| Has anyone here given up or thinking about it?
Posted: 10/8/2006 3:45:31 AM | Yep I gave up fully
just couldnt be farked anymore -- just when you think you have whats desired they move the goalposts
Plus the fact at my age I just sick of the kiddie games people play --- grow up for goodness sake -- be realistic people | |
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| Has anyone here given up or thinking about it?
Posted: 10/8/2006 6:23:29 AM | | I think about it all the time I mean the women I chat with who live in the same city as me make an excuse and it seems the women I connect with are in the next city near me or in another state and older than me. I mean I had a women on myspace email me on there and told me she wanted to get to know me and it is interesting how the out of state women give me more love than those in my city and state. | |
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| Has anyone here given up or thinking about it?
Posted: 10/8/2006 6:39:10 AM | "after reading these forums I strongly beleive we should all keep going. I am going to now."
And I wish you the best of luck in doing so. For me though, I simply cannot arouse enough interest to even bother anymore. These forums are cool and there are a lot of great people here, but as far as looking for a possible relationship, what reason is there? I'm not a Brad Pitt or a Scott Peterson. I'm just flat fed up with a lot of women's ridiculously high standards (or inexplicably low ones). Let them find their movie star or sociopath. Good luck to them with that. I've already found myself some new things to keep me occupied where hey, at the very least I get some return and enjoyment from. Anything's better than beating one's head against a wall. | |
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| Has anyone here given up or thinking about it?
Posted: 10/8/2006 6:57:35 AM | Out of curiosity, what is it about the people who showed an interest in you that made you not become interested in them? Do you feel they are 'beneath' you somehow? Not that you are better looking, or a 'better catch' than anyone else, but seriously, why havent you shown interested in them?
I read thru most of the posts on this thread, and eveyrone sounds so negative. 'I've been alone too long', 'I've been hurt too much to try', 'I cant find anybody interested'. The reasons for not being interested in you are the same as the reasons you werent interested in others that were attracted to you. Whoa, I just confused myself, on some karmic level.... Head rush | |
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Kenp3
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Joined: 7/29/2006
Msg: 105 | |
| Has anyone here given up or thinking about it?
Posted: 10/8/2006 7:15:19 AM | | I've considered giving up too. It seems woman don't know what they want. They want the nice guy to take them out and treat them well, they want the bad boy to excite them. I'll keep looking but maybe be more picky as well, which probably means that I'll be alone much longer. Oh well what'r goin to do? | |
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Fran47
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Joined: 10/4/2006
Msg: 106 | |
| Has anyone here given up or thinking about it?
Posted: 10/8/2006 7:20:15 AM | **suzanne36_lkn ** You have just hit on something that I discovered yesterday. I was becoming too negative about people. You see, I would get iritated when I would write someone and they would never respond. Or lets just say, I would tell someone they were attractive and they never would respond. I thought wow, couldn't they at least write back and say "Thank You". But...then I started looking inward and realized....I do the same thing. I don't always respond to everyone that writes me. We all have our reasons for which I won't delvulge, but..we get back what we give a lot of the time. I am speaking only to myself.... So many times it easier to be hard on the other person, and easy on ourselves. Wow.... just my two cents..... | |
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| Has anyone here given up or thinking about it?
Posted: 10/8/2006 7:27:06 AM | From personal experience, when you do "give up" and stop looking around for the next love, she comes up and taps you on the shoulder, you look round and POW, eyes meet. electric lightening bolts, etc., etc.
So, give up looking, you never know.
Mark | |
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| Has anyone here given up or thinking about it?
Posted: 10/8/2006 7:31:56 AM | | I think everyone has, but I refuse to. I must of sent 20 or more emails out and got zip. Then I got more selective in who I contacted (makes for less rejection), and continued to write people just as a friend as well, throwing in my two cents. I also changed my attitude to be more positive and above all, I realized that you can not make ANY ASSUMPTIONs about what the person you are contacting is looking for. That was my downfall in the beginning. I have now had reasonable success, 2 good dates, and a third that may end up being my permanent match. In between I tried hooking up with someone not met on-line and it was a disaster to the point where I decided to stick to POF. Also, I went thru numerous sites, paid and free, and the only one that got any results at all is good 'ol POF. | |
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| Has anyone here given up or thinking about it?
Posted: 10/8/2006 7:39:08 AM | | I am not giving up but just put my anchor in the water and hanging the poles over the side... Drinking a beer.... If I catch a fish that will be great but if not, I am still going to enjoy the waters, wind and the sky...... | |
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| Has anyone here given up or thinking about it?
Posted: 10/8/2006 8:43:58 AM |
I am not giving up but just put my anchor in the water and hanging the poles over the side... Drinking a beer.... If I catch a fish that will be great but if not, I am still going to enjoy the waters, wind and the sky......
i fully agree,i just see and wait what happens,not going anywhere in a hurry.
yes sometimes i feel like giving up,but then i think to myself why should i?
no one is perfect,we all got something we didn`t like or don`t like,but surely things can be worked out,or be worked on? | |
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| Has anyone here given up or thinking about it?
Posted: 10/8/2006 9:00:20 AM | | Of course i've thought of giving up. But i've had what i've had. So thinking about it is one thing, and actually giving up? Never. I know what i'm missing as a single woman. And what happiness lies ahead when i find Him. Or He finds me:) | |
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| Has anyone here given up or thinking about it?
Posted: 10/8/2006 3:08:08 PM | Personally, I gave up about a year ago, and never been happier.
It cuts down on the amount of bullshit in my like by like 86%, and when I do run across a woman who wants my attention I make her work for it. They usually storm off angry at me because I'm not the guy who would bend over backwards to impress them that they thought I was.
Oh well it just means more money for me in the long run.  | |
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| Has anyone here given up or thinking about it?
Posted: 10/8/2006 4:16:24 PM | I don't mind if people stop writing, I get sick of looking at profiles that I don't think would be a good match for me and then having to think of nice ways to tell them they look too old, their culture sounds so different or I hate the gym whereas their life seems to gravitate around it.
I still think it's cool to be on a site where there are heaps of single people, as I tend to assume people in the street are 'taken' and haven't been asked out in a public place since... oh yeah, last Tuesday!
Come on, it's fun, if you want to change your life start with YOU.  | |
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mawlit
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Joined: 8/20/2006
Msg: 115 | |
| Has anyone here given up or thinking about it?
Posted: 10/8/2006 4:27:26 PM | | DUDE I KNOW HOW YOU FEEL. I HAVE HAD NOTHING BUT BAD EXPERIENCES UP HERE AND THE LATEST ONE WAS A DOOSEY. I THOUGHT SHE WAS THE GIRL OF MY DREAMS AND SHE TURNED OUT TO BE A PROFESSIONAL ILLUSIONIST. SOMETHIMES YOU CAN'T SEE THE TRUTH UNTIL IT IS TOO LATE. TO GIVE UP THOUGH IS CONCEEDING DEFEAT, AND IF YOU DO SO, YOU FOREGO THE CHANCE STILL TO FIND THAT SPECIAL SOMEONE. FOR ALL YOU KNOW, SHE COULD COME ALONG DURING THE GIVING UP PERIOD AND YOU WILL MISS YOUR CHANCE. REMEMBER, LIFE IS NO RESPECTER OF CIRCUMSTANCES OR YOUR SCHEDULE. | |
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| Has anyone here given up or thinking about it?
Posted: 10/8/2006 4:42:39 PM | Yes, I have given up on this internet dating thing. I have had a few replies , and I do mean a few...and it doesnt matter what age people are , they still play games. Like I had this one lady who email, and we emailed back to one another, on a regular basis, until...she wrote me and said that she and her ex-=, with kids mind you, Should have never have gotten a divorce.
I was Very sincere, when I wrote her back, and told her to do what was ever necessary to repair her marriage, seems she had cried wolf a few times too many , and felt she had to go through with the divorce..
Well to make a long story short, if at all possible, she wrote me back and typed in all CAPS., how she had tried but he didnt want to,
In closing she was very upset with me , and didnt write for a few days, even though I had written to her and appologized , and said I didnt have the whole story.
Then she said , she hadnt received my emails,,,right,,,see it doesnt matter what age women or men are,,,,THEY STILL PLAY GAMES..
AND YES IM READY TO PULL THE PLUG ONTHIS SITE, AND EVERY OTHER SITE....   | |
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| Has anyone here given up or thinking about it?
Posted: 10/8/2006 5:33:05 PM | | If I can manage not to give up, then all of you have alot of hope. How many of you have at least been married at one time? or have been in at least one relationship in your life. How many of you know what it's like to get all excited about going on a date? You all can't just give up on that. I'm now 30 years old. My first attempt at dating ended up with the girl pretending to be interested in me to get to my brother...every other attempt ends up with me in the friendzone. I have know idea what a first kiss is like, what a first date is like. Imagine what it is like to watch everyone around you find love and happiness and never be able to find the same thing. I spend most holidays alone while my friends celebrate with their wives, girlfriends, kids...everything that I've waiting my whole life for. I'm a good guy and I know that I deserve those things too. I can never give up because at the end of the day, love is what really matters. At the end of our lives, we are going to measure everything by the people we loved and the memories we've shared with them. I think we just need to keep trying. | |
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| Has anyone here given up or thinking about it?
Posted: 10/8/2006 5:43:31 PM | | I've given up numerous times but always come back in the hopes that THIS time I'll find someone. It's helpfull to see that I'm not the only one who is having a difficult time finding someone to meet much less date and find a possible long term romance with. I'm gonna hang in there for no other reason than I have no better options or avenues to explore. | |
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| Has anyone here given up or thinking about it?
Posted: 10/8/2006 5:58:51 PM | I too have been looking for five years. It seems to me that there are a lot more variables now that when we were twenty. My suggestion is to keep looking but also realize that you have more freedom and control of your life as a single.
Sad as it may seem , it is better to walk alone then to walk in an unhappy relationship.
With age comes wisdom and an understanding of the kind of person you are and the kind of person who is right for you.
Keep searching but live your life to the fullest. | |
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| Has anyone here given up or thinking about it?
Posted: 10/8/2006 6:20:25 PM | Feel like giving up??
Yup..I'm over the whole thing. I haven't found anyone that takes my interest or if I have they haven't been interested in me.
I don't like the thought of the whole dating thing..the getting to know each other. the uncertainty of who feels what? I have such strict criteria that I don't think that he exists. I have lost all faith in men. My experience has been that my x's all were the perfect guy's in the beginning then usually about 6 months to the day..they changed. Never to see that original person I fell for again. And I waist so much time trying to get the "old " them back. It has been my experience that they are just all actors and can't keep up the "niceness" I find men self centred and self absorbed. Even the relationship is all about what they can get from me. Well there's nothing left. So now it's all about me. Learning to take care of me. I''m getting back to the heart of me and God. And maybe that's just the way He want's it. Then so be it. Thy will be done , not mine. | |
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| Has anyone here given up or thinking about it?
Posted: 10/9/2006 1:56:05 AM | The way I see it, there are times you can walk into someone and it just clicks.
Other times, it's like looking for that Easter Egg that your brother hid, but in actual fact, he ate it and just enjoys watching you look for it!
Back to being helpful, at times, it's just not meant to be. I could be focused on not finding someone, but you know what? There's plenty of other things that you can do to make the time go by.
Try just having fun, because you never know when someone's watching you. At least two of my relationships were based on fun. Once, I was just looking and found her. Another time, I was just having a blast with my friends, then I get approached by someone saying that her friend likes me.
Finding someone perfect is like trying to find a specific year of penny in a jar of thousands. You can try looking for it, and you may just find it. However, you never know when one will just fall in your hands. | |
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| Has anyone here given up or thinking about it?
Posted: 10/9/2006 2:16:25 AM | (holding thumb in front of eye with other eye closed)........
Nope....you are NOT here. I'm giving up. You are NOT here. And if you ARE here....then I'm giving up....that way you'll BE here.....but you are NOT here....and if you are...then I'm crushing your precocious little HEAD!!! crush,crush,crush.........  | |
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| Has anyone here given up or thinking about it?
Posted: 10/9/2006 11:14:46 AM | im thinking the same... i give up, not labelling all men but seems they have had lessons in getting a woman to believe in them when they actually mean the total opposite of what they say, i guess some women can do the same.
no im not feeling sorry for myself, but makes me feel im not good enough
ive come to the conclusion that being honest and genuine is really my downfall | |
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| Has anyone here given up or thinking about it?
Posted: 10/9/2006 11:22:35 AM | | Of course I have thought many times about giving up. It's hard for me to find someone. But I'm young and that hope is still there. I hate being heart broken, who doesn't. | |
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