downstate and I know its crazy but I try to pretend thats not going on.
So within your first couple of sentences I was upset. He may have been your friend but he is with someone else.
I got off work the other night walked in the door there was some girl young enough to be his daughter dancing in front of him he was totally getting off on it. Then they were on the back patio alone in the dark. I took him out in the parking lot and screamed at him then ended up going home with him. I told him if I had not come in he would be going home with her. He said he likes her thinks shes hot but wouldnt hurt me like that. I dont belive him. Its a small town I told him I wasnt coming into the bar that night. I know he took her home last night and its driving me crazy. I cryed so much my girlfreind had to come and give me 2 Xanax to calm down. I feel like such a fool! This man is one of my bestfreinds and I went against my gut feelings and I feel like an idiot here I am hurting again over another man. I cant take much more of this but at the same time I have noone to blame but myself!!
He's not yours to feel bad about. And sounds like a cheating asshole player to me. Yeah you should have seen that coming chickie, once a cheater always a cheater. And if you feel this bad just imagine how you have contributed to hurting someone else. What goes around comes around and you have no right to whine about this other girl when you did the same thing to the woman that he lives with.
This is what is wrong with society. People have no morals...jump into bed with whomever you choose, but if they're taken stay away. He's a scum bag, but you're at fault too. Ahhhhh this just urks me to the max. I'm no freaken angel I'll tell you, but I don't screw other women’s men and if a man is taken and is seriously wanting to have sex with me...”oh baby I'll leave her”…”I have fallen in love with you”...blablabla...I'd tell him to go screw himself.
I've been on the receiving end of the cheating and it was so not fun. I just hope this man doesn't have children. Bastard!!!...
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Posted: 6/21/2006 3:49:00 PM | | No he doesnt have children and hes on the outs with his woman. But it doesnt make it right for me! I was lonely its a small area im a city girl among rednecks. Hes a city boy we were just comaptible! I ****ed up FORGIVE ME POFSERS!! EVERYONE HATES ME!! we all make mistakes yes my trackrecord with men is sketchy but hey im not in the metropolis Im in gomer and gooberland ist hard to meets GUYS!! I want a city boy! I SCREWD UP!! Forgive me and quit telling me to seek advice! Damn Im just a lonely girl who made some bad choices!! DAMN | |
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Posted: 6/21/2006 5:42:02 PM | | I feel like a total jackass.I figured she isn't going to seek any professional help so I actually reached out to this humanoid.Wrote 2 semi long messages to her showing concern.Told her if she wants to talk we can.Just wanted to kinda make her see that how she's doing things is wrong.What a waste of time.As you people can see she obviously doesn't think she has a problem.She will continue to make the same mistakes.No doubt in my mind about that cause she does not change-she makes excuses.Making excuses is much easier than making a change.We all make mistakes,and bad decisions.How can you still be making the same shit decisions in your 40's though?????????.....and not have a problem.I've always believed that people who cannot admit they have a problem,cannot be helped.All you guys remember-it is ok when I do something stupid,disrespectful,or that shows lack of esteem cause I live in a small area and rednecks may be around.That makes it ok and I shouldn't be held accountable for my actions.That ridiculous dancing green "nana" icon on the side of this screen has more brains than you do Mich. | |
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Posted: 6/21/2006 7:30:08 PM | "EVERYBODY HATES ME".......now you sound like my 9-year-old........
You came looking for advice and opinions.....and now you don't like what you are hearing so everybody hates you? Nobody even knows you.......at 43, I think it's time you grew up....You want a city boy, move back to the city. Get your life in order, and yourself together and then try to find a good relationship. (therapy, counselling, it won't hurt)
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Posted: 6/21/2006 7:52:09 PM | | I've got to agree with Sunnie you're old enough to think. Quit acting like a niave teenage girl. | |
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Posted: 6/21/2006 9:39:46 PM |
I was lonely its a small area im a city girl among rednecks.
It wouldn't matter if you were an Earthling among Martians... you keep repeating the same behavioural mistakes. You make these mistakes and then you make excuses such as the one you just used above. If you go back and read all the stories you ever shared, there is one thing that is evident in all of them... drama! You just can't believe how all these bad things can happen to you! Yes... some people just have bad luck. Maybe you're one of those people. But I can see many things in the way you present yourself that says that you bring much of this on yourself, and you refuse to recognize that you need to resolve those issues. | |
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Posted: 6/22/2006 3:08:57 PM | You got guts...................You came on here and took a bashing. You also admitted you made mistakes. Over and over and over. Why??????????????? I suggest as a majority of people responding here YOU need someone help you with this PATTERN. There is no stigma.
Hell I was in counseling once. I have been in couple counseling too. Just make the call for crying out loud. Don't make me get out my stupid stick. :P | |
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Posted: 6/22/2006 3:20:21 PM | | God, I feel like throwing up! This "broken heart" thread is so depressing I can't even read it all. "IF" I was going out with someone who was living with another woman AND walking in on him watching some young chick dance in front of him while he's majorly getting off on it-MAN! I'd be sooo gone. So outta there!! I'm sorry, but why are some women so needy and clingy? | |
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Posted: 6/22/2006 4:34:55 PM | My dear, please, please forget this fellow! You deserve better than a womanizer who is running around on the woman he lives with. How could you ever trust him??? There are some things in life we want to lose--excess weight, an inflamed appendix..and a member of the opposite sex who is clearly a "loser" himself. In short, Lose this Loser and find somebody respectable.
A strong word of caution: Never, ever take someone else's prescription medicine the doctor did not prescribe for you!! That is almost certainly illegal for someone to give their prescription meds (especially something like Xanax) to you, not to mention very dangerous!!
You don't sound like you have much self-esteem. My goodness, start thinking better of yourself! Tell yourself you DESERVE better than Mr. Wrong! Get in some kind of group--that is, go to college (I'm back in for the first time in 13 years, and loving it), go to a good church (not just any church), join a good civic club. Make some good, decent friends. And you can meet someone far better than this guy. He is bad news, dear. Don't give up on life--give HIM up.
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Posted: 6/22/2006 4:52:12 PM | Not everyone hates you, I think most are trying to figure out what you want or expect to get out of this thread?
There are some good suggestions, but you keep coming back angry. So share with us what you are looking for here???? | |
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Posted: 6/22/2006 5:04:38 PM | Well where do I start? Ive been friends with a man that lives downstate who owns a bar in my town he travels back in forth. We are compatible in every way,AHH WELL NOT REALLY COMPATIABLE CAUSE,he lives with a women downstate and I know its crazy , IT'S CRAZY CAUSE YOU KNOW IT,but I try to pretend thats not going on.MMMM RED FLAG RIGHT THERE...TRYING TO PRETEND IT'S NOT HAPPENING. Eventually I crossed the freindship line and weve been lovers now for a few months.FOR A FEW MONTHS!! HOW LONG DOES IT TAKE TO REALIZE YOU MADE A MISTAKE AND SLEPT WITH ANOTHER WOMANS MAN? DID THAT NEVER CROSS YOUR MIND? Im not made of stone and I knew eventually Id develop some feelings for this man.SO YOU DIDN'T HAVE REAL FEELING FOR HIM WHEN YOU SLEPT WITH HIM, YOU JUST WANTED SEX? No its not love but Im infatuaited yes.SO YOU DON'T HAVE TO BE IN LOVE WITH SOMEONE TO SLEEP WITH? I got off work the other night walked in the door there was some girl young enough to be his daughter dancing in front of him he was totally getting off on it. Then they were on the back patio alone in the dark. I took him out in the parking lot and screamed at him, HOW EMBARRASSING. then ended up going home with him. YA WHAT?I told him if I had not come in he would be going home with her. AND? He said he likes her thinks shes hot but wouldnt hurt me like that. I dont belive him.WHY WOULD YOU BELIEVE HIM?. Its a small town I told him I wasnt coming into the bar that night. I know he took her home last night and its driving me crazy.SO YOU SLEPT WITH HIM EVEN AFTER YOU KNEW HE HAD SLEPT WITH SOMEONE ELSE JUST THE NIGHT BEFORE...EEEWWW GROSS. I cryed so much my girlfreind had to come and give me 2 Xanax to calm down.HOW OUT OF CONTROL WERE YOU THAT YOU NEEDED MEDICATION? I feel like such a fool! IF IT WALKS LIKE A DUCK AND QUACKS LIKE A DUCK. IT IS A DUCK...This man is one of my bestfreinds HOW CAN HE BE YOUR BEST FRIEND WHEN HE LIVES WITH ANOTHER WOMAN? and I went against my gut feelings ,IT'S THERE FOR A VERY GOOD REASON, IT'S CALLED YOUR CONCIENCE,and I feel like an idiot here , AGAIN IF IT WALKS LIKE A DUCK,I am hurting again over another man.A DOG RETURNS TO IT'S OWN VOMIT I cant take much more of this , OH DON'T KID YOURSELF WE CAN TAKE MUCH MORE THAN WE THINK, but at the same time I have noone to blame but myself!! EXACTLY...WHO'S THE IDIOT? | |
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Posted: 6/22/2006 5:06:51 PM | Hey Michchick,
Personally... it sounds like 2 major flags here to me.
1 - he's with another woman in which you knew about
2 - you pretty much caught him in a very questionable situation in the bar.
To be honest, if there was something remotely worthwhile and possible with this person, I absolutely think of the 2 points mentioned coming from a guys point of view.
I've been in your shoes a long time ago and I would only say better to move on. And yes... I know it hurts but there's more men out there no matter the situation who'd be more than willing to be exclusive and commited to something more worthwhile.
I wish you well...
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Posted: 6/22/2006 10:08:52 PM | well michick...lesson learnt, yeppers you did mess up..and you've paid the price in heartbreak..time to move on to better things and use this flub as a stepping stone to bigger and better things.
List o things you learnt:
1. You're not a country gal.
2. You shouldn't screw other womens men cause if they're screwing around "with you" they are, odds are, screwing around "on" you as well.
3. Never post your big f**k up for all to see. They will roast you on the spit, chew you up, spit you out and not blink an eye. hehehehe
4. Loneliness can make people do stupid things.
5. You're better off without him.
6. You really need to move.
7. You need to find a "single man" all of your own.
8. Learning from your mistakes can be painful..ie..don't sit on cactus for christs sakes
9. If you see what you're doing and you know it's wrong yet you still feel the urge to do it..you're going to be hurt for no reason, you were smart enouth to see it coming you have to be prepaird to face the consequences.
10. You're a better person for having admitted your wrong doings and being roasted by all of us.
Now go and be healthy, happy, and don't do stupid shit like this again. If I were Catholic I'd say "say 400 hail mary's and do whatever you're suppose to do with your rosery". But seeing as I'm Pagan I say drink 1 bottle of tequila...and dance naked around a bonfire...scream at the top of your lungs, let it all go and move the f**k on. You're a pretty lady and I'm sure any man would be happy to be with you. But hun like I said; if he cheats with you he's gonna cheat on you. Plain and simple. | |
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Posted: 6/22/2006 10:32:43 PM | | I am glad I read this. I spend half my time in a nearby town in northern Mich. I read her profile she sounded interesting. I am not what she is looking for. I honestly can’t remember the last time I was in a bar. I had a beer last February though. I thought that it would be nice to have a friend to go to dinner or walks with. Michchick sounded like the answer to what I was looking for. I have been divorced for 3 years and the last thing I need is someone to screw me up. I really couldn’t have someone like that around me. She hasn’t read my letter yet I wish I could take it back. I honestly think that if you put her in a room with 999 nice guys and one derelict she would find the one and fall in love. I don’t understand. | |
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Posted: 6/23/2006 5:55:47 AM | | To: "Wasntme" & "Verissa"; I really don't think this "Michchick" is for real. If she is, man we are in BIG trouble. I think some people put stupid crap on this particular thread to create drama and see where it goes-kind of like a Jerry Springer show, NO! A train wreck or car accident, you can't stop watching or reacting. Hah! That's why I keep coming back!! | |
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