lira
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Msg: 101 | |
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Posted: 7/3/2006 5:54:09 PM | Jeffey
Talk about stupid, lets review your msg. 15.You say its her fault 100%.How did you come to this conclusion when all you have are the facts she stated in the opening post.I am sure he had some fault in this matter, even if only 1 %.But none of us can be sure, not even you.
As far as her getting involved with a man who is living with another women,you say its stupid.Maybe for you ,but it may not be for everyone. You should have stated"To me it is stupid. I think its stupid for a grown man to have his name in baby talk, like your name "Jeffey". But that is only my opinion.Maybe you like having a babytalk name.When she said :I dont want a pity party"why is that stupid.Should she had said"I want a pity party"? I think that would be stupid.But then again, that is my opinion.Well,if you ask me, there is to many stupid remarks in your post that I really dont have time to go over them all.But here is a stupid question you ask the OP."If I touch a hot stove, will I get burned?"I will answer this for you. A hot stove will burn you, use mitts and make sure their is a mature adult to help you, being obviously you dont know anything about stoves or you would not have ask her that question..If you think she is so stupid, why would you ask her a safty question about a stove, anyway. | |
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Posted: 7/3/2006 9:05:43 PM | Ok So I am new here, but I have read through this thread, I read the links that are posted in the thread and I have a degree in Psychology. Here is what I see: You really do need help, You keep saying how this doesn't bother you but yet you feel compelled to defend yourself and tell us how thick your skin is. You say you want advice but then tell everyone there out to get you. You repeat the same mistakes over and over again. Your not a teenage, Your supposed to be a mature woman. You crave attention - if you don't believe this look at the first few lines of your post " I know I don't love him " but yet you sleep with him anyway. You know he is with another woman but you excuse it because "they we're having a rough time" It's time for you to take some responsiblity and address your parnioa. You asked for this "advice"
As a Woman I have to say this IF you give the milk away for free you deserve what you get. Any woman who spreads there legs for any man that easily ( we fought but I went home with him and slept with him anyway) Or sleeps with a man who is already spoken for deserves to be treated like a whore! It's just that very simple. As long as you act like a whore the only men you will ever bring home will be trash. Therefore as a well know life lesson, That you should have learned long ago .... YOU WILL ALWAYS GET EXACTLY WHAT YOU DESERVE!!
Opps no pity in this post either, I guess I must be out to get her too !!!  | |
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Posted: 7/4/2006 2:48:46 PM | | Its ok everyone is no problem! God bless lira. Take care | |
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Posted: 7/9/2006 4:54:09 PM | Wow havent read though all these posts in awhile because I have 2 jobs and no life!! Wow! Interesting! Its so funny that people want me to keep this thread alive! No Im just responding to all the idiotic posts. Acting like they know me after a few posts. Whatever. Too funny. Have a great life and fellow pofs damn you are jerks! Meets me in real life youd love me after 10 minutes. Laters. lol  | |
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Posted: 7/17/2006 7:01:35 AM | | "Sorry Im picky!" Pickey? Her pickey? I was out of town for a bit what did I miss. The last thing I would call michchick is pickey. | |
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Posted: 7/17/2006 2:56:50 PM | | Oh yeah Im so friggin picky! Hell yes I live in gomer and gooberland asswhipe!!****ead | |
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Posted: 7/17/2006 3:22:36 PM | michchick, that guy him was giving you great advice and your acting like he doesnt
give a rats ass about you he does its just hes telling what nobody has the ball s to say
because everybody wants you to like them but the truth is my ex was just like you and
she blamed all her choices she made on everyone else.Its a victom circle that is
very hard for that person to take responsibility for there actions.I hope you do take
his advice because you will go thru life doing the same things over and over.I know
your going to fight what I have to say too and call me an ***hole or whatever but this
is called tuff love.So that guy him is showing you real love not bullshit.
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lira
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Joined: 6/8/2006
Msg: 108 | |
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Posted: 7/17/2006 4:15:32 PM | | michchick, sounds like you are hostile. I really understand what you mean by this topic. But you sound like you dont want advice that tells you to work to get out of this cycle and you just want people to agree that all men are dogs. Like I said in previous post, I have been treated bad, but I will admit, I alloweed it. But I broke the cycle. I dont date as much, because I realized I need to make myself happy, a man cant do it. I "can" share my happiness with a man. I am happy now, playing on the pc. I was happy talking to my mother on the phone a few minutes ago and I will be happy watching TV with my daughter tonight. A man is not needed, but a man is welcome to join as long as he is nice. No married men, men that are drinking to much or a man that does drugs will not be allowed. Set rules for men, then stick with them. If you catch a man in a lie, why argue, just move on.If you feel guilty about dumping him, dont,he didnt think of you when he lied. Dont give any on these rules you make. From my experience, if you give an inch, he will take a foot. Later you may go ahead and except the foot, then he takes a yard. And with this, I am referring to serious issues. Not limit friends(men and women) or put limits on him watching sports. I mean dont give on lieing, drugs,alcohol abuse or haveing a wife or girlfriend ect....When you date a man, ask yourself if you would want him to date your sister, daughter or mother. It works for me.I dont think I am a hottie, as I have a low self esteem. I think I am too fat,not in fashion enough, and sometimes stupid. But I would rather be fat,in ragged cloths and stupid by myself than with a man that didnt respect me, because I am worth being respected, weather any one else sees it or not.I would give this same advice to a man concerning women.Remember,set rules and stick to them. | |
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Posted: 7/17/2006 4:46:31 PM | lira,Dam good post I couldnt have said it better If there was more women and
men like you everyone would be with a nice person.I gave my ex an inch and
she totaly lost respect for me. | |
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lira
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Joined: 6/8/2006
Msg: 111 | |
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Posted: 7/18/2006 5:03:10 AM | | Hey Mich: I'm curious as to what you are doing to heal? Also what safeguards do you have in place to not repeat this continuing cycle of which you agree you do? Since you seem to feel all is good and also feel you do not need help with understanding negative patterns and how to change them in our lives. Are you taking time for yourself or actively dating right now? | |
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Posted: 7/18/2006 6:47:17 AM | | the best thing to do is forget about him. ill help you. ill be in lansing tomorrow | |
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Posted: 7/18/2006 8:21:41 AM | I so agree with Lira...
I too, was in the vicious circle, and trust me...I know exactly what you mean.
I cared a lot about this guy, and I thought we were going to have something special.
To me, this decision was the WORST decision I made, but it's all my fault.
My ex-husband and I were deciding the divorce. He is the father of my 6 year old boy, but the marriage was falling apart. We had gone to lawyers and started the procedures...and I was making peace with that. All of a sudden, I met this guy, at my work. We started talking, I told him that i was going through a divorce. Then, we starting seeing each other.
Around the same time, my ex, asked me if I wanted to re-consider our decision, go for counseling and try and save our 10 year old marriage.......But, I said no.
Now, I am divorced, and this guy was nothing but a player. And I didn't realize that at the beginning.
I broke the vicious circle ....and man oh man it hurt.
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Posted: 7/18/2006 11:15:06 AM | Spaceman,Mich just said she was going to take the advice why do you have to
try to start an arguement with her when she just came to a conclusion to get help.
gees.
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Posted: 7/18/2006 3:10:45 PM | | Its ok. And no I am not dating right now. Just a single girl working hard at 2 jobs. Ive got incredible freinds awesome parents and MY DOG LOVES ME! Right now thats all I need and a million dollars wouldnt hurt!! Thanx all for the input. | |
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Posted: 7/18/2006 3:18:29 PM | | "friggin picky!" Hmmm let me think ... a barfly that spreads her legs even though she knows she shouldn't. She follows a guy around that she knows is a cheater, and then is surprised when he cheats on her. Did I get this right? And she is picky? "O" yes I see that | |
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lira
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Joined: 6/8/2006
Msg: 118 | |
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Posted: 7/18/2006 4:12:23 PM | | wasntme, You are mean. She already feels bad. She said she is going to try to break the cycle. Give support. O00000000000, I get it. If word gets around to break this cycle, there will be less women to take advantage of.I see you concern. | |
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Posted: 7/19/2006 2:49:39 PM | | Lira girl your cool! You dont have to stick up for all the narrow minded people on this site. I know Im a good person and learn from our mistakes. And as for me opening up my legs Blow me ***hole! Your a****ead!! | |
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Posted: 7/20/2006 10:12:01 AM | I sent this to Michchick in her mail. She isn’t reading mail from me and I understand. I honestly see a lot of potential for her. She is pretty and intelligent, She articulates herself well when she isn’t using a lot of ”*” . So; she is pretty, smart, and there are options open to her. I know several guys in her area that would love to take her out. They are are educated men with jobs that would treat a girl very well. I use to do a lot of counseling, and when a woman came into my office with all the potential Michchick has, and doing what she is doing, I literally cried when they left. I wish she could see what others see when they look her.
There are other women around that have a reason to be bitter, girls that God hasn’t blessed as well as He has blessed Michchick. A while back I would have loved to take her out to a nice dinner. I know that will never happen now but I do wish her the best of luck.
“I figured out why I am so mad at you after I wrote the last letter. If I could have taken it back I would have. I am mad at you because you have so much potential to be happy and make some one else happy and you are throwing it all away. Karen I do care. I just get so frustrated when I see a girl like you. I am sorry I wish you the best. I am sorry. If you want me to post this I will.” | |
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Posted: 7/20/2006 11:46:43 AM | Wasntme,The problem with you is You have alternative motives.Why dont you just
apologize and be done with it.People like you piss me off because you cant just
love a human being without motives.I dont want to be friends with her, I dont want
to talk to her,I dont want to have a relationship with her I just want to give tough love
without any motives.Thats why she doesnt respond to you because she can smell your
crappy ass motives all over the place.She doesnt need you or me to take care of her
she needs people to tell her to get it together.Shes not supposed to like you for it
and I really could care less if she does or not.This is how you love a human being
from a distance.
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Posted: 7/20/2006 12:50:46 PM | Nice try New; but you are totally wrong. I will never meet Mich, ever. It is not that I don’t care for her. I am sure she is a nice girl. I have no interest in meeting her I wrote the letter as an apology for my harshness. She did not need a kick in the teeth from me or, anyone else for that matter. I WAS WRONG. Can I say it any clearer than that? As straightforward as that was I would also like to reiterate that I will not ever meet this girl. It is funny how you see things so clearly from across the US. I know nothing of you except what I read. I think I could make some pretty good guesses, but I won’t.
I know of nothing else I can do to rectify this situation. When I am wrong, and I put it in print, I feel the need to put my apology in print as well. | |
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lira
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Joined: 6/8/2006
Msg: 125 | |
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